A Couple Of Books For Every Couple

One of the biggest influences on Sexy Challenges was Laura Corn, her book 101 Nights of Great Sex sparked something deep inside me.  That desire to make love more passionate and romantic, yet making it fun and exciting all at the same time.  If you have never picked up a copy of Laura's book 101 Nights of Great Sex you should.  Because it started the amazing rise of Sexy Challenges.  Now you can enjoy both...

Get your copy of Sexy Challenges first 50 Challenges all in one book all for a super low price by clicking on the links below...

Sexy Challenges - iTunes

Sexy Challenges - Kindle

Sexy Challenges - Nook

Dr. Lori Ebert Shows Us The Foreplay Platter For Our Sex Diet

Our good friend Dr. Lori Ebert takes us into the kitchen to construct a Foreplay Platter that all we can say about it is.....YUMMY

It is important that you understand how vital your diet is to your sexual power.  That is what we also want to share with you our Sex Diet Book.  

Now you can Feast in Several Ways...

Learn how you can lose those unwanted pounds by having more sex?  Great Idea, huh.

Sex Diet  - iTunes

Sex Diet - Kindle

Sex Diet - Nook

Tasty Fun For Couples

Karma Sutra's Body Paint lets You!

GET CREATIVE IN THE BEDROOM

Find your inner artist with this rich, decadent, kissable body paint. Paint this sweet treat onto your lover’s body with the included paint brush and create your masterpiece. Follow with kisses, savoring the sweet, delectable flavor.

• Delicious, kissable body paint with a smooth, creamy texture
• Inspires playful creativity
• Includes a soft, sensual paint brush

FLAVORS

CHOCOLATE CARESS

Classic milk chocolate, creamy and delicious

RICH CARAMEL 

Smooth, melt-in-your mouth caramel

CHOCOLATE RASPBERRY

Rich dark chocolate with a hint of luscious raspberry

Click here to get your delicious treat today!

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Foreplay - Spice Up Sex Life - The App For Your Device

Foreplay - Spice Up Sex Life

Break away from ordinary routine and add fun and spice to your sex life. Roll the dice to move around the gameboard as it takes you and your partner through dizzying array of sensual thrills. Let this game bring your most intimate fantasies to life.

• Pick out of romantic, sensual and erotic cards or mix them up
• Add your own cards to live your most intimate fantasies
• Use pass code protection to restrict access
• Does not contain videos or sexually explicit pictures
• Designed to be enjoyed by two players of any sexual preference
• Progresses from innocent, playful foreplay to hot, intimate love making
• Works great on phones as well as tablets
• Uses a discreet icon and name (FP) on your device

Brace yourself for a steamy night filled with passion and intimacy. Everybody wins in this game that promises a memorable finale every time.

This app does not use push notifications and does not place any unwanted shortcuts on your device. It only uses non-intrusive banner ads which can be removed by purchasing add-on.

We always welcome and appreciate your feedback and suggestions.

Links for the App

For GooglePlay Devices :https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.foreplayapp.google.free

For Apple Devices :https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/foreplay-spice-up-your-sex/id915599731?mt=8

Through Amazon :http://www.amazon.com/gp/mas/dl/android?p=com.foreplayapp.amazon.free

Not in the mood?... put some effort into trying.

There is the old standard that is present in each and every relationship where the mood effects your whole level of intimacy. If one partner isn't in the mood for a sexual encounter the other is just out of luck. While this is certainly the choice of one partner most sex experts state that if you put a little effort into it your mood will soon chance. Try it some time and see what happens. The next time your not in the mood for intimacy express that to your partner but ask if they will lay naked with you and talk. Get snuggled down together so that you can feel each others body. Caress each others skin and talk about dreams the two of you have together. Touch each others genitals in a soft and stroking manner as you converse. Then kiss each other softly at first and then build them up to more and more passionate. See what happens, most of the time you might just find your mood shifting and your juices will start flowing. However if that is not the case then the closeness and conversation has been a plus. However I think ninety percent of the time you mood will be affected and you will change your mind on your mood. Take time and enjoy the foreplay and the building it is part of the sexual experience. Think of it this way if you say I am not in the mood actually what you are saying is I'm not putting the effort into it tonight! Is that fair to your partner? And, is it fair to you and your relationship?

Effort, Imagination and Love can work miracles.

Don't put your passion on auto pilot.

We get into routines when we crave the passion we want. The same activities happen in the same order every time we get a chance to be intimate. This isn't a bad thing as we find out what works and stick with it. However this can be the boredom that can haunt our bedroom. The answer is for starters to start being intimate more often. This will allow you more chances to switch things up without the fear of having a bad sexual encounter. Next find some reading material on sexual instructions and try something a little different. You woman will always need a little warming up with foreplay so that is a wonderful time to try different and exciting things. Lastly and this one usually affects the men the most, but slow down. Take your time play with your partner make them feel special when you try something new on them. By taking your passion off auto pilot you allow your course to chance and while you might hit some bumps you will still get to your destination.

Don't get your panties in a bunch.

Here is a fun little thing to do for a couple that is a little sexy and can lead to some great fun. Have a night when you ditch the underwear. Put on loose fitting shorts and shirts that allow for your partner's hands to wander a bit and find interesting places to rub. Get under the covers and let your hands invade your partners clothes to find only them inside. This is a great secret to have for the two of you. You can sit a watch a movie and start your sexual foreplay a little early. This isn't a every night thing but it is great fun once in a while.

Put a little pressure into your sex life.

Some of the most common complaint about coupes is about sex. There is not enough time, can't get in the mood, the kids are up, I'm tired, and these are just a few of the excuses people use to avoid making love. But why would you want to avoid it? there are so many health benefits to sex that is seems like you are doing your body wrong by not having sex. Plus the more you have it the better it gets and it keeps you young and healthy. No if you have been out of the practice of having sex often you need to pressure yourself into it. Start slow and let yourself build to the feeling of excitement. A little foreplay and teasing your partner will get you in the mood quicker then you waiting for it to happen on it's own. Sex can become a wonderful and exciting thing you share with your partner and all you have to do is start getting yourself in the mood. Take showers together, don't push away from kisses, let your hands rome a little while hugging are a few things you can do to make the juices start flowing. Nothing builds a relationship stronger then a good sexual relationship and not only does it build it but it makes it healthy and amazing. Studies show that couples with a strong sexual relationship live longer, are healthier, and claim to have a better relationship so why wouldn't you pressure yourself a little to have those things.

Practice your kissing.

Remember when you were dating and you could kiss for hours on end. Using all the kissing techniques within your ability to impress your partner. It is time we take a little time and practice those techniques again. Set up a make out session for the two of you. You could rent a movie and kiss off and on through out the movie. You can also use it as great foreplay for your next sexual experience. Take time and enjoy the kissing like you did when you both were younger. You might just find yourself getting the euphoric state that you did the first few times they two of you kissed. Kissing is so good for you and your relationship that I think they are going to start bottling it.

Genitals vs. Toes

Unless you have a foot fetish I can assume that you don't use your toes much during your intimate love making. While my toes aren't the most erotic part of my body they are still aids in creating different sensations. Toes feel different then fingers and usually have a little tougher skin on them than other parts of your body. So, stroking your partners genitals with you feet will feel a lot different from using you fingers. Now most of us don't have as much coordination with our toes as we do with our fingers so you have to take it slow. The last thing you want to do is whack your partners genitals hard, because that could put a damper on your love making. Toes can be used to stroke a man's penis and play with his testicles and believe me this is such a turn on for most guys. Toes can also be used to stimulate the nipples of both men and women. Now for something a little different you can use your toes to stimulate the lips of a woman's genitals. Gaining control of your little buggers on your foot can also allow you to enter her vagina. Both sexes can enjoy a little toe to anus play. The positions you can get into for this type of foreplay is amazing and you don't have to be one of those images from the Karma Sutra to enjoy them. If you do plan on using your toes as sex toys please make sure to wash them good, poor hygiene is the kiss of death when dealing with they feet. Toenails also need to be neatly trimmed for obvious reasons.

Afterplay?

We have all heard of foreplay as it is essential to our sex life. Have you ever thought about afterplay? Sex shouldn't just end after climax you need to cool down just like you need to warm up. Afterplay can be as simple as holding each other or caressing the skin lightly. Afterplay is something that could defiantly benefit your relationship, forming a strong bond at a time when you are accepting of it. I suggest being a little more hands on during afterplay everyone is a little sensitive in their genital region after they orgasm but give it a little time then caress that area, also. Don't be afraid of the fluids that you have expelled during your love making it is safe and okay to play in it. Massaging the outer parts of your partners genitals can be relaxing when there is not the need to become aroused. Heck with a little luck and a willing partner afterplay could become foreplay all over again.

Other things you might consider as afterplay bonding is getting a snack to replenish both of you, fruits work wonderful here. A shower together is a wonderful form of afterplay that not only makes you closer but also gets you clean. Afterplay could even be important if you partner might want to have another orgasm and you just can't. Always remember that sex isn't just over once the deed is done because this time is when you love can become so much stronger.

Learn to talk a little dirty.

Deep inside our brains we all like a little dirty talk. Either in the throws of passion or as foreplay this dirty talk can take us to a higher level in our sex life. Even the most reserved person can become a dirty talker with a little practice. First you have to learn your style, are you the demanding dirty talker. Demanders bark out instructions using the most vivid words. You could be the screamer where you throw out dirty words as you orgasm. Maybe your the shy one that likes to send your dirty talk via text messages or email. No matter what your style dirty talk can enhance your relationship. Ladies you have the upper hand at this, while for guys we need to be a little more reserved. Guys blurting out dirty words out of the bedroom might seem a little abusive however it is quite different if the lady comes out and asks for her partner to put their face between her boobs. I have found a great web site to help you learn to talk dirty and give you several phrases you might want to use sometime. The link is posted below. Good luck and happy dirty talking.

Drity Talk 101

We Love BOOBS. and our lady partners.

We here at the couples spot love boobs. We think they are amazing they can be fun and exciting for both partners. They can be a complete turn on but for many woman they can be a great source of stress and concern. Breast Cancer is a serious concern for any woman, it can rob them of their life. We love our partners so as the protectors we men like to be (and some women, too) make sure you suggest to your partner to get a mammogram it might not seem like a great present to get them one for your anniversary. However showing that you care about them and giving them peace of mind goes a long way. You should also encourage then to do regular self examinations in the shower. Noticing any lumps early is the best way to combat this major killer of women. Make it part of your foreplay if you like, that way you as the partner has a hand in noticing anything different, because we know how much attention you want to show your partners breasts! We joke about this but regular breast play with your lover might help detect breast cancer very early on. The women in our lives are special beyond belief so do your part to protect them from this killer. THINK PINK.

Is a kiss just a kiss?

When you kiss your partner good bye or hello is it just a greeting or more than that? After all you don't kiss everyone hello or goodbye do you? Aside from you kids or your parents that usually doesn't happen. So, I ask again is a kiss more than we give it credit for. Is it the passing of breath between two lovers? Is it exchanging life force or your inner light? We might never know why a kiss is so important. The tingling lips the moister in the act causes me to believe that is a sharing in some sort of way. You can even tell your partners feelings in their kiss, by the pressure or the force behind it. Heck you can even tell if they are mad at you by their kiss. Maybe if we put more focus on each kiss we share with our partner we might start to become closer then ever before. Some people say that kissing is foreplay and I agree but I think it is so much more deeper that that. I think it is two being one and the sharing of desires and passions and of space. Most people don't think about kissing in this manner but next time you kiss your partner really see if you can feel what they are feeling, then look deep in their eyes telling them you love them.

Warm up for sex.

We all know that foreplay is important to get our sex life off the ground. Foreplay can be many things to different people. However, this is not the type of warm up I want to talk about before sex. As with other forms of exercise loosening up the muscles is important before you start to compete or exercise so that you don't pull a muscle. Also if we want to perform at our top level we have to be ready and stretched. Sex is no different especially if you want to try different positions or be creative. Stretching your legs and arms as well as you back and shoulders will help you be more prepared for any position you want to try during you sexual evening. The last thing you want to happen is a cramp or a muscle pull during the act of making love. Nothing kills the mood more then having to stop to rub a cramp out or being unable to finish because of a muscle pull. You might think that sex isn't that physically demanding. I don't know about you but I want my sex to be physically demanding! Make stretching part of your foreplay and now it doesn't become a chore it becomes a fun intimate experience for the two of you. A word of advise, stretch those PC muscles to for an even more fun sexual experience.

Ladies shave those legs before bed.

There are many countries around the world where the women don't shave their legs. This is accepted by their culture and is not thought of as unattractive in these countries. However here in America it is very unusual to see a woman with hair on her legs. Here we usually look at is as someone that doesn't take care of themselves.

Ladies your legs are a valuable asset to you and your relationship. Soft shaven legs are sexy and can make even the most straight laced man melt. Us men love to run our hands across your fresh soft shaven legs and for obvious reasons. With that said ladies you might want to change up your routine a little. For example I shave my face a lot of times before I go to bed, so that just incase my partner wants to get close or intimate, she is not met with the sandpaper my face becomes. Same holds true for you ladies. If you know (and you know when you want to) you are wanting to be a little more then sleeping partners make the effort to shave those sexy legs of yours. That way your partner will drool to get his/her hands all over those soft legs of yours. Not only do your legs help with getting your partner to touch you, but they also make you feel more sexy. Fresh shaved legs are also a must if you like to wear stockings and I will speak for most of the men out there and say, "We love stockings" The nice part about using your sexy legs is that you don't have to be naked to get the feeling. You can put on a nice pair of shorts and get the foreplay started a little before you make it to the bedroom. Other things you might consider is a nice lotion to use on your legs to make them even softer and smell wonderful.

Chime in and let us know what how important legs are in your relationship by sending comments to me at thecouplesspot@gmail.com

How many orgasms can you handle!

Something you need to consider when you are faced with an evening of long and drawn out passion, is "How many times can you orgasm?" When you are wanting to have a long night of love making you don't want it to be over in a short time period. First thing you need to look at is which partner can orgasm more often. Once you decide who that person is then you should make sure you start with that person. Bring them to orgasm with oral or hand stimulation and let them know that you plan for them to have more of these feelings. Once you get them off then you can focus on getting both of you off. Make sure you use lots of foreplay and bring them to the edge and then stop and swelter the feeling and calm them down. I suggest doing this only if you have a lot of time on your hands. The last thing you want to do is get them close then stop and not be able to continue. I suggest setting a timer in an earlier post to make sure you spend enough time on foreplay. Stick with that plan and give foreplay the credit it deserves. Build you anticipation of your own orgasm, it doing this you will make your orgasm amazing. Take breaks and switch things up from time to time try different positions or enter a different orifice from time to time. You have time so try some different things. Here is the beauty of this, if you want to have multiple orgasms all you have to do is take some time in between each one to rejuvenate. Don't be afraid to take a shower then come back and make love some more. So many people thing that once the sex is done you hope up or roll over and go to sleep. That doesn't have to be the case, make it a challenge to try to turn the other person on again. Do this until it is obvious that no more activity is going to be happening. Then you can hold each other and fall asleep with passionate love making being your sleeping pill.

Write poems for each other.

We all view poetry as being romantic, however most of us think we are really bad at writing it. Well within your relationship you don't have to be a world renown writer of poetry. Put some humor into it and make it personal. Heck you can even make it sexy. The point is to make your partner feel good and if you make them laugh you get an added bonus. If you want to write a mushy poem for your lover that is good too but don't think you have to be perfect on each line for it to be important to you lover. If you are too timid to write your own poem then read a great poem from an author you enjoy to your partner. Some couples enjoy reading erotic poetry to each other as a form of foreplay. What ever way you can do it put some poetry into your relationship. Romance and poetry go hand it hand. Below is an example of a silly poem that just might get your partner laughing a little.

Sweetheart I love you from the bottom of my heart.

Because you love me even if I fart.

I love to kiss your pretty lips

and I adore the way you move your hips

Sometimes I find myself daydreaming of your beauty

and sometimes I just want to squeeze your booty.

Is Foreplay Foreign to you?

Foreplay is always in everyone’s sexual vocabulary but do you really enjoy it or is it just part of the process. In my opinion foreplay should be a large part of any sexual experience. When you think about it the actual act of sex doesn’t last very long, but when you add the foreplay in you can make sex last a very long time. Most women can benefit from extended foreplay as in most cases it takes women a little longer to get heated up. You should explore many different types of foreplay and don’t get into a routine of doing the same thing over and over. This is easy to do when we find something that works. Set up signals or simply say when you like something, unless your partner is a mind reader they might not automatically know what feels good to you Remember this also, foreplay can encompass the whole body not just the genitals. Any were from the feet to the scalp can be an erogenous zone. The one performing the foreplay can use different parts of their body to heighten the mood, fingers, tongues, and lips are the normal ones but feet and forearms work to stimulate places also. A good thigh position can enhance your foreplay in many ways. If you want to know more pick up some reading material that will help you explore erogenous areas on the body. Another great idea is to set up an amount of time before any penetration can happen, I would suggest a half hour to start with and see what happens. Remember foreplay is for you and for you partner so use it to the max.

Kissing each other neck!

In my opinion one of the most erogenous zones is the neck. In my case the back of the neck is the most sensitive. Next time you get some time to spend kissing make an effort to focus on the neck and seeing which part your partner likes kissed the best. I have mentioned the back of the neck but the sides are also nice and I have even heard of people that like the front of their neck kissed.

For extra emphasis use your hands as a guide to where you are going to kiss. Run your hand over the back of their neck before you start to lightly kiss. Extend the hands up into the hair as your kissing and then back over the area that had been kissed. Another great idea is to bend their neck a little. Don't force it just move their head to allow complete access to the area you want to kiss. Believe me a little neck kissing goes a long way.

If you don't think of kissing as foreplay then you are missing the boat. Several articles and books that I have read suggest there is not enough kissing during sexual activity. Use that as fuel for your fire the next time you and your partner get some time alone.

Special Thanks for Pauline Thomas for the photo from Flickr