Sexy Flameless Candles

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Okay if you are familiar with our products and teachings from Sexy Challenges you know we mention flameless candles a lot.  We love candle light, however sometimes actual candles are not the safest thing to have around.  If there is going to be a lot of movement and activity in your bedroom (which we hope for you) then actual flameless candles can be quick scary.   So the flameless ones can be a great alternative.  The ones I have pictured above are awesome not only do they have the realistic look but they also come with a remote control so that when the time is right to extinguish the candles you don't even have to get up.  The soft glow of candle light is so sexy and now it can be safe too.

Sexy Smells

One thing you don't want to overlook when trying to make your relationship great is your sense of smell. Various smells are appealing to different people. So you have to do a little trial and error. Some people are attracted to flowery smells such as geraniums, lavender or roses. Still others find food smells appealing things such as vanilla, pumpkin spice, and cinnamon. Just like you have to search for cologne and perfume that your partner enjoys you need to do the same for scents you might use in your bedroom or as lotions on yourself. A good method to try is to go the store and smell the candles. They come in a variety of smells and are strong enough for you to get a good feel just by sniffing them. Let me tell you a good smell can create a wonderful mood in the bedroom. This added scent can work wonders on getting your partner in the mood. For instance my partner has some vanilla lotion that drives me wild when she wears it as well as some peppermint lotion. Yes sometime smells can be overdone so don't over do it. A rule of thumb to use is that a little smell goes a long way. You each also have your own unique sent so don't underestimate that. Some people just love to smell each other and that can be a turn on it's self.

Don't forget to say thanks.

Thanks for cleaning the kitchen honey, let me show you how much I appreciate it.

Being in a relationship is great for the simple fact that there are two of you to get things done. You partner can do things for you when you are unable and vice versa. You can even ask them to do things when they have time and they are usually going to do them for you. Love is funny in that manner. The problem arises when these helpful things go unnoticed or unappreciated. That is when chores or helpfulness seems more like orders then helping out. Appreciate the things your partner does and don't always take the easy way out and say "Thank You" Do something special for that person and in return you are going to get a lot more help when you need it. Take your partner out to a wonderful dinner after a day of them running errands for the two of you. Pick up the book they have been wanting to read as a token of your appreciation. Offer up a massage at the end of the day and express your appreciation while you make them feel good. My favorite however is to slip into something sexy or fill your bedroom with candle light and find a way orgasmically to thank them. Love is such a special thing and the last thing you want is your partner feeling unappreciated, so make sure to whisper softly in their ear, "Thank You"

A great time to make love!

One of our favorite times to make love is right when before the sun starts to set. We love the lighting it gives in our room. It acts as candle light letting you see and enjoy each others images but doesn't make you feel like your the center attraction at the circus. It allows you the freedom to see your sexy partner and watch them casually get ready to make love to you. You can also use the light as a timer. Make a deal to have foreplay until the light either reaches a certain point in the room or is no longer existent. This works create to help a partner that might be a little shy about being viewed because then once darkness hits they feel more comfortable. This might sound a little strange but for my partner and I it also allows us to get up and talk or get a snack or drink afterwards. We use this time to connect which right after sex there is no yearning or desire for physical intimacy. It allows you to focus on the mental side of intimacy which is very nice also.

Depending on your household situation you might have a little trouble starting love making at this time of day/night. Children and neighbors might create an issue as you attempt this amazing ritual. Good locks and shear curtains can go a long way in the pursuit of making love as the sun sets. You can also plan an overnight stay for your young ones at grandma's house. You could also take turns with other couples with children the same age so you both have the opportunity to enjoy a little uninterrupted alone time. Making love right before you drift off to sleep is fantastic, too. However, I would suggest you try a little sunset love and see how you like it.

Butt Massage!

A great way to make your partner feel good and maybe warm them up for some sexual activity, is a butt or glute massage. I have attached a video on the massaging the rear end. Massaging this area can be quite erotic for both the giver and receiver. Set the tone for the massage even before you get your subject in the room. Light some candles, have nice full towels scattered around and pick up some wonderful massage oil. Massage oil is important because it allows your hands to be forceful yet glide over the areas without resistance. Don't be to ready for sex afterwards because this technique might work so well at relaxing your partner that they might fall asleep. Remember touching is a wonderful tool in building relationship so don't shy away from it.

Sexual Self Image

One of the most common ares of concern when dealing with sexual difficulties is a poor sexual self image. Our minds are bombarded with images of perfect bodied individuals have sex on the television or big screen. We see people with no body fat, muscles that bulge, and boobs that are firm and perfect. Now let us examine that to start with most of these people have either had surgery to enhance their body image or have use a substance like steroids to get the look they desire. What does that tell you? It says they had a poor body image and took steps in their mind to correct it. We all know the effects of these cosmetic improvements and it usually come back to haunt them. Now lets look inward to ourselves. For starters we are all beautiful, who says what is perfect and how we should look? WE DO!!! For our sexual self image I hear so much of how people have to have the light off to have sex and that they don't want their partner of all people to see them naked? This is crazy, the one person that will except you as you are is your partner. They have made a commitment to you and they love you, so share yourself with them. Poor sexual self image can stem from many different places, childhood memories, early development periods in your life, and maybe even earlier relationships. Once you find someone you truly love you need to try to put those feelings behind you. Do you actually think that your partner thinks your genitals are ugly? I am sure you partner thinks they are one of the most beautiful things on earth. My advice to you is to start using a little light in your bedroom, candles work great, they will allow your partner to see you beautiful body without being in the glaring light of electricity, plus it is ten times more romantic. Let her/him make a big deal about your body, let them tell you how beautiful you are, and really listen to this. Most people feel that the partner is just saying this, but think about it. They are in the relationship for the long haul they have nothing to gain by lying to you??? I understand that somewhere along the lines of your life that someone has but the idea into your head that you are not sexually beautiful, well I am hear to tell you they were wrong. Be beautiful, handsome, sexy, and alive.

A little date humor for you.

Make sure you have everything in place for a romantic date. However when using candles make sure they don't get to close to anthing that might cause a problem. Watch this video for a good little chuckle. I will be back tomorrow with another great realtionship ides.