Are Your Thinking Outside The Box In Your Relationship

Are you thinking outside the box of your relationship.

Don't leave without a kiss.

As we start to stumble though our life and relationship things start to fall to the side. One of these things is kissing each other goodbye. It may seem a little silly but in my opinion whenever one of you leaves no matter what reason you should at least give a little peck goodbye. It should be a habit not a stretch for the two of you. The reason being is that life can take a twist or turn at any time. I have heard so many stories about people that have lost their partner and they say if I only could have given them one more kiss. We don't want to make it sound like a disaster is going to happen and I don't want you to look at it this way. What I would rather you do is look at it as sending them off with your energy. Giving them your passion and strength. Now that is a great way to look at it. Next time your partner is running out the door to leave make sure to call them back and lay a great big kiss on them. You know the energy that you will be sharing with them and they will feel it.

Fight the urge to think the worst.

Sometimes in a relationship we forget how much our partner loves us. We have visions pop into our heads either because to past problems in other relationship or because we listen to other people. Well for a relationship to thrive you have to trust one another. When you have that trust your partner will look even more beautiful and wonderful. Don't let the worries eat at you they only cause the worst to come about. When ever you start to wonder about things let your mind slip to found memories you have about great times in your relationship. How could your partner do anything put have love for you. Think the best and the best will come about. Make that trust you have the most important thinking in your mind and soon you will find your relationship growing. Far to many people try to control their partner and it is silly because the is the worst thing you can do if you want them to be happy with you. So relax and enjoy the love that they two of you have. If something happens then you deal with it as it comes don't bring it on by thinking about it.

Texting in a marriage can be your best friend.

One of the best technology that helps out a marriage is texting. It might sound a little silly but when you start seeing the benefits you will have to agree. Texting allows the two of you the freedom to converse without having to have both of you on the phone for extended periods of time. Plus it allows you to communicate with each other while you are busy. You can send a message to your partner and they can read it when they get a break or chance. Quick answers that texting give is awesome. For example you can quickly text each other to see who is picking up the kids or what you want for dinner. A simple reply quickly gets the point across and leaves no doubt to what is going on. You can also send sexy text messages to get your partner wound up for later in the evening. This might sound really crazy but I like to text my partner when we are in the same room. It is fun and adds a sense of mystery as the beep sounds to inform my partner she has a message. I like to send simple productive relationships messages like "You are so beautiful", "OMG I love the way you look when you are vacuuming", or "Hi there sexy!!!!" You can also use texting for lists for your partner. Like groceries that you need, or errands to run, plus you can also give quick information as to children's schedule changes, or to let them know when you have to make an unexpected trip. Texting might seem informal and not personal but it in fact is a wonderful tool for a relationship.

Just be buddies for a day!

There is so much pressure in a relationship to have it perfect. Being romantic enough, having your finances in order, having the best sex possible, and catering to each other are enough to give you a break down. First thing, stop trying to make your relationship perfect it isn't possible. No relationship is perfect they all have flaws of some sorts.

The next time the two of you have a day just to hang out with each other I want you to just be friends. Treat each other like you would your friends. Joke around do things that you aren't relationship based. Go play golf, go shopping, eat at a place that isn't romantic, do what you do when the two of you are apart. Have fun, be silly, and don't put any pressure on the day by being a couple. This might sound a little silly but it will bring you closer more so than you might think.

One of the biggest problems I hear from couples is they don't have fun together anymore. Their dates seem like chores or things they must do. Break out of that and start being friends again and see how it improves your relationship. When we start dating we obviously have some attraction to each other but we really want someone we can have fun with. So why should that stop once we have this wonderful relationship? You tell me.

Silly awards could brighten someones day.

Do you remember anytime when you got an award and how special it made you feel. Maybe when you were a child and you won a running race and got a ribbon or when you were picked as employee of the month. This sense of accomplishment makes you beam with pride and even puts a little strut in your walk. Why not use this knowledge then to put that strut in your partners walk. Give them an award for general things they do within your life. Maybe you give them a ribbon for completing all the laundry in record time, or an award for putting the seat back down on the toilet. Make them sill and wonderful as you praise your partner with a little humor. Heck you can even make a crown and make them Queen/King of the dishes. Be as silly as you want, next time you make love get a score card has the number 10 on it and when you are finished hold it up as if a judge at a gymnastics competition at a little and give them a medal as you hum the national anthem. These are the type of things that breath life into your relationship and keep it from getting old. Start planning your award ceremony today and watch for that strut.

Make up your own words to the movie.

Hello I was just cutting back some brush over there and realized it was time for the hockey tryouts, my name is Happy KILLMORE!

Want a fun little think to do together that will get you both laughing. Take a movie you are both familiar with and then turn down the sound and make up words for the people speaking in the movie. Yes, you are doing your own voice overs. Make it as silly as possible but try to keep it going as long as you can. Laughing and being silly together is a great exercise to perform to keep your relationship strong and close. Make it suggestive if you want to be a little intimate during the evening. Heck include your children for a more dramatic evening. Teaching your kids that it's okay for their parents to have fun and laugh together is a wonderful way to start them out right for when they have a relationship. What ever the genre of the movie you pick make sure to make your voiceovers as far from that genre as possible. For instance if you pick a western cowboy movie then make the voiceovers of inner city rappers, or if the movie is romantic then make it flow like the three stooges. You can only imagine the fun you can have with these. It might just become a tradition in your house.

Sexy Sleepwear for men??? where is it?

About every week we get a new Victoria Secret Catalog in the mail. Page after page of beautiful women wearing the most sexy things you can imagine. The images are beautiful and sexy and they get me thinking about sex right away. However what is sexy for a man to wear. Boxers is about the only thing that pops into my mind and they have overdone that so much. I mean really are boxers with cartoon characters on them sex??? Another fact is that they make sexy clothing for women that are a little out of shape but for men where is the sexy thing that hides our bellies. Does the world not care about the state of sexiness for men? How can we look sexy with out looking, well for lack of a better word, silly. I mean can us normal guys pull off a small pair of undies or a thong with a banana on the front? Come on designers I challenge you to make something that will make us men look sexy and not silly. I don't know the answer or I would market it myself. Sexy shouldn't just be for the really in shape people, we all want to feel comfortable in our bodies and sex would be great exercise for some people. So we as a society need to find something that will have our partners biting their lips with ecstasy instead of rolling around on the bed laughing.

You were in my dream last night....

I don't know about you but sometimes I dream about my partner. Sometimes they are sexual dreams and sometimes they are just silly dreams. I think, however that it is important to tell your partner about these dreams. That way they know that subconsciously they we are thinking about them. Explain the dream to them and see what they think it meant. You can even purchase books that have some basic explanations for certain types of dreams. I however think it is better to try to come up with the meaning on your own. Now if it is a sexual dream it might be pretty straight forward. Encourage you partner to tell you about when you are in their dreams also. Maybe even start a dream log to see if you can connect the dreams to things that will happen in the future. This is one of those things you can share as a couple and no one else has to know, it's like your little secret. Dream can have many meanings and each interpretation is different so do you best and see what happens as to what your dream meant.

Clicking on the title of this post will take you to a dream dictionary to help find out what your dreams are suppose to mean.

The Fantasy Game

Here is a little game you can play together using your imagination and fantasy. Erotica and porn will most likely get your blood pumping, however sometimes these types of entertainment are a bid much for us. There are some exceptions but most of the time it is just sex to sex scenes. Erotica too is sometimes a bit to out their for us to just normally ready to each other, again their are exceptions and some great erotica out there.

What I want you two to do is make up your own fantasy's together. You have probably played a game on a trip where each person takes turns making up a story. Well let's do that with erotica or fantasy. Take turns adding bits and pieces to the story to make it sexy and fun. You might get some ideas to try later in the evening also. By doing this you are free to explore how your partner would react to certain situations as they arouse. For example if you would start your story about a sexy woman wearing lingerie you partner could chime in and explain what she was wearing. This might give you a clue into what they would like to see. Another great bit of information is to see if your partner changes the flow of the story. If you begin with oral sex and they quickly change it to standard penis in vagina sex then you might get the hint they like that better then oral sex.

By doing this you get to pick in on your partners fantasies without them having to tell you exactly what they would fantasise about. Most people are a little shy about giving juicy details about their sexual fantasies because they feel they will be judged. This way you can make it silly yet pieces of their true fantasies will slip into the story. Best of all it gets you open and talking about your sex life.

Let's Dance (Click here to learn more about the health benifits of dance.)

When is the last time the two of you went dancing. Well I know, my wife and I have all the excusses. We can't find a sitter, we don't want to be out late, we don't like the bar scene, we could go on and on. Well you don't have to go out to dance. Today I want you to take this challenge. When you and your partner are together tonight put on some of your favorite music and get up and dance. The type of dance doesn't matter if you are a silly couple dance like a monkey, if your a couple well trained in the dance do a tango, but no matter what for you last dance make it a slow one. Pick a song where you can slow dance and get closes and just sway together. This makes the heart swoon.