Get out of bed on the RIGHT side!

I am sure you have all heard the expression, "I got up on the wrong side of the bed," but how can you make it work for your relationship. Well, my suggestion is to engage you partner right from the start of the morning by crawling over him/her to get out of bed. If you sleep naked, this is a wonderful good morning move that will surely get your partner to notice you as you are getting up. Make sure to rub your skin across his/hers as you slink across. Who knows you might even get pulled back into bed for a little more ways to wake yourselves up.

Share some Fantasies

A fun and exciting way to express your fantasies is through short stories. Even if you are not the best writer in the world you can still express your desires in this manner. Take a day and both of your write out a fantasy story making sure to take your time to express details. Use your imagination but make it something you would like to try or explore. Then once your have written your erotic fantasy exchange them for each other to read. Not only will this get you horny by reading a sexy story but it will also give you a glimpse into your partners fantasies. You don't know you might find something that you both are curious about but afraid to mention. If you are too embarrassed to write your own story, pick up a book of erotic and take turns reading it to each other. If you click the title of this post you will go to the amazon site that holds my first short erotica story. There are many erotic writers out their and each has a different style and message. I enjoy erotica of things that might happen in a normal relationship, things I can actually imagine happening between my partner and me. I think I enjoy this type of erotica because you can use it as a guide to building your own fantasies. However there are several great writers out there that can send you to the farthest reaches of your imagination. Check out Susie Bright's books if you want to venture out from your normal everyday style of life. Never under estimate the power of erotica for turning people on.

Learn to Juggle

If there is one thing you need to learn to do being in a relationship it is to juggle? Not balls or chainsaws but your schedule. Once you commit to a relationship the giving and taking begin. You now have to find time to fit things in your schedule that you might not have had to before you feel in love. The big one is spending time with your partner, this consumes a good portion of your waking and non working hours. This is when you have to start juggling the thing you would have normally done before you were in this relationship. Things like going out with friends, playing golf, going shopping just to name a few. These things might have to be combined with time spend with your partner to get them all in. One of the things I find challenging in a relationship is your time spent watching television. I don't watch a lot but there are a few things I love to view, the problem lies in juggling this. For instance on Monday night I like to watch the monday night football game while my partners favorite show is on at the same time, sounds like a problem, huh? Well here is where we both juggle, my football game usually last longer than her show so we watch hers but on commercials we flip to the game to watch a few minutes here and there and check the score. Once her show is over she sits and watches the rest of the football game with me. The problem isn't solved but it has be juggled to make the best of the situation. Now maybe you understand why I think being able to juggle is important in a relationship.

Underwear don't Forget about it.

One trap you don't want to fall into when you are in a relationship is forgetting to be sexy. One of the easiest ways to forget this is by not caring about the underwear you put on. Tighty whities and Grandma Panties should never be worn when you have someone in your life that you enjoy being intimate with. I have never understood why once people are in a relationship that they let themselves slip into not being sexy for their partner. When you were dating did you wear underwear with stains on them? One of the first thing that people do when they start a new relationship is purchase new under clothes. Part of this is anticipating the first time you get to be together physically, but why should that stop once we get to know each other better? If you want to make your relationship last then you need to pay attention to areas that you might slip up in, like wearing nasty underpants. In my opinion their is no excuse for this action, yes you can wear these items to work or while you out with your friends but don't let the person you want to impress the most see this image.

Make love through the new year.

Most people make sure they are near their partner at midnight on New Years Eve to give them a great big kiss. Why not take it a step or two farther and make love until the New Year arrives. Yes, you heard me right ring in the new year with sex. Get the two of you a hotel room or even at your own home. Spend the evening dinning and maybe have a few drinks, if you don't have to drive anywhere, and then just enjoy each others company until it gets closer to the midnight hour. At this point you have to be the judge as to how long your sex will last you don't want to finish before midnight. Heck you can even purchase some New Years Eve party hats and confetti to throw and midnight. How many people can say the made love from one year to the next. Sounds fun doesn't it. Many people are avoiding the crowded places this year for New Years Eve so why not have you own little party for two this New Years Eve.

Getting back to Life.

December 26th the day after Christmas and it is time to start getting your life back to normal. The last few weeks you have probably spend shopping and cooking for the holidays and now that the big day is over you should have more time to relax or get things done you have been meaning to do. Don't you wish that Christmas could last all year long at least the feeling of it. To capture this feeling of Christmas a little longer as you start to take down all you decorations make an event of it like you do setting them up. Plan a date to take down the decorations, maybe new years day, and make a little celebration of it play Christmas music, make a special meal to enjoy packing away your Christmas things. Spend the day being with the person you love and if you think about it hold back a Christmas present to give them after all the decorations are put away and stored. By doing this and making a celebration of it we are trying to keep that feeling of Christmas inside our relationship for the entire year. If everyone was as compassionate and caring as they are during the holidays we would see a huge difference in the world around us. As a couple however the main focus you want to put into this is that special feeling you get from being with your partner during the holidays. How did you react when you got your favorite gift? Shouldn't we be that happy with our partner all the year long, when they do the little things like take out the trash or do the dishes. Sometimes we forget how truly special the person we are with is, Christmas helps remind us of that, but why should we wait until Christmas to reward them?

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Watch those reactions.

Merry Christmas everyone, hope you are enjoying your most magical of days. I also hope that you receive some nice presents this year. As you go through your day however I want you to do something that is very simple. Watch your partner open their presents and watch their reactions. See how quickly they search for your eyes when they open something that has importance to them. Count how many kisses you get on this blessed day, add in all the hugs and hand holding. Throw in all the snuggling and relaxing moments you spend with each other. Pay attention to how your partner reacts to you. At the end of the evening sit down and count your blessings I think you will be surprised how truly lucky you are. Merry Christmas to all and to all I wish a great relationship.

Ready yourself for the Big Day.

Tis the day that Santa comes and you need to make sure you have everything in place. Do you have your special presents for your partner ready and wrapped? Is the mistletoe hung on the headboard of your bed? No other holiday is as focused on family as Christmas. Take the time and enjoy being with the person you love this Christmas and if you have children bask in their glory as you snuggle with each other and watch how excited they are. With the coming of Santa tonight marks the quickest time of the year, soon it will be tomorrow and all the presents will be unwrapped, so slow it down a little tonight and spend some time kissing and snuggling around your Christmas tree, just make sure you are in bed in time for Santa to come.

Appreciate the People that make your life easier.

I know this blog is about couples but, there are I am sure people in your life that help make your relationship a little better. Maybe it's the baby sitter, or the person that cleans your house but these types of people help you attend more to your relationship, by taking things off your hands and allowing you to go on dates or just relax together. It could be the kid that mows your lawn or shovels your driveway, how about the person that does you hair for special occasions. What about the neighbor that get your mail while your away on a romantic getaway. Think about the people that make your life a little easier and then go out and pick up a little something for them. Get them a gift certificate to the local fast food joint, or a movie pass it doesn't have to be a huge present just a little token of your appreciation for them. No matter how small they will appreciate it.

Special Paper for Special Presents!

IF your like me every year you get your partner something special. Be it jewelry or sports tickets it is something that will make them do back flips after opening it. Well special presents deserve special wrapping paper. You can choose from a variety of types of paper but make sure it fits the person you are wrapping it for. So if your partner loves the smurfs find some smurf christmas paper and wrap only their special present inside it. By using only this paper to wrap their special present you will have no problem finding it on Christmas so that you can make them open it last. You can use this same trick on presents you want them to unwrap at certain times. Say for instance you got them some really nice sleep pants and want them to wear them Christmas Eve you could do the same thing. Plus by using paper that matches their personality it shows that you care that much more.

Gift Card Yourselves!

We sometimes lose sight of our relationship during last minutes before Christmas. We are thinking of everyone else we care about and sometimes our relationships get pushed to the back behind the family gatherings and parties. To make sure you make up for these missed times during your holiday season, make it a point to purchase a gift card to someplace every time you have to attend one of these functions. This way you know that when the holidays are over you will have more of a reason to go to the places you have gift cards for. Places like restaurants, movie theaters, or even miniature golf. Keep the cards in sight and you will defiantly use them in the up coming months. This way not only do you give yourself a little Christmas Cheer but you also get to catch up on the time you are missing with your special person.

Christmas Erotica?

Tis the season to be romantic, sexy, and passionate. What better way to spend Christmas eve then reading an erotic Christmas story. There are several out there that would fit the bill but the one I like the best is called "Special Delivery for Christmas" and you can pick it up electronically at Amazon by clicking the title of this post, or the one at the bottom of this post. The story is short and a feel good one that has more to it then just sex. Join Carol and Chris as they find out what Christmas really means to them.

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Chap stick could save your relationship!

The time is here for bitter winter weather and if you are not prepared it can greatly effect your love life. As the wind whips across your lips it can make them dry and chapped. Chapped lips make for lousy kissing and without kissing passion seems to take a back seat. Have you ever heard any one say, "Oh your chapped lips are so sexy" Of coarse not it is the exact opposite. Protection is a must so you need to stock up on Chapstick and lip balm for those days when you must be out in the cold and windy conditions. Make it a point to carry a tube around with you at all times so that you don't have to search for one. With that said always keep a spare around because these little tubes of sex life saving product seem to get misplaced quite often. This post might seem a little silly right now but you will be thanking me the next time you start making out and your partner enjoys your lips, instead of complains about them.

Start you count down!

With just a week to go before Christmas if you haven't started your Christmas countdown you need to start. Think of a way to count down these last few days before the wonderful day of Christmas. Weather it be a kiss or a hug each day with the number of days left or a sign above your bed. Get each other several little presents to pass back and forth each of the remaining days until Christmas. Take turns being the aggressor in your sex life, on the odd days you take the lead and let your partner get their way on the even days left until Christmas. Watch a different Christmas show each day, wrap so many presents each of the number of days left, or just take a toy and donate it to a local charity that gives them out at Christmas time to mark the closing in on Christmas. Whatever you decide make it fun and important to your and your partner.

Silent Night

One of the best things about winter is snow. A romantic thing to do is watch and listen as the snow falls. Unless you are in a busy part of town it is one of the quietest sounds you can't hear. The snow falls so quiet and just watching it makes you want to curl up with the person you love. I picture a very quiet snow fall every time I hear the song Silent Night. For me it is very relaxing to watch the snow fall with it's quiet rhythm. Sitting with my love and drinking hot cocoa is the thing I want to do every time I see the snow start to fall. For those of you that live in a warmer climate I have included a video from youtube below so that you can get the feeling, too.

Get your Game on for after the Unwrapping on Christmas.

Now is the time to think of what the two of you are going to do after all the presents are unwrapped and the food has been digested. Go out and pick up some games that will be fun, whether it is just the two of you or the whole family. Pick some games that can get everyone involved find one that has questions that you can ask each other or other members of your family that are still hanging around. Board games are nice but they don't allow you to get comfortable as you have to sit around a table so you have room for the board. I would suggest just taking the cards and go around the room asking questions to each other. One of my favorite game of all time is the Loaded Questions line. The questions really get you thinking as you have to explain your answer and their are no right or wrong answers it really helps you to get to know someone better by playing. Not only is it fun but it is a great conversation starter for times when everyone is being quiet. Click on the title of this post to go to the Loaded Questions Game Site, they even have an adult version that you can play after you kick everyone out of the house.

Get yourself a little something this year.

This may sound a little zany but go out and purchase yourself a little something this year. When you get home wrap it up and on the name take put that the present is to you and from your partner. Don't speak a word of the present and only put it under the tree when you have lots of other things under it also. When it comes your turn to unwrap it you have to put on a good act and pretend like you don't have any idea what it is. Go overboard thanking your partner for getting you such a wonderful present and see how they react. Maybe right away they will say, "I didn't get you that" or "Where did that come from". After seeing your reaction they might just take the glory on picking out the wonderful present. Just watch the look on their face it will be priceless.

Do a little shopping for the two of you!

This the season to be jolly and what better way then to buy something fun for the two of you. In this day and age is is so easy to find something with a little spark to it without going somewhere that you might be seen by your neighbor, your childrens teachers, or even you minister. The internet allows couples to browse and choose items to spice up their relationship without ever leaving the comforts of their home. No more sneaking around or standing a few aisles over to look at the item you want to share with your partner. When you order over the internet even the packaging is descret, so you don't have to worry about your mailperson or neighbor finding out what is in the box. This fact alone has helped couples branch out a little and try new things to improve the sex in their relationship. Tonight get out the hot cocoa and find a online sex toy shop that fits your bill and do a little shopping for the couple in you. Take turns picking out a toy or do a random search and pick what ever you turn up. Then try it out and see what happens you never know until you try and try and try again, see where the fun comes in on this.

The Best Present Under The Tree!

We have all thought about making love under that Christmas Tree at some point and time in our lives. My question to you is "What are you waiting on?" This would be a great Christmas memory to relive over and over with your partner. Think about it you have flashing lights, wonderful views and ornaments to be burned into your memory of this wonderful event. Set up a little pallet under the tree and get busy. Take precautions such as making sure the children are asleep, or that you can't see the tree from your front door or windows, and don't do it on a night you are expecting company. No one whats to explain why a pair of panties are hanging from a branch of your Christmas tree. Pull out some Christmas carols and make it a yearly event for the two of you. This is a great way for you to get out of the bedroom with your passion, just don't squish any breakable presents in you frolicking.

Great Gift Idea - Tickets

Tickets are a great idea for Christmas because they not only make it exciting when the receiver opens them but they will also be thinking how great you are while they are at the event. When I say tickets I think about sporting events, however there are so many other place that require tickets to get into. Things such as plays, shows, theme parks and even airplanes are great ideas based on the person you are purchasing them for. Make sure to get two tickets at least for each event because no one wants to go to an event alone, and hopefully they will take you with them. Depending on your budget, you could maybe even purchase season tickets to something. That would be a gift that keeps on giving all throughout the season. Taylor you picks to your partner, so don't get them tickets to the opera if they would rather have football tickets. Also make sure it is a time that won't conflict with anything else on their schedule. Reactions from getting tickets are usually comparable to touchdown dances performed on Sunday afternoons.

Too Tired For Your Partner?

I see it so many times -- people are stretched so thin.  They volunteer for everything and have nothing left for the people they love - especially their partners.

If you are too tired to enjoy your relationship when you and your partner have time to be together, then it is time you reevaluate what you are doing. Do you volunteer for the PTO or coach every thing under the sun?  Do you play softball all summer long or have to be involved in every fundraiser in the community? Do you find yourself telling your partner that you are too tired to stay up with him/her during the evening or that you just need to relax and chill during your time together?  If this happens time and again, you seriously need to view this from your partner's perspective.

 How do you think your partner feels if he/she asks you to watch a movie with him/her and you tell him/her you just need some sleep.   Yet, the three nights before you were out raising funds for the humane society, playing a softball game, and attending a committee meeting.  What about passing on a night of intimacy because you have to get up early the next morning to play golf with your friends?These are the type of events that can really hurt a relationship.  Nothing is wrong with doing any of these things, but when you can't make time for your relationship because of them you are not only affecting your partner, but your relationship as a whole.

I am assuming that the two of you are together because you love each other.  With that bond comes the respect that you owe to each other.  Do some planning and figure out the best times for the two of you and then don't let things get in the way of your love.  If you are repeatedly too tired to be with your partner, what you are really saying to him/her is, "Our relationship comes after all these other things I am doing."  Don't be that person.  Put stock in your relationship and move it up on your priority list.  You will be amazed at the difference this can make.

Learn about other cultures this Christmas.

We here in the United States are pretty secure in our view of Christmas so much so that we actually don’t know how other cultures view Christmas. One thing that is hard for me to understand is what do people do that live in warm climates during Christmas. Obviously they don’t go sledding or make snowmen. I think it would be a wonderful thing if the two of you picked a country and did some research on how the celebrate Christmas. Maybe you can pick a place that your ancestors hailed from? Find out what kind of dishes they eat, how the view Santa, what the weather is during the holiday, and traditions that the have handed down from generation to generation. Who knows maybe you will find something you like and start it as a tradition in your house. Try to put some of the culture you learn about into the two of your Christmas this season.

Stealth Wrapping

We all know that certain things come in a certain shape of box. For instance jewelry comes either in those cube style boxes or the long slender ones. DVD's and video game are a distinct box of their own. Even when we were kids we could tell a clothes box from the good stuff. Now if you want to mask your present to throw your partner off track, just mix up these boxes a little. For example if you purchase a necklace for your love grab an old DVD case off the shelf that no one will miss and tape the necklace inside the box. They will most likely guess you got them a new movie instead of the present that they will just adore. Another easy thing to do is to wrap your present inside a larger box. Say you got your love tickets to the next football game then wrap the tickets in a normal size box and then rewrap it in a much larger box. Don't be afraid to throw in sound effects either, things such as marbles, uncooked macaroni, or even rice help throw the person off the trail. Another thing you can do is chance the weight of the present but bricks or rocks inside to make it seem like something that would be heavy. If you object is to large to wrap say like a bike or a sofa a great way to put it into a present is to take a picture of the item and then use the above mentioned ideas to wrap up the picture, then have the item in the garage waiting. Surprise and anticipation is the key to having a wonderful Christmas morning so be sneaky, very very sneaky.

Give, Give, Give....

During this time of season we really think about needy people ones that are in our lives and ones that we know nothing about. Sometimes I tear up hearing about a child that doesn't have enough to eat or that hasn't any parents at this time of year. It's hard enough to make ends meet and get everything done we need to do but can you imagine not even having the means to complete the most basic tasks, like brushing your teeth? I know this holiday I am going to put a little extra effort into giving. Go out and when you pick up your basic needs such as toothpaste, pick up an extra tube and drop it off at the homeless shelter. Cleaning out your closet for new Christmas clothes take them to a place that gives them to the needy. Volunteer you time to help serve dinner at a shelter and make donations to organizations that need funding. This way when you are snuggled up with your sweetheart in your nice warm house you will get an even better feeling by knowing that you helped someone less fortunate. Get your partner involved and your kids if you have any, you won't believe the wonderful feeling it gives you to help someone that is down on their luck. Believe me you will see the appreciation in their eyes. Then don't forget about this feeling the rest of the year.

Make sure when you partner wakes up on Christmas they are just as excited as when they were a kid.

Remember the wonderful feeling when you were a kid and you woke up on Christmas morning. You would run out of bed with your feet barely hitting the floor. Now we might not be able to get each other that excited about Christmas but you can make it a fun festive day for the two of you. If you have any children in the house you shouldn't have any problem. Watching them is excitement enough. If you don't have any children in the house then you need to make plans to have a wonderful day together. Get up early and make a wonderful breakfast together. Then Shower and slip into some warm comfy clothing and exchange gifts. Then you have the rest of the day to enjoy. Maybe a nice walk on Christmas day would be good or relaxing with some hot cocoa might be your thing. If your social creatures invite some friends over to play board games or watch movies. The point of the day is to make it special not like all the other days of the year. Make sure to set some time for the two of you to get a little closer during this wonderful day, make love, snuggle, and sleep in each others arms. Now that my friends is a very Merry Christmas.

Take a Moonlight Drive.

During the Holiday season a very romantic thing to do is to take a late night drive and check out all the Christmas decorations. Only at this time of year will your drive be filled with houses decked out in lights or festive holiday themes. If you check around a bit you might find a local park or zoo that might have a small charge for a wonderful light display. I know just about 20 minutes from our house a park has a light show that is a must see for us and our children every year. Make a little challenge of it and mark you favorites, rate them from best to worst so that next year you can return as most people find this a competition any way. You can usually find the same houses decorated each year if you can remember where they are. Sometimes you will find whole neighborhoods dressed in lights while other times you might just find a diamond in the rough out off a back road. Ask around your friends and sometimes they can lead you to some of the more wonderful light displays. The most wonderful part about this activity is that no matter how big your family is everyone can enjoy it. If it is only the two of you or is you have four kids it can still be just as wonderful listening to them get excited looking for lights.

Make your bedroom as festive as the rest of your house.

When we decorate for the holidays we sort of forget about our bedroom. Mostly because the average house quest doesn’t venture into our personal room for anything more then a quick glimpse. Within your relationships however the two most important people are the ones that spend the most time in there. Break out some extra lights and decorate your headboard, put some tinsel around or even some fake snow. We spend so much time decorating the rest of the house, that we forget that our bedroom is a great place to have fun and play a little. Imagine the blinking Christmas lights flashing the next time the two of you make love or what you could do with the extra festive pillows that you have put on the bed. While the holidays are suppose to be shared with family and friends it is also a great time to reconnect with your partner.

Shop with planning, Love with passion

The holiday season can be pretty crazy at this time of year. Everyone is out trying to get their shopping done before the big day. This is the exact reason you have to have a shopping plan in place before you head out. Roaming around the store not knowing what you are going to get is like wandering lost in the jungle. The time is now to get your strategy planned out by first of all deciding or at least have an idea of what you are looking for in the store before you enter. Check the Internet to find the best presents, you can even find some web sites that will give you suggestions for that hard to buy for person in your life. If you can find a floor plan of the mall or store you will be shopping it get it and study the areas you will need to hit during your shopping trip, backtracking and roaming are only good for wasting time. Once you get to your shopping destination stay focused it is easy to get off track and start looking at things that you won't be buying. Follow your path and grab and go on your way around the store, then hit the cashier and exit the store. When you follow your plan this will free you up to spend more time with the people that you are shopping for. I would much rather spend time snuggling with my wife and watching Christmas Movies or even just our tree then running around a store frantically.

Make a date out of picking out your own Christmas Tree

A great thing to do spending the day together is going out and picking out your own Christmas tree. Make sure you get to cut it down yourself, load it up on your car and take it home to decorate. The two of you (and kids if you have them) will have a great time tromping through the woods or Tree farm to find just the right tree to fit in your house. Don’t just pick the first one that looks good spend some time thinking about it plus this gives you wonder time to duck behind a tree for a quick kiss or two. Once you find the perfect tree cut it down and load it up on your car. Now you have more fun ahead as you get it home and start decorating it. Make it an event make some hot chocolate or maybe even a couple of drinks or a bottle of wine to enhance the event. Once you finally get done you will have the satisfaction of sitting down and watching the lights blink all over this wonderful symbol of not only Christmas but of your love and team work.

Great Holiday Gift Idea : A Weekend Get-Away

Sometimes the holidays can be a little trying, if your partner gets overwhelmed by the holidays or if you just want to escape during the winter months a Weekend get-away is a great present to give. Go ahead a pick a weekend and book your room and find things to do around the area. It can be in a large city or a quiet country cabin what ever floats your boat. Once you have the date set and have made all the arrangements, find a brochure on the location and wrap it up for you sweetheart. Put some weight in the box or some old clothes to throw you partner off a little bit. You can place a note inside explaining the trip or you can just let them guess as they pull out the brochure. A skiing weekend or maybe a trip to a warm spot like the Caribbean would get your partner jumping up and down on Christmas day. Don't have a lot of money then search the Internet for cheap hotel rooms, their are several sites that offer discounted hotel rooms such as priceline.com I get a email each week of hotel rooms for $39 at different location, their is no catch it is just the hotels trying to drum up business during these tough times, so why not take advantage of it. The best part about this is that your partner will have no idea about it and those are the type of gifts that usually get the best reactions.

Turn Christmas into a how well do you know me event.

Christmas is a great time to test your knowledge of your partner. If you listen closely through the year you will have all the knowledge you need to pick out presents for your partner. Everytime during the year that your partner might mention something they would like to have or points something out to you in a store you need to make a note of it. I don't mean a mental note, write it down with a piece of paper or file it on your computer. Make note of the time and day to jog their memory if they don't remember asking for it. This gets you in the habit of listening for little clues that your partner puts out. Not only will this make your partners Christmas special but it will make your relationship wonderful too.

Sexy Christmas Outfits

What better time to treat your partner to some sexy outfit than at Christmas time. You can find these sexy little santa outfits anywhere and believe me your partner will be overjoyed with the present you give him/her. If you don't have any extra money to spend on a sexy little number, you can improvise. Pick up some of those little fake antlers and wear them with nothing else.  Then ask your partner, "Would you like to play some reindeer games?" or you could get some icing and make some red strips on parts of your body and tell your partner you are a candy cane that must be licked. You can even put a bow on yourself and lay naked under the tree with a gift tag on you that says, "OPEN NOW." This is a great time of year to get the romance back into your life so get HO HO Hopping and plan out your twelve days of Christmas today.

Get Jolly for Christmas

We are no officially in the Christmas season, and being festive can be really romantic between the two of you. First thing you need to do is pick a theme for your Christmas Tree. Pick something that appeals to both of your, be it cartoon characters, snowmen, or even your favorite football team. If you don't want to do a theme then you can pick a specific color to decorate your tree in. The most important thing is for the two of you to do it together. Building memories for a lifetime, make sure to take plenty of pictures and spend as many hours sitting together looking at your work of art during this holiday season.

If you have little ones at home you can let them help pick the theme, and obviously you want them to help with the decorations. Snuggle down with them and some hot chocolate and enjoy the wonderful season with these little wonders.

How do we workout?

When you exercise do you do it together or apart? Well the readers of The Couple Spot seem to enjoy working out together. Most of our viewers either worked out with their partner on a regular basis or at least part of the time they worked out. Very few of our members stated that the would never work out with their partner. Getting it shape should be part of your life and since your partner is part of your life also it only makes sense to work out together. After all you both want to live a long time, together.

Mix things up a bit.

It is so easy to get into a routine way of doing things. We eat lunch at the same time, our alarm goes off at the same time every morning, and we go to bed at a certain time each day just to mention a few of the ways we fall into a routine. Now some thing you are not going to be able to adjust like what time you have to be at work, and other things that have certain times attached to them. However you can mix things up within your home life. Stay up late and sleep in every once in a while. By mixing up the way we do things we get our brains out of their routine, which is good for our overall health. Do things in different orders then you usually do. Have a late lunch, or an early dinner so that you can do something different during the day. Mix up the times you make love, don't fall into the trap that the only time you can make love is right before you go to bed, chance it up and do it when you wake up one day, or when the mood hits you in the afternoon. If you feel really adventurous make a lunch date to make love. Other things you can do is change the times you normally go on date, check out a movie during the day, or meet in the morning for a nice walk. Anything that you do that has a normal time of day attached to it can be moved around or altered to keep you fresh and exciting. For instance you could cook breakfast items for dinner sometime, or record your favorite shows and watch them at a more opportune time during the day. Keeping things in a more chaotic order might make everything seem different and more exciting, if you stay up late to do laundry while watching your favorite movie might make this chore exciting.

Why send cards on only Christmas?

I can't believe that Hallmark and the other card companies haven't started pushing Thank You cards to be send on Thanksgiving. Why not I think that it would be just as important as Christmas cards. A simple thank you card with a list of the helpful things someone has done for you would be a great thing to receive on this holiday of family and friends. Take on this task as a couple and put both of your minds into writing thankful words to the people that are important in your lives. What a site the two of you will make when you come into your family thanksgiving dinner and hand out cards to everyone, this is such a break from tradition that it might just become a tradition. Be Thankful today, and enjoy all the important people in your life, they will be glad you did and so will you.

Women's Orgasms Are Not Guaranteed

As a loving and caring partner you are always concerned that you are making your lover feel great. Sometimes however you may tend to worry a little more about it than you should. One thing that you need to remember is that a woman's orgasm is not guaranteed. Sometimes she might not even have one.  This doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that she doesn't want to make love to you.  It just means the a woman's body is a complex thing and sometimes she just can't orgasm. This doesn't mean she can't have a good time and it doesn't mean she isn't enjoying the activities. Unlike men the orgasm is not a gauge of when you are done.

The trade off is that when she does orgasm she can have several of them compared to guys who typically need a rebooting time. The last thing you want to do when you are making love is ask a woman if she has had an orgasm. It is a real mood buster.

If you have an established relationship with someone, then believe me you will learn quickly when she has one. If you feel compelled to ask, make sure you wait until later after your love making session - wait until you are cuddling or maybe even the next day.

It is important to know that it takes longer for a woman to reach that ultimate point of ecstasy. You have to be willing to put the work into the results. Relax and don't try to force her to orgasm. Let it happen most women will let you know somehow when they are getting close. The best thing you can do is research different techniques for playing with your companion and while variety is good, always keep in your memory bank what works well and don't be afraid to go back to it. With a little trial and error you will soon find a wealth of things that will improve not only her love life, but yours too.

Honey Do list

We have all been given a honey do list at sometime or another. Be it written on paper of given to us orally to store in our memory banks. The list usually contains chores and errands that we need to complete. Well if you are the maker of this list one thing you need to remember to do is to put some things on the list that would be something your partner would like to do. For instance in the middle of the list it might say "Give me a Kiss", using things like this to break up the routine of a normal list is a great way to say thank you to your partner for doing the other things on the list. If you like you can even put a reward at the bottom of the list things like "After you have completed all the things on this list you will receive a massage from me" or "Upon completion of this list you will find me naked in bed waiting to pay you for your hard work" This is important to the sanity of our relationship, think of it like that famous saying from the movie "The Shinning", "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"

Be Indians tonight when you make love.

We are nearing the first of the holiday seasons with Thanksgiving fast approaching. This holiday is rich with tradition as you most likely go to the same place to eat that you have for several years now. Few things spice up the Thanksgiving day as most of us are settled into eating watching football and maybe playing a game or two with the family. Well as a couple here is how I want you to spice it up tonight. When everything is said and done I want you to make love like the native Americans did. Get out your war paint and and make clever designs on each others faces then during the act of love making hoop and holler it up. Try some different positions, the reverse cowgirl might be appropriate at this time. Put as much energy into your love making as you can to the point that you just collapse after you are done. Make a teepee with your covers and maybe put a feather in your hair for each time you orgasm. Talk like native americans, if you can find a costume like the one at the top of this article you have an advantage, and most important have a little fun, if you enjoy yourself maybe you have started your own little Thanksgiving tradition.

Adjusting Schedules

It would be nice if everything worked out perfectly each and every day, but only in fantasy land does that happen. In real life kids and adults get sick, cars break down, supper burns and millions of other things can happen each and every day. Being a successful couple means that you are well ready to adjust to these changes and challenges that happen each and every day. There are times, where you have to rely on your partner for the adjustments to the changes but it needs to be a 50-50 split on these overall. You can't expect you partner to always stay home with the sick child nor can you expect you partner to miss an important day of work. Balance is what you need and by inspecting and analysing the situations as the arise and seeing which of the two of you is better able to handle the challenge. Once you begin looking at these things as they happen you will be able to take them in stride without even seeming like they disrupt your day. This is just one of the great ways that being a couple is an amazing thing and why most people want to be part of a great relationship.

How Romantic are our Readers?

The results of the romantic level of our readers are in and they show the following. 40% of our viewers report that they feel they are way above average when it comes to romance. While another 40% of our readers feel that they are average or above average when it comes to romance. 20% admit that they suck at romance but also say that is why they come to The Couples Spot to learn how to make their relationship better.

PIck a show and get into it together.

We all know that dating is important to us but have you ever set a date to watch a certain show each week? Try to find a show that you both enjoy and make a date to sit together and watch it each and every week. Any show will work from a version of CSI to house hunters on HGTV. Maybe it might be a sport for the two of you, say for instance you both a Red Sox fans then watching a game could be your forte. The idea of this is to get you in a regular routine of sitting down with each other with a common goal in mind. Not to mention this will bring you closer the more you get into the show. You might even find yourself discussing what might happen next in the show your conversing over the major issues of the show. As a couple you need to find things that you can do together as well as apart. Pick your shows and make it a date by adding snacks or drinks if you like and then snuggle down in your big chair and relax and watch together.

Invite her friends over to watch the game!

You know it is so easy to invite your friends over to watch the football game or any other sporting event. You just call them up and the will be there with beer under their arm. Have you ever thought to invite you wife or girlfriends friends over? This would be a great show of togetherness. This way that special woman in your life doesn’t just have to listen to your chest bumping friends. Next time you are planning to have the guys over ask her if she would like to invite some of her friends over and make it a little party. This way if your partner is not into the game they will have something to do or someone to talk to. One word of caution however don’t start letting your friends ogle over hers make it clear to them this is not an attempt to fix anyone up. If she agrees to this make sure you have items both sets of friends will enjoy snacking on and drinking. Cans of Beer and chips are not usually the ladies first choice. This might also get your partner to take a little more interest in sporting events if they don’t already. By making it more of a social event you might hear them saying “When is the next game?”

Wearing your husbands/boyfriends clothes

Something you can do that is sexy for both of you is to wear you husband/boyfriends clothes. Not only is is sexy for you to get into his clothing but it is special for when the man comes home to find you in his clothes. Unfortunately it doesn't work well the other way, so men you are out of luck. Unless you are into that sort of thing but it still in my opinion doesn't carry the same weight. To me this action by the woman says "I miss you" or "Come get me" To heighten the effect don't wear any underclothes under his clothes and let him find that out when he gets home. Any of the mans clothes will do from his sweatpants and shirts do a nice dress shirt with no pants on. The images of you in these outfits will be stuck with him for a while, plus your scent will be in his clothes so the next time he puts them on he will think of you. Ladies you now have permission to go through our closet.

Laughter IS the best medicine.

Have you ever been troubled by something so much that at some point and time you just burst out laughing? For some unknown reason at a really unusually time you start to chuckle with any control over it. This is your body telling you to lighten up. Sure what ever the problem is will need to be taken care of but you can't make yourself sick over worrying about it. This is where you as a good partner and lover take over. If you partner is feeling down about something you need to bring them up with some laughter. Make fun of the situation or crack some jokes, while this might not make things better it might open the persons mind to find a reasonable solution. When you think negative, negative things happen. You could also go out to see a funny movie or visit the local comedy shows anything that would make people laugh. Heck if you don't have any money then get on youtube and find some hilarious videos of people being stupid, they are all over the place. Believe me once the person gets some good laughter in the problem will be put in a new light. You being a caring and considerate person can help you partner when you see this happening, so break out the rubber chicken and practice your jokes.

Want a fun and romantic way to improve your relationship?

How long has it been since you looked deep into your partners eyes? Most people probably can't remember how long it has been. Well tonight do me a favor and stare deep into your partners eyes. While you are doing thing breath in their breath as they exhale. Some of the tantric practices state that this exercise helps to bring two partners closer together. I personally believe that not only does this bring you closer together but it also it a great way for the two of you to start your day. So often we just rush out the door, give each other a little peck on the check and don't see each other until the end of the day. Wake up 5 minutes earlier and breath with each other, heck you don't even have to get out of bed if you don't want to (Unless the morning breath is to strong, LOL) but seriously set some time aside to practices this eye gazing and breathing. You can feel so much through looking deep into someones eyes and taking in their breath is a great way to become part of them.

Dates don't always mean you will be alone!

When you get a chance to go on a date with your partner you need to think about it a little before you head out. First of all are you wanting to be alone during the date. If you are want to only focus on each other then you need to avoid places that you might run into people you know. For instance if you choose to go bowling you might run into some friends there and end up spending your date with several people. If you want to be alone then pick places that will let you be away from others. Places such as restaurants where you get your own table and people just can't walk up to you at any point and time, plus they will have their own table to enjoy. Once you have made your decision as to which type of date you want you will be better prepared for the evening. If you decide to go someplace where the public frequents be prepared to run into someone you know. If this does happen then don't shy away from the other people, you don't want to look like snobs. The other night I was at our local bowling center and a young couple came in to get an alley and several of their friends came running up asking them to come bowl with them. The young lady said no lets get our own lane, and while everyone knew they were on a date, it still seemed like a snub to the others. So if you want to be alone on our date go someone place where you can be alone, but don't hold it against your friends if you go to a place that several people frequent it's just not fair to either of you.

Results of Importance of Sex Survey

The couples spot readers are split on the importance of sex. 50% of our readers think that sex is as important to a relationship as food and water are to life. While 33% feel sex is great but not important to the relationship and 12% feel sex is a benefit of sex but no important to the relationship. While they might be split on weather sex is important or not they all agree that sex is wonderful and a benefit in a relationship. Sex it up couples and don’t forget to play it safe.

Write poems for each other.

We all view poetry as being romantic, however most of us think we are really bad at writing it. Well within your relationship you don't have to be a world renown writer of poetry. Put some humor into it and make it personal. Heck you can even make it sexy. The point is to make your partner feel good and if you make them laugh you get an added bonus. If you want to write a mushy poem for your lover that is good too but don't think you have to be perfect on each line for it to be important to you lover. If you are too timid to write your own poem then read a great poem from an author you enjoy to your partner. Some couples enjoy reading erotic poetry to each other as a form of foreplay. What ever way you can do it put some poetry into your relationship. Romance and poetry go hand it hand. Below is an example of a silly poem that just might get your partner laughing a little.

Sweetheart I love you from the bottom of my heart.

Because you love me even if I fart.

I love to kiss your pretty lips

and I adore the way you move your hips

Sometimes I find myself daydreaming of your beauty

and sometimes I just want to squeeze your booty.