Spend a day together just having fun!

Okay we have a holiday coming up here in the United States. Labor day is Monday and I want the two of your (and your children if you have any) to spend the day only having fun. No working no chores just pure fun. Find someplace to go or a cookout and enjoy the day with your partner. Take a walk, ride a bike, get out in the sun all this things will help bring you closer together. The chores and work will be their when you get home and you can work on them tomorrow. But for today just have a much fun as you possibly can.

Here are some suggestions : The Beach, an amusement park, geocaching, bike riding, hiking, have a cookout, go to a cookout, play in a softball tournament, go golfing, fishing, or bowling, take a stroll through the city, Take a long drive, the list goes on and on and on so you cannot tell me you can't find something fun to do for one whole day.

Skip Lunch Together if it nets you more time later.

One thing a couple can always use more of it time. We always want to try to have time to go to lunch with our spouse. It is usually a hurray up eat and get back to work situation. Well here is a novel idea. Why not skip lunch with each other and all together? Think about it this way if you brown bag it to work and eat while you are working and get off an hour earlier, wouldn't that be a better use of your time to spend with your honey. Instead of breaking your time together up into little tiny segments why not have an extra hour at home together during the night? You will also be saving money if you are not going out to eat all the time. Plus with an hour extra with each other you can do some of the things you seem to never have enough time to get accomplished. If your having trouble trying to fit your sex life into the picture now you have an extra hour! If you take the whole hour that is a great use of your extra hour.

Seriously though if you break it down at the most you are spending maybe a half hour to forty-five minutes together during you lunch. Plus you are spending time ordering and maybe talking to someone else that you know. Wouldn't that hour be much better spent alone with your family or partner? I think so.

Sex is not animalistic!

I find it rather interesting to see how many people think that sex is just an animalistic act in humans. Sure it is how we reproduce, and depending upon your views way back when it was a matter of survival to our species. However, I think we have evolved way beyond this thinking of us being in heat. I know that my main purpose in wanting sex is not to procreate at this point. Sex really feels great, it not just a hormonal rush either. We can communicate how much we love our partner by the passion we can show them during sex. I think the debate needs to be opened again. With the advances in birth control and sex being more accepted today we need to reevaluate how we perceive it. Sex in my opinion is part of love, passion, and a relationship. I personally don't feel like you have a full relationship unless your sex live is on track. There are so many advantages to sex, that I don't understand how some people can think that the only reason we have it is because of our urge to reproduce. Sex helps your health, help remove stress, brings people closer, and again is a fun activity the two people can enjoy together. I would love to hear how others view sex in this day and age so it you like drop me a email and let me know what you think.

Kisses are Great.

Kisses are Great.

Treat each date like a first date.

I know once you get to be a couple your dating seems to change. If you living in the same house it seems a little weird to be getting ready for a date, while your partner is doing the same thing. To make this seem a little more exciting do this next time you are going to go out. One of you gets ready firsts, then you set a time for your date. The partner that is ready then leaves, to return at the set time. Then the other partner begins getting ready for the date. The partner that is ready can do anything they want until time to pick up their date. You could go hang out at your local pub, or go shopping anything to pass the time until your date. Then when the time come you proceed to go pick up your date. It might seem a little weird to go to the house in which you live to pick up the person you are already sleeping with. Make light of the situation and remember the first time you picked them up for a date. See if you can get those butterflies in your stomach again. Maybe purchase something new to wear that your partner has never seen you in as of yet. It is little things like this that can keep your relationship in the best shape, don't be afraid to be silly and show your partner how much they mean to you.

Who's feelings are more important!

You might wonder in a relationship, who's feelings are more important. I know your first choice is that both partners feelings should be equally important. This is true for the most part. However things arise that might make you shift the importance form one partner to the other. Things such as a death in the family, loss of a job, or just a bad day. These type of incidents make your partners feelings need just a bit more attention. Everyone wants their feelings attended to, but at times like this you need to forget your feelings and focus on the feelings of your partner. Helping them get through the crises is part of being in a relationship. Always remember it might be you the one that needs attention tomorrow.

Pick out a motivational speaker.

Sometimes it is tough to get motivated not only yourself but as a couple. You know all the things you need to get done around the house, you need to exercise, you could put some more effort into work, and you could most definitely improve you sex life, if you only had the energy. Well if you want to get that energy, pick out a motivational speaker. There are several to choose from and they all focus on different aspects of life and the pursuit of happiness. Listen or watch this speaker together then make a plan and stick to it. With two of you following the plan, it is easier to stay on the straight and narrow. Your partner can pull you back when you get a little lazy or want to take the easy way out. The benefit of this is that once you reach your goals you will have done it together. You can chart and track your progress together so that you know you are reaching that special goal.

One of my favorite speakers is JB Glossinger and you can find him at http://morningcoach.com/ or he has a podcast on itunes. He discusses everything form health and fitness to business and abundance. Check him out and tell him you heard about his site on The Couples Spot.

How much effort are you putting into your relationship?

Have you ever stooped to wonder how much effort you are putting into your relationship. Shouldn't it be one of the top things on your list as far as time and effort? Think about it for a minute and calculate how much time you spend preparing or working on your relationship. I bet your start to see that you are spending more time working out or surfing the Internet then you are at thinking of ways to better your relationship. Kids with standing, your partner should be the most important person in your life. Friends and Family can be a close second but your partner should be the be all end all. Think about it this way, who are you going to be with when the kids grow up and you retire to that special destination? Show where should you be putting your time to get the most for your return? Chew on that the next time you don't think you have time to pick up something special, or do something nice for your lover.