Search out new things for lovers.

Relationships are a common ground most of the time. Their is safety and a routine that you start to follow. You get sucked into following the same schedule, eating the same things, and following the patterns that are comfortable. I want to suggest breaking out of those routines. Find something different to do. Take a class together or jus take off driving with no place in mind to go just end up someplace. When we were dating new experiences were all around us and part of that was trying to find out what your partner was like or what they enjoyed. Why does this have to stop take that energy you used and drag your partner to a cooking party or a dance class. Stop falling into the same pattern of wake, work, eat, sleep. Start experiencing life together as if you were dating again. You should make it a point to relearn your partner everyday.

Couples Sports.

There are lots of things you can enjoy together as a couple. Many of those things involve sports. Participating in a sport together can bring you closer and also be a fun activity to break up the everyday struggles of life. There are lots of sport to choose from, like golf, tennis, or dancing. However you might want to break away from the normal sports that the two of you can participate in and look for something different. Hiking, snorkeling, or weight lifting are sports that you don't do every day but they can build a relationship as you learn and become better at them. Turn it into a passion for the both of you. Research the gear you need compete in your new found love. Once the two of you are comfortable with your new activity you might want to look for other couples to enjoy it with also. Join group functions for you activity and get the big picture of how many others love it also. Not only will you forge new friendships but you will build the one between the two of you.

Be straight forward with what you want in the bedroom.

It is far to common for people to keep their desires locked away from everyone, and that is okay if you are hiding them from the general public. However if you are in a great relationship with someone you really care about then you need to cue them into your desires. It might be a little nerve racking to tell someone this important to you that you want something a little different in the bedroom, but believe me they are probably feeling the same way. Open up those lines of communication however don't be afraid to say if you are uncomfortable with the suggestion they give. I think you will be pleasantly surprise at the reactions you get to expressing your desires. We all have curiosities and want to experience new things and what better way to do that then to experiment a little in the bedroom. Make sure that if your partner opens up to you with a desire they have that you respond in the correct way. Consider anything that they say, but again don't be afraid to say no if you are totally uncomfortable with it. When you partner opens up to you in the manner make sure you respond with a request of your own, basically trade desires with each other. You know the old saying one hand washes the other, well one hand can role play while they other ties you up, too. Research the request together and makes sure you know all precautions that you might need to perform the request. Sex is an important part of any long term relationship, and spicing it up never hurts it's importance. Now, take a deep breath and tell you partner your desires, this will set the tone for a great relationship where communication is your best friend.

Create a great atmosphere

Sometimes when you are updating your house you over look some of the things that might come in handy later. Carpet is one of those things.

When you choose a carpet for your house you need to think about other things than cost.

I know most people try to get the cheaper carpet figuring they might have to replace it later. I want you to look at it from a different perspective. From the ground up, if you will.

How much time are you going to spend on the carpet? Do you and your partner like to lay on the floor and watch TV or talk? Do you have children that just like to roll around on the ground?

These type of questions might make you see why a super, soft, comfortable carpet might just be worth the money. I personally enjoy just laying on the carpet with my sweetheart or my children all snuggled up with me. It also makes a great place to stretch and work out. Sit-ups are a lot better on a great carpet.

Now, if you get new carpet, you know you are not going to wear your shoes on it and this way you will enjoy taking your socks off and feeling the soft feeling on your bare feet. Lastly, what if you and your partner want to get a little frisky on the carpet? Maybe you fall off the bed, think about the feeling of the soft, warm carpet on your bare skin compared to the cheap carpet that is just put in to last so long.

If you can't afford new carpet, you can pick up a nice soft rug to put in the middle of your living room or bedroom. Which ever place you plan on rolling around on the floor. *Wink Wink

--Rob Alex

A Hint of Role Play

In most couples it seems that one partner is a little hesitant to embark on role playing. For starters role playing can be fun and is a very healthy part of a relationship. It doesn't mean your partner wants someone else or that you are not good enough. It just means they want to spice things up a bit. If you are that partner that pulls back from role play a little, I want you to try and overcome your fear. Once you can get past it I am sure you will enjoy looking or acting a little different with your partner.

So here is my suggestion to those reluctant for role playing. Start out very small things like wearing a wig or trying to use a foreign accent, could be exciting. Maybe just go out and pick up a simple mask that just covers your eyes, you know like the Lone Ranger wore. There are endless little things that can make love making more exciting for both of you. At the very bottom of the scale you could just go out and get some sexy new underwear and surprise your lover, or some sexy stockings. Men you can change your facial hair or get a uniform shirt to surprise your partner. Get a new haircut, rent a car for the evening, or just wear something you would never wear. Doing something different will make your partner do a double take at you.

You can always move up if you start to get comfortable and you don't always have to include role play into your sex life. Heck we do it sometimes just for fun calling each other different names of speaking differently in public can be exciting also. One thing couples thing of when you say role play is that they have to have elaborate costumes and totally get into the role. Well you don't, you just have to find a level at which you are comfortable at and that is good enough. Heck something as simple as wearing different nail polish might drive your partner wild.

Now get out there and find something you are comfortable with and do it. Chances are you might enjoy it more then you think. Clink on the title of this post for some cute and fun costumes to spice things up.