Make love your religion

There is an old song I believe by Ziggy Marley that states "Love is my religion" I personally think that is a wonderful statement. I am not here to bash anyone's religion but today so many of them are not what was originally intended. Big business has effected our religion and I truly believe that love is the greatest and safest religion. Putting effort and extra energy into your love can only bring you more happiness and joy. Plus you are not judged like you are in most religions today. My religion manifests in the love I have for my partner and our family and that is my safe haven. Many religions have some great messages to deliver but in the process someone has taken those messages and twisted them into orders and demands of people. I want to send love out and that is how I am spiritual. I am not telling you to stop believing in what you believe but I am asking you to step back and really look at what is best for your relationship and your life. Dig deep and find the real meanings to your religion and then put them into your love.

Turn the tables from time to time.

Are you the one in the relationship the initiates sex most often? If not then it is time you turn the tables a little and surprise your lover. It doesn't take a lot of effort and you don't even have to spend much time in preparation if you don't want to. Just make sure that they know you are the one that wants to make love! You can set a mood by getting some candles out or putting new sheets on the bed. You can wear something sexy or nothing at all really gets the point across. Let yourself get comfortable with wanting your partner, desire is a strong feeling that when you are open to it can bring you to the highest of highs. Get them thinking about it early by sending the an "I want you" text message, so that their motor is running and they will seek you out when you get home. You can also use the surprise attack and jump them when they least expect it. No matter how you do it make sure it makes a lasting impression on them. Lastly I just want to say don't wait so long to do it! Getting a balance in who initiates the intimacy in your relationship goes a long way to balancing your relationship in general. We all want that control and we have to learn to share it. If you are in love with your partner then you should have no problem being the aggressor or the receiver of the aggressive passion. After all it will help mix things up and keep them interesting.

Tell Your Partner How Special He/She Is To You

You know it isn't hard to send a text or an email or even make a phone call to tell your partner how much she means to you. Giving concrete proof of the way you feel is a wonderful boost to anyone's day. Send a text message that says "You are my best friend and a wonderful lover," or type up an email that states, "My life is so much better with you in it." Better yet, call when you know she can't answer her phone and leave a sexy little message for her. Doing this will not only help make her day, but it will also remind you how truly special she is to you.

Texting in a marriage can be your best friend.

One of the best technology that helps out a marriage is texting. It might sound a little silly but when you start seeing the benefits you will have to agree. Texting allows the two of you the freedom to converse without having to have both of you on the phone for extended periods of time. Plus it allows you to communicate with each other while you are busy. You can send a message to your partner and they can read it when they get a break or chance. Quick answers that texting give is awesome. For example you can quickly text each other to see who is picking up the kids or what you want for dinner. A simple reply quickly gets the point across and leaves no doubt to what is going on. You can also send sexy text messages to get your partner wound up for later in the evening. This might sound really crazy but I like to text my partner when we are in the same room. It is fun and adds a sense of mystery as the beep sounds to inform my partner she has a message. I like to send simple productive relationships messages like "You are so beautiful", "OMG I love the way you look when you are vacuuming", or "Hi there sexy!!!!" You can also use texting for lists for your partner. Like groceries that you need, or errands to run, plus you can also give quick information as to children's schedule changes, or to let them know when you have to make an unexpected trip. Texting might seem informal and not personal but it in fact is a wonderful tool for a relationship.

Hand Massage

A great way to show your partner you are thinking about them in a less then sexual way is to give them a hand massage. We don't realize how much we use our hands. If your partner spends any time at the computer or typing then their hands might need it more then they realize. Hand massages are easier then other areas of massage because you can sit together. You don't have to be over the top of them or sitting with their back towards you. Get some massage oil or even baby oil and gently work the meaty parts of the hand. Most likely you will be meet with a moan of delight as we just don't get our hands worked on very often. Then make sure to work each finger individually. Make sure not to pull to hard or creating pain in any way. Make sure to follow up with the other hand and really work out the kinks that are most likely there but unknown to the receiver. This romantic massage can be preformed anywhere and you can even do it while the two of you are watching television. Touch is such a relationship builder that you should take advantage of any way possible to touch the one you love, and a hand massage is a great way to do that.