Let Yesterday Go To Be Happy

"I am amazed by how many individuals 

mess up every new day with yesterday."

--Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

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Being Fit Will Make Your Sex Life Happier

Stay Healthy and Enjoy a Happy Sex Life

By Karen Fickler

Women's fitness and healthy living can offer many benefits for your physical and mental health. But did you know that a healthy lifestyle may be the key to promoting a happy sex life? The better you feel physically the more likely it is that you will be healthy enough for sex. Building your muscles, especially your pelvic floor muscles actually helps to improve the functions of your sexual organs.

Nutrition is nature's medicine. Begin with a healthy diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, proteins and healthy fats. Overeating, especially foods that are high in saturated fats, leads to high blood cholesterol and obesity, both major causes of cardiovascular disease and diabetes. This can mean your body is not healthy enough for sex.

Sex is good for you. When women's estrogen levels drop at menopause, the vaginal walls lose some of their elasticity. It's possible to slow this process or even reverse it through sexual activity. Sex is your vagina's women's fitness program.

Exercise promotes healthy sex: Regular aerobic activity, Pilates, Yoga and strength training exercises all promote women's fitness and may help to improve your sex life. Exercise helps the cardio system and aids in flexibility and stamina to help you enjoy better sex for a longer time.

If your sex life is still lacking, you might try these helpful hints:

Get out of the bedroom. Maybe you've never had sex on the kitchen floor or in a secluded spot in the woods; now might be the time to try it. Or try exploring erotic books and films. Even just the feeling of naughtiness you get from checking out an X-rated movie at the local video store might make you feel frisky.

Sensuality counts. Create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all five of your senses. Light scented candles, cover your bed with silk or satin for a sensual touch. Play music that you both enjoy, buy flowers and place in a lovely vase. Make your bedroom a special place to make love.

Be playful. Take a bubble bath together or even a shower. Being wet and naked together is a great lead-in to sex. Wash each other's backs. Tickle. Laugh. Enjoy.

Let your imagination soar. Be creative by varying your activity. For example, if you're used to making love on Saturday morning, choose Sunday morning instead. Have sex in the middle of the week. Be open to different positions and new activities. Try sex toys and purchase sexy lingerie.

Be romantic. Surprise each other with flowers when it isn't a special occasion. Plan a day when all you do is lie in bed, talk, and be intimate. Leave sweet messages on each other's cell phones. Tell your lover how special he is and how much you love him.

Karen Ficarelli is the founder and CEO of Fitness4Her.com, a diet, exercise program and women's fitness blog, developed especially for women. A mother of three, Karen knows how hard it is to fit everything into a busy schedule. A fitness author, personal trainer, Pilate's instructor, sports nutritionist, fitness model, wife and mom, Karen is passionate about helping other women reach their fitness goals.

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5 Minutes a Day to Change Your Life!

You can change your experience simply by giving yourself five minutes a day. 

Sit up tall.  

Close your eyes.

Place a half smile on your face (no matter how you feel).

Focus on your breathing.

Consciously relax the muscles in your face.

Relax the muscles in your neck and shoulders.

Relax your stomach.

Relax your arms and hands.

Melt into your legs.

Melt into the floor.

Take a final deep breath and release it slowly.

Slowly open your eyes and come back to yourself.

Taking care of YOU ultimately takes care of your relationship and family too!

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Lift your man up!

Ladies if you haven't learned this by now you might not ever. Men think about sex a lot. This is our nature we desire it, we fantasize about it, and we want it all the time. Back up a bit that last little part isn't quite true. Men want sex all the time isn't exactly true we want it until we can have it. Our mind it focused on it until we reach that golden ring. I did a little experiment recently and found that once I had sex I was able to focus more on other tasks be it at work or home more easily for about two days. Once that third day hit my mind started telling me to think about sex again. Which got me thinking, it we had sex every three days my wife would never be able to tell me that all I think about is sex! I read somewhere that most really successful men have a lot it common but one of those things is that they never had to worry about was sex. They said their partner was always there for them in that capacity. Then in another article I read it said that couples that have more sex are happier and live longer. Are you starting to see the trend like I am. Ladies here is my feeling after I read these two articles. If you want your man to be successful, happy and healthy all you have to do is have sex with him on a normal basis so that it doesn't preoccupy his mind. Without having to worry about when he is going to have sex again, or what he can do to get more sex he will be free to think about things like improving his career, fixing up things around the house, and even doing more non-sexual romantic things.

This epic battle of men and women over sex, shouldn't be a battle at all it should be a compromise to benefit your relationship. Men I suggest trying you own little experiment and see how long sex releases it's grip from you mind after you have it. Be honest with yourself and your partner as to when that craving for sex starts to creep back in. Sex everyday is a wonderful thought but it isn't the compromise that most couples make and frankly I don't know if I would actually like to have sex everyday. That might become boring and I never want my sex to become boring. Talk with your partner about this and let them know you are trying to find the compromise that will make you both happy, if they get mad about that then they aren't really putting the effort into your relationship that you both really need.

Aggressiveness!

In our relationship our love life is important. We all want our sex life to be the way we want it. What happens when both partners want to the aggressor in your sex life. How can you balance this without one person feeling like they are not getting their turn to be the hunter? This also comes into play in other areas of your relationship, when you have two dominate personalities that clash when you have to step back and let the other partner be the aggressor. First of all, this is not a situation that is hopeless, you just have to learn to take turns and let the other person have their chance to feel they are in control. If this is a problem in your sex live then you need to make some agreements to make both of you happy. I would suggest using some light bondage and taking turns being the one tied up. Get an under the bed restraining system that hides neatly under your mattress and start to enjoy when it is your turn to be aggressive. Always make sure to have your safe words in place so you can stop if the situation gets to intense. When it is your turn to be the aggressor then make sure to use it to satisfy your cravings of being in control and respect your partner when it is their turn. It might seem a little silly but using this bondage switch off might just help you in other areas of your relationship. Maybe then the two of you won't but heads so much.

Happy Light

If you live in a climate what has a cold harsh winter, the cabin fever can sit in pretty bad during these months. Not being able to be outside much or get the sun light that warms us can be a real downer for not only us but our relationship also. This is where you need to take action and fight the blues of winter. The obvious thing to do is to hop a plane and take a vacation to a warm exotic place. Somewhere that you can drink fruity drinks and make love all night. Now if your budget will not allow you to do this you need to start thinking of other things to do. First thing is whenever the sun is out make sure to open the curtains and let all the light in you can to your house. When the temperature warms up even slightly take a short walk outside to get that brisk air into your lungs. When all these things fail you then you need to start looking for a happy light. I have put the web address of a great happy light in the title of this post so all you have to do is click on the title and you will be whisked off to the happy light store. There are many other versions of this type of device that are less expensive. I personally don't get the winter blahs but the people that I have talked say the light definitely helps with these blahs. Sit in front of you light and close your eyes and feel the light reacting to your skin, feel it absorb into you and then after a few days of this your overall mood should start to come around. Granted this is no substitute for the sun but it might just help you avoid the cabin fever that usually happens around this time of year.

Gratitude.

Sometimes we get caught up with the feeling of lack or what we don't have in our lives. We forget about all the wonderful things that we just expect to be there day in and day out. Instead of enjoying the things we have we continue to struggle for the things we don't have. We build stress and depression going after these thing. All the time the things that we need to make us happy are right in front of our face. If you haven't read or watched The Secret yet, when you do they take in large part about gratitude and how being thankful is a big part of getting what you want out of life. Give and take is a force in the universe that smiles on you when you understand it so start today and be thankful and appreciative for the good things around you. Then see how the rest of the things start to fall into place.

Get over your fear of Masturbation.

One thing you need to do to have a healthy and happy relationship is to get over your fear of masturbation. Almost everyone masturbates they just don't talk about it. Just because your partner is pleasuring themselves doesn't mean your relationship is on the rocks. It means that masturbation feels good, you don't think your relationship is going down the tubes because your partner is exercising do you. If they thought of your partner masturbating is hard for you to understand then think of it as exercise, this way they are in great sexual shape to satisfy your needs. My suggestions to couples is to do it together that way it is more intimate and the one partner doesn't feel like they are sneaking around to get this pleasure. I understand that they way many people were brought up that masturbation was a taboo and forbidden practice well I am here to tell you that most of the people who told you that were masturbating also. Masturbating with a partner the first time is a little nerve racking I understand that but you have so much to gain from this action. For starters your partner is going to see how you like to be pleased, they are also going to most likely get turned on by your actions, and it can be very intimate once you get comfortable doing it. Think about it while your making yourself feel good your partner can be caressing your body, whispering in your ear, or even masturbating with you. Now if you don't think those things are sexy then you need some help. Lastly this helps us in our relationship by calming the seas between the differences in our libido. Now you can encourage your partner to let you watch them instead of just flat out telling them you don't feel like it. Masturbation can also help with areas like premature ejaculation, understanding, and even a little role playing. Some women enjoy when a man masturbates before they make love because it makes it a little smaller for it's next go around. You can find plenty of great books to help you and your partner gain trust and experience in mutual masturbation and you can search for them by clicking on my Amazon side bar.

Too stressed for sex? You are only hurting yourself.

Stress can effect several things in your relationship. One of them being your sex life. However letting stress dampen you sex life actually is a double edged sword. Sex is considered a stress reliever so what better way to relieve stress then to have sex. Sex releases happy chemicals into your body that helps you relax as well as welcome sleep, this in turn helps your body become stronger. All of these things help you combat stress. Several professionals suggest taking steps to get yourself in the mood. If you click on the title of this post you will go to a list of some things that help your libido.

Bypassing sex because of stress is a no win situation. On the other hand putting a little effort into your sex life can help reduce this stress greatly. You and your partner will both benefit from the effort you put into your sex life. Now quite making excuses and start working toward getting rid of that stress by having some great sex. You relationship will thank you.

Tell each other how happy you are!

Today I want you to make a point of telling each other how happy you are in your relationship. Just start blurting things out to your partner and let them take a turn at returning the list. In the middle somewhere tell them things you would like to work on and again give them time to rebuttal. It is my feelings that you should do this at least every month. Make a date of it, on a Sunday afternoon or Tuesday night plan to watch a movie together afterwards or just set a cuddle the night away.

Any way you can build communication is a plus and doing it in a positive manner like this really helps a relationship. No matter how the conversation turns always end on a positive note. After speaking your last bit make sure to hug your partner.

Happy Birthday to Me! - Share the love

If you can't tell by the title line today is my birthday. I love celebrating birthday and it doesn't matter if it's mine or my wife's or our kids. I love making the cakes, hoping to get the right gifts. It's just all so exciting to me. I think the main reason for this feeling in me is that it is an excuse to show someone how much you care about them. I'm as guilty as the next person in over spending on the holidays and birthdays. But there are several gifts that I would enjoy getting that don't hardly cost anything. A basic card is always nice and you can get one of the at your local discount store for usually under a dollar, or you can make your own. Another great idea is just take me on a walk, hold my hand and lets just walk and talk. Rent my favorite movie and share some popcorn with me while we watch it. These are all great ideas that don't cost over $5 and would make me very happy.

However, my favorite birthday present that would come from my partner would be a night of great sex. Sound selfish, maybe but after all it is my birthday. After all the cake and guest are gone, I want to know how special I am to my partner. Again this won't cost you an arm or leg. Don't make it your normal sex night do something different. Find something that maybe you wouldn't do every time you make love and perform that act on your partner for their birthday or a special occasion. Some ideas might be wearing a costume or a little role playing. Maybe there is something you partner love that you do and it's not your favorite. Well do it on their birthday, think about it that way you only have to do it on that special occasion and it will seem that much more special to your partner. Another idea might be to branch out a little search the Internet or pick up a book on sex that breaks from the norm a little. Be adventurous maybe tie your partner up, or use a sex toy on them, or even try a different position. You can find books and information on anything you want to try at Amazon or by searching the Internet. Just make sure after you perform what every action you decide on your partner, to say "Happy Birthday." Who knows maybe that was their wish when they blew out their candles.