Not in the mood?... put some effort into trying.

There is the old standard that is present in each and every relationship where the mood effects your whole level of intimacy. If one partner isn't in the mood for a sexual encounter the other is just out of luck. While this is certainly the choice of one partner most sex experts state that if you put a little effort into it your mood will soon chance. Try it some time and see what happens. The next time your not in the mood for intimacy express that to your partner but ask if they will lay naked with you and talk. Get snuggled down together so that you can feel each others body. Caress each others skin and talk about dreams the two of you have together. Touch each others genitals in a soft and stroking manner as you converse. Then kiss each other softly at first and then build them up to more and more passionate. See what happens, most of the time you might just find your mood shifting and your juices will start flowing. However if that is not the case then the closeness and conversation has been a plus. However I think ninety percent of the time you mood will be affected and you will change your mind on your mood. Take time and enjoy the foreplay and the building it is part of the sexual experience. Think of it this way if you say I am not in the mood actually what you are saying is I'm not putting the effort into it tonight! Is that fair to your partner? And, is it fair to you and your relationship?

Effort, Imagination and Love can work miracles.

Basketball Madness

If you don't know by now the most important part of the college basketball season is upon us. March Madness will now take it's toll on many a young lady that finds themselves a basketball widow right now. If this is your case, you can do something about it. Hunker down beside your man and find out what all the excitement is about. Learn about how the tournament operates. The beauty of the fact that 65 teams are all trying to keep winning to move towards a national championship. Each game is a win or go home game and no one is safe from upsets. This all might seem a little much for you if you have never experienced it. However, if you want to be with your man this month (well at least on the weekends) you might want to do a little research. Have him show you how to fill out a bracket, let him show you his tricks to picking the winners. Heck the two of you could even put a little sexual wager on the games to spice things up a bit. You owe it to him to try and understand a little bit about this tradition, think about the times you drag him out shopping and he tries to help you pick things out. He is putting forth the effort you might not like his picks but he is trying. Here is an important thing for you to remember the first weekend of the tournament is non stop basketball from about noon to midnight but then it gets less and less as the get closer to the finals. So as march progresses you will have more and more time to spend together.

Making Relationships Strong

I know you have probably heard every trick to making your relationship strong and solid. I am here to tell you the best way is to have a great sex life together. Research shows that couples that have a great sex life have a stronger and more profound life in general together. They are generally more healthy and able to do more things together. Most of them also list their partner as their best friend. People in general who have a great sex life are more confident, and efficient.

I hear so often how people are consumed by trying to have a better sex life that other parts of their life fall apart. So if you take the sex equation out of their problem list it frees up a lot more time to concentrate on other things. Plus why would anyone want to deprive their partner from feeling great. If you care about your partner at all then you should want to enjoy sex with them. Now problems do arise and I understand that but there are many different types of sex that can be enjoyed so I don't buy that excuse list.

So if you want your relationship to hit the pinnacle you need to make your sex life a priority. Not just for one of you for both of you. This goes both ways. Try it for three to six months and see watch and see how much it improves your relationship. I am sure you will find out it has positive results. You have to make the commitment your relationship needs it.

Sample my food

Next time you venture out to a restaurant try this little number. Look over the menu and pick two entries that you would both like to try. Then order both and let the sampling begin. The only rule is you cannot get food off the other persons plate! You must have them cut it and feed it to you. This is a great exercise for getting in touch with each other. You can also do this with finger food, which ends up being supper sexy for the both of you. Click on the title line of this post to few a finger foods page so that you can start feeding each other at home.

For an even greater experience pick to dinners that are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Like pick one dish that is spicy and one that is sweet. The combination of the two will keep your tast buds guessing.

Aphrodisiac is not someone scared of afro's (Click here to find out more)

An Aphrodisiac is defined as a substance that increases sexual desire. I have seen countless lists of items that people claim increase sexual desire. I must admit I am a little skeptical of these list. I believe that some items might trigger a reaction in people. However I also believe that everyone is different and that their is no master list of aphrodisiacs. I for example cannot stomach oysters yet many people claim that they have magical aphoristically powers. When I eat them I usually end up running to the restroom to spit them out. Again I believe they might work for some people, but for me they do not. So my suggestion to you is to try several things and see what works best for you two. Spicy foods seem to get me a little hot under the collar. Click on the above title line to go to Wikipedia's page on aphrodisiacs, they have a list of herbs and foods that claim to work. Just go down the list and try each one at least the trying part could be fun. Sometimes just a thought put into your mind is enough to trigger a reaction, that could make you a little hot and bothered.