Your mother, their mother, oh mother!

Mothers day has so many ways to celebrate as we go into this celebration of the wonderful women in our life. Start with the mother that brought you into this world give her the justice she deserves for putting up with you crap during your teenage years. Give her the hugs and kisses you held back when she didn't let you go on the trip that landed your friends in jail. Next move on to the woman that mothered your children (if you don't have children skip this step) Give her all the praise and wonderment she deserves for going through labor to bring that wonderful bundle of joy that you have in your life. Finally celebrate the woman in your life for the amazing creature that she is for putting up with your shit. I mean come on how many times have you pissed her off or done something totally stupid and yet she still loves you. You know it is sad that most people wait until this day to celebrate these wonderful women. Maybe we should take a little more time during the rest of the year to make them know how important they are to us. We Love You Women, Thank YOU!!!!

Sexy Sleepwear for men??? where is it?

About every week we get a new Victoria Secret Catalog in the mail. Page after page of beautiful women wearing the most sexy things you can imagine. The images are beautiful and sexy and they get me thinking about sex right away. However what is sexy for a man to wear. Boxers is about the only thing that pops into my mind and they have overdone that so much. I mean really are boxers with cartoon characters on them sex??? Another fact is that they make sexy clothing for women that are a little out of shape but for men where is the sexy thing that hides our bellies. Does the world not care about the state of sexiness for men? How can we look sexy with out looking, well for lack of a better word, silly. I mean can us normal guys pull off a small pair of undies or a thong with a banana on the front? Come on designers I challenge you to make something that will make us men look sexy and not silly. I don't know the answer or I would market it myself. Sexy shouldn't just be for the really in shape people, we all want to feel comfortable in our bodies and sex would be great exercise for some people. So we as a society need to find something that will have our partners biting their lips with ecstasy instead of rolling around on the bed laughing.

Basketball Madness

If you don't know by now the most important part of the college basketball season is upon us. March Madness will now take it's toll on many a young lady that finds themselves a basketball widow right now. If this is your case, you can do something about it. Hunker down beside your man and find out what all the excitement is about. Learn about how the tournament operates. The beauty of the fact that 65 teams are all trying to keep winning to move towards a national championship. Each game is a win or go home game and no one is safe from upsets. This all might seem a little much for you if you have never experienced it. However, if you want to be with your man this month (well at least on the weekends) you might want to do a little research. Have him show you how to fill out a bracket, let him show you his tricks to picking the winners. Heck the two of you could even put a little sexual wager on the games to spice things up a bit. You owe it to him to try and understand a little bit about this tradition, think about the times you drag him out shopping and he tries to help you pick things out. He is putting forth the effort you might not like his picks but he is trying. Here is an important thing for you to remember the first weekend of the tournament is non stop basketball from about noon to midnight but then it gets less and less as the get closer to the finals. So as march progresses you will have more and more time to spend together.

A vibrator for Him?????

When you in a spot to focus on intimacy there are several things that you just assume are the normal and don't question them. One of those such subjects is that vibrators are just for women and while they are great for women, they can be used on your gentlemen friends also. Think for a minute, a vibrator is designed to stimulate your senses no where does it say that it can only be used by a woman or on a woman. Vibrators can be used for simple massage if nothing else. It just so happens that they are great for stimulating the clitoris of a woman. Have you ever thought about using it on the taint of a man? This area seems to get forgotten in most intimate settings but using a vibrator on it can push your man over the edge. A vibrator can also be used on a man's penis, his scrotum, or even his anus to add pleasure to your foreplay. Ladies it is time to share you pleasure instruments with you male partners, you can even us it at the same time by putting it between both of you in areas that would be touching. One couple will insert the man's erect penis into the woman and then use the vibrator on the part of his shaft on the outside of her and not only does he get the good vibes but she feels them also as they are transferred from his penis to her vagina. Do a little experimenting and see what works best for the two of you, make sure to email me with anything that you find really works well and we will pass it along to the other readers.

Your Relationship is part of all you do.

Once your a couple one thing you need to come to grips with is that your relationship is no longer yours or mine it is ours. This is a hard fact to grasp for most people, gone are the times that you only think about yourself. No longer can you just stay out all night with out letting someone know, and this is not because you have to but it is out of respect. You now have someone in your life that is worried about you. This person cares about you and to just not come home without letting them know is a terrible thing to put them through. No you do not have to run everything you do by them but you need to show respect when things are going to make you stray from your routine. This goes for both men and women, if you are going to stop at the bar for some drinks with your friends a call is important. Building trust is an important part of a relationship but keeping your partner in the dark can destroy that trust in a matter of minutes. Relationships are a commitment but they are not designed to be a jail term. Have your fun, just make sure your partner has an idea of what is going on.

Other uses for Lotion (Men this is directed at you)

With the cold winter weather we are having right now one thing you need to do is keep your skin soft. Rough hands are ones that no one wants to hold or get touched by. Men if you are the type of guy who's hands get rough during these months it is time to use that lotion in the bathroom for something other then what you normally use it for! Make it a point to lotion your dry hands every time you get out of the shower. Anytime you go to the bathroom and wash your hands apply another dose of this wonder. Soon you will start to feel that your hands are getting soft and less abrasive. This makes massaging your partner much much better, not only for you but for them also. No longer will you snag your dry skin on their clothes or make them shy away when you try to touch them. Now more than ever they will enjoy your hands on their naked body. Plus it is better for the other use of the lotion also (wink wink) Now go out and get those hand soft and ready.

Women's Orgasms Are Not Guaranteed

As a loving and caring partner you are always concerned that you are making your lover feel great. Sometimes however you may tend to worry a little more about it than you should. One thing that you need to remember is that a woman's orgasm is not guaranteed. Sometimes she might not even have one.  This doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that she doesn't want to make love to you.  It just means the a woman's body is a complex thing and sometimes she just can't orgasm. This doesn't mean she can't have a good time and it doesn't mean she isn't enjoying the activities. Unlike men the orgasm is not a gauge of when you are done.

The trade off is that when she does orgasm she can have several of them compared to guys who typically need a rebooting time. The last thing you want to do when you are making love is ask a woman if she has had an orgasm. It is a real mood buster.

If you have an established relationship with someone, then believe me you will learn quickly when she has one. If you feel compelled to ask, make sure you wait until later after your love making session - wait until you are cuddling or maybe even the next day.

It is important to know that it takes longer for a woman to reach that ultimate point of ecstasy. You have to be willing to put the work into the results. Relax and don't try to force her to orgasm. Let it happen most women will let you know somehow when they are getting close. The best thing you can do is research different techniques for playing with your companion and while variety is good, always keep in your memory bank what works well and don't be afraid to go back to it. With a little trial and error you will soon find a wealth of things that will improve not only her love life, but yours too.

Visually Stimulating

I think the secret has long been exposed, that men in general are more visually stimulated then women. Being a man myself I can tell you I enjoy seeing the beauty of a women in all sorts of ways. Now not all men are this way but the vast majority of them seem to be. We want to watch our partners get undressed and we love to see them naked. We love the visions that great sex leaves in our heads. We want to peak at you in the shower and yes we look at your bottom when you bend over. We love the vision that you bring to our eyes. Next time you man wants you to leave the light on don't think he is weird, just know it is because he wants the image of you burned into his mind. With all this new information (or not so new information) don't be afraid to let go a little yourself. Wear something sexy to add images to his mind, give him a quick shot of you naked to get him excited. Let him watch as you do things to him that are pleasurable. One thing that you need to understand you gentleman is going to get visually stimulated somewhere and what better place then at home. So the next time you are worried he is watching to much porn or hoarding the Victoria Secret catalog in the bathroom, maybe you need to visually stimulate him?

The Lingham Massage

Ladies if you are in a serious relationship you need to do your part to keep your man happy in this relationship. Just like it is his responsibility to do the same for you. What I want you to do is work on your massage technique for his penis. Nothing makes a man feel better then having the person he adores play with his manhood. If of all you have to understand that massaging of the penis is not like your normal massage. You are not trying to relax the muscle or work out any kinks. You are basically getting your man worked up and ready to make love to you. With that said you shouldn't just perform the massage until his penis is hard. You need to take your time and work your magic on a soft and erect penis. Feel all the ridges and places on his penis, use different techniques (click on the title of this post to go to a massage technique page), use any part of your body you wish, your breast and mouth are two of the most common. Don't settle for the normal however, use your feet or your hair anything that gives a different sensation would be greatly appreciated. Lastly you need to make sure he is satisfied, you can either have great sex with him, give him oral sex, or if you are not in the mood a hand job is fine. I think a lot of women don't understand that most men want to be with their partner anyway they can. If a hand job is all your up for tonight that will be fine with your gentleman partner. We all know the old standby that the woman gets a headache and doesn't want sex. Well it is okay if the woman doesn't feel like it but she needs to know that it is still okay for the man to get excited and get off. If you can understand this feeling in your man, women you relationship will improve greatly, sex is important to your relationship. Even if your not in the mood, remember there are two people in this relationship.

Shedding some light on...

I would like to shed some light on a post for earlier. I recently did a post that prosed the questions is there room for fetishes in a relationship? Well I think I need to explain fetish a little more because I have recently learned a little more about the subject of fetishes. First of all I originally believed that if you had fantasies about women in leather or being tied up that you had a fetish. I understand now that a fetish is so much more then that. A fetish is a need, and without that need you cannot orgasm. If spanking is your fetish then you would need to be spanked before you could ever consider getting off. With this new understanding I realize now that most of the things people call fetishes are really just things they like to do. Now when your husband asks you to wear that leather cat woman outfit sometimes you will know that he just likes to see you in it, but if you have to wear it every time you are going to be intimate then you are dealing with a fetish.

Charting the Monthly Cycle

Most of the ladies out there whether you are on the pill or not, have a way to track their monthly cycle. They are prepared for the event before it happens. Men, you need to take some examples from them. We need to be prepared for the monthly event also. Make your own chart and see if you can find trends that might help you out as that time of month rolls around. Track if your partner gets upset easily, or angry for no reason. Sometimes little things will set women off at this time of month. Some women might get really emotional and cry at anything and everything. By tracking this you will be much more prepared to deal with the changes then most men. Understand that it is out of their control, and that it is part of the make up of women. Once you get the cycle down and are pretty comfortable with it, you will find yourself knowing when your partner might get a little more emotional or when not to ask if you can have the guys over for a poker party. Being a couple requires that you are sensitive to each others needs and most women's make up changes a little during her period. Find things to do during her period that might make her a little more relaxed. It might be a good time to give her a massage or rub her feet, make her feel special and most importantly understand that this might be an uncomfortable and painful time for them.

Research on Presents for Women

We ran a questionare and found what a sampling of women and what they thought the most romantic gift they could recieve would be. An overwhelming amout 45% to be exact said a trip would be the most romantic gift they could recieve. Second place went to lingere at 27% flowers and a massage both atained 9% of our vote. Still 10% of our voters checked the other catagorie. We would love to hear what those other things might be, so drop us a line and let us know what your favorite romantic present has been.

Slip into somehting sexy, MEN?????

We are bombarded with sexy lingerie for women. We see it almost everyday, either in the mail or upon the television it is always in our face. I bet at least once a week I get a catalog from Victoria's Secret with scantly clad women adorning each page (it makes great ready material) However when you think of something sexy for a man to wear, you don't get a whole lot of ideas that pop into your head. Men it is hard for us to find something sexy to wear to make our partners do a double take on us.

Men today I am challenging you to find something sexy to wear to bed with your partner. The basic thought is your typical silk boxer shorts. The are great but don't leave make that sexy of a statement unless your partner touches them. Try to find out something that would turn you partner on. Are they a big sports fan? Then get some boxers with their favorite team on them. Purchase a cop uniform if you partner finds cops sexy. Try to find something that you can use so the next time you ask them to put on something sexy you can say "I did it for you"

As always have fun with it and go a little overboard. Life is way to short to be serious all the time. Take advantage of every opportunity you have.

You know that Annoying friend....

No matter who you are you have an annoying friend. That is common knowledge but how do you put up with your partners annoying friend? Do you just not be around with they come over or you make faces every time they open their mouth. Knowing that this person is a friend of your partner locks you in a little. Number one never tell you partner they have to stop hanging around said friend. The exceptions are it he or she is hitting on you, then you need to tell your partner. If the fact is they are just annoying, then you have to have a little tolerance. Try to get to know them a little better, a lot of annoying people are that way because they don't know how to act in front of you. Understand this is part of your partner, his or her choice of friends is part of their make up. Since you care about your partner, you need to be the bigger person. Chances are that once this person sees that you are not going to take their friend away they will calm down and most likely stop being so annoying.

Think about your friends I am sure if you look closely at their actions you might see the same thing in one of them. Understand that a protection device is all this annoyance is. Make the effort to reassure the friend that you are both going to be part of their life and you should work together. Use their help to throw a surprise birthday party or pick them out something for Christmas. Friends can add a lot of insight into your partner. So look past their annoying features and look for something good in them. Don't ignore them make them feel as if they are part of your relationship.

Many Uses for Vibrators

Most of you that use a vibrator use it to stimulate the clitoris. That is a wonderful and great use for the vibrator. However if that is all you are using it for you need to listen up. Vibrators can be used to stimulate so many areas on the body. Think of all your erogenous zones and how it might feel to have a little vibration on them. Another thing you need to realize is that vibrators are not just for women either. Running a vibrator up and down your man's private parts can be a real turn on. You can also use your machine as a massager you know how they show the women in the magazines using them. Neck muscles, hips, feet can all benefit from the movements a vibrator puts out. So don't be so shy with your gadget and get it out of the drawer a little bit earlier during you time together. I have heard that some people can even get turned on by the sound alone. If you get a powerful enough on you might even be able to mix your drinks with it. Just kidding, don't put anything on your vibrator if you are going to use it inside your partner. The sugar from your drink is not good to be inserted in any one's body that way. However do use your vibrator for fun and excitement, take turns at turning each other on with it. Find a way to place it between the two of you for double the excitement.