How close can you get.

Here is a little exercise that is fun and exciting and will leave you yearning for more. Several times during the day see how close you can get your lips to each others without touching. Get close enough to feel the heat coming off of them but resist the urge to kiss. Stay in this position for a few seconds and see how passionate being that close can be. Feel your partners breath, sense their energy and soak in their aura. Make sure to start deep into each others eyes to get the maximum out of your closeness. I get shivers down my back being that close without touching. The desire to touch will be strong but use the force or whatever means you can to resist. Finally at the end of the night have a make out session. With deep passionate kissing and release all the feeling of being so close to each other you could almost taste it.

looking for the pot of gold in your relationship? Don't look backwards!

Are you carrying baggage from past experiences that are creeping into your relationship. While we can't forget the past totally if we look forward the path seems less cluttered. When the baggage holds you back from your feelings or letting your self love like you should then you are unable to travel that path that your relationship needs to follow. Instead you just keep backtracking and going over the same part of the path over and over again. Take a deep breath and clear those feelings from the past give them a kiss and let them be on their way. Then take the hard path and enjoy the fruits of your relationship. Remember fears and longings only make us weak and timid, the strong forge ahead with reckless abandon that is how you find the treasure.

Different Bed Times.

If you are like most couples you most likely don't go to bed at the same time as your mate. One of you will retire earlier than the other, while the other sits up and completes a tasks or maybe even just watches a game. This is not as bad as it sound, it gives time for one of you to get a jump on sleeping if you need it and it gives the other person some time to themselves. Both very valid reasons for having different bedtimes. However, my take on this is that those first few minutes when you lay down together are important for your relationship. It is a time to relax and unwind with each other and reconnect. It is my opinion that even though you both might not got to sleep you should snuggle down in bed together for a few minutes each night. I would suggest 15 minutes of time together with nothing but the silence and the two of you touching. Breath in each other for these 15 minutes. I say 15 minutes because that lets the person not wanting to retire yet not get to tired just relaxing and it doesn't take much of the time away from the person wanting to enter slumber. Kiss each other lightly and say I love you as the person exits the bed. Don't be offended by them not staying in bed with you, but be thankful that they love you enough to take the time to hold you as you get ready for your slumber.

Breath in Each other.

There are many forms of breathing exercises, yet most of them involve only one person. Tantric practices encourage couples to find ways to become one and breathing together is one of those. It is believed that for a couple to get on the same plane that their breathing should be able to match each other. Lay in bed and try to breath at the say time, Place your hand on your partners chest and let them place their hand our yours. Then let you chest rise and fall and try to get in sync with each other so that you are in harmony. I enjoy doing this in a different manner, I like to start in a soul gazing position. We both stand facing each other and look deep into each others eyes, trying to see inside their soul. Then I like to begin the breathing and trying to get our breath in sync. In this I feel we are breathing the same air, thus bringing in the same outside forces into our bodies. This is a great way to end your night, before bed time and as a last good night sentiment between the two of you. You can also do it in the morning when you get up, just make sure both of you are okay with morning breath or can quickly brush before hand.

What about good morning sex?

One thing I think we stop doing once we get so far in a relationship is that we stop having good morning sex. We focus on our intimacy during the evening and we just rush out of bed in the mornings to get on with our day. I want to suggest spending a little more time in the sack in the mornings. There are a couple of obstacles in your way if you are wanting to do enjoy this. The first being kids if you have them morning time might be a little difficult to get some privacy. A simple solution to this is to lock your door or get up a little earlier so that you are finished and relaxing by the time the kids burst into your room. The biggest deterrent in morning sex is morning breath. The funky smell your mouth creates during a night of being shut. Well you can pick up some little toothbrushes that all ready have the toothpaste inside them. Keep these items on the headboard for quick use. This also sends the message to your partner when then wake to see you using this disposable toothbrushes the will know what or who is about to be coming.

Breathing Together - Seishindo practice

To better understand and get in sync with your partner try the practice of breathing together. My wife and I try to do this whenever something important is coming up. Sit beside or lay beside each other, so that your faces and lips are very close. (Brushing your teeth might be a good idea before trying this practice.) One partner begins to breath in and out in a slow but steady pace. The other partner then joins in by matching the breathing of the other partner. Close you eyes and feel the presence of your partner, feel your exhales meeting if front of you. Then as you inhale vision yourself absorbing of your partners breath. By learning to control your breath and getting it in time with your partner, you become one. One, being the couple and together you tackle the challenge before you. I think once you try this and feel the peace that surrounds you as the two of you slowly get your breathing in sync.

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