Being a Leader In Your Relationship Can Be Sexy!

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Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. talked with Blair Glaser, psychotherapist, writer and consultant, today about leadership roles in relationships. They dug in a little bit into their personal relationship as they are business partners as well as a couple. What does being a CSO (Chief Sexual Officer) or CFO (Chief Financial Officer) in your relationship mean? Find out more about Blair and her programs at http://www.blairglaser.com.

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The thrill of getting caught.

Remember those days long ago when you where in high school and you learned to be stealth with you sexual activities. Not matter if it was masturbating in the bathroom or having you first sexual adventure in the basement. Part of the thrill was not getting caught. Unless you have children that venture into your room at any time then that thrill of getting caught has long since passed. You know have privacy and all the time you need to have amazing sex, but still in the back of our minds we long for that thrill of getting caught. You can rekindle that feeling between the two of you by sitting up some fantasy to bring it back. Set it up so you partner walks in while you are masturbating then once they find you have them ask you if you can help or watch. You can be daring and try to make love in more public places but with the fear of getting arrested I would not advise this. If you want to get the thrill of making love in a place you might get caught and arrested then look to the family activities. Times such as family Christmas parties or summer cookouts you can find a room not occupied and well you know the rest. At least if you get caught here you don't have to appear in court you just get labeled the couple that can't keep their hands off each other by the family.

Halloween is coming which means it is a great time to get into a little role play

Some couples enjoy a little role playing all through out the year. However it seems a lot easier to get into it around Halloween. Costumes are readily available during this time of year, even at your local discount store you can pick something simple up. A little change or something different is great for your relationship. Even if you just pick up a silly wig or a fake mustache you can give a night a little different zing. Maybe your one of those reserved people that thing by dressing up as someone or thing different means your partner doesn't find you attractive and wants something different. Let's put some thought into that, buy doing different things to spice up your life, wouldn't that make your relationship better and stronger? In my opinion, yes. You can even get the full blown costume at many online shops complete with all the accessories. The important thing to realize is that everyone has fantasies and catering to these fantasies not only shows your partner that you love them but it makes your relationship that much stronger. Think about it this way if you partner is getting his/her fantasies met at home why would they ever look else where. Now break out those handcuffs and that little sexy police outfit you have and have some fun frisking someone.

Is there room for fetishes in a relationship?

Can you have a fetish and still be in a committed relationship? The answer is definitely, yes. You just have to keep the fetish inside the realm of your relationship. You cannot have a fetish of having sex with two people at the same time if your partner does not want that. My opinion is that bringing someone else into your relationship is not a good idea. You can however have a foot fetish with your partner. A fetish that only includes your partner and you can be a great secret the two of you share. If you like to role play or dress up a little that can definitely add some spark to your relationship. Have you ever seen the newer Batman movies with Catwomen in them? A cat suit can be very sexy or a Batman suit heck even a little lone ranger mask can add a little excitement. Hi Ho trigger away. Think about something that totally turns you on about your partner. Then run with that idea maybe his but drives you wild then buy him some underwear that has the ass cut out. Maybe you again have a foot fetish about your wife then buy her open shoes or special toe nail polish. As long as your fetish doesn't hurt anyone or your relationship it can be a very special bond for the two of you. If you are uncomfortable with a partners fetish then let them know maybe you can find a compromise that will excite you both. Now go shut your bedroom door and enjoy your fetish after all it is you and your partner world once that door is shut. You might want to lock it if you have children however you don't want to explain why mommy or daddy is tied to the bed!!!! lol

Slip into somehting sexy, MEN?????

We are bombarded with sexy lingerie for women. We see it almost everyday, either in the mail or upon the television it is always in our face. I bet at least once a week I get a catalog from Victoria's Secret with scantly clad women adorning each page (it makes great ready material) However when you think of something sexy for a man to wear, you don't get a whole lot of ideas that pop into your head. Men it is hard for us to find something sexy to wear to make our partners do a double take on us.

Men today I am challenging you to find something sexy to wear to bed with your partner. The basic thought is your typical silk boxer shorts. The are great but don't leave make that sexy of a statement unless your partner touches them. Try to find out something that would turn you partner on. Are they a big sports fan? Then get some boxers with their favorite team on them. Purchase a cop uniform if you partner finds cops sexy. Try to find something that you can use so the next time you ask them to put on something sexy you can say "I did it for you"

As always have fun with it and go a little overboard. Life is way to short to be serious all the time. Take advantage of every opportunity you have.

A Hint of Role Play

In most couples it seems that one partner is a little hesitant to embark on role playing. For starters role playing can be fun and is a very healthy part of a relationship. It doesn't mean your partner wants someone else or that you are not good enough. It just means they want to spice things up a bit. If you are that partner that pulls back from role play a little, I want you to try and overcome your fear. Once you can get past it I am sure you will enjoy looking or acting a little different with your partner.

So here is my suggestion to those reluctant for role playing. Start out very small things like wearing a wig or trying to use a foreign accent, could be exciting. Maybe just go out and pick up a simple mask that just covers your eyes, you know like the Lone Ranger wore. There are endless little things that can make love making more exciting for both of you. At the very bottom of the scale you could just go out and get some sexy new underwear and surprise your lover, or some sexy stockings. Men you can change your facial hair or get a uniform shirt to surprise your partner. Get a new haircut, rent a car for the evening, or just wear something you would never wear. Doing something different will make your partner do a double take at you.

You can always move up if you start to get comfortable and you don't always have to include role play into your sex life. Heck we do it sometimes just for fun calling each other different names of speaking differently in public can be exciting also. One thing couples thing of when you say role play is that they have to have elaborate costumes and totally get into the role. Well you don't, you just have to find a level at which you are comfortable at and that is good enough. Heck something as simple as wearing different nail polish might drive your partner wild.

Now get out there and find something you are comfortable with and do it. Chances are you might enjoy it more then you think. Clink on the title of this post for some cute and fun costumes to spice things up.

Parent Together

In this day and age of rush rush, hurray up life style we often are left to tend to our offspring alone for long periods on time. It can get tough on one of the partners doing this alone. Most of the time it is due to work schedules or trying to save money on a sitter. What ever the case we all need to make sure we have time when all the family is together and both parents are present to show the child how to be in a relationship. Explain to you children why mommy or daddy is gone and that they are helping support the family. Just make sure you make time to do things together as a family. Go to the zoo, or a little league game and let your children see how a couple is suppose to act. Our children learn from us so show them how a mommy and daddy should act. We hear so many horror stories about what some children go through with parents that are addicted to drugs, drink a lot, or even worse are abusive to their children. Be a role model for you children as parents, and they will grow up to be positive adults, also. Make sure they know that mommy and daddy need alone time as well as time with them. Don't forget the most important part of raising a child together and that is lots of Hugs and Kisses, they are magical and make things a lot better.

For those of you who don't have children, then you can't understand what you are missing. Raising children is tough but so worth it. So if you don't have any children offer to watch your sisters or brothers children. Your siblings will enjoy the free time and you will get a little taste of what having kids is like, plus you can always take them home.

Role play may just be a name chage away!

Are you happy with your name? I hear so many people say I hate my name. Well my suggestion is to change it for a day. Pick a day when you and your partner are going out of town shopping or to eat, this helps avoid confusion with people that might know you. Then on your way to your destination decide on a name you would think you enjoy having. If your partner is game pick a name for them also. Then the rest of the day you have to call each other by that name. Yes it's silly but it might just help you step out of your normal personality and allow you to act differently then you usually act. The best part about it is, unless you run into people you know, no one knows the little secret the two of you have.

You could even make it your first date, between the two new people you have become. This is where a little role play might come in to the day. Make up information about you new identity and your background. Be outrageous as you tell your new partner about silly jobs you have had or dramatic events that have shaped your life. You might just find out some wishes your partner might have but be to embarrassed to say when they are their normal self. Who knows the names might even become pet names you use for each other.

Our life's are so busy and jammed with events, sometimes it is good to step outside of ourselves and see the world through someone else's eyes. Even if they are our eyes with just a different name attached.