Is a kiss just a kiss?

When you kiss your partner good bye or hello is it just a greeting or more than that? After all you don't kiss everyone hello or goodbye do you? Aside from you kids or your parents that usually doesn't happen. So, I ask again is a kiss more than we give it credit for. Is it the passing of breath between two lovers? Is it exchanging life force or your inner light? We might never know why a kiss is so important. The tingling lips the moister in the act causes me to believe that is a sharing in some sort of way. You can even tell your partners feelings in their kiss, by the pressure or the force behind it. Heck you can even tell if they are mad at you by their kiss. Maybe if we put more focus on each kiss we share with our partner we might start to become closer then ever before. Some people say that kissing is foreplay and I agree but I think it is so much more deeper that that. I think it is two being one and the sharing of desires and passions and of space. Most people don't think about kissing in this manner but next time you kiss your partner really see if you can feel what they are feeling, then look deep in their eyes telling them you love them.

Who is the dominant sexual partner?

Most relationships has a dominant sexual partner. I am not taking a physical force in the bedroom, but one that needs or wants sex more. I want to hear how your viewers handle the difference between the two levels of sexual desire. Do you compromise or does one partner just lose out? I want to hear about your dealings with this common problem in a relationships. I am trying to get a handle on how other are dealing with this and what might be the best solution. I understand both sides or this. Both partners deserve to get what they want and no one can force someone to enjoy intimacy more. Do you have means that help out with this problem, maybe a book, or an activity or even alcohol that helps to get you on the same plane in your sexual desire. You can drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com I will look forward to hearing from you.

Gratitude.

Sometimes we get caught up with the feeling of lack or what we don't have in our lives. We forget about all the wonderful things that we just expect to be there day in and day out. Instead of enjoying the things we have we continue to struggle for the things we don't have. We build stress and depression going after these thing. All the time the things that we need to make us happy are right in front of our face. If you haven't read or watched The Secret yet, when you do they take in large part about gratitude and how being thankful is a big part of getting what you want out of life. Give and take is a force in the universe that smiles on you when you understand it so start today and be thankful and appreciative for the good things around you. Then see how the rest of the things start to fall into place.

Make love through the new year.

Most people make sure they are near their partner at midnight on New Years Eve to give them a great big kiss. Why not take it a step or two farther and make love until the New Year arrives. Yes, you heard me right ring in the new year with sex. Get the two of you a hotel room or even at your own home. Spend the evening dinning and maybe have a few drinks, if you don't have to drive anywhere, and then just enjoy each others company until it gets closer to the midnight hour. At this point you have to be the judge as to how long your sex will last you don't want to finish before midnight. Heck you can even purchase some New Years Eve party hats and confetti to throw and midnight. How many people can say the made love from one year to the next. Sounds fun doesn't it. Many people are avoiding the crowded places this year for New Years Eve so why not have you own little party for two this New Years Eve.

Take advantage of 2 for meals

A great way to enjoy a evening out without breaking the bank is to take advantage of the current craze of the all inclusive meals. Several restaurants around are offering a complete meal for $20. Now that is a value for a night out. Now of coarse any drinks are extra, but recently my wife and I went to Chili's and we quite surprised at what we got for $20. We went away feeling full and had enough food left over to eat it for supper that night. Some of the other we went to had scaled down versions of their meals but not Chili's these were full portions. I almost felt kinda guilty getting our meal for this amount. Needless to say we were please and will return to try something different. Not only to toot Chili's horn but you need to look around and check out the specials if it works for you why not save a little money, if you feel bad leave a huge tip like I did.

Click on the title of this post to go to Chili's web site to see what they offer on their $20 special.

Research on Presents for Women

We ran a questionare and found what a sampling of women and what they thought the most romantic gift they could recieve would be. An overwhelming amout 45% to be exact said a trip would be the most romantic gift they could recieve. Second place went to lingere at 27% flowers and a massage both atained 9% of our vote. Still 10% of our voters checked the other catagorie. We would love to hear what those other things might be, so drop us a line and let us know what your favorite romantic present has been.

Snack Well

Part of being a couple is taking care of each other. We look out for our partner because we want them to be around as long as possible. Well one thing you can do to help them out is for both of you to Snack Well, together. It is so much easier when the both of you watch how you snack.

Start this out by going to the store together. Choose snacks that are healthy and skip the aisle that would tempt you. Choose alternative to some of your favorite items such as ice cream, candy, and chips. If you look closely you can find replacements that are similar with less fat and more nutrition in them. The simple fact of the matter is if you don't have it in your house you won't eat it. Late night cravings will be put to rest if you don't have the tub of ice cream in the freeze. If you must have that frozen delight choose sherbet or frozen yogurt instead. Be supportive of each other and remind each other how much healthier you will be by eating things like carrots, bananas, and apples.

Thing about it this way. Eating better will increase you livelihood. You will feel better and have more energy to do things. Eating well also helps with stress and improving your body image. People who eat well have better sex and more frequently enjoy intimacy. So eating healthy will improve your energy, self esteem, over all health, mental attitude, and your sex life. Why are we all not eating better?

Clicking on the title of this post will take you to a website dedicated to showing you healthy snack options.

Photo courtesy of programwitch from flickr creative commons.

The Barter System

Sometimes we would love for our partner to do something for us but hate to ask them. You know if you have asked them massage your back a hundred times. You still want them to massage you but you feel like your taking advantage of them by asking. Well if you find yourself in this situation I suggest you use the barter system.

The barter system is a very old way people use to exchange goods and services. Farmers might need something from the local store but had no money to pay with. The farmer would then offer some of his products from his farm for the goods, things such as eggs, milk, or grain. So this is the system I want you to use.

Next time you want that massage, offer something up in return. Offer to cook them their favorite meal if they give you a 30 minute massage. Always set times or goals on the barters so that no one feels cheated. Because just saying give me a massage might mean a hour massage to you but might only mean a 15 minute one to him. Sometimes you might have to sweeten the offer to get what you want, but the nice part is you both win in this type of bartering.

Sexual favors works wonders in getting things you would like. So don't be shy ask for what you want and express what you will to give up. I am sure you will both feel great after the trade. You can extend your trades over days if need be based on the time you have available. Just make sure you always keep your end of the deal or the next time you barter you partner might balk a little.

Flirt with you husband/wife. Didn't you do that at one time.

Here is a novel idea. Flirt with your significant other. Think back to when your relationship was just beginning. Didn't you flirt with your partner as much as you could. Remember those looks you gave them. The teasing and the sexy hot kisses that are always present at the beginning of your relationship. Why don't we still do that today? Does our partner not mean as much to us anymore? Can I still flirt? These are all valid questions.

However showing your partner that they still catch your eye is an important part of your relationship. Flirting is an art form in itself and some people are better at it then others. Even pour flirting skills should not stop you from avoiding this important function. If you have to be silly with it and go over the top. Your partner might think you are nuts at first, but believe me it will make them feel important to you.

If you really need help go to the Amazon Side bar and pick up a copy of Flirting for Dummies. Even if you don't need help flirting this book might still give you a some form of flirting that you have missed.

Time to Honor Our Hero's

Yes ladies and gentlemen Iwould like to take a moment to honor all the brave souls living and decesed that protected our great country. I am very proud to live in the USA and think everyone who lives here should be also. So today as a couple you should do a littel research and see how many of your relitives severed in the armed forces. You can also do this for your country if you live outside the USA. No matter what the cause or effect these people were hero's to stand up for their country. Find out how many members of your partners family served their country and maybe you could even find some old pictures of them to copy. Your children or your future children might get a kick out of seeing them later. While I don't agree with the acts of war I do agree that these people should be honored.

So today the message is short and simple for The Couples Spot. Just be proud of the people that have protected your great country. As your at your Cookout today remember this is not just a time to eat and be with friends it is a time to remember.