Experience a New You This Year!

Year after year, we set resolutions or at least we think, "Hey! It's a new year!  I am going to do things differently than before."  But, typically those resolutions or commitments only last a few weeks - then most everybody reverts back to their old ways.  Do you know what is in your way?

Probably not - not the deep stuff.  If you knew what was stopping you, you would find it much easier to make the change…to grow and expand…the way you so deeply desire.  

We came across this free downloadable ebook.  It shares 12 easy steps to ensure New Year's Resolution success with less effort - whatever your goal.  

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*How to decide upon and prioritize your goals

*How to turbo charge your motivation

*Why the normal resolution setting process will never work

*How to make consistent daily progress

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It is FREE after all - so why not take the next step and find out what is in your way?  In fact, you can do this with your sweetie and find out what is getting in the way of reaching not only your individual goals, but your goals as a couple!

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With No Growth...There Is Death

"If we try to remain the same and refrain from growing, to accommodate someone else's need for us to stay the same, the only long-term outcome is resentment, which kills whatever emotion there was there. Real love never restricts us nor demands that we stop developing."

-- Brenda Davies

**This quote inspired yesterday's post at Reconnect With Your Soul.  Check it out.

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If your partner left you a love note....

If your partner left you a love note, what kind of note would you like it to be.

1. A Poem - Sweet and from the Heart?

2. A Humorous attempt to get you in bed later?

3. A Personal Message describing the ways they love you?

4. A Hot and Steamy, down and dirty Message?

5. Something else?

Tell us which type of letter you would like to receive. Give us details and if you have gotten any give us the scoop on them.

Thanks,

Rob

Pump energy into everything you do together.

One of the best features of being in a relationship is that you always have support. There is always that special person their to pump you up. No matter what you are doing together it should feel like a date. Going to the grocery store, racking leaves, or cooking super should be a chance to enjoy each others company as well as getting chores done. There is a special bond between the two of you and it should create an amazing energy that you both get to enjoy. I know you know a couple that always seem to have fun together. Why not be that couple. The one person that you can count on and love can also be one of your best friends if not your best friend. Using your relationship to energize yourself is a wonderful way to keep that special bond between your partner and you. I know when I am away from my partner it is always a rush when I get to see them again. Use your partner as a spark plug and your relationship will stay vibrant for a long long time.

Spin off site coming soon.

With the success of THE COUPLES SPOT we wanted to try to do a little more in the area of relationship improvement. Thus we are getting prepared to start a more direct relationship help site. The difference between this and other sites is that we are going to start strengthening your relationship, marriage, or partnership before troubles arise. We want to build immunity to those things that ruin relationship. Much like exercise helps the body avoid health issues. You can check out the start of or progress by clicking here - ZOB ALEX - PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP TRAINER I hope that you will check it out and give it a try we are about a month away from full launch so check in often and let us know what you think.

We could also use any questions you might have or areas of discussion you might want to bring up on the site. You can email your questions to me at thecouplesspot@gmail.com and I will be happy to respond to them.

Sharing your dreams!

Now that you are a couple one thing you are going to have to share is your dreams. What ever your passion or desire in life you are going to have to share that with the person that is going to be with you the whole time. With all this comes great responsibility, as you must take just as much care with your partners dream as with your own. The last thing you want to do is squash something your partner feels passion for. Even if you feel that the dream is out of the question you need to still be an active figure in helping them. If you partner does have a passion that is very attainable then you need to be the rock to help them reach the level they need to reach that dream. Support, concern, and a helping hand can bring your bond so much closer as they achieve their dream. Do all you can to help out and become the team that all great relationships become. On the other side make sure to show appreciation for your partner when they help you in trying to reach your dreams. Don't take them for granted and always return their help with a heart felt gesture. Achieving your dreams are great but they are even more special with someone who loves you.

Fights are like weeds in your garden!

Farmers can grow the most perfect garden in the world but occasionally a few weeds will pop up. This is the same with fights in your relationship, no matter how strong your relationship is from time to time a fight will break out. Usually these will take the form of an argument and they can be short lived or long and drawn out, that is up to the individuals. If you go into a relationship with the delusion of never having a fight then you are not very realistic. Fights sometimes help clear the air and get things out in the open. There are some important things you need to know when a fight does accrue. First and for most stay away from personal attacks, don't just throw things out in the middle of an argument that don't pertain to the situation. Things like your fat, or stupid or both fat and stupid are not important and will really harm your relationship down the road. Stick with the subject and focus on that. Second, don't let the fight consume you so that you break down the lines of communication, not speaking to each other is the worst type of fight because no resolution will ever be made. If you need time to get away from the situation take a little but make sure to let your partner know how long you will be gone. Lastly and this is a hard one, try to wait for make up sex until the day after you make up. You don't want to associate great sex with a fight and you don't want to fall into that trap of, "we need to fight to have great sex" Set your boundaries and agree at a time when you are not fighting that disagreements will not ruin your relationship, set up a way to discuss the issues in a calm manner so that both partners get a say in the outcome. With a little work your fights can become little more then heated debates.

Artwork above titled Disagreement between Sum of all Parts by Jeff Tanger

Pick the right lube for you!

Relationships have their share of friction, but you don't have to have as much in your sex life. Lube is an essential part of any relationship. If you look all across the world you will see that most couples either have lube on their headboard or somewhere near their bed. Lubrication is a wonderful tool to help explore and improve your sex life. While the woman's body naturally produces lube for sex sometimes it's not enough or doesn't produce fast enough. Plus sometimes things boldly go where no natural lube is available (Sorry for the Star Trek reference). Now what type of lube is the best, well I can't help you there! In my experience I believe that it is a personal choice and what works well for someone can have the opposite effect on others. The biggest thing is to make sure the lube you are using is safe, do your research and find the lube that is best for your body, you might have to try several before you find one you like, but that might be fun in itself. Some lubes are not compatible with condoms or sex toys so to avoid ruining the moment make sure to check the packages and do your research. Friction in your relationship will happen but you at least can avoid it in the bedroom.

Depriving yourself a little make everything a little better when you get it.

Depriving yourself of the wonders of life sometimes make them that much better when you finally do get to indulge in them. Take for instance deserts, they are not that great for you but if you partake of them all the time you get fat. However if you go without them for a period of time they taste so much better, when you finally get them. Sex can be the same for you. Think about it if you had sex every single day it might not be as special. Don't get me wrong I am not telling anyone to go even more then a week without sex. Sometimes, however a couple of days of rest helps you build up and be ready to go longer and stronger then ever. The next time you make love wait about 3 days before enjoying it again and see how anxious you get while you are waiting. Now to make this work right make sure not to masturbate either so you get a total build up that is ready to release. I know from my personal experience that if I put a little buffer in their the night I finally do get to have sex again I can usually perform way better and more often. Plus if you let that sexual tension build up a little the release seems to be way more amazing. Again let me reiterate that I don't believe that you should wait to long because sex is great for your health and mental state.