A kiss is just a kiss, unless it is filled with all the love and passion two lovers share.  Then it is a vortex allowing the power of the universe to be held in that kiss. 

Rob - The Couples Spot 

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To listen is a marvelous gift. but don't forget about the one listening.

Sometimes we get way to one sided in our relationship. We feel that our feelings are the only ones that matter. When we get in that shape sometimes we forget about our partner and their goings on. When we have a major event happen in our life we tend to shut down and worry about that leaving our partner out in the cold. The love doesn't stop we just focus on ourself a this point. This however can make our partner feel not important or like they come after all the other crap that is going on. When you find yourself in this spot take a moment and remind yourself that the person helping you get through all these troubles deserves to be appreciated also. Just the acknowledgement of them is better than nothing but to really make it up to them dedicate a day to them. Reminding them that they are special for helping you deal with your troubles. The last thing you want is your partner feeling like they are less important than you dealing with the problems in our lives. Make sure you partner knows how much you love the fact they are helping you deal with your life.

Teasing, when that is all you can do!

Teasing each other at times when nothing else can happen is a great way to build excitement for the next time you get a chance to be intimate. Times like on family vacations, at in laws house for supper, or during a cook out are a few of these times that stick out in my mind. For example on vacation get a little frisky under the coves and let your hands do a little exploring, knowing that you can have full out sex but a little petting would be a great tease for a later time when the petting can go much farther. Sneak away for a passionate kiss at a family dinner or hold hands during a friendly cook out. No matter what type of teasing turns you on you can find a couple of minutes to get the blood pumping for later. A wink, a kiss, or a tush squeeze are all things that can jump start teasing when nothing can happen. The beauty of all this teasing is that it makes both of you feel really good and creates desire to follow through on the teasing later.

Art is romantic and it can show that you are, too.

When art is created it is made with the passion of the artist and his/her desire to create and bring beauty to this world. We get to experience this romance by getting to view these works of art, soaking in what the artists have given us of themselves. Being creative is romantic but not everyone can paint the Mona Lisa or sculpt a wonderful statue. We have to look at what our creative thing is to share that romance with our partner. Maybe it is wood working and you construct wonderful cabinets or if your talent is yard work and you make your yard look like the garden of eden. Share this passion with your mate and let them experience what besides your relationship that you are passionate about. Maybe it is cooking, sewing, or playing golf? What ever you passion is can be viewed as art work and can be shared with the people you love. Tell your partner what you love and let them know that it is a desire to be the best you can be at it. Then make sure you don't put that passion ahead of them.

Enjoy time off.

The last thing that we ever want in a relationship is to have changes effect us. Things like losing your job can really test a relationship. Both of you have to be prepared for a change like this and securing a new job is a task in itself. The one thing you need to do to make this time less stressful is to make sure to enjoy the extra time you have together. Take time to do things that you might not be able to once you are back to work. Like day time walks or staying up late to watch a movie. Keep you job search in the for front but take the time to enjoy and rekindle your relationship. The job will come but they time you enjoy together just might be more important.

Hair / Head Massage.

When you partners runs their fingers though you hair, do you get a wonderful sensation that you wish wouldn't stop. Maybe your sitting home reading together when your partner starts scratching your head. You want to be like a dog and start moving your leg with the scratching. My point with all this is that we sometimes forget what wonderful sensations that touching can have on our head and hair. Take about ten minutes and give your partner a massage on their head, making sure to pay attention to the hair. Move the hair around, tussle it a little bit and get those nerves in your head and follicles singing with feeling. You might be amazed at how wonderful and exciting this massage can feel. Get online and find some great technique and tonight surprise your lover with a little head massage to get them relaxed. What happens after that is totally up to you and the sensation your head massage gives.

Lean on me.

In a relationship we think of it all as push and shove. How we have to get what we want and our partner has to get what they want. There is no thought of balance between the two. Maybe if we work together we can both get what we want and keep a wonderful balance between the two. Say for instance you want to go play golf. Is it okay to go play when your partner trying to finish a project, where they have to deal with the kids and distractions while completing this task? Yet you want to play golf and it wouldn't be fair for you either to miss an enjoyment that you like? This is where we work together to get us both what we need. The simple solution would be to take care of the children and distractions so your partner could get their work done in a timely fashion. Then you would head out to the links, maybe a little later than you wanted but still in time to play. Now on the other side, knowing that your partner was itching to get out and play golf the other partner should work diligently on getting their stuff done. No talking on the phone to a friend during this time or creating distractions for yourself. Then you both get satisfied and your relationship becomes a wonderful place. Now instead of pushing and shoving against each other you are pushing and shoving in the same direction, thus more will get accomplished.

Couples Education

We tend to think of education as a individual thing. Where one of us goes off to learn something, maybe we talk about it later at some point. The basis is still on the individual. I however want to challenge you to learn something together. You don't have to go out and find an expensive class that you both have to take but find a subject that you both feel would improver your relationship and start doing some research. There are several ways to learn about things that do not really cost much at all. For starters once you pick your subject then you can find loads of information at your local library. Here is the amazing part if you get a library card they will let you take the book home for a couples of weeks!!!! So use your local library to learn. Another great way to find information on your subject is the internet it is easy and fast and is most likely in your home at the current time if not the amazing library usually has computers with internet access you can use for FREEEEEE. You might wonder what type of subject you can study as a couple and I laugh because all subjects can be studied as a couple. Here is just a few that pop into my head currently: Photography, Tantric Sex, Geocaching, exercise, nutrition, cooking, personal finance, investing, massage, baseball, ....

I could go on and on and on but I think you are getting the message. Pick something that the two of you will hold dear and be passionate about then watch how it improves all areas of your relationship.

Is a kiss just a kiss?

When you kiss your partner good bye or hello is it just a greeting or more than that? After all you don't kiss everyone hello or goodbye do you? Aside from you kids or your parents that usually doesn't happen. So, I ask again is a kiss more than we give it credit for. Is it the passing of breath between two lovers? Is it exchanging life force or your inner light? We might never know why a kiss is so important. The tingling lips the moister in the act causes me to believe that is a sharing in some sort of way. You can even tell your partners feelings in their kiss, by the pressure or the force behind it. Heck you can even tell if they are mad at you by their kiss. Maybe if we put more focus on each kiss we share with our partner we might start to become closer then ever before. Some people say that kissing is foreplay and I agree but I think it is so much more deeper that that. I think it is two being one and the sharing of desires and passions and of space. Most people don't think about kissing in this manner but next time you kiss your partner really see if you can feel what they are feeling, then look deep in their eyes telling them you love them.

Make a savings goal.

As a couple one of the most important things you can do is make a savings goal. Maybe you want to take an awesome vacation, or purchase new patio furniture. Anything that is not a normal purchase would be a great thing to save for. You can put money in a jug or dedicate so much from each pay check to reach the goal. Keep a tote board up in your house to show how close you are to reaching your goal. Make sure to keep the money safe and in a hard to get place so that you don't just get into it anytime you desire something. Once you finally reach your goal then you can celebrate by purchasing the thing that both of your desire. When picking your treasure make sure to pick something the both of you can use. Don't pick a big screen tv for him to watch the games on and don't pick a new vanity table for her to get ready in the morning. Sharing is one of the secrets to staying healthy as a couple. Not to mention the rewards are so much sweeter when you have someone to enjoy them with. Start stocking back the change now I think I hear Hawaii calling the two of you.

Start your day off together at the breakfast table.

For most couples the start of the morning is hectic and a rush to get ready for work. You can break that tradition and get a more relaxed start to your day by getting up a little earlier and enjoying a small breakfast together. This will help get your relationship and day off to a much better start. It doesn't matter if you eat at home or go out the important part is you spend the time together in a relaxed state, talking and conversing with the person you love. This will help you get a much better start to the day then just jumping up and going. Sure no one wants to get up earlier but think about how it will change your day leaving for work in a relax state compared to one of disarray. The thing you have to remember is to spend the time together, not reading the paper or watching television. I want actual time spend talking or maybe just holding hands while you are eating. Take turns clearing the dishes while the other person hops in the shower or heck forget the dishes and shower together. Love and passion are one of the greatest gifts we are given so don't waste time avoiding them, dive in and get all you can.

Wine Glasses.

Something every couple should have is a good set of wine glasses. You don't have to have a whole bar full and they don't have to be the most expensive glasses. When the two of you get a chance to sit down and share a bottle of wine you don't want to be putting it into the last glasses the McDonald's sold. Nor do you want to pour wine into two totally different glasses that makes you feel like they are are the only ones you can find. There is some symbolic meaning in the fact that the two of you share the exact same glass for the purpose of the drink. This is that it shows you are equals and share in the responsibility of building your relationship. It shows that you are equals and that your love flows from one another like the wine flows across your lips. I don't care if you purchase the cheapest wine in the store you need to make sure you have matching glasses for your toast of love. Once you pour the wine and wait for each other to sip of it's delight you will understand what I am saying.

Sharing your dreams!

Now that you are a couple one thing you are going to have to share is your dreams. What ever your passion or desire in life you are going to have to share that with the person that is going to be with you the whole time. With all this comes great responsibility, as you must take just as much care with your partners dream as with your own. The last thing you want to do is squash something your partner feels passion for. Even if you feel that the dream is out of the question you need to still be an active figure in helping them. If you partner does have a passion that is very attainable then you need to be the rock to help them reach the level they need to reach that dream. Support, concern, and a helping hand can bring your bond so much closer as they achieve their dream. Do all you can to help out and become the team that all great relationships become. On the other side make sure to show appreciation for your partner when they help you in trying to reach your dreams. Don't take them for granted and always return their help with a heart felt gesture. Achieving your dreams are great but they are even more special with someone who loves you.

The Labor of Love

Love comes with some many things attached to it. When we become a couple there are certain things that just fall into place. Things like sharing your time, or chores, most likely you will soon be sharing your living space with this person. These things are not easy. The transition from two single people to a couple is a hard one. You have to put in a lot of trial and error to find out what works best for the two of you. Keeping that individualism while still being in a relationship take work and sacrifice if you want it to work. Ask any couple that has been together for what you view as a long time and I am sure that they could fill your ears with tuff times they have had during their relationship. A relationship is a work in progress for ever, as you and your partner change with time your relationship will also. This means that once you think you have your relationship figured out something will change and disrupt your views again. You might be sitting there think why even bother then. Well, all you have to do is look at the benefits of the relationship to understand that. Having someone to care for you, help you out, stand up for you, be there when you need someone, someone to share experiences and memories with, intimacy, kissing, etc, etc, etc. Relationships are great but you only get out of them what you put into them. So, roll up your sleeves and get to working on that relationship of yours.

A vibrator for Him?????

When you in a spot to focus on intimacy there are several things that you just assume are the normal and don't question them. One of those such subjects is that vibrators are just for women and while they are great for women, they can be used on your gentlemen friends also. Think for a minute, a vibrator is designed to stimulate your senses no where does it say that it can only be used by a woman or on a woman. Vibrators can be used for simple massage if nothing else. It just so happens that they are great for stimulating the clitoris of a woman. Have you ever thought about using it on the taint of a man? This area seems to get forgotten in most intimate settings but using a vibrator on it can push your man over the edge. A vibrator can also be used on a man's penis, his scrotum, or even his anus to add pleasure to your foreplay. Ladies it is time to share you pleasure instruments with you male partners, you can even us it at the same time by putting it between both of you in areas that would be touching. One couple will insert the man's erect penis into the woman and then use the vibrator on the part of his shaft on the outside of her and not only does he get the good vibes but she feels them also as they are transferred from his penis to her vagina. Do a little experimenting and see what works best for the two of you, make sure to email me with anything that you find really works well and we will pass it along to the other readers.

Your Relationship is part of all you do.

Once your a couple one thing you need to come to grips with is that your relationship is no longer yours or mine it is ours. This is a hard fact to grasp for most people, gone are the times that you only think about yourself. No longer can you just stay out all night with out letting someone know, and this is not because you have to but it is out of respect. You now have someone in your life that is worried about you. This person cares about you and to just not come home without letting them know is a terrible thing to put them through. No you do not have to run everything you do by them but you need to show respect when things are going to make you stray from your routine. This goes for both men and women, if you are going to stop at the bar for some drinks with your friends a call is important. Building trust is an important part of a relationship but keeping your partner in the dark can destroy that trust in a matter of minutes. Relationships are a commitment but they are not designed to be a jail term. Have your fun, just make sure your partner has an idea of what is going on.

Blog about your feelings.

Need a great way to communicate your feelings towards the other person in your relationship? Why not blog your feelings! With the ease of use of today's blogging tools such as Blogger.com you can easily put up and take down a blog for the two of you. Both of you start a diary type of blog that tells how things made you feel and topics that might need to be discused but are a little hard to get flowing from the start. Then only give your blog address to your partner and make sure they only give you theirs. Then once a day you can read each others post and see how and why your partner is feeling the way they are. Again you can use it to make suggestions to your partner or even just a fun little communication tool for the two of your to use. I would suggest deleting post after you know your partner has read them just to be on the safe side you never know when someone might just stumble upon your blog by accident. Today's relationships are different then in the past but in my opnion they have the ability to be a lot better, because of technology.

Getting back to Life.

December 26th the day after Christmas and it is time to start getting your life back to normal. The last few weeks you have probably spend shopping and cooking for the holidays and now that the big day is over you should have more time to relax or get things done you have been meaning to do. Don't you wish that Christmas could last all year long at least the feeling of it. To capture this feeling of Christmas a little longer as you start to take down all you decorations make an event of it like you do setting them up. Plan a date to take down the decorations, maybe new years day, and make a little celebration of it play Christmas music, make a special meal to enjoy packing away your Christmas things. Spend the day being with the person you love and if you think about it hold back a Christmas present to give them after all the decorations are put away and stored. By doing this and making a celebration of it we are trying to keep that feeling of Christmas inside our relationship for the entire year. If everyone was as compassionate and caring as they are during the holidays we would see a huge difference in the world around us. As a couple however the main focus you want to put into this is that special feeling you get from being with your partner during the holidays. How did you react when you got your favorite gift? Shouldn't we be that happy with our partner all the year long, when they do the little things like take out the trash or do the dishes. Sometimes we forget how truly special the person we are with is, Christmas helps remind us of that, but why should we wait until Christmas to reward them?

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Christmas Erotica?

Tis the season to be romantic, sexy, and passionate. What better way to spend Christmas eve then reading an erotic Christmas story. There are several out there that would fit the bill but the one I like the best is called "Special Delivery for Christmas" and you can pick it up electronically at Amazon by clicking the title of this post, or the one at the bottom of this post. The story is short and a feel good one that has more to it then just sex. Join Carol and Chris as they find out what Christmas really means to them.

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Get Jolly for Christmas

We are no officially in the Christmas season, and being festive can be really romantic between the two of you. First thing you need to do is pick a theme for your Christmas Tree. Pick something that appeals to both of your, be it cartoon characters, snowmen, or even your favorite football team. If you don't want to do a theme then you can pick a specific color to decorate your tree in. The most important thing is for the two of you to do it together. Building memories for a lifetime, make sure to take plenty of pictures and spend as many hours sitting together looking at your work of art during this holiday season.

If you have little ones at home you can let them help pick the theme, and obviously you want them to help with the decorations. Snuggle down with them and some hot chocolate and enjoy the wonderful season with these little wonders.