Give a signal

          Trying to tell each other what feels good during sex seems to be a trouble for a lot of couples.  Something about giving orders or criticism during the event seems wrong to some people.  Yet we all want to feel good and have our needs met.  My solution to this problem is to set up some signals so that you can communicate to your lover while not having to verbalize your feelings.  The next time the two of you have a conversation about sex set us these signals to tell each other how you are doing.  Tell them if you tug on their hair that means you like what they are doing or that if you tap their shoulder you would like them to do something else.  These signals are totally up to you and you can have as many as you want.  Have one for when you are ready to try a new position or when you want some oral stimulation.  This way you don't have to say, "Oh that doesn't feel good" or "Oh MY GOD don't stop that"  unless you are comfortable saying those things.  

Making love needs some light!

          I am betting that most of the sex in the world today takes place in the dark.  What a shame this is.  I understand that some people have issues with body image and that being in the dark helps to hide in that manner.  Now I am not talking turning on all the bright florescent lights like that in a hospital.  I am talking about getting some candles or better yet get some of the new flame less candles for safety.  The reason why I like a little light is because it adds something to love making.  You can now looking lovingly into your partners eyes or get turned on more by her naked breast or his rear end.  You can see as your partner makes you feel good and watch them kiss and tantalize you.  This can bring a thrill to your sex life like you have never had.  Think of the image of your lover flickering in candle light as they move in to kiss you, how sexy is that.  

Back to work for most of us.

          Well most of us are back to work today if you weren't yesterday.  It seems like that time around Christmas passes so fast.  My theory on that is that it is because you are having a really wonderful time with the people you love.  So instead of wishing that time would slow down make sure you enjoy all of that time and realize that it is because you are in love that it passes so quickly.  Hold on to the memories and realize that when you are living life it is moving fast only when you stop loving does that time seem to slow down.  Enjoy the fact you are in love so many people out there are looking for that feeling and you my friend have it so revel in it.  

Special New Years Eve Plans.

          If you haven't made New Years Eve plans by now you are most likely out of luck.  If that is the case, or maybe you just don't have enough money to go out to a fancy New Years Eve party it is time to create your own.  Ask you friends what they are doing and if they are interested in having a New Years Eve get together.  You can find board games to play or have special movies available to watch together.  Maybe just some great deep conversation would do.  Obviously the point would be to ring in the New Year with other couples.  If that doesn't work or if the two of you want a little along time on New Years Eve plan a little romantic night around the changing of the year.  Go to dinner or make a special meal, get videos or games the two of you enjoy playing, talk about your future and where you want to be next year.  Write all the great ideas down you have about your future and then the next new years see how close you are to those dreams.  The important part is for the two of you to be together as the New Year comes in, get that first kiss in and renew your love.

Take it down together.

          We always seem to have a special time while putting up the Christmas tree or decorations for the holidays.  Yet when it comes time to take them down we seem to be in the mind set of just getting them down and put away as fast as we can.  Why don't the two of you make a special time of putting away the decorations.  Spend the day together gently packing and remembering the special ornaments and decorations that you have.   Play the last little bit of Christmas music for the year, maybe get a bottle of wine to share if your staying home and enjoy each other as you put all the things away for the year.   Spend the whole day doing it if you like and take your time to make it special and so that all your memories are ready for the next Christmas.  Heck you might even put a note in the box with the decorations on your feelings during this season to read when you get them out next year.  

Merry Christmas to all!

Merry Christmas out there to all the readers of The Couples Spot hope your holiday is fantastic and the love you feel lasts forever.  Take time for the two of you and make all your holiday dreams come true.

Love to the World!

Special Present

          Christmas is here and it is time to share with your family and friends.  Yet as a couple you need to find a special moment or two to spend just sharing the holiday between the two of you.  Maybe you have to meet in the closet for a special Christmas kiss during your crazy family gathering.  Saving a special present to give during alone time is another way to share a special moment between the two of you.  Try to pick out he most memorable present you have to give at this time.  If you get any jewelry this would be a good time to give it or if you have anything sexy this would also be a good time to give it.  While the holidays are suppose to be about family and people you care about it is okay to give your relationship some special attention.  Not only does it make your relationship stronger it help make all your holiday spirit more special.  

Romantic Drive looking for lights

          Want a fun and romantic thing to do this holiday?  Just hop in the car and start searching for wonderful houses decorated for the holiday season.  Many have special things set in their yard while others will have amazing lights lighting up their property.  It can be a very romantic time just searching around together looking for these holiday treasures.  If you have kids it can make it even more fun as you enlist their help searching as a family almost like following the star that lead the wise men to jesus if that is your belief.  Sometimes you can see the glow from far away and sometimes you will just happen upon them.  Make sure to make note of the ones that are you favorite as they most likely decorate every year.   This way you can plan out a route the next holiday season.  

Christmas eve is when the naughty people get their presents.

          Christmas is a warm and wonderful time of sharing and caring.  People are excited and filled with joy as the are thinking about others.  This is especially true in a relationship as you search for things for your partner to show you love.  What happens if you and your partner want to get a little naughty around this time of year.  Do you want to buy them something sexy this year or maybe something the two of you can enjoy together.  Well you can't have them unwrap a sex toy with the kids Christmas morning.  That is why Christmas eve is the time for the naughty presents.  Take some time once the kids are tucked away and the family is gone and find that special naughty present and share it with your partner as while no creatures will be stirring.  The peace in the house on Christmas eve is a perfect time to share something intimate.  Be it a present or just some special intimate time this is the perfect opportunity.  Making love to each other on Christmas eve is the best present to start off with.  You know the morning with be filled with a different excitement but tonight take time for your relationship and get a little naughty.  Santa won't mind!

Time to hang the Mistletoe

One of my favorite traditions is that you have to kiss your lover under Mistletoe.  You can use this to your advantage by strategically placing Mistletoe around your house.   Think of places you would love to be kissed or would love to kiss your partner and then set to work to place your mistletoe.  Put some over the top of the shower, how about over the kitchen sink so you can kiss them as they are doing the dishes, or what about placing it over your bed and surprising them with amazing passionate kisses before you explain and point to the mistletoe above.  Heck you could even rap some up and give it to them as a present for them to place somewhere.  As always be creative and think of how and where you would love to be kissed then make sure not to break tradition and kiss through out the holidays.