Aggressiveness!

In our relationship our love life is important. We all want our sex life to be the way we want it. What happens when both partners want to the aggressor in your sex life. How can you balance this without one person feeling like they are not getting their turn to be the hunter? This also comes into play in other areas of your relationship, when you have two dominate personalities that clash when you have to step back and let the other partner be the aggressor. First of all, this is not a situation that is hopeless, you just have to learn to take turns and let the other person have their chance to feel they are in control. If this is a problem in your sex live then you need to make some agreements to make both of you happy. I would suggest using some light bondage and taking turns being the one tied up. Get an under the bed restraining system that hides neatly under your mattress and start to enjoy when it is your turn to be aggressive. Always make sure to have your safe words in place so you can stop if the situation gets to intense. When it is your turn to be the aggressor then make sure to use it to satisfy your cravings of being in control and respect your partner when it is their turn. It might seem a little silly but using this bondage switch off might just help you in other areas of your relationship. Maybe then the two of you won't but heads so much.

Reevaluate your relationship from time to time.

From time to time we need to take a good look at our relationship. Not to decide if we need to be in it or not. We need to look at it to see what we can do to make it better. Step back and really look for things that the both of you feel would make your relationship better. Maybe looking for a new job, buying a house, spending more time together, or having a child would move your relationship into the next level. We all get comfortable and want everything to stay status quo but this just give your relationship the blahs. Never trying or striving for something new and improved only locks you into the feeling your relationship is boring. This is not a decision you should make alone this one has to be a joint effort. If only one of you decides your relationship needs a major overhaul, you might meet with some pretty tough resistance. Deciding together will help bring you closer and help you meet this goal you are sitting for your relationship. Maybe you want to go on dates more, or get a grip on your finances no matter what you want to improve the battle will be won faster when both of you are working together. Sit down together, today and make notes on things you both want to improve on and then pick one and both of you focus on it until you start to see it improving. After that go to the next item on your list, by continuing to improve your relationship all the time you are sitting yourselves up for a life long relationship of epic nature.

When sex isn't an option use your hands!

There are times in your relationship that you might not be able or care to have sex, and that is quite alright. What happens when your partner wants to enjoy a little intimacy and for what ever reason you don't want to. Well that is why god gave your hands, among many other reasons. You can use your hands to pleasure your partner now matter if your man or woman. There are many different techniques, methods, and even toys to help you in the pursuit. Remember just because you are not in the mood or feeling like it doesn't mean your partner should have to suffer or resist their urges. Handjobs are the obvious answer to anyone and you can give them to males and females alike. The book Red Hot Touch in our Amazon side bar is a great read for learning more about this type of enjoyment. Oral sex is another option that most people enjoy receiving and can be quite as nice as any other form of sex. Today they are also many toys that can be used to achieve satisfaction and can be use by or on your partner. Masturbators for men and vibrators and dildos for women are great tool to get your partner off when you just don't feel like it. The important part is being together, if your really don't feel like assisting in any matter then tell them you would love to watch them pleasure themselves and at least the two of you are together instead of in the other room away from each other during orgasm. Don't doom your partner to sexless nights because you are not in the mood both of you are important parts to this relationship and both your feelings are important. So instead of saying, "No way" to your eager partner find another way to excite them, that way both of your needs get met.

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Honey Do list

We have all been given a honey do list at sometime or another. Be it written on paper of given to us orally to store in our memory banks. The list usually contains chores and errands that we need to complete. Well if you are the maker of this list one thing you need to remember to do is to put some things on the list that would be something your partner would like to do. For instance in the middle of the list it might say "Give me a Kiss", using things like this to break up the routine of a normal list is a great way to say thank you to your partner for doing the other things on the list. If you like you can even put a reward at the bottom of the list things like "After you have completed all the things on this list you will receive a massage from me" or "Upon completion of this list you will find me naked in bed waiting to pay you for your hard work" This is important to the sanity of our relationship, think of it like that famous saying from the movie "The Shinning", "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"

What our viewers relationships need more of.

Results on our survey on what your relationship need more of. The overwhelming thing most viewers felt they needed more of in their relationship was sex coming in at 40%. They also thing that more Romance, Care and Fun would improve their relationships over time. If you believe that your relationship is low on something you need to start by looking at yourself are you doing what you need to bring that item more into your relationship. Don’t expect your partner to give you what you want it your not willing to make compromises. Relationships are give and take and a balance has to be found to really have a successful one.

Who's feelings are more important!

You might wonder in a relationship, who's feelings are more important. I know your first choice is that both partners feelings should be equally important. This is true for the most part. However things arise that might make you shift the importance form one partner to the other. Things such as a death in the family, loss of a job, or just a bad day. These type of incidents make your partners feelings need just a bit more attention. Everyone wants their feelings attended to, but at times like this you need to forget your feelings and focus on the feelings of your partner. Helping them get through the crises is part of being in a relationship. Always remember it might be you the one that needs attention tomorrow.