Not in the mood?... put some effort into trying.

There is the old standard that is present in each and every relationship where the mood effects your whole level of intimacy. If one partner isn't in the mood for a sexual encounter the other is just out of luck. While this is certainly the choice of one partner most sex experts state that if you put a little effort into it your mood will soon chance. Try it some time and see what happens. The next time your not in the mood for intimacy express that to your partner but ask if they will lay naked with you and talk. Get snuggled down together so that you can feel each others body. Caress each others skin and talk about dreams the two of you have together. Touch each others genitals in a soft and stroking manner as you converse. Then kiss each other softly at first and then build them up to more and more passionate. See what happens, most of the time you might just find your mood shifting and your juices will start flowing. However if that is not the case then the closeness and conversation has been a plus. However I think ninety percent of the time you mood will be affected and you will change your mind on your mood. Take time and enjoy the foreplay and the building it is part of the sexual experience. Think of it this way if you say I am not in the mood actually what you are saying is I'm not putting the effort into it tonight! Is that fair to your partner? And, is it fair to you and your relationship?

Effort, Imagination and Love can work miracles.

Do it together

The title of this post might make you think a bit. However your intimacy you can't help but do together. I am talking about doing as much as you can together. The little things that might seem simple but they take on a whole new approach when you do them together. Things like going to the store, yard work, or even wrapping christmas presents can be a romantic adventure if you let them. I know my partner and I pick a day and enjoy wrapping all our Christmas presents at one time. We shut the door turn on some music and talk as we cut and tape our way finished. We also enjoy spending time together doing the shopping as it gives us a chance to discuss what different kinds of foods we would like to try. The simplest things you can think of can be enhanced by doing them together. Whatever the task you do together just bring along some conversation, hold hands, and enjoy each other. It might seem a bit strange but this will make your relationship stronger.

The Way of the Superior Man

If you are a man in a relationship and you wonder how you can balance it all. Be it work, family life, passion, sex, relationships, etc then you need to check out the book "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. While I don't agree 100% with everything he has to offer I do think there are lots of great points to the book. I think it would benefit any man and or woman that might read it. It helps you understand how your balance of yin and yang is so important and why sometimes it gets in our way. It also helps us understand why to much or to little of either is not a great thing. I must say I have benefited greatly from reading this book and I hope by passing it along to you I might help someone else get the same out of it.

Don't put your passion on auto pilot.

We get into routines when we crave the passion we want. The same activities happen in the same order every time we get a chance to be intimate. This isn't a bad thing as we find out what works and stick with it. However this can be the boredom that can haunt our bedroom. The answer is for starters to start being intimate more often. This will allow you more chances to switch things up without the fear of having a bad sexual encounter. Next find some reading material on sexual instructions and try something a little different. You woman will always need a little warming up with foreplay so that is a wonderful time to try different and exciting things. Lastly and this one usually affects the men the most, but slow down. Take your time play with your partner make them feel special when you try something new on them. By taking your passion off auto pilot you allow your course to chance and while you might hit some bumps you will still get to your destination.

Don't leave without a kiss.

As we start to stumble though our life and relationship things start to fall to the side. One of these things is kissing each other goodbye. It may seem a little silly but in my opinion whenever one of you leaves no matter what reason you should at least give a little peck goodbye. It should be a habit not a stretch for the two of you. The reason being is that life can take a twist or turn at any time. I have heard so many stories about people that have lost their partner and they say if I only could have given them one more kiss. We don't want to make it sound like a disaster is going to happen and I don't want you to look at it this way. What I would rather you do is look at it as sending them off with your energy. Giving them your passion and strength. Now that is a great way to look at it. Next time your partner is running out the door to leave make sure to call them back and lay a great big kiss on them. You know the energy that you will be sharing with them and they will feel it.

Love flows were attention goes.

Do you love your partner? I am sure most of you that are visiting this blog are saying, yes. However do you honor them with your love or do you just say it. When is the last time you just laid it on the line and did something unselfish for them. Not wanting anything in return just to tell them you love them. When is the last time you brought flowers home, or left a little love note for them to read. When is the last time you sent them a sexy little email or seduced them while they were not expecting it. Make a shift to start doing this at least once a week if not more often. Not only does it make your partner feel important and appreciated it also helps to build a strong relationship. Because trust me if your partner loves you as much as you love them then soon that attention to love will start flowing towards you.

Spooning

One of the best positions to snuggle up in is the spooning position. If you haven't heard of this it is basically where one partner lays against the others back and their body positions are exactly the same. Much like out spoons fit together when stacked on top of each other, hence the name, spooning. It allows you both to touch each other and is a save and wonderful way to connect. This position is great if you are not feeling really sexual but still want to connect and hold each other. In my opinion the person in the back is the comfort person as they control the hugging. The person in the front is the receiver and gets to enjoy the warmth the comfort person provides. The front person can reciprocate the hugs by reaching back and touching the person in the back. Need less to say the closeness of the position is a wonderful way to connect and touch to show love and care for each other.