A morning massage just might be what the doctor ordered.

On those days that you get to snuggle together in the mornings you might take advantage of the time to start your partners day out right. A morning massage no matter how small might just kick start your partners day. Gently start rubbing you partners shoulders to see if they are receptive to the morning massage. One sure way to know is if you hear the moan of pleasure. That is the tell tell sign that you should continue. A massage not only gets the blood flowing but it also stimulates the nerves in that area and really will give your partner a wonderful sensation. When you wake in the morning you might be a little more relaxed so that the massage has a bigger impact on your partner. Plus it just plain feels good to have the person you love's hands touching you the first thing in the morning. Some of the great places to focus on are the shoulders, the arms, the legs and a big one is the feet. A massage can be a wonderful feeling but it is much more than that can be a wonderful way to build closeness in your relationship. The feeling that you partner is thinking about your well being right from the start of the day, should grace your face with a smile.

Use different words.

Okay we all have our basic vocabulary and we use the same words over and over to describe things. You use the same little name for your partner like sweetie, honey, or baby. Time to mix that up a little and increase your vocabulary. Once a week look up a different word to use to describe you partner. Speak to them in this manner or use it in your emails that you send. Words like beloved, handsome, beautiful, are great and different. Try to use words that build them up and make them feel good about themselves as well as the way you feel about them. Get far reaching and try to find words they might have to look up to see what they mean. Not only will it help your vocabulary but it will help show how vast your love for you partner is.

Monday Morning Blues!

Monday's always seem to bring about the blues. Maybe it is back to work or the fact that the weekend is over, but Monday just gets a bum rap. In our relationships Monday is the day that is least likely to have anything special going on. Why don't we try to spice Monday up a little and get your week started right. Plan things for Monday that might make this day zoom by a little quicker. Maybe you start going out to dinner on Mondays. Monday would be a great date night because there wouldn't be as long of lines at the restaurants, the movies or other entertainment venues. That could give you something to look forward to on Mondays. Get up a little early and start your week out with a little morning sex to get the ball rolling. The excitement will make your day start out with a bang instead of a blah. Whatever your tastes you can dress your Mondays up a little thus making the week and your relationship start out on a better note.

Women First!

We all know that chivalry is almost dead. Partly because people are selfish now and partly because women don't want to be made to feel like they are less then men. What ever the reason you shouldn't take it into your bedroom. By this I mean you should focus on the woman's sexual needs first then the mans. Why you might ask? Simple it takes the woman much longer to heat up sexually then the man in most cases. She needs to be heated up much like you heat your oven before you cook in it. Men on the other hand and ready to go as soon as the clothes hit the floor, so they are like a microwave. This is why we focus on the women first giving them time to enjoy the whole intimacy. Gone are the days when the guy finishes and rolls over to go to sleep. The women need satisfaction, too. Not all women need to orgasm to enjoy sex but you still need to give them that chance. I suggest always start by focusing on the woman's enjoyment, men you know you will be ready when she is so just be a little patient. The more you warm her up the better your cooking will be.

Now if you in a same sex relationship then you just have to decide who takes longer and start with them.

Budgets, budgets, budgets.

Budgets they are a fact of life in a relationship. It seemed so easy to stay on budget before you had a partner and maybe even children. When you only had to worry about yourself and the unknown things that popped up. Now you have to worry about the rest of the people in your family, too. Well here is a great way to start to get used to using a budget. Start out by making a budget for your dates, say you only have like $50 to spend on a evening out. See how the two of you start to work together to figure out where you want to dedicate the most money. Maybe you would rather have a nice dinner so the rest of the night you have to do things on the cheap. Or maybe the food doesn't matter and you eat before you go out and spend the money on movies or at the bar for drinks. This is the fun part and it gets you working together a staple to any happy relationship. Once you start to get your dates within you budget, then branch out and start doing it at the supermarket or when you go shopping. Soon you will have easy conversations when it comes to money. This might not make your finances in the best shape but it will start giving you tools to use to make the most of what you do have, and that is a great relationship.

Date nights a must for all long term relationships

One thing that you have to do when you are in a long term relationship is to continue to date each other. It might sound silly but the use of dates can keep your relationship fresh and exciting for many many years to come. Plan your dates well in advance so that you have time to find a baby sitter, or save for a night out for the two of you. Make sure you have specific things to do also as to not waste the night wondering what to do. Make your date night a specific time either each week or month. You can make it the 2nd Friday of each month or every thursday night it just depends on what fits your schedule. Make it a grand even and if you want to make if feel like a real date have one partner come knock on the door to pick you up. One last thing make sure you end each date with a make out session if it ends up with a little action in the bedroom is up to you.

Take advantage of time apart.

There are times when you and your partner will have to spend some nights apart. Be it work, children commitments, or just functions they are attending you will have to break apart. This might not be hard for some couples. However, some people have trouble sleeping when their partner is not in bed with them, or they seem lost and don't know what to do for sure. If you are one of these people that your life revolves around your relationship then you need to prepare for nights apart. Save things you need to get done for you times apart, rent movies you have wanted to watch that your partner might not enjoy, catch up with some old friends, anything you can think of to keep your mind off the time. By doing this you will soon find that the time has passed and you are ready for bed. Another thing you might do is stay up later than normal so that you are really tired when you got to bed. This way you don't lay in bed and think about that special person that is not beside you. Remember the time will pass and use it to your advantage. Get things done so that you have time with your partner when they return. Clean the house if you have nothing else to do that will occupy a lot of time.

Teasing a sport in it's own right.

As a couple you are a little more accepting of good nature teasing between the two of you. Heck others could say the same things you partner says but you might deck them. There is a level of trust that comes when you partner teases you, not like you feel when someone else teases you. You might even be able to consider it foreplay. Some couples get great joy out of teasing each other. They get a great rush out of the feeling of teasing each other. Bantering back and forth can create a sexual tension that could just erupt at any point during the evening. Use this to you advantage. Tease with the intention of getting the other person riled up. Use this as your intention of brining them up to the level they would need to be greatly aroused then see if you can coax them into an all out assault on your pleasure. A word of caution this can also back fire on you if you hit a nerve that might send your partner reeling in the other direction. So tread lightly and I hope it works out for you.

Wine Glasses.

Something every couple should have is a good set of wine glasses. You don't have to have a whole bar full and they don't have to be the most expensive glasses. When the two of you get a chance to sit down and share a bottle of wine you don't want to be putting it into the last glasses the McDonald's sold. Nor do you want to pour wine into two totally different glasses that makes you feel like they are are the only ones you can find. There is some symbolic meaning in the fact that the two of you share the exact same glass for the purpose of the drink. This is that it shows you are equals and share in the responsibility of building your relationship. It shows that you are equals and that your love flows from one another like the wine flows across your lips. I don't care if you purchase the cheapest wine in the store you need to make sure you have matching glasses for your toast of love. Once you pour the wine and wait for each other to sip of it's delight you will understand what I am saying.

Speak my name!

Let me ask you this question how many times to you say your partners name? If you are like most couples you use pet names like babe, honey, sweetheart, etc to address the love of your life. For the next couple of days I want you to try speaking your partners name when you talk to them. For starters it will mix things up a bit and get them aroused that you are using their name. Do this even during any intimate or passion you might have between the two of you. When you climax call out their name, when you want to ask them a question use their name, or even when you are just talking to them use their name in the conversation. Their brain will pick up on this change and it will make them feel good knowing that your thoughts and speaking is directed at them and not just anyone. This might help keep your relationship in that beginning state before you were comfortable enough to use pet names. Mix it up a bit, because it might be a bit much to only use their name all the time, but the fun part will be to watch their reactions the first few times you do this.

Make today a special holiday!

Okay so there is nothing special about today, unless it might happen to be your birthday. However you can make everyday a special day just by declaring it to be. Do this in your relationship just to help build up your love and passion. Make up a silly holiday and then let your partner know what this holiday is. You can send them a text message, an email or you can even just leave them a hand written note. If the two of you have a calendar that you both use then you can even put the holiday on your calendar. Some examples of special holidays might be : GIVE YOUR WIFE A BIG KISS DAY, BACK RUB DAY, of WEAR SEXY PANTIES DAY. You can make them as silly as you want after all it is a day that you are making up. Be funny and creative and make them very specific. These holidays can be made to fit anything you wish from taking a trip to inducing intimacy. Some other examples might be TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER DAY, WATCH A BALLGAME DAY, or MARATHON SEX DAY. You could even make a pact to let each other invent a holiday each month and the other has to help observe it with you. Now get on with it and enjoy your holiday, what ever it might be.

Are you good to lean on during troubled times?

Part of being in a relationship is being there for you partner when they need you. Do you offer support and encouragement for them when things are bothering them? If not you need to step back and take a look at this today. Don't ignore even a little problem you partner has if nothing else listening will help. Avoid saying things like that is silly or anything that would belittle their concerns. If you do feel like they are wrong in their thinking try to get them to look at it in a different angle. Put a twist on it so that they can see the other side of the situation. With some good communication skills you will be the rock in your relationship. This will also open up the lines of other communication that is so important in a relationship. If you partner feels they can't be comfortable telling you their concerns then you are shutting down an important part of your relationship. Open you ears and listen totally before you make any suggestion or solutions, sometimes the answer will present itself once they speak their mind.

Get out in the cold, so you can warm up together later.

Even though it is winter time for most of us there are still plenty of things for couples to do outside. You can always dress up really warm and go for a exhilarating walk in the cold air. Snow skiing is another way couples can pass the time outside and there are several forms you can participate in. Your normal down hill skiing, sledding, tubing, and cross country skiing are just a few activities that can get the two of you outside, with being able to be together. Building snowmen, making snow angels or just challenge the local kids to a snowball fight. Just make sure to dress warmly and enjoy each others company. Now after you spend all this time out in the cold air, you are going to need to warm up. What better way then to snuggle up together in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while you touch each other. At this time of year nothing is more romantic then enjoying a warm fire with the person you want to be closest to.

Gift Card Yourselves!

We sometimes lose sight of our relationship during last minutes before Christmas. We are thinking of everyone else we care about and sometimes our relationships get pushed to the back behind the family gatherings and parties. To make sure you make up for these missed times during your holiday season, make it a point to purchase a gift card to someplace every time you have to attend one of these functions. This way you know that when the holidays are over you will have more of a reason to go to the places you have gift cards for. Places like restaurants, movie theaters, or even miniature golf. Keep the cards in sight and you will defiantly use them in the up coming months. This way not only do you give yourself a little Christmas Cheer but you also get to catch up on the time you are missing with your special person.

Respect your partners work!

Have you ever had on of those day where it seems like your partner is constantly doing something around the house. Be it chores, or fixing something they seem to be busy all day. Do you feel guilty like you need to be doing more but don't really have anything to do or complete within the time frame. Well instead of trying to find something to match what your partner is doing, why not find a way to reward them for their hard work. Maybe you could fix them a special dinner or take them out. How about treating them to a sexy little evening where they just relax and you make them very happy. Sometime just simply telling them thank you or giving them a great big kiss is a great way to tell them you appreciate them. If you try to match them in completing chores around the house, then all that happens is you are both tired at the end of the day. We all want to be babied a little at time so relax and get ready to take care of your partner after they finish what they are working on. If you are struggling in a way to thank them, remember this a massage goes a long way to making someone feel special.

Back-up your relationship

You know how you back up the files on your computer so you don't lose anything, if your system crashes. Well you need to do the same thing with your relationship. Sometimes we forget all the wonderful moments we have had together. We lose the sight of how special the person we are with is and all the wonderful things they have done. When you get to this point, it is time to reboot our feelings and remember and understand why we are with this person. Think back to the times when you were first dating and the things that drove you wild about this person. I bet if you look closely you will see that those qualities are still there, plus a lot of other ones that you have experienced during your time together. This is a great exercise to perform if you are currently stalling in your relationship. We all get comfortable and lazy so reboot your feelings and start over with that same person. Be silly with them like you were during the first few months of your relationship. Was there something special you did for them during those early stages, if so revisit that. We can't always look forward in your relationship without looking back to see what got us to this point.

Make a fun Halloween Dinner!

We all know that candle light dinners are a staple for the romantic. Since it is Halloween why not make a spooky dinner for you partner (and kids if you have them) Get some old spooky looking table settings and then purchase some fake spider webs to dress up the table. Then pick out some crazy and spooky recipes from this link Halloween Dinner Ideas

Then create your meal and invite your partner to a halloween dinner if they dare. Top off the night by

Playing silly Halloween music like the song "The Monster Mash" Later you can slip into a costume

that might not be so child oriented, if you know what I mean. (wink wink)

Light Bondage.

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Make Sex Promises

I am a big fan of anticipation, it is one of those things that can drive you to get things don't faster and to help build excitement. What I want you to do today is to make a sexual promise to your partner. In the morning tell them you will perform a specific task on them at a certain time during the night. You might thing what will that do for our relationship. Well let me tell you, your partner will now start to think about this activity and begin building it up in his/her mind. Anticipation will begin to kick in and they will start to feel more and more excited as the time nears. Sure you have taken the spontaneity out of the event but they are anxious to get it started. If you like make stipulations on the event. Tell them they have to take out the garbage and you will give them a sexual surprise. What ever you decide on having them do make sure you follow through on your promise and give them the excitement they will be craving.

Drinking and Sex

I would like to hear peoples opinions on drinking and sex. I have heard several different views on what is acceptable. Some people believe that you shouldn't have any drinks before you have sex with another person. I also know others that have to have to drink to get loosened up as they put it. In my opinion there is a large grey area here. Several things must be considered to decide. For starters are we talking one drink or getting drunk, I believe that a few drinks are not harmful to the act or to the person as they have sex. On the other hand getting total wiped out is never a good idea no matter what you are doing. Not being in control is never a good way to be. If you do find yourself in this position I hope you are with your trusting partner that will take care of you and make sure you are safe. Alcohol has been proven to have some good effects on your health, but doing it to excess does just the opposite. My stand on this debate is have a couple of drinks, beers or glasses of wine will not hurt your sex life. To much can add problems such as erection problems, not using birth control properly, and even getting yourself into situations that might be harmful to your health. Just as when you are doing anything else drink in moderation and if you have to much then just tell you partner to be the designated masturbater tonight.