Cool Tattoo - Could the Dolphin Be Your Sexual Power Animal Archetype™?

Wait, wait, wait!  You are here because you want to know if the dolphin could be your Sexual Power Animal Archetype™.  And, maybe you just thought this tattoo design is freaking cool - I certainly do :)  

But, do you know what an archetype is?  If you do, it still won't hurt to read my explanation.  And, if you don't know, then here you go - a little something new for you today.  

I am going to share a sneak peek into a bit of our upcoming book, Inspiring Couples in Business + in Love.  

Archetypes are your soul's code + your inner personalities.  

You may have heard of Carl Jung.  He was a Swiss psychiatrist and he coined the term archetype.  This word comes from the Greek words of archein and typos. Archein meaning something old or ancient and it represents the original, creative source.  For some, that may be God, Goddess, the Universe, the Divine, etc.  For our purposes here we will more often than not refer to it as Source or Creative Source. Typos is the expression or manifestation of the Creative Source as it is the model of behavioral patterns.

Mother is considered to be a model for nurturing and compassionate behavior.  Father represents authority, a firm hand and power. Hopefully, this is giving you a little better idea of what an archetype is.  We will share a couple more with you just in case.  The romantic typically enjoys elegance, lavishness, love and is passionate.  The joker is a trickster and regularly deceives others, makes jokes, is frivolous and likes to live life now.

Each archetype has tendencies to behave in certain ways.  They are the energy patterns of one's personality.  Yet, often times these inner truths, these inner personalities are hidden so deep within that you may not be aware of them.  In fact, depending on your personal environment, work environment, family upbringing, cultural beliefs, and societal beliefs you may resist one or more of these unconscious aspects of your self.  This unconscious self is your authentic self or your core essence.  

Drs. Rob + Janelle Alex, Ph.D. 2014©

Now, I realize this may not seem fair because we are not going to tell you whether or not the dolphin could be your sexual power animal archetype™ today.  But, guess what?  When we release the Sexual Power Animal Archetypes™ you could be one of the first to know!  Drop your name + email in the box! 

Keeping it Sacred + Sexy,

Janelle (+ Rob)

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Get a jump on your fireplace now.

For those of you lucky enough to have a fire place inside your house, now is the time to get things ready for those romantic nights spend in front of the fire as the snow flies. Do some initial checking to make sure you fire place is clean and ready to warm up the night. Hire a chimney sweep to get a professional job, they really are not that expensive and will add live and safety to your fire place. Once you know that the fire place is ready it is time to make sure the area around the fireplace is ready. Do you have comfortable chairs to relax in as the you listen to the crackle of the wood. Speaking of wood have you stocked up on it, once the first snow starts falling it makes it a little harder to get the wood and if you pay for it, it will be more expensive once the snow hits. Make sure you have plenty of tables around for sitting drinks or books or anything else you might need as the fire warms you up. Stock up on your favorite relaxing drink and make sure you have the proper tools to work with the fire. All this work might seem a bit much right now but think of it this way when your partner drops their robe to reveal a sexy little nighty the last think you want to worry about is that it is getting cold in the room. Now on the other hand if you have everything in place you are free to enjoy that little nighty, too

If your partner left you a love note....

If your partner left you a love note, what kind of note would you like it to be.

1. A Poem - Sweet and from the Heart?

2. A Humorous attempt to get you in bed later?

3. A Personal Message describing the ways they love you?

4. A Hot and Steamy, down and dirty Message?

5. Something else?

Tell us which type of letter you would like to receive. Give us details and if you have gotten any give us the scoop on them.

Thanks,

Rob

Make your bed a special place.

Your bed is obviously the most intimate place in your house. This is where the majority of your sexual contact takes place. However, you can use it as so much more. I know in our house we use it as a forum for great talks, an area for massages, and even as an entertainment venue as we watch silly things on the computer. Things you should not bring into your bed are trouble from work, issues about money, or anything negative. Don't allow negative energy into your bed. Keep your bed as a shrine to happiness and love. Leave all the other baggage on the floor as you enter the place of sanctitude and love.

Send a wonderful email.

Here is a great little thing you can do to start you partners day out right. Sit down and compose a romantic email to them. Spell out all the things you love about them. Keep it clean and romantic explaining why you fell in love with them and why you continue to love them more and more each day. This can become a habit and will brighten your partners day. Spell out why you love them put it in your email and you might just be met with kisses when you get home.

Movie night!!!!

Make tonight movie night and surprise your lover with a wonderful movie, popcorn or their favorite snack. Pull the couch in front of the television. Turn the lights off in the room and snuggle down and watch your movie. Do it after the kids go to bed and you can even have a make out session. If you want a little more excitement rent an adult movie and see what happens on the couch while watching that. The point being is you don't have to go out and spend a lot of money to get some good quality alone time. Start today and make you life richer by using things that don't cost much like our in home movie theater idea.

Practice your kissing.

Remember when you were dating and you could kiss for hours on end. Using all the kissing techniques within your ability to impress your partner. It is time we take a little time and practice those techniques again. Set up a make out session for the two of you. You could rent a movie and kiss off and on through out the movie. You can also use it as great foreplay for your next sexual experience. Take time and enjoy the kissing like you did when you both were younger. You might just find yourself getting the euphoric state that you did the first few times they two of you kissed. Kissing is so good for you and your relationship that I think they are going to start bottling it.

Let you partner know you are talking good about them.

You won't believe what my husband did....

We all are curious about how are partner talks about us when they are not around us. We wonder to they bash us and only tell their friends about the not so good things we do. Could be possible that they are speaking like we are a saint? There is no way to tell for sure unless you overhear a conversation and hard as it is that is eavesdropping and isn't right. This is where we can tell our partner when we talk good about them. Let them know that you told your girlfriends how romantic they are or when you tell the guys how you have the best partner in the world. Tell them specifics like, "The other day the girls went nuts when I showed them the note you left me when you went on your trip" or "All the guys are so jealous of me because I told them about you sitting up that special trip to the ballpark for me" We so often have an vision of your partner belittling us because that is what we see on television. Another good reason to pitch the television. The programs and talk shows are full of people talking about the terrible things their lovers do. Maybe we should start a show called "How great my lover is" that lets people talk about the good in their relationship. No fights just proud partners expressing how wonderful their partner is. Now I might watch that show to pick up some extra wonderful things to do. Go a step farther and ask you friends when they are bashing their mate, "Does you partner do anything that pleases you?" Get them searching their mind for positive things and you might just chance a persons whole day.

Have you been neglecting your partner?

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we are personally doing that we forget about the person that means so much to us. We run out of time to enjoy his/her company or we are just to tired, once we get all the things done for ourselves. While he/she tries to understand they just don't get it and although we want to have that time we are just to drained. When this happens it is your responsibility to make it up to your partner. Sure it is not a requirement, but if you love that person you really need to go out of your way to show them. The words, "I Love You" don't hold a lot of merit if the actions don't mirror them. So, when you notice that you are blowing your partner off a little it is time to spring into action. Set up something special for them. A candle light dinner, a night on the town, or just a romantic intimate evening at home. Believe me your partner understands that you sometimes get worn out and don't have the energy for your relationship. That doesn't mean you shouldn't make it up to them take some time to put as much effort into your relationship as you do everything else. You will soon find that the return on that investment of time is worth much more than anything else you are doing. Love can conquer all you just have to give it a chance.

...and the Holiday is!

Want to have a special day? Why not create your own special holiday. Declare you holiday early in the day so your partner has time to react to the holiday. Send you partner a text or email expressing the holiday and see what kind of reaction you get from them. These self proclaimed holidays can be romantic or even help get chores done. Some examples might be, "National Paint the Garage Day", "Pizza and Movie Night", or "National Try a New Sexual Position Day" Make your holiday crazy and out of the normal. Encourage you partner to make up the next crazy holiday then make it a special event between the two of you. I personally like this one "National Massage Your Partner, Turn the Light Down, and Make Passionate Love Day" I am going to try to get this one through congress.

Study something romantic.

When we get away from our norm we can expand our thinking and your way of life. That is why I suggest picking up reading from time to time to learn about different ways of live. I suggest something from another culture that has to do with spirituality or love. For some that might be the Karma Sutra, or Tantric things while others might look for something a little less sexual. Maybe you want to understand why other cultures worship or hold sacred things like cattle or temples. Find out what turns you on (in reading that is) and study it, try to get a understanding of the subject. You don't have to change your feelings or beliefs but a little understanding goes a long way.

Right now I am learning and reading about Huna which is using knowledge from the Hawaiian culture to benefit your existence. I have picked up several interesting bits of knowledge and am becoming fascinated with the subject. To me it is eerie at how close it is to the Law of Attraction or The Secret for the more modern term. Hawaii was pretty much alone and had no influence from the outside world for a long time. To me Huna fells pure and natural and focuses on the moment your are in. There is no looking back or worry about the future you only control your present. Sorry I am beginning to ramble but you get my point and you can see how important learning can be plus it is something fun to share with your partner when you run out of things to talk about.

My partner and I have several long and great conversations about things we study. I can honestly say that I don't want to ever stop learning or conversing with my partner.

Here is the book I am currently reading check it out!!

Quite making excuses

Relationships are full of excuses. Excuses to get out of attending events, excuses for not having friends over, excuses for why the house is a mess, excuses for not making love and we can all fall into this trap. Excuses are easy to make up so that you don't have to go out of your way to do things. They can be as easy as I am tired to as complex as having several back up excuses so that if the first ones don't work you are covered. You can not mow the lawn because it's hot, or you can not go to your friends cook out because someone you don't like is going to be there. These are all cop outs and they don't allow you to live like you should. Stop making excuses today! Start living your life again and start enjoying your relationship like it is new again. Take that dance class, go to that ballgame, stay up late, enjoy life without excuses.

Great Date Idea: Night at the Museum.

In the effort to find a great date idea that doesn't break the bank, you just need to look for a little culture. Museums offer a great place to walking around holding and hands and conversing about the things you see. Sparking many different conversations and feelings based on the works at the museum. Now you might not like art and if that is the case there are a multitude of other museums that don't have anything to do with art. The football hall of fame had many many displays that will grab your attention. Plus there are several little obscure museums around that offer a look into very specific interests. Say for instance the Firefighters Museum or the Museum of Toy Trains whatever your tastes there is a museum out there for it. Don't live near a museum then you can always check out itunes and get a number of podcasts from the bigger museums on their recent exhibits. Then you could even snuggle down on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and visit the museum you wish. Some museums charge a fee but many of them only ask for donations, so check around and see what museum you might like to visit on your next date night.

Hand Massage

A great way to show your partner you are thinking about them in a less then sexual way is to give them a hand massage. We don't realize how much we use our hands. If your partner spends any time at the computer or typing then their hands might need it more then they realize. Hand massages are easier then other areas of massage because you can sit together. You don't have to be over the top of them or sitting with their back towards you. Get some massage oil or even baby oil and gently work the meaty parts of the hand. Most likely you will be meet with a moan of delight as we just don't get our hands worked on very often. Then make sure to work each finger individually. Make sure not to pull to hard or creating pain in any way. Make sure to follow up with the other hand and really work out the kinks that are most likely there but unknown to the receiver. This romantic massage can be preformed anywhere and you can even do it while the two of you are watching television. Touch is such a relationship builder that you should take advantage of any way possible to touch the one you love, and a hand massage is a great way to do that.

Grilling for love

We are almost into the grilling season. The grills are getting cleaned up, we are getting our cooking utensils out of the hibernation caves and the family is ready to taste that wonderful food from the grill. However, are you just going to do burgers most of the time again this year? There are so many romantic and tasty meals that you can cook on your grill making it an adventure every time you light up the grill. There are marinates that you can use on your meat, be it chicken, beef or pork. Just as in your relationship you need to get some variety in your diet. Don't just think about the meat vegetables and even fruit can add a flare to your meal. Making you look like the type of cook that will get lots of kisses from your partner. There are so many recipe sites and application on the web and even your phone for that matter. I even saw a application for the Nintendo DS that had a complete library of recipes on it. Use spices and salts to doctor up your food making it a sensual experience for your family each time. Plan ahead and be ready for each and every time you cookout. Not only will it make you look good but you might get rewarded by your partner for being the TOP CHEF.

Start your day off together at the breakfast table.

For most couples the start of the morning is hectic and a rush to get ready for work. You can break that tradition and get a more relaxed start to your day by getting up a little earlier and enjoying a small breakfast together. This will help get your relationship and day off to a much better start. It doesn't matter if you eat at home or go out the important part is you spend the time together in a relaxed state, talking and conversing with the person you love. This will help you get a much better start to the day then just jumping up and going. Sure no one wants to get up earlier but think about how it will change your day leaving for work in a relax state compared to one of disarray. The thing you have to remember is to spend the time together, not reading the paper or watching television. I want actual time spend talking or maybe just holding hands while you are eating. Take turns clearing the dishes while the other person hops in the shower or heck forget the dishes and shower together. Love and passion are one of the greatest gifts we are given so don't waste time avoiding them, dive in and get all you can.

Get out in the cold, so you can warm up together later.

Even though it is winter time for most of us there are still plenty of things for couples to do outside. You can always dress up really warm and go for a exhilarating walk in the cold air. Snow skiing is another way couples can pass the time outside and there are several forms you can participate in. Your normal down hill skiing, sledding, tubing, and cross country skiing are just a few activities that can get the two of you outside, with being able to be together. Building snowmen, making snow angels or just challenge the local kids to a snowball fight. Just make sure to dress warmly and enjoy each others company. Now after you spend all this time out in the cold air, you are going to need to warm up. What better way then to snuggle up together in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while you touch each other. At this time of year nothing is more romantic then enjoying a warm fire with the person you want to be closest to.

Christmas Erotica?

Tis the season to be romantic, sexy, and passionate. What better way to spend Christmas eve then reading an erotic Christmas story. There are several out there that would fit the bill but the one I like the best is called "Special Delivery for Christmas" and you can pick it up electronically at Amazon by clicking the title of this post, or the one at the bottom of this post. The story is short and a feel good one that has more to it then just sex. Join Carol and Chris as they find out what Christmas really means to them.

Click Here to Check out "Special Deliver for Christmas"

Silent Night

One of the best things about winter is snow. A romantic thing to do is watch and listen as the snow falls. Unless you are in a busy part of town it is one of the quietest sounds you can't hear. The snow falls so quiet and just watching it makes you want to curl up with the person you love. I picture a very quiet snow fall every time I hear the song Silent Night. For me it is very relaxing to watch the snow fall with it's quiet rhythm. Sitting with my love and drinking hot cocoa is the thing I want to do every time I see the snow start to fall. For those of you that live in a warmer climate I have included a video from youtube below so that you can get the feeling, too.

Take a Moonlight Drive.

During the Holiday season a very romantic thing to do is to take a late night drive and check out all the Christmas decorations. Only at this time of year will your drive be filled with houses decked out in lights or festive holiday themes. If you check around a bit you might find a local park or zoo that might have a small charge for a wonderful light display. I know just about 20 minutes from our house a park has a light show that is a must see for us and our children every year. Make a little challenge of it and mark you favorites, rate them from best to worst so that next year you can return as most people find this a competition any way. You can usually find the same houses decorated each year if you can remember where they are. Sometimes you will find whole neighborhoods dressed in lights while other times you might just find a diamond in the rough out off a back road. Ask around your friends and sometimes they can lead you to some of the more wonderful light displays. The most wonderful part about this activity is that no matter how big your family is everyone can enjoy it. If it is only the two of you or is you have four kids it can still be just as wonderful listening to them get excited looking for lights.