The answers are simple.

Do you want to improve your relationship? If you say yes, then the steps you take are simple. Just put more effort into your relationship. Just like anything else with the more effort you put into building your relationship the better it will be. Get away from excuses like, I'm tired, I'm not putting in the effort unless he/she does, or I just don't feel like it. Excuses are just ways of being lazy and the cure for lazy is effort. Take is slow and each day make it a point to put a little more effort into loving your partner and your relationship. Soon you will start seeing it happen naturally and you will see your relationship blossom.

"A relationship without passion is like a sword without a handle" - Zob

The quote in the title of this post bears a lot of weight into how you should be thinking about your relationship. Way to often in life we become comfortable and forget to work at one of the most treasured thing in our life, our relationships. We put them to the side for later or move them to the back burner hoping to get around to them sooner or later. Well this is the wrong way to keep a relationship healthy and active. You should do just the opposite, and let me tell you why. Your relationship dictates all your actions, you might think this is crazy but when you really think about it you know that it is true. After watching the movie The Secret, I soon realized that the power starts with you and those that are immediately involved in your life. This passion, if you will is like a snow ball and gains as it rolls down hill, and without passion you are at the bottom of the hill. How much harder is it to push that enlarging snowball up the hill? Chew on that for a minute. Try it out the next time you get a chance and really put some wonderful effort into your relationship, from every angle. Be loving, be caring, be sexual and be attentive and see what happens. I think you will find that your relationship will grow like a flower that gets all it needs to blossom in the warm summer sun. I am curious to hear from our audience as to how they feel on the subject so drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com Look forward to your comments.

Get Some Culture.

Relationship are build on similar likes and dislikes at the start. As we mature though these things might change a little and your relationship needs to chage with them. For instance you might have enjoyed punk rock music as a teenager when you and your sweety started dating. Now that you are 30 years old that might not be a common interest between the two of you. As we get older we need to find new things that we can add to our relationship to keep us connected. I want to challenge you to find some other culture to add to your relationship as it blossoms. Go see a syphony or a broadway show. Eat at some different types of resturants, or try something you have never tried together. Take a white water rafting trip or bike down a mountain. When you complete each new adventure assess it and see if it is something you might want to do again. You might find out you really hate it but unless you try you don't know that for sure. Find out what other couples are doing and get some ideas from them, you might even find something you can do together such as sailing or rock climbing. The possiblities are endless and so will be your love if you keep it fresh.