Don't forget to say thanks.

Thanks for cleaning the kitchen honey, let me show you how much I appreciate it.

Being in a relationship is great for the simple fact that there are two of you to get things done. You partner can do things for you when you are unable and vice versa. You can even ask them to do things when they have time and they are usually going to do them for you. Love is funny in that manner. The problem arises when these helpful things go unnoticed or unappreciated. That is when chores or helpfulness seems more like orders then helping out. Appreciate the things your partner does and don't always take the easy way out and say "Thank You" Do something special for that person and in return you are going to get a lot more help when you need it. Take your partner out to a wonderful dinner after a day of them running errands for the two of you. Pick up the book they have been wanting to read as a token of your appreciation. Offer up a massage at the end of the day and express your appreciation while you make them feel good. My favorite however is to slip into something sexy or fill your bedroom with candle light and find a way orgasmically to thank them. Love is such a special thing and the last thing you want is your partner feeling unappreciated, so make sure to whisper softly in their ear, "Thank You"

A Balanced Relationship

How balanced is your relationship? I have been learning some transpersonal techniques via my partners masters program and balance is something I am seeing that is important. Do you put as much into your relationship as you take from it? Do you appreciate all the things your partner does for you? Big or little do you take anything for granted? Do you think about your partner when you are doing small things? Do you want to make your partner feel like they are important? All these things should be important to both partners and should come to the forefront of your relationship. Now, let me ask you again how balanced is your relationship? Do you honestly feel you are putting as much into your relationship as you can be? I am not talking about you idolizing you partner but do you put as much into the relationship as they do. Find a balance you relationship requires a certain amount of time and attention. If one partner is putting all the effort into the relationship then the balance is disturbed. The other partner feels smothered and the one putting the effort into it feels ignored. This is where the balance comes in. When the partner that feels unappreciated starts seeing some effort being put into the relationship by the other partner then they relax and don't try so hard. So this balance is important to both partners just in different ways. Balance gives you both a chance to get what you want and need out of a relationship. So once again I ask you how balanced is your relationship?

Flowers are a wonderful thing to send a women... but what about the guys?

Most women love getting flowers from their partner. This is a wonderful simple action that shows the love that the giver has for the recipient. Some guys might appreciate this action if they were sent flowers but most guys would be embarrassed. So the question arises as to what you can do for the man in your relationship. How do you tell them that you care about them and still keep there manly feelings in tact. Well some suggestions might be tickets to a game, or their favorite beer with a ribbon on it. Be creative but make sure that they know what the items is for. Put a card with the item or a note stating your love for them. Just like you pick flowers by your partners likes do the same for your man. If they love tools but them a new tape measure for this item. It makes if so much more special to get something that thought went into. Men are not use to getting just a little random gift like this so this they might not know how to handle it. Make sure they know it is your way of giving them flowers without destroying their manliness.

Are you repaying your partners favors?

Do you remember last week when you partner dropped everything to help you out? Did you ever repay that favor? So many times in our busy life we forget to really thank the person we love for helping us out. Maybe it was a massage or taking the kids to give you some quite time. No matter what the favor you need to make the effort to thank them for it. Make your repayment something that they enjoy and wouldn't expect you to do. Maybe cook them their favorite dinner or give them a wonderful massage. Maybe you could find a movie that they have been wanting to watch or wear that lingerie that you have just thrown in the drawer. If you don't repay these favors you might find yourself not getting them in the future. Keep the balance close of the amount of favors you do for each other and neither one of you will ever feel unappreciated. When we do favors we do not expect repayment but it goes without saying that it should be a mandate. Thank them often for being their for you and they always will be.

An easy way to keep love alive.

There is a simple way to make your relationship the most important thing in your life. Simply put you need to love your partner everyday like it might be the last time. Now we are not suggesting that you should hope anything bad would befall your partner. What we are saying is that you should appreciate them daily for all they do. What if they were not in your life how much harder would it be? What do they do to make your life easier? Do they get the kids ready in the morning, to they get up early to take a shower so you can sleep longer, do they do the dishes even if it is not their turn, or maybe they give you time to relax. Whatever the reason you should love them for all they do because it is not guaranteed that it will always be there. People that lose someone suddenly always say the same thing, "If I knew this was going to happen I would have done this differently (speaking about the last time they were together)" We don't want you to think about bad things happening to your partner but we want you to appreciate all they do while they are hear with you. Once they are gone you cannot make up the past, plus when you appreciate them they will most likely respond with more of what you are appreciating them for. Life is way to short not to make love a priority, and if you are not you are short changing yourself and the people you love.

Appreciate the People that make your life easier.

I know this blog is about couples but, there are I am sure people in your life that help make your relationship a little better. Maybe it's the baby sitter, or the person that cleans your house but these types of people help you attend more to your relationship, by taking things off your hands and allowing you to go on dates or just relax together. It could be the kid that mows your lawn or shovels your driveway, how about the person that does you hair for special occasions. What about the neighbor that get your mail while your away on a romantic getaway. Think about the people that make your life a little easier and then go out and pick up a little something for them. Get them a gift certificate to the local fast food joint, or a movie pass it doesn't have to be a huge present just a little token of your appreciation for them. No matter how small they will appreciate it.

Thank you very much....

You know in a relationship we sometimes start to take each other for granted. You know what I mean you expect your partner to do the things they always do. We forget how special it is when they get us a drink so we don't have to get up, or fix a problem for us just because we asked. We get comfortable and relaxed that are partners are always there for us because they are, always there (well most of the time anyway). Today I want you to make a list of everything your partner does that either helps you out or is just a nice thing to do. Get a little paper to care around with you and jot down when they open the door for you, or start your car on a cold morning. So many of the little things we forget, like getting us out a towel for our morning shower, or downloading a file for us on the computer. Even things like getting the kids dressed or getting them to sleep, while we do something else is a big plus.

Are you starting to see where I am going. We need to thank our partners for not only all of these things but for being the kind sweet person they are. Now I am sure there are times when they don't get something done you wanted them too. For the most part I am sure the good our weighs the bad in a big way. When we started seeing this person we were attracted to them and our passions were high, so how come this passion doesn't get hotter as we spend more time together? This person we love spending time with does so much for the both of us we should celebrate it every night.

I know it is a little bit tough to celebrate every night. Tonight however bring your list to bed and read if off to your partner. Tell them how these things made your day better and then thank them with a great big kiss. Look deep in their eyes when you thank them, so that they know how much you mean it. If you so desire you can thank them even more once the lights go out, I am sure they will be thankful for that!