Make your bed a special place.

Your bed is obviously the most intimate place in your house. This is where the majority of your sexual contact takes place. However, you can use it as so much more. I know in our house we use it as a forum for great talks, an area for massages, and even as an entertainment venue as we watch silly things on the computer. Things you should not bring into your bed are trouble from work, issues about money, or anything negative. Don't allow negative energy into your bed. Keep your bed as a shrine to happiness and love. Leave all the other baggage on the floor as you enter the place of sanctitude and love.

Tuck em in!

It may sound a little silly but you need to tuck in your partner if they are the first one to go to bed. I know in my relationship my partner enjoys going to bed much earlier than I do. I enjoy staying up til the wee hours of the morning. My partner has tried this with me but it is just not to their liking. I have tried going to bed at the same time as my partner and it disrupts my whole day and night. In an effort to compromise each night that I am home, when my partner heads off to bed. I follow in like I am going to sleep with them I get in bed and spend at least 15 minutes with them as they fall asleep. This might seem a little strange but it gives us the bond at night time I hate to call it tucking them in but that is what is seems like. It is just that little security that comes from falling asleep with your partner. Once I feel like my partner is comfortable I quietly slip out of the room and continue my night. Spending those 15 minutes together in the peace of the night has made a wonderful routine for our relationship. Try it if you don't have matching sleeping styles it just might be what your relationship needs.

Good Morning, now let's stretch.

Stretching is one of the lost arts in our society. I am not talking about warming up before you get ready to work out. I am talking about when you wake up and get your body woke up. Within your relationship stretching should be like saying good morning to each other. You should take a couple of minutes and push your body into stretches to loosen up the joints and muscles that have been pretty much dormant during the night. It is therapeutic to your body and gets your blood pumping right from the start of your day. Plus it feel really good to get a great stretch in your body. Watch babies and animals when they first wake up. Can your picture your dog stretching out or your cat arching their back. Babies do this quite often as they work their bodies out form being in the womb for 9 months. Take the cue from these natural signs that stretching is good for you. Now don't let your partner get out of bed tomorrow without stretching and gving your a big hug.

Take advantage of time apart.

There are times when you and your partner will have to spend some nights apart. Be it work, children commitments, or just functions they are attending you will have to break apart. This might not be hard for some couples. However, some people have trouble sleeping when their partner is not in bed with them, or they seem lost and don't know what to do for sure. If you are one of these people that your life revolves around your relationship then you need to prepare for nights apart. Save things you need to get done for you times apart, rent movies you have wanted to watch that your partner might not enjoy, catch up with some old friends, anything you can think of to keep your mind off the time. By doing this you will soon find that the time has passed and you are ready for bed. Another thing you might do is stay up later than normal so that you are really tired when you got to bed. This way you don't lay in bed and think about that special person that is not beside you. Remember the time will pass and use it to your advantage. Get things done so that you have time with your partner when they return. Clean the house if you have nothing else to do that will occupy a lot of time.

Ladies shave those legs before bed.

There are many countries around the world where the women don't shave their legs. This is accepted by their culture and is not thought of as unattractive in these countries. However here in America it is very unusual to see a woman with hair on her legs. Here we usually look at is as someone that doesn't take care of themselves.

Ladies your legs are a valuable asset to you and your relationship. Soft shaven legs are sexy and can make even the most straight laced man melt. Us men love to run our hands across your fresh soft shaven legs and for obvious reasons. With that said ladies you might want to change up your routine a little. For example I shave my face a lot of times before I go to bed, so that just incase my partner wants to get close or intimate, she is not met with the sandpaper my face becomes. Same holds true for you ladies. If you know (and you know when you want to) you are wanting to be a little more then sleeping partners make the effort to shave those sexy legs of yours. That way your partner will drool to get his/her hands all over those soft legs of yours. Not only do your legs help with getting your partner to touch you, but they also make you feel more sexy. Fresh shaved legs are also a must if you like to wear stockings and I will speak for most of the men out there and say, "We love stockings" The nice part about using your sexy legs is that you don't have to be naked to get the feeling. You can put on a nice pair of shorts and get the foreplay started a little before you make it to the bedroom. Other things you might consider is a nice lotion to use on your legs to make them even softer and smell wonderful.

Chime in and let us know what how important legs are in your relationship by sending comments to me at thecouplesspot@gmail.com

Get out of bed on the RIGHT side!

I am sure you have all heard the expression, "I got up on the wrong side of the bed," but how can you make it work for your relationship. Well, my suggestion is to engage you partner right from the start of the morning by crawling over him/her to get out of bed. If you sleep naked, this is a wonderful good morning move that will surely get your partner to notice you as you are getting up. Make sure to rub your skin across his/hers as you slink across. Who knows you might even get pulled back into bed for a little more ways to wake yourselves up.

Make your bedroom as festive as the rest of your house.

When we decorate for the holidays we sort of forget about our bedroom. Mostly because the average house quest doesn’t venture into our personal room for anything more then a quick glimpse. Within your relationships however the two most important people are the ones that spend the most time in there. Break out some extra lights and decorate your headboard, put some tinsel around or even some fake snow. We spend so much time decorating the rest of the house, that we forget that our bedroom is a great place to have fun and play a little. Imagine the blinking Christmas lights flashing the next time the two of you make love or what you could do with the extra festive pillows that you have put on the bed. While the holidays are suppose to be shared with family and friends it is also a great time to reconnect with your partner.

Get Away - Stay Away ??

Next time the two of you get away try to find somewhere to off the beaten path. Find a small town within a short drive of your final destination. Stay away from the hustle and bustle of the bigger cities. Give yourselves time to reconnect and find entertainment in each other. Take walks, talk and get to know each other all over again. If you stay in a tourist trap, you are constantly thinking what you should be doing instead of enjoying the wonderful person you are with. Find a quiet little bed and breakfast and enjoy the big comfy beds or maybe a little cottage near the ocean. You can always make the trip into the city for dinner or other entertainment. You might be amazed at the things you can find to do in a small town. Find the local sites to see or maybe enjoy a festival the town is having. Maybe you would stumble across a town that has a minor league baseball team. Then you could spend the night with your arms around each other relaxed in a half filled stadium. I do believe that if you try this, you will take away more memories then if you stay in the heart of the city.

Wake Up on the Right Side of the Bed

Do you ever have those mornings when nothing seems to go right and everyone seems to get on your nerves. To make matters worse you want to take everything out on your partner. Well, when you get up and feel this way you need to take action. Try this.

When you start wondering why am are so snippy with everyone go back into your bedroom and lay back down on the bed.  Take a couple of deep breaths and release them slowly.  Then get up on the opposite side of the bed.  Make a conscious effort to relax and start your day over.

Stress begets more stress so take some deep breaths and let your "new" morning start out better.

Thank you very much....

You know in a relationship we sometimes start to take each other for granted. You know what I mean you expect your partner to do the things they always do. We forget how special it is when they get us a drink so we don't have to get up, or fix a problem for us just because we asked. We get comfortable and relaxed that are partners are always there for us because they are, always there (well most of the time anyway). Today I want you to make a list of everything your partner does that either helps you out or is just a nice thing to do. Get a little paper to care around with you and jot down when they open the door for you, or start your car on a cold morning. So many of the little things we forget, like getting us out a towel for our morning shower, or downloading a file for us on the computer. Even things like getting the kids dressed or getting them to sleep, while we do something else is a big plus.

Are you starting to see where I am going. We need to thank our partners for not only all of these things but for being the kind sweet person they are. Now I am sure there are times when they don't get something done you wanted them too. For the most part I am sure the good our weighs the bad in a big way. When we started seeing this person we were attracted to them and our passions were high, so how come this passion doesn't get hotter as we spend more time together? This person we love spending time with does so much for the both of us we should celebrate it every night.

I know it is a little bit tough to celebrate every night. Tonight however bring your list to bed and read if off to your partner. Tell them how these things made your day better and then thank them with a great big kiss. Look deep in their eyes when you thank them, so that they know how much you mean it. If you so desire you can thank them even more once the lights go out, I am sure they will be thankful for that!

Moving with your Love!

Much like remodeling, moving together is hard on a relationship. Deciding what to throw away and what to keep, adds challenge to any relationship. From the packing at the old place to the unloading at the new place, you have a lot of places to get steamed at each other. The move needs to be a team effort and what better team then the two of you. I suggest setting goals for the couple of you. Things like a nice dinner out after you get so far and I also suggest making love as soon as you get the bed into the house. Make sure to at least wait until others that are helping you are gone. Lots of massages for soar muscles will be in order, as well as lots of alone time for the two of you. Since most of your friends will disappear as soon as you start to move. Moving isn't all bad, the satisfaction you will get is amazing for your coupledom. Patience and love are the two ingredients you will need to make this a success.

Wake Up Call

Sometimes your plans for intercoarse just don't work out right. Either work schedules, kids or other events just don't let you participate when you would like to. When this happens to you give your partner permission to wake you up during the evening for some late night sex. Tell them it is okay to wake you up by massaging your genitals, this is a wonderful way to wake up. If you have to set your alarm for sex. No one says you can't have that setting on your alarm. This way of making love can really be a turn on, as it might feel like you are sneaking by meeting in the middle of the night. Make sure to get any toys or lubes close to the bed before hand so you don't have to stumble around in the dark.

Just beware sometimes it takes a little more foreplay to get someone ready for love making, when they are in a deep sleep. Sometimes it is the exact opposite and they are more ready to go when you wake them. If they are aware sex is coming they might even have some foreplay dreams the could get them warmed up. Again make sure your get or grant permission first so you don't get caught with your hand in the cookie jar.

Sleeping In!

I am sure you have heard about the benifits of sleep. Here is a benifit for the couple. Most days we take turns waking up. One of us gets up and heads for the shower while the other one lays in bed for a little while longer. Well Sundays are a great day to sleep in a little longer together. Now I am not saying stay in bed forever, but spend a little extra time just snuggling with each other on a sunday morning. It will do wonders for your relationship. Most days we are so rushed that we forget to connect with our partner in the morning. These lazy sunday days are great to snuggle and chat. Who knows if the moment is right maybe a little morning romp in the hay would get both your days started out fantastic.

Get a book to read at the same time!

I got a great idea from a friend of mine the other day. She told me that her and her husband had gotten the book "His Needs, Her Needs." They were reading it together at night as they lay in bed together, they would take turns reading to each other. I thought what a great idea, so that weekend my wife and I went to a near by bookstore and spent about an hour scouring the relationship aisle. We both picked a book that was meant to improve relationships. We also found a couple of question books that were titled "Do you know your husband" and "Do you know your wife." They were just simple question you filled out about your spouse noting things like what their favorite color is or what their favorite toy was as a child. I must tell you that this is very addictive. We said we were only going to do one page a night but we usually end up doing three. My only fear of this is we are going through the question book to fast and it will be done soon. So if anyone knows of any other question books like this please let me know.

These books have increased our communication tremendously. We spend the first part of the night reading our own book (we will switch when we finish) then we spend about 15 minutes saying did you know... The we fill out our questions and talk about them it is so much fun. I really look forward to it each night. Now we have found something to do in bed together that is not sleeping or well you know.......

Click on the title link to go to the amazon page with these question books on them.