Get a jump on your fireplace now.

For those of you lucky enough to have a fire place inside your house, now is the time to get things ready for those romantic nights spend in front of the fire as the snow flies. Do some initial checking to make sure you fire place is clean and ready to warm up the night. Hire a chimney sweep to get a professional job, they really are not that expensive and will add live and safety to your fire place. Once you know that the fire place is ready it is time to make sure the area around the fireplace is ready. Do you have comfortable chairs to relax in as the you listen to the crackle of the wood. Speaking of wood have you stocked up on it, once the first snow starts falling it makes it a little harder to get the wood and if you pay for it, it will be more expensive once the snow hits. Make sure you have plenty of tables around for sitting drinks or books or anything else you might need as the fire warms you up. Stock up on your favorite relaxing drink and make sure you have the proper tools to work with the fire. All this work might seem a bit much right now but think of it this way when your partner drops their robe to reveal a sexy little nighty the last think you want to worry about is that it is getting cold in the room. Now on the other hand if you have everything in place you are free to enjoy that little nighty, too

Set up a date...In the shower.

We love being naked together and a natural place to do this is in the shower. Yet we are usually so stuck on getting ready for work or starting out day that we don't have time to enjoy a wonderful sexy shower with our partner. I suggest setting a date to take place in the shower. Take turns washing each other and just hugging as the water caresses your bodies. See how the water pools up on parts of your bodies as you hold each other. Kiss each others wet warm skin. Enjoy the solitude you as a couple have in this wonderful sensation we call a shower. Use this as foreplay for a night of great love making. You can also use it as a way of being close after love making. When ever you find time for it you will be happy you did. Go into the date shower with the mind set of getting out only when the water starts getting cold.

Shower together.

One of the most intimate things you can do together is take a shower with each other. Sure it is not the easiest way to take a shower, but we are not talking about your morning shower before work. We are talking about a long hot shower with lots of soap sharing and taking turns washing each other. The beauty of the taking a shower together is it lets you see each other naked, when you are in bed together you miss that imagery. Be sexy and enjoy the warm water the warm bodies and the touch. OH those soapy touches where you hands glide over each other, ummmh that is pure delight. The images of soap running down a curvy body sends shivers down my spine. You might also think about shower sex but that is a bit challenging depending on the heights of each other, but it is worth a try just make sure to be safe. Slips and falls in the shower can drastically change your mood. Let each other wash the others erogenous zones and sit back and enjoy the feeling. As a kicker let the other person wash your hair it is a relaxing experience that will loosen you up right from the start. Last thing make sure you have the biggest fluffiest towels that you have in the house to rap up in after the shower because with all that heat in your shower it will be very cold once you get out.

"A relationship without passion is like a sword without a handle" - Zob

The quote in the title of this post bears a lot of weight into how you should be thinking about your relationship. Way to often in life we become comfortable and forget to work at one of the most treasured thing in our life, our relationships. We put them to the side for later or move them to the back burner hoping to get around to them sooner or later. Well this is the wrong way to keep a relationship healthy and active. You should do just the opposite, and let me tell you why. Your relationship dictates all your actions, you might think this is crazy but when you really think about it you know that it is true. After watching the movie The Secret, I soon realized that the power starts with you and those that are immediately involved in your life. This passion, if you will is like a snow ball and gains as it rolls down hill, and without passion you are at the bottom of the hill. How much harder is it to push that enlarging snowball up the hill? Chew on that for a minute. Try it out the next time you get a chance and really put some wonderful effort into your relationship, from every angle. Be loving, be caring, be sexual and be attentive and see what happens. I think you will find that your relationship will grow like a flower that gets all it needs to blossom in the warm summer sun. I am curious to hear from our audience as to how they feel on the subject so drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com Look forward to your comments.

Be prepared as a couple.

Recently our furnace when out, during the middle of winter. Upon finding out from our local heating and cooling specialist that we needed to purchase a new furnace, we also were told that they couldn't put said furnace in for three days. This threw our whole relationship on tilt as we had to figure out how to live in just a couple of rooms in our house with only the heat of space heaters. Being the couple that we are we found all the blankets in the house and our warmest clothes to put on and sit about to snuggle the weekend away. It sounded like a great idea and we both figured that if nothing else we might find time to have a little fun under the blankets. To our dismay the temperature dropped to the lowest point in had been all year and instead of using the friction of our naked bodies to keep us hot, instead we found us in flannel sheets with pajamas on snuggling to stay warm. Neither of us even considered taking our clothes off for even a short time, so there was going to be no intimacy during this time, or was there? Turns out the snuggling without the thought of sex send us back to a simpler time and we talked and snuggled as much as we could. We watched some great movies and ate or dinner with blankets wrapped around us. We all make fun of the snuggies but believe you, I would have loved to had one at this time. We spent a wonderful three days together saying warm and reconnecting with the use of conversation and snuggling. Don't get me wrong as soon as the heat was back on we both were ready to pounce on each other. However, it was nice to go back to a simpler time when all you needed was your partner to get through any situation. The rock that is called a relationship is sometimes way more powerful then we think. In closing make sure your relationship can handle all these bumps in the road, because they will come when you least expect it and their is no one better to ride out these situations with then your partner.

Keep your partner comfortable with the changing of the season.

Right now where we live it is cold and snowy but before we know it the weather will change and the heat will be unbearable. Keeping your living space livable is your mission. Do you have extra blanket in the areas your partner will frequent during the cold months? Places where they like to curl up and read or on your bed to keep warm and snuggly? With these simple things as placing a blanket somewhere can really improve you stock in the relationship. Maybe whipping up some hot chocolate or buying some warm slippers will not only help keep the blood pumping in your partner but will also help you keep your fuel bills down. Same goes for the summer hot months do you have fans ready for the really hot days. Again, offering some ice cold drinks would make you look like a saint as the mercury in the thermometer rises. Make sure you also have all your clothes ready for the changing of the seasons also. Sweaters and sweatshirts for fall and winter and shorts and t-shirts when spring and summer roll around. By keeping your partner comfortable you will reap the rewards as they have to thank you is some manner.

Get out in the cold, so you can warm up together later.

Even though it is winter time for most of us there are still plenty of things for couples to do outside. You can always dress up really warm and go for a exhilarating walk in the cold air. Snow skiing is another way couples can pass the time outside and there are several forms you can participate in. Your normal down hill skiing, sledding, tubing, and cross country skiing are just a few activities that can get the two of you outside, with being able to be together. Building snowmen, making snow angels or just challenge the local kids to a snowball fight. Just make sure to dress warmly and enjoy each others company. Now after you spend all this time out in the cold air, you are going to need to warm up. What better way then to snuggle up together in front of the fireplace sipping hot cocoa while you touch each other. At this time of year nothing is more romantic then enjoying a warm fire with the person you want to be closest to.

Learn about other cultures this Christmas.

We here in the United States are pretty secure in our view of Christmas so much so that we actually don’t know how other cultures view Christmas. One thing that is hard for me to understand is what do people do that live in warm climates during Christmas. Obviously they don’t go sledding or make snowmen. I think it would be a wonderful thing if the two of you picked a country and did some research on how the celebrate Christmas. Maybe you can pick a place that your ancestors hailed from? Find out what kind of dishes they eat, how the view Santa, what the weather is during the holiday, and traditions that the have handed down from generation to generation. Who knows maybe you will find something you like and start it as a tradition in your house. Try to put some of the culture you learn about into the two of your Christmas this season.

Get Jolly for Christmas

We are no officially in the Christmas season, and being festive can be really romantic between the two of you. First thing you need to do is pick a theme for your Christmas Tree. Pick something that appeals to both of your, be it cartoon characters, snowmen, or even your favorite football team. If you don't want to do a theme then you can pick a specific color to decorate your tree in. The most important thing is for the two of you to do it together. Building memories for a lifetime, make sure to take plenty of pictures and spend as many hours sitting together looking at your work of art during this holiday season.

If you have little ones at home you can let them help pick the theme, and obviously you want them to help with the decorations. Snuggle down with them and some hot chocolate and enjoy the wonderful season with these little wonders.

Time to break out the Flannel?

We all know that flannel is warm and is great to snuggle it but is it sexy? Flannel sheets can add a great deal of warmth your bed, thus making it great to get under the covers with you lover. Flannel nightgowns have forever been linked to women that do not want to be touched or invaded during the night. You can however change this image of flannel, by simply changing your attitude and your partners. Men you can get some flannel boxer that feel great on your body and great when you lover puts their hands all over them. Women you might have to do a little research but you can find sexy flannel pajamas. You have to do a little work and make sure not to get them in a larger size then you need. I believe that the size is what make flannel PJ's unsexy and not the material. Most women I see wearing these type of PJ's have them large and bulky, but if they are tighter and show a little more of your curves I think just the opposite. If they bulky ones are all you have then slip a little something else on under the flannels to surprise you partner with once they get you in bed. Think of the look on their face as the unbutton your flannels only to find a sexy pair of panties and bra underneath. The pictures on this page are from She She Pajamas and you can google their name to find more sexy flannel PJ's.

Sleeping Together (and I do mean sleeping)

You know what I find very sad? I know several older couples that sleep in separate beds. Some that even sleep in separate rooms. What happens in a relationship when you end up sleeping apart and or in separate rooms? What type of relationship is that? In my opinion, being close and touching while you sleep is a way to recharge your relationship. The security that your partner is close and the feeling you get when he/she touches you should be something you crave in a relationship. Cohabitation is not a option in a relationship. Why would anyone want that? I have heard many reasons: he moves too much, he snores, she keeps me awake, I want more room, and on and on.

Well, I think that with time a couple's sleeping and moving patterns become adjusted to each other. I think that your movements while asleep are routine and that sleeping together you get in sync with each other. Now, if you resist this then you might have trouble sleeping with your partner, but if you think of all the positives you might think of it a little differently. Think of the way he/she smells and the feel of his/her skin.  Think about how much you love to feel your partner's touch or that if you want to get a little frisky your partner is right there.

The warmer summer months make it a little tougher to sleep all snuggled up, but it is great in the winter.  Shared body heat can help you stay as warm as you want.  The next time your partner is asleep look over at him/her and think about how peaceful he/she looks.  Snuggle up and enjoy the blissfulness of slumber cuddled up to your beloved partner.