Texting to Break-Up

Times sure have changed haven't they?  

One of our teenage sons has been broken up with and broken up with another

via text messaging.  What happened to doing this in person, or the Dear John letter?

What is next?  Might as well be our elementary kids texting their homework answers.

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Where would you leave a love note for your partner?

Our readers respond to the best places to leave a love note for your partner. It seems that our readers enjoy leaving hand written notes for their lovers to find in places like, in a pocket of their clothes, or on their pillow (both of these received 37% of the votes) Sending the note via the regular mail and texting both brought a response of 12%. Our readers would avoid sending a love note over email or voice mail. So it seems the old fashion hand written note works the best left in a place for them to discover it later.

Tell Your Partner How Special He/She Is To You

You know it isn't hard to send a text or an email or even make a phone call to tell your partner how much she means to you. Giving concrete proof of the way you feel is a wonderful boost to anyone's day. Send a text message that says "You are my best friend and a wonderful lover," or type up an email that states, "My life is so much better with you in it." Better yet, call when you know she can't answer her phone and leave a sexy little message for her. Doing this will not only help make her day, but it will also remind you how truly special she is to you.

Texting in a marriage can be your best friend.

One of the best technology that helps out a marriage is texting. It might sound a little silly but when you start seeing the benefits you will have to agree. Texting allows the two of you the freedom to converse without having to have both of you on the phone for extended periods of time. Plus it allows you to communicate with each other while you are busy. You can send a message to your partner and they can read it when they get a break or chance. Quick answers that texting give is awesome. For example you can quickly text each other to see who is picking up the kids or what you want for dinner. A simple reply quickly gets the point across and leaves no doubt to what is going on. You can also send sexy text messages to get your partner wound up for later in the evening. This might sound really crazy but I like to text my partner when we are in the same room. It is fun and adds a sense of mystery as the beep sounds to inform my partner she has a message. I like to send simple productive relationships messages like "You are so beautiful", "OMG I love the way you look when you are vacuuming", or "Hi there sexy!!!!" You can also use texting for lists for your partner. Like groceries that you need, or errands to run, plus you can also give quick information as to children's schedule changes, or to let them know when you have to make an unexpected trip. Texting might seem informal and not personal but it in fact is a wonderful tool for a relationship.

...and the Holiday is!

Want to have a special day? Why not create your own special holiday. Declare you holiday early in the day so your partner has time to react to the holiday. Send you partner a text or email expressing the holiday and see what kind of reaction you get from them. These self proclaimed holidays can be romantic or even help get chores done. Some examples might be, "National Paint the Garage Day", "Pizza and Movie Night", or "National Try a New Sexual Position Day" Make your holiday crazy and out of the normal. Encourage you partner to make up the next crazy holiday then make it a special event between the two of you. I personally like this one "National Massage Your Partner, Turn the Light Down, and Make Passionate Love Day" I am going to try to get this one through congress.

Make today a special holiday!

Okay so there is nothing special about today, unless it might happen to be your birthday. However you can make everyday a special day just by declaring it to be. Do this in your relationship just to help build up your love and passion. Make up a silly holiday and then let your partner know what this holiday is. You can send them a text message, an email or you can even just leave them a hand written note. If the two of you have a calendar that you both use then you can even put the holiday on your calendar. Some examples of special holidays might be : GIVE YOUR WIFE A BIG KISS DAY, BACK RUB DAY, of WEAR SEXY PANTIES DAY. You can make them as silly as you want after all it is a day that you are making up. Be funny and creative and make them very specific. These holidays can be made to fit anything you wish from taking a trip to inducing intimacy. Some other examples might be TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER DAY, WATCH A BALLGAME DAY, or MARATHON SEX DAY. You could even make a pact to let each other invent a holiday each month and the other has to help observe it with you. Now get on with it and enjoy your holiday, what ever it might be.

Play a game while not together

Here is a cute little thing to do if you can't be together. Maybe your at a conference or at work and you want to stay connected with your partner. Play a little game using your cell phones text messaging feature. The easiest way to do this is to text each other trivia questions. Grab some cards from your trivial pursuit game and take turns asking each other questions. This game can go on for hours and don't expect immediate responses. Type in your questions and when your partner gets a chance they will try to answer. If they guess right then it is their turn to type in the next question. If they get it wrong you have to reply with the correct answer and then they type the next question. Again this is a fun way to stay connected when you are apart. It doesn't tie you down or take much of your time. You just use short messages and leave it at that until you can check your phone again.

Any games with cards with questions on them will do. I mentioned trivia pursuit earlier, you could also use What Would you Do, or one of my favorites is "Loaded Questions" They even have similar game as iPhone applications that can give you several questions to ask. Your partner will feel great that you are thinking about them while you are apart. You can click on the title post to take you to the loaded questions web site to pick up one of their games. Make sure to tell them that The Couples Spot sent you. Make sure to check out the Adult Version of Loaded Questions shown above.

Name that Tune? (Click here to download iTunes for Help on this topic)

Here's is a great game to play with you partner. The classic name that tune. I have several ways to play. I got the idea from my sister who everyday post song lyrics on her facebook profile and asks friend to name that tune. This is a great game between the two of you however. If you are apart during the day, text song lyrics to your partner, then see how long it takes them to figure out the song. When they get the song right they get to text you song lyrics back and you have to guess. See if you can stump them or if they will stump you. You can also do this by recording a song on their voice mail, while they are at work and have them check it on lunch.

If you happen to be a home together with nothing to do. This just get on itunes and take turns picking songs for the other to guess. Make the person guessing turn away from the computer screen and then you search for you song. Click on it for a sample and have them try to name that tune. I have put a link for itunes in the title message of this post. So what are you waiting for I can name that song in 5 notes can you do better.

Text Dirty to Me!!!!

Text Dirty to Me!!!

Dirty talk has been around for years. Maybe even since the beginning of human communication. Today's technology has taken dirty talk to a whole different level. You can now send and receive messages from almost anywhere in the world. I am sure I am not telling you anything you don't know at this point. So with all this technology we can now dirty text our partner no matter where we are. These little texts can be very flirtatious with your partner, and get them juiced up for when you finally get together. Slinging dirty little texts back and forth is a great means of foreplay. There are some problems with this means of communication -- such as someone else may pick up your phone or you could send the message to the wrong person like your mom (Explain that one at your next family gathering!). But, if you're careful you shouldn't have any problems. Now, could the government be listening in on your dirty texting? Oh well, what you and your partner do is your business as long as your not harming anyone else.

If you're a little shy or are really worried someone is going to find out you and your partner are having wild sex, then here is what you can do. You can get together and make a code sheet. Listing several different things you would like to do to each other. Another list of items you might be what you want to use on each other. Give each thing a letter or number code then make a copy of the list to carry in a wallet. Then your dirty text might look like this: I want to #6 you with a K and then rub you with a D. Now the only one that knows what that means are the two of you. It can even be more sexy because you might feel like a secret agent whipping out your decoder sheet and decoding the secret message!!

Some words of caution - make sure you know where each one of you is coming from. Don't dirty text your wife at work only to have her come home and find out that you have the guys over to watch the game. And don't dirty text your husband and get him all hot a bothered so that he races home to find out that you are doing dinner with the girls. This tool is great for getting reactions, but make sure you are ready to follow through on those reactions. Your husband might be able to hide his erection at work and your panties might get soaking wet while at the store, but the purpose of dirty texting is to get your partner home quicker, out of his/her clothes and into your arms. So, if you know when your partner is going to get home, and you know the timing won't be right add a last text that tells him/her the next text you send will be a sign for them to attack or for you to attack.

Again, as always I encourage you to be creative. Make your dirty texting fit your relationship. You can make a list your partner has to pick up on his/her way home from work. Things that might create a mood like massage oil, wine, or a vibrator. Maybe you could set your phone to silent, and when your partner gets home play a little game of hide and seek using texting for clues. The prize being you. If you're really brave, you could send pictures of things you want to do, maybe of yourself in something sexy or of things you want to use in the bedroom that night. The possibilities are endless. Make sure your phone is charged, and your mood is right. You may have some good lovin' tonight.