Sexy Smells

One thing you don't want to overlook when trying to make your relationship great is your sense of smell. Various smells are appealing to different people. So you have to do a little trial and error. Some people are attracted to flowery smells such as geraniums, lavender or roses. Still others find food smells appealing things such as vanilla, pumpkin spice, and cinnamon. Just like you have to search for cologne and perfume that your partner enjoys you need to do the same for scents you might use in your bedroom or as lotions on yourself. A good method to try is to go the store and smell the candles. They come in a variety of smells and are strong enough for you to get a good feel just by sniffing them. Let me tell you a good smell can create a wonderful mood in the bedroom. This added scent can work wonders on getting your partner in the mood. For instance my partner has some vanilla lotion that drives me wild when she wears it as well as some peppermint lotion. Yes sometime smells can be overdone so don't over do it. A rule of thumb to use is that a little smell goes a long way. You each also have your own unique sent so don't underestimate that. Some people just love to smell each other and that can be a turn on it's self.

Theme Songs

Most couples have their song! You know the one you first danced to or the one playing when you first met. These songs are wonderful memories and remind you of that special time when ever you hear them. However that isn't what this post is about. I want you to start picking out theme songs for your everyday life. The two of you sit down together and pick out songs for certain things you have to get done. For instance, make a playlist of upbeat songs for when the two of you are cleaning house. You know the songs that get you moving so that you are dancing while you are cleaning. You can even have dinner music to play lightly in the back ground during supper time. Don't forget sensual music to play when you are well for lack of a better phrase, getting it on. Music has such a powerful way of affecting our life that we need to use it to our advantage more often. Sit down tonight and the two of you hash out some playlist for your life and you might just find yourselves dancing together more often.

Can you live without your partner?

As we age we grow more and more dependent on our partner. Once the children are gone and have their own lives we find ourselves returning to a place that we were at during the early stages of our relationship. We now have time for each other again, time to date, time to ourselves anything we want to do. It is like a second honeymoon. What happens when the that all changes and one of you passes away? In so many cases you see the other partner stop functioning or unable to function as they once did. How many times have you witnessed an older person passing and not long after their partner passes. Losing that love doesn't have to be a downward turn for the other partner. There are things to live for like grandchildren and you can enjoy those things knowing the other partner would have wanted you to. Understand at some point and time one of you will pass before the other, that is the usual way it happens.

My suggestion for couples are to be a couple but be able to function as an individual. Know how to handle all things around your house from the bills to the laundry. Know where the life insurance policies are, and the list of how to get a hold of all the people you both know. Find things to enjoy by yourself, don't stop sharing with your partner but have something for yourself. That thing might be what you need in the event you lose your partner. With all this you need to live each day thankful of the wonderful person your in a relationship with. Get past all those little things that bug you but don't really mean anything in the scope of life. Be strong have your own identity but enjoy your partner all you can.

Holding hands can make a difference.

Tough times are hard to get through. Once simple thing that will make it a little better is holding hands during them. Funerals, financial troubles, hurt feelings are all things that the simple act of holding hands will benefit both partners. The support and ability to lean on your partner is one of those things that makes relationships wonderful. You can give gifts, go on vacations, and have parties out the butt. However when the chips are down a simple hand holding for support will work wonders.

Are you good to lean on during troubled times?

Part of being in a relationship is being there for you partner when they need you. Do you offer support and encouragement for them when things are bothering them? If not you need to step back and take a look at this today. Don't ignore even a little problem you partner has if nothing else listening will help. Avoid saying things like that is silly or anything that would belittle their concerns. If you do feel like they are wrong in their thinking try to get them to look at it in a different angle. Put a twist on it so that they can see the other side of the situation. With some good communication skills you will be the rock in your relationship. This will also open up the lines of other communication that is so important in a relationship. If you partner feels they can't be comfortable telling you their concerns then you are shutting down an important part of your relationship. Open you ears and listen totally before you make any suggestion or solutions, sometimes the answer will present itself once they speak their mind.

Women and need oral sex! (Click here to learn more)

I know most of the people out there don't like to talk about oral sex or sex in general. Thank goodness that is changing, with new research and people wanting to get the most out of life. Times they are a changing and if you want to stay in front of the times you need to get on board. Today I want to talk about oral sex for women. Yes we know 99% of you men love to get oral sex and we as men are not afraid to say it. Women on the other are usually not as open about it as men. Why not? Most of the studies I have looked into report that most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Oral sex is a great way to stimulate that area of the woman so it should be a no brainer. Men if you want to treat your woman right you need to improve your oral sex technique. Okay men think about how good it feels when you orgasm, don't you want your lady to feel the same. Two decades ago it only 20% of coupes were having oral sex recent info shows that 70% of couples do now a days. That is quite an improvement and it also says if your not having oral sex you are not in the majority.

So as the great men that we are you need to get information and learn! Today is there is no shame in getting information you can do it without having any one else know with the Internet. I will even link to a site that will help you. Ladies you have to be helpful also. Communication is the key let your man know if you like what he is doing. If you feel a little uncomfortable talking about it set up a sign to show him he is doing something right or wrong. Caress his head if you are enjoying what he is doing or maybe tap his head if you don't like something. Believe me your man will be appreciative to know if he is doing right or wrong. A great book to help is called "The Low Down on Going Down" and I will put it in my amazon favorites on the side.

Pleasure is the key here. You both want to have the bet time during sex and oral sex is a very positive tool. Now what are you waiting on either get busy learning or just get busy. One side note for the ladies orgasms boost the bodies levels of endorphins, which are mood enhancers, which in turn boost the number of lymphocytes that help your immune system. So having orgasms actually help your overall health.

If your horny, raise your hand.

Here is a quick activity that will get you hopefully into some intimacy quickly. Walk into the room your partner is occupying and announce in a very loud voice. If anyone is horny in this room raise your hand. The shock value alone will be enough to get a strange look from your partner. Hopefully, they will raise their hand. When they do you go over grab them and quickly head upstairs for a little one on one action. Now don't do this during a family reunion or a party, you might get way to many hands in the air. This is for when you have the house to yourself and, well, your horny!