The extra effort makes a huge difference.

Your relationship is a garden you need to tend to it often. 

          The extra effort you put into your relationship make a huge difference in the quality of your relationship.  If you put your relationship on a higher importance then you will soon find that it will start improving.  Instead of working your relationship into your time, work around your relationship.  Don't volunteer to do something on a night you have set as date night.  Don't invite friends over on a night you have planned to have some alone time with each other, and remember all the times you set together to do things.  These simple little steps will show a commitment to your relationship that will soon have it thriving and growing.