Smittens

Smittens

Okay for those couples that love to hold hands this is an amazing product I stumbled across.  If you enjoy holding hand with each other, the cold weather usually presents a problem for this simple love message.  However with Smittens you can still hold actual hands in the cold weather.  The oversized double mitten allows lovers to keep their hands warm while joining their hands together.  Also included are two other mittens that match for those hands that are not getting held.  This might seem a little over the top for some but it can be a great way to show the world you are in love, even in cold weather.

Smittens Medium/Medium (Black)

Where would you leave a love note for your partner?

Our readers respond to the best places to leave a love note for your partner. It seems that our readers enjoy leaving hand written notes for their lovers to find in places like, in a pocket of their clothes, or on their pillow (both of these received 37% of the votes) Sending the note via the regular mail and texting both brought a response of 12%. Our readers would avoid sending a love note over email or voice mail. So it seems the old fashion hand written note works the best left in a place for them to discover it later.

"You have to love with both hands"

A wonderful thing happened today. My wonderful partner and I were lying in bed when our three year old son came in to join us. As usual he crawled between us and snuggled down. My partner reached across him to touch me. Our son started to fidget and pushed at the arm laying across him. My partner exclaimed, "I am trying to love on Daddy, too" To this our wonderful son said "You can't love like that you have to use both hands" He turned over and wrapped his arms around me and kissed me. It was one of those tender moments that you will remember forever. Then something just as wonderful happened. My partner got up and went around the bed and got in on the other side and wrapped her arms around me and asked our son, "Like this" It was one of the most touching days of my life. Snuggled between the woman I love and the wonderful son we have made my heart sing.

This might not see that important to a lot of people. To me however it shows that we are teaching our son the right way to love. He told us that we have to put all we can into our love and that was an amazing thing to come out of a three year old's mouth. It make me smile because I know where he is learning such things from and it is the love that my partner and I share.

Teasing, when that is all you can do!

Teasing each other at times when nothing else can happen is a great way to build excitement for the next time you get a chance to be intimate. Times like on family vacations, at in laws house for supper, or during a cook out are a few of these times that stick out in my mind. For example on vacation get a little frisky under the coves and let your hands do a little exploring, knowing that you can have full out sex but a little petting would be a great tease for a later time when the petting can go much farther. Sneak away for a passionate kiss at a family dinner or hold hands during a friendly cook out. No matter what type of teasing turns you on you can find a couple of minutes to get the blood pumping for later. A wink, a kiss, or a tush squeeze are all things that can jump start teasing when nothing can happen. The beauty of all this teasing is that it makes both of you feel really good and creates desire to follow through on the teasing later.

Just be buddies for a day!

There is so much pressure in a relationship to have it perfect. Being romantic enough, having your finances in order, having the best sex possible, and catering to each other are enough to give you a break down. First thing, stop trying to make your relationship perfect it isn't possible. No relationship is perfect they all have flaws of some sorts.

The next time the two of you have a day just to hang out with each other I want you to just be friends. Treat each other like you would your friends. Joke around do things that you aren't relationship based. Go play golf, go shopping, eat at a place that isn't romantic, do what you do when the two of you are apart. Have fun, be silly, and don't put any pressure on the day by being a couple. This might sound a little silly but it will bring you closer more so than you might think.

One of the biggest problems I hear from couples is they don't have fun together anymore. Their dates seem like chores or things they must do. Break out of that and start being friends again and see how it improves your relationship. When we start dating we obviously have some attraction to each other but we really want someone we can have fun with. So why should that stop once we have this wonderful relationship? You tell me.

Great Date Idea: Night at the Museum.

In the effort to find a great date idea that doesn't break the bank, you just need to look for a little culture. Museums offer a great place to walking around holding and hands and conversing about the things you see. Sparking many different conversations and feelings based on the works at the museum. Now you might not like art and if that is the case there are a multitude of other museums that don't have anything to do with art. The football hall of fame had many many displays that will grab your attention. Plus there are several little obscure museums around that offer a look into very specific interests. Say for instance the Firefighters Museum or the Museum of Toy Trains whatever your tastes there is a museum out there for it. Don't live near a museum then you can always check out itunes and get a number of podcasts from the bigger museums on their recent exhibits. Then you could even snuggle down on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and visit the museum you wish. Some museums charge a fee but many of them only ask for donations, so check around and see what museum you might like to visit on your next date night.

Don't save passion for special occasions.

Special occasions deserve special treatment, but if your saving your passion for these times you are missing out on the joys of being in love. Passion is not a reward it is a living breathing thing that need to be feed everyday. You don't have to attack each other everyday but you can put it into the way you kiss each other. Holding hands is another great way to show passion in a normal setting without being naked. Now when you have sex you can let your passions run wild but think of other times to be passionate each and everyday. Say kind things to each other, when no one is looking grab your partners rear end and give it a quick squeeze, the more you do to build and feed your passion the better it will be when you get behind closed doors.

When sex isn't an option use your hands!

There are times in your relationship that you might not be able or care to have sex, and that is quite alright. What happens when your partner wants to enjoy a little intimacy and for what ever reason you don't want to. Well that is why god gave your hands, among many other reasons. You can use your hands to pleasure your partner now matter if your man or woman. There are many different techniques, methods, and even toys to help you in the pursuit. Remember just because you are not in the mood or feeling like it doesn't mean your partner should have to suffer or resist their urges. Handjobs are the obvious answer to anyone and you can give them to males and females alike. The book Red Hot Touch in our Amazon side bar is a great read for learning more about this type of enjoyment. Oral sex is another option that most people enjoy receiving and can be quite as nice as any other form of sex. Today they are also many toys that can be used to achieve satisfaction and can be use by or on your partner. Masturbators for men and vibrators and dildos for women are great tool to get your partner off when you just don't feel like it. The important part is being together, if your really don't feel like assisting in any matter then tell them you would love to watch them pleasure themselves and at least the two of you are together instead of in the other room away from each other during orgasm. Don't doom your partner to sexless nights because you are not in the mood both of you are important parts to this relationship and both your feelings are important. So instead of saying, "No way" to your eager partner find another way to excite them, that way both of your needs get met.

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Other uses for Lotion (Men this is directed at you)

With the cold winter weather we are having right now one thing you need to do is keep your skin soft. Rough hands are ones that no one wants to hold or get touched by. Men if you are the type of guy who's hands get rough during these months it is time to use that lotion in the bathroom for something other then what you normally use it for! Make it a point to lotion your dry hands every time you get out of the shower. Anytime you go to the bathroom and wash your hands apply another dose of this wonder. Soon you will start to feel that your hands are getting soft and less abrasive. This makes massaging your partner much much better, not only for you but for them also. No longer will you snag your dry skin on their clothes or make them shy away when you try to touch them. Now more than ever they will enjoy your hands on their naked body. Plus it is better for the other use of the lotion also (wink wink) Now go out and get those hand soft and ready.

Flaunt your best features for you partner.

Is there a part of your body that you partner simply loves? Maybe it is your strong arms or you sexy legs. Think about it for a minute and I am sure you can think back and find a body part of yours that your partner always swoons over. Ladies, men are usually pretty straight forward about what they like. If it is your breasts then wear shirts around the house the show your great cleavage. If legs are his thing then short shorts and high heels will drive him nuts. Maybe he is a butt man if that is his thing, find shorts that let your butt cheeks hang out and bend over in front of him a lot. Gentlemen, you might have to really listen (I know that is tough for you) but that is how you will find what your partner likes. Think about areas that she touches first. Maybe it is your strong arms, and if so then wear shirts that show off your guns and make sure to flex as much as you can during the day. If she loves your rear then get some work out shorts that are tight for her pleasure. Maybe it is your chest that drives her over the edge, you can purchase some Under Armor shirts that show off your pecks.

Go overboard when you know you are going to be alone. Draw as much attention to that part as you can and see how long your partner can keep their hands to themselves. Make a game of it and tell them if they can keep their hands off you for 2 hours then they can have their way with you. Make sure to do all you can to drive them nuts during this time frame. If they can't control themselves then it is your decision as to what their punishment should be. Not only does your partner get a great view out of this but you get to be the center of attention.

Pull together during tough times.

When things are going bad it is easy to let your relationship slip. The added tension of not being able to pay bills or other such things can be a real killer for a relationship. When couples pull together during these tough time they can form a bond like no other. It is easy to blame each other for tough times in your relationship, but instead of doing that why not work together to get though them. Many people have had the same event that you might be going through happen to them. Instead of driving the wedge between the two of you, grab each others hand and make a commitment to getting though your troubles. If money is the problem then work together to find ways to cut out items you don't need or can do without. Again by working together and relying on each other will make the outcome so much better and then you will have the satisfaction of being able to get through tough time together.

Don't forget about your hands.

You might not be able to guess that this post is about oral sex, by the title. I know that people enjoy using toys and vibrators during oral sex, but I feel they are not using the best sex toy, which would be your hands. These hands of your are great for stimulating areas on the body and that should not stop just because you are performing oral sex. Thing about all the thing you can do with your hands while you are pleasuring you partner. Touch is such a turn on, that if should be used to it's full advantage. Reach up and play with her breasts or his nipples, find their erogenous zones and use them as extra sensations during your act. Places like the backs of your knees, grab their ankles, massage their hips are some great suggestions. No pun intended but feel them out and find out places that might help send them over the edge. You can also use your hands for extra stimulation on the genitals. Remember all those nerve endings around the anus, use them to your advantage. Some women like penetration, while you are performing oral sex, and any number of your fingers can help. The scrotum and testicles are very easy to play with while you give him oral sex, and ladies don't be afraid to play with his anus, he just might enjoy it, too.

Use a little trial and error to see what works best for the two of you. One of the biggest complaints people have about oral sex is that it takes too long to get their partner to orgasm. Well you just might speed things up a little by hitting some of their trigger points with your hands. What sets us apart from most animals is our hands, and the wonderful things we can do with them. So next time you are ready for a little oral sex make sure you stretch your hands out who knows where they will end up.

Kissing each other neck!

In my opinion one of the most erogenous zones is the neck. In my case the back of the neck is the most sensitive. Next time you get some time to spend kissing make an effort to focus on the neck and seeing which part your partner likes kissed the best. I have mentioned the back of the neck but the sides are also nice and I have even heard of people that like the front of their neck kissed.

For extra emphasis use your hands as a guide to where you are going to kiss. Run your hand over the back of their neck before you start to lightly kiss. Extend the hands up into the hair as your kissing and then back over the area that had been kissed. Another great idea is to bend their neck a little. Don't force it just move their head to allow complete access to the area you want to kiss. Believe me a little neck kissing goes a long way.

If you don't think of kissing as foreplay then you are missing the boat. Several articles and books that I have read suggest there is not enough kissing during sexual activity. Use that as fuel for your fire the next time you and your partner get some time alone.

Special Thanks for Pauline Thomas for the photo from Flickr

Enjoy Breakfast together

Today's lifestyle is so hustle and bustle. Tomorrow I want you to start you day slower. If you have to wake up early then so be it. I want the two of you to enjoy breakfast together. Both of you sit down together to start your morning on the right foot. Talk about news or interesting things that happened at work. Hold hands while you consume your breakfast. Maybe even feed each other a little taste of what you are eating. Seldom do we start the morning the way we end it and maybe it's time we do. Do something simple for breakfast or even go to a local restaurant that offers sit down breakfast. Start you day by spending it with the one you love. It might just make your work day a little more bearable.

If your horny, raise your hand.

Here is a quick activity that will get you hopefully into some intimacy quickly. Walk into the room your partner is occupying and announce in a very loud voice. If anyone is horny in this room raise your hand. The shock value alone will be enough to get a strange look from your partner. Hopefully, they will raise their hand. When they do you go over grab them and quickly head upstairs for a little one on one action. Now don't do this during a family reunion or a party, you might get way to many hands in the air. This is for when you have the house to yourself and, well, your horny!

Watch the Young Kids

Do you ever feel like your getting old! I don't me individually I mean as a couple. Do you still hold hands when you are walking someplace. Do you call each other several times a day. Do you kiss often. Well if you think your relationship is getting old. All you have to do to rekindle part of it is watch some kids. Go to the movies and watch the teenagers that are on a date. See how they act toward each other. You can go anywhere, that teenagers go on dates to find out what is missing in your relationship.

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of taking kids to practice, getting ready for work, making dinner, we lose site of why we started this relationship in the first place. That being the attraction that brought you together. So slow down a little or set sometime aside to act like teenagers again, I am sure you will be glad you did. Just make sure to have your date home by 10pm.

Breathing Together - Seishindo practice

To better understand and get in sync with your partner try the practice of breathing together. My wife and I try to do this whenever something important is coming up. Sit beside or lay beside each other, so that your faces and lips are very close. (Brushing your teeth might be a good idea before trying this practice.) One partner begins to breath in and out in a slow but steady pace. The other partner then joins in by matching the breathing of the other partner. Close you eyes and feel the presence of your partner, feel your exhales meeting if front of you. Then as you inhale vision yourself absorbing of your partners breath. By learning to control your breath and getting it in time with your partner, you become one. One, being the couple and together you tackle the challenge before you. I think once you try this and feel the peace that surrounds you as the two of you slowly get your breathing in sync.

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Walks

I do believe one of the most romantic things that costs absolutely nothing is just taking a walk together. The place doesn't matter, unless it is in an unsafe location or during an unsafe time. I mean don’t go for a walk in the middle of a hurricane or a very shady neighborhood. A walk gives the two of you privacy even when you are out in the open. For starters, only the people that are walking at the very same pace can hear what you are saying – for the most part. You can set your own pace; if you want to casually stroll it doesn't matter, in fact, I recommend it. Have you ever heard the expression, “Stop and smell the roses,”? Well, do that to on your walk. Walks can include magical moments. It is a great time to ask someone to marry you or maybe just to present them with an anniversary present. Walks can happen anywhere. They might be downtown in a big city, a park, your old neighborhood, or one of my favorites - the beach. Never under any circumstance put a time limit on your walk. This is a time for the two of you to reconnect. If you are constantly looking at your watch and saying, “We better get back,” the moment is lost. When I think back about some great walks my wife and I have had I bring back some very fond memories. Like asking her to marry me while walking on a beach in Cancun. We stopped near a great big rock in the middle of the beach. It felt like we were miles away from anyone else. Yet, there were a few other people on the beach. Another memorable walk we had was walking/hiking up a mountain in Gatlinburg. It was so much fun. It was a warm spring day, we soon realized we should have worn heavier coats the higher up the mountain we got.

Now that we have looked at all the romantic and sentimental views of the walk, I will also let you in on a little secret. Shhhhhhhhh. A walk is great exercise. I kid you not. It is good for your heart and lungs. Not only are you enjoying each other’s company, but you are making your life a little longer by improving your health. Walks ROCK. So never be too busy no matter where you are to put one foot in front of the other. Venture out into nature or the city. You will see so much more than you will driving in your car, and you might have a few times to stop and kiss!

Now get to steppin!

Holding Hands

One of the simple things in a relationship that is overlooked as time goes on is simply holding hands. It was so easy when you were dating, you didn't even think twice about it. You didn't care who saw you holding hands, and it was a way of still touching the skin you so desired. Touch is a proven stimulant. This simple act can wake up nerves and get your blood pumping. Touch, simply put, is great for your relationship in general. I can speak from experience - when my wife puts her hand on my back or my arm when we are out and about I feel tingly where she touched me. The lighter the touch the more tingles I recieve. Sometimes the light touch however tickles. You might need to touch a little harder so as not to make it unbearable for the other person.

Do this next time your partner and you are out. Make it a point to hold his/her hand anytime you walk together. Not only is the touch good as mentioned above, but it also gets the two of you in sync as it makes you walk at the same speed and will usually slow you down so that you have more time to enjoy each other. Be a little silly with it. Maybe even try running while holding hands - just make sure to let go if need be. Dragging someone really messes up the momment. Get back to making it a natural function so that you just do it without even thinking. It might take some practice, but soon you won't be running your partner into things and you will learn to flow as a couple again.

For some more advanced hand holding you can try holding hands while snorkeling, skydiving, or for a real treat try making love while holding hands!