Use a long drive for deep talks.

Long drives are normally tiring and boring for everyone, especially the one doing the driving. As a couple you can help each other out by saving some deep conversations for your drive. Be it that you are going on vacation or just have a long drive ahead of you. A great conversation not only keeps the driver alert but it also makes the trip seem shorter. If you are the one not driving make sure to bring up subjects that are interesting and fun to talk about for your partner. Ask for their opinion on things and see if you can hit a passionate nerve for them to speak about. The meaning of life, desires for the future, past experiences are just a few things you can start conversations about. As you get into deep conversation the miles seem to pass quite faster and you might even reach your destination a little more refreshed then you would have imagined. If you two are alone in the car it is a great time to talk about your relationship. Don't talk about things that anger you, we don't want a fight on our drive, but the good things in your relationship. Praise your partner as you proceed on your drive. We so often don't tell our partner how good they make us feel and this is a wonderful time to do it. Touch the drivers arm or leg from time to time to give that human touch that is so important and also stimulates their feeling of being loved. Switch drivers when needed but try to keep the conversation going. Nothing makes a drive longer then when everyone is asleep and the driver has nothing to do besides focus on driving. The road becomes longer, and the driver becomes uncomfortable and itching for some human interaction. Music and food can help but it is not near as fun or exciting as that wonderful conversation the two of you could be having.

Quite making excuses

Relationships are full of excuses. Excuses to get out of attending events, excuses for not having friends over, excuses for why the house is a mess, excuses for not making love and we can all fall into this trap. Excuses are easy to make up so that you don't have to go out of your way to do things. They can be as easy as I am tired to as complex as having several back up excuses so that if the first ones don't work you are covered. You can not mow the lawn because it's hot, or you can not go to your friends cook out because someone you don't like is going to be there. These are all cop outs and they don't allow you to live like you should. Stop making excuses today! Start living your life again and start enjoying your relationship like it is new again. Take that dance class, go to that ballgame, stay up late, enjoy life without excuses.

Back-up your relationship

You know how you back up the files on your computer so you don't lose anything, if your system crashes. Well you need to do the same thing with your relationship. Sometimes we forget all the wonderful moments we have had together. We lose the sight of how special the person we are with is and all the wonderful things they have done. When you get to this point, it is time to reboot our feelings and remember and understand why we are with this person. Think back to the times when you were first dating and the things that drove you wild about this person. I bet if you look closely you will see that those qualities are still there, plus a lot of other ones that you have experienced during your time together. This is a great exercise to perform if you are currently stalling in your relationship. We all get comfortable and lazy so reboot your feelings and start over with that same person. Be silly with them like you were during the first few months of your relationship. Was there something special you did for them during those early stages, if so revisit that. We can't always look forward in your relationship without looking back to see what got us to this point.

Get Some Culture.

Relationship are build on similar likes and dislikes at the start. As we mature though these things might change a little and your relationship needs to chage with them. For instance you might have enjoyed punk rock music as a teenager when you and your sweety started dating. Now that you are 30 years old that might not be a common interest between the two of you. As we get older we need to find new things that we can add to our relationship to keep us connected. I want to challenge you to find some other culture to add to your relationship as it blossoms. Go see a syphony or a broadway show. Eat at some different types of resturants, or try something you have never tried together. Take a white water rafting trip or bike down a mountain. When you complete each new adventure assess it and see if it is something you might want to do again. You might find out you really hate it but unless you try you don't know that for sure. Find out what other couples are doing and get some ideas from them, you might even find something you can do together such as sailing or rock climbing. The possiblities are endless and so will be your love if you keep it fresh.

You drive then I drive

If your like most couples one of your is the dominate driver. That is the person that drives most of the time you go places. It is natural and some people love to drive. Well the next time you go on a trip of even just a long drive. Make sure to bust up the driving time equally. This gives both of you change to relax and enjoy the scenery it also allows both of you to be the gopher and the conversation starter. We have a lot of great conversations driving places and most of the time they start by one of us reading about something and then discussing it. As partners we want to both be refreshed when we get to our destination so splitting the drive will allow both of us down time to sleep of just put the seat back and stretch out. We all have heard about jet lag but car lag can be just as bad.

So you can bust up the time as you like but I suggest stopping or pulling over every hour or two hours to switch drivers. Never let one person drive more than two hours at a time. They will get a stiff neck or just be a little more tense then if they would have not driven that much. Take breaks and stop to see odd things along the way. Get a copy of Weird America and find some of the topic in the book it will make your trip so much more enjoyable.