Set up a date...In the shower.

We love being naked together and a natural place to do this is in the shower. Yet we are usually so stuck on getting ready for work or starting out day that we don't have time to enjoy a wonderful sexy shower with our partner. I suggest setting a date to take place in the shower. Take turns washing each other and just hugging as the water caresses your bodies. See how the water pools up on parts of your bodies as you hold each other. Kiss each others wet warm skin. Enjoy the solitude you as a couple have in this wonderful sensation we call a shower. Use this as foreplay for a night of great love making. You can also use it as a way of being close after love making. When ever you find time for it you will be happy you did. Go into the date shower with the mind set of getting out only when the water starts getting cold.

Share some Fantasies

A fun and exciting way to express your fantasies is through short stories. Even if you are not the best writer in the world you can still express your desires in this manner. Take a day and both of your write out a fantasy story making sure to take your time to express details. Use your imagination but make it something you would like to try or explore. Then once your have written your erotic fantasy exchange them for each other to read. Not only will this get you horny by reading a sexy story but it will also give you a glimpse into your partners fantasies. You don't know you might find something that you both are curious about but afraid to mention. If you are too embarrassed to write your own story, pick up a book of erotic and take turns reading it to each other. If you click the title of this post you will go to the amazon site that holds my first short erotica story. There are many erotic writers out their and each has a different style and message. I enjoy erotica of things that might happen in a normal relationship, things I can actually imagine happening between my partner and me. I think I enjoy this type of erotica because you can use it as a guide to building your own fantasies. However there are several great writers out there that can send you to the farthest reaches of your imagination. Check out Susie Bright's books if you want to venture out from your normal everyday style of life. Never under estimate the power of erotica for turning people on.

Rainy Day - Great time to snuggle down

I don't know about everyone else, but a rainy day seems to turn me on. I enjoy hearing the rain as a backdrop for a romantic evening with my wife. The rhythmic sounds against our roof, gives me a since of calm and safety. It really gets me in the mood for love. I have to say I believe that my favorite time to be intimate is when it is raining. How can you not think rain is sexy? So many movies use the kiss in a warm summers rain, and it never fails to be a hot scene. With the clothes clinging to the couple and all their attention focused on each other. They don't even notice it's raining.

I also enjoy the thunder and lightning during intimate times. It makes you seem so much closer to your partner, never knowing when the booms and crashes will come. The storms strobe light, lights up your room from time to time. Now that is sexy. Now we can't predict when it's going to rain but we can set the mood, if that is what you like. They have recordings of rain storms that you can play in the background. I have also seen a video with the flash of lightning that crashes across the screen from time to time.

To me it seems like the violence of nature is soothed away by passion. A metaphor for a passionate night of sex. Think about it the storm creeps in slowly. Then before you know it thunder and lightning are all around you. At last peace comes back and calm covers the area that has just been cleansed. Sound like a night filled with passion to me!

Shower Talk

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)