Be a little aggressive in bed.

I read an interesting statistic the other day that claimed that most women wish their men were a little more aggressive in bed. It would seem that with women getting more in touch with their sexuality that gone are the days of slow and calm love making. I am sure after that last statement I will get tons of emails from women that love it slow and calm. However I am sticking to my feeling that women want to feel like their love making is passionate. To me passionate means not being able to control your desire for the person you are with. This make sense to me why women would love the aggressiveness. Who doesn't want to feel like their lover can't get enough of them. Here is a little secret ladies, men like you to be aggressive also. It seems that both sexes should go after what they want and well the sex will satisfy both of them. The only problem I for see is that if both partners want to be aggressive who gets to lead? I will let the two of you sort that out and maybe it is just a matter of taking turns or switching. Which ever works best for you doesn't matter but don't put the stove on simmer when you can put it on hot!

Set up a date...In the shower.

We love being naked together and a natural place to do this is in the shower. Yet we are usually so stuck on getting ready for work or starting out day that we don't have time to enjoy a wonderful sexy shower with our partner. I suggest setting a date to take place in the shower. Take turns washing each other and just hugging as the water caresses your bodies. See how the water pools up on parts of your bodies as you hold each other. Kiss each others wet warm skin. Enjoy the solitude you as a couple have in this wonderful sensation we call a shower. Use this as foreplay for a night of great love making. You can also use it as a way of being close after love making. When ever you find time for it you will be happy you did. Go into the date shower with the mind set of getting out only when the water starts getting cold.

Practice your kissing.

Remember when you were dating and you could kiss for hours on end. Using all the kissing techniques within your ability to impress your partner. It is time we take a little time and practice those techniques again. Set up a make out session for the two of you. You could rent a movie and kiss off and on through out the movie. You can also use it as great foreplay for your next sexual experience. Take time and enjoy the kissing like you did when you both were younger. You might just find yourself getting the euphoric state that you did the first few times they two of you kissed. Kissing is so good for you and your relationship that I think they are going to start bottling it.

A great time to make love!

One of our favorite times to make love is right when before the sun starts to set. We love the lighting it gives in our room. It acts as candle light letting you see and enjoy each others images but doesn't make you feel like your the center attraction at the circus. It allows you the freedom to see your sexy partner and watch them casually get ready to make love to you. You can also use the light as a timer. Make a deal to have foreplay until the light either reaches a certain point in the room or is no longer existent. This works create to help a partner that might be a little shy about being viewed because then once darkness hits they feel more comfortable. This might sound a little strange but for my partner and I it also allows us to get up and talk or get a snack or drink afterwards. We use this time to connect which right after sex there is no yearning or desire for physical intimacy. It allows you to focus on the mental side of intimacy which is very nice also.

Depending on your household situation you might have a little trouble starting love making at this time of day/night. Children and neighbors might create an issue as you attempt this amazing ritual. Good locks and shear curtains can go a long way in the pursuit of making love as the sun sets. You can also plan an overnight stay for your young ones at grandma's house. You could also take turns with other couples with children the same age so you both have the opportunity to enjoy a little uninterrupted alone time. Making love right before you drift off to sleep is fantastic, too. However, I would suggest you try a little sunset love and see how you like it.

Quite making excuses

Relationships are full of excuses. Excuses to get out of attending events, excuses for not having friends over, excuses for why the house is a mess, excuses for not making love and we can all fall into this trap. Excuses are easy to make up so that you don't have to go out of your way to do things. They can be as easy as I am tired to as complex as having several back up excuses so that if the first ones don't work you are covered. You can not mow the lawn because it's hot, or you can not go to your friends cook out because someone you don't like is going to be there. These are all cop outs and they don't allow you to live like you should. Stop making excuses today! Start living your life again and start enjoying your relationship like it is new again. Take that dance class, go to that ballgame, stay up late, enjoy life without excuses.

The thrill of getting caught.

Remember those days long ago when you where in high school and you learned to be stealth with you sexual activities. Not matter if it was masturbating in the bathroom or having you first sexual adventure in the basement. Part of the thrill was not getting caught. Unless you have children that venture into your room at any time then that thrill of getting caught has long since passed. You know have privacy and all the time you need to have amazing sex, but still in the back of our minds we long for that thrill of getting caught. You can rekindle that feeling between the two of you by sitting up some fantasy to bring it back. Set it up so you partner walks in while you are masturbating then once they find you have them ask you if you can help or watch. You can be daring and try to make love in more public places but with the fear of getting arrested I would not advise this. If you want to get the thrill of making love in a place you might get caught and arrested then look to the family activities. Times such as family Christmas parties or summer cookouts you can find a room not occupied and well you know the rest. At least if you get caught here you don't have to appear in court you just get labeled the couple that can't keep their hands off each other by the family.

Survey Results

Recently we conducted a survey on how often our viewers made love. We guessed pretty good on the outcome but were a little surprise at something. Sixty percent of The Couples Spot Viewers made love 2-3 times per week. This fit pretty well with the national percentage and I feel is a pretty good number to aim for in any relationship. Now what surprised me was that thirty percent of our viewers checked the "What is Sex" button. Meaning that they had sex less then once a month. This is a little disturbing, I can understand having months with dry spells but to constantly have this lack of sex in your life doesn't make much sense. Read some of our earlier posts on the advantages and health benefits of sex. We had a percentage of five for both of the once a week answer and the five or more times a week answer. We here at The Couples Spot feel these numbers are pretty accurate with the national percentages. We are concerned that maybe more people then we know need a boost in the sexual department within their relationships. So we will still be here giving as much advice as we can to hopefully get those "What is Sex" people back on the right track.

Make love on the opposite end of the bed.

You know how everyone always says they want more adventure in their love making. They want to try new positions and experiences. Well most people are under the impression that the new positions will bring then to a extraordinary climax. This might happen but most of the time the climax is the same it just take a different amount of time to achieve it. Well if you want to do something a little different in the bedroom but you are not a contortionist or into any suspension gadgets, then this little trick my help you our. Most of you make love in a normal position with your head up near the headboard. What I am suggesting is to rotate and put your heads down at the other end. Not only will it seem like a new position you view will be different leading you to believe you are in a different sexual position. Now the bed has four sides and I would suggest taking turns on all four sides. If you go for the woman on top position then you can do the same thing and get different looks at another four positions. It might not matter to some of the guys who just focus on the breast in this position but give it a try. Let me know what you think and how often you rotate your position.

Moving with your Love!

Much like remodeling, moving together is hard on a relationship. Deciding what to throw away and what to keep, adds challenge to any relationship. From the packing at the old place to the unloading at the new place, you have a lot of places to get steamed at each other. The move needs to be a team effort and what better team then the two of you. I suggest setting goals for the couple of you. Things like a nice dinner out after you get so far and I also suggest making love as soon as you get the bed into the house. Make sure to at least wait until others that are helping you are gone. Lots of massages for soar muscles will be in order, as well as lots of alone time for the two of you. Since most of your friends will disappear as soon as you start to move. Moving isn't all bad, the satisfaction you will get is amazing for your coupledom. Patience and love are the two ingredients you will need to make this a success.