Keep Business Out of Your Bedroom? NO!

ARGH!  I just came across an article about partners in life and in business.  It offers pros and cons of being a couple and having a business together.  Sadly, some of their tips are WAY off!  Mind you there are some good tips such as discovering one another's strengths and implementing those in certain aspects of your business, create your own schedule so that you can spend romantic time together, and divide your responsibilities in a way that works for the two you.

However, the tips that they tell you to follow such as leave intimacy at home and keeping business outside the bedroom are so far off base we cannot even began to tell you in this brief article.  

Couples who work with us quickly come to learn the humongous benefits to maintaining their intimacy at work.  Now, this doesn't mean have sex in your office or grope one another in front of customer, clients or employees.  Geesh - have some couth.  (*Of course, depending on where your office(s) is you may be able to enjoy a sexy + playful time there - it just depends and you should use discretion.)  This is about using your emotional + mental intimacy to fluidly work together, trust each other, respect each other, know when to let your partner lead and when you should take the lead.  Working intimately means creating a sacred and safe environment to work in your business as well as in your romantic relationship.

Are you wondering about the "keeping the business out of the bedroom" tip we are telling you is wrong?  Well, when you learn sacred lovemaking and then learn how to take that to the higher level of transcendent lovemaking you can use it to honor your business, create innovative ideas, magically attract more money (clients + customers + unique surprising ways) into your company and a lot more.  One example of an off-the-wall attraction of money happened in 2009 for us (We have had these types of unique ways happen more times than we can recall - but we will share this fun example that popped up from our memory.).  We had set an intention, performed a ceremony and practiced transcendent lovemaking.  A few days later a woman showed up at our bowling center (Yes - we owned one for a number of years!) and gave Rob $1250 that she had one a few weeks prior while at casino.  She felt compelled to donate it to us and our center.  This was 2009 - remember?  So, the economy was on a huge downswing and after having many lucrative years in business, we were facing dire financial straits at the center.  This wonderful woman did NOT know of our financial troubles - no one did at that time.  Anyhow, this was the exact amount we needed to pay a specific bill that week!  ;)  Had we left our "business out of our bedroom" we wouldn't have had the money to pay that bill.  

We have seen this happen time and time again for us + for the couples we have taught to implement our methods.  So, seeing people suggest couples should try and completely separate their business from their love lives is...well, I just wanted to yell - "No! No, no no NO!"   

Keeping it Sacred + Sexy,

Janelle + Rob

If you want to learn how to beautifully blend your love life and your business life together with your partner, you should to talk to us.  If so, let's meet over a virtual cup of coffee (or tea) to see if the unique spiritual tools we teach are a good fit for you.  We only offer 6-8 of these complimentary coffee chats each month - so drop an email to janellealexphd@gmail.com with "Coffee Chat" in the subject line to apply for one, and we will get back with you in 24-48 hours. 

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Feng Shui For Love - How to Feng Shui Your Love Life & Bring Romance Back

Feng Shui For Love - How to Feng Shui Your Love Life and Bring Romance Back

By Gemma Swansburg

Try these simple and practical Feng Shui tips to improve your love life and relationships in general. Feng Shui must-haves for those looking for love.

THE BEDROOM

If you have been unlucky in love so far, move the furniture in your bedroom around. This will change and refresh the flow of energy in your room. You should move your bed to a different location at least once a year so that your love life does not get stale.

Do not position your bed so that when you sleep you are facing the bathroom. If you sleep facing the washroom, you are likely to be involved in messy love triangles. Even if you are in a relationship, facing the bathroom might make you prone to arguments or tension with your partner. Plus you might be prone to urological problems such as bladder infections. If you cannot move the bed, you can block the flow of energy with a screen or lat the very least, keep your bathroom door shut at all times and hang a plant in each upper corner by the bathroom door.

Put two objects of a similar size on the bedside table. This represents you and your (future) loved one. This could be almost anything such as a pair of candles or a set of vases or ornaments. Feel free to have more than one representation of a pair such as picture of two birds on your wall.

Place a crystal close to your bedroom window. This will bring the colors of the rainbow into your room.

THE BATHROOM

Keep bathroom and closet doors closed.

WINDOWS

Open your windows once a day to let out the old energy and allow the new energy to come in.

FRONT DOOR

For all-round good feng shui, a water plant is an absolute must-have. Bamboos, rubber plants and all varieties of palms are good choices. Look after the plant well so it is healthy and vibrant. Put the plant next to your front door. Don't put any thorny plants near your front door.

GENERAL

Remove any items from past relationships such as photographs, momentos, gifts and clothes. Basically keep anything that reminds you of a past, failed relationship out of sight. Buy new sheets, pillows and duvets for a fresh start. Keep your house uncluttered. If your house is too full of stuff, how can anyone enter it?

Use this feng shui love tips to bring new, positive energy to your home.

Gemma Swansburg is a writer/researcher who wishes you happiness and good feng shui. Read Gemma's latest article, a Luminess Tan reviewfeaturing the at-home self tanning system highly rated by Allure Magazine. For a great trial and other offers and free info on the Luminess Tan system and other airbrush tanning equipment, visit her site at airbrushmakeupfoundation.com

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Want More Sex?

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We often hear people say they want more sex, but is that really what they want.  For that matter, what does it mean when you or your lover says you want more sex?  We talked about this a bit on this episode.

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Sexy Smells

One thing you don't want to overlook when trying to make your relationship great is your sense of smell. Various smells are appealing to different people. So you have to do a little trial and error. Some people are attracted to flowery smells such as geraniums, lavender or roses. Still others find food smells appealing things such as vanilla, pumpkin spice, and cinnamon. Just like you have to search for cologne and perfume that your partner enjoys you need to do the same for scents you might use in your bedroom or as lotions on yourself. A good method to try is to go the store and smell the candles. They come in a variety of smells and are strong enough for you to get a good feel just by sniffing them. Let me tell you a good smell can create a wonderful mood in the bedroom. This added scent can work wonders on getting your partner in the mood. For instance my partner has some vanilla lotion that drives me wild when she wears it as well as some peppermint lotion. Yes sometime smells can be overdone so don't over do it. A rule of thumb to use is that a little smell goes a long way. You each also have your own unique sent so don't underestimate that. Some people just love to smell each other and that can be a turn on it's self.

Pick the right lube for you!

Relationships have their share of friction, but you don't have to have as much in your sex life. Lube is an essential part of any relationship. If you look all across the world you will see that most couples either have lube on their headboard or somewhere near their bed. Lubrication is a wonderful tool to help explore and improve your sex life. While the woman's body naturally produces lube for sex sometimes it's not enough or doesn't produce fast enough. Plus sometimes things boldly go where no natural lube is available (Sorry for the Star Trek reference). Now what type of lube is the best, well I can't help you there! In my experience I believe that it is a personal choice and what works well for someone can have the opposite effect on others. The biggest thing is to make sure the lube you are using is safe, do your research and find the lube that is best for your body, you might have to try several before you find one you like, but that might be fun in itself. Some lubes are not compatible with condoms or sex toys so to avoid ruining the moment make sure to check the packages and do your research. Friction in your relationship will happen but you at least can avoid it in the bedroom.

Be straight forward with what you want in the bedroom.

It is far to common for people to keep their desires locked away from everyone, and that is okay if you are hiding them from the general public. However if you are in a great relationship with someone you really care about then you need to cue them into your desires. It might be a little nerve racking to tell someone this important to you that you want something a little different in the bedroom, but believe me they are probably feeling the same way. Open up those lines of communication however don't be afraid to say if you are uncomfortable with the suggestion they give. I think you will be pleasantly surprise at the reactions you get to expressing your desires. We all have curiosities and want to experience new things and what better way to do that then to experiment a little in the bedroom. Make sure that if your partner opens up to you with a desire they have that you respond in the correct way. Consider anything that they say, but again don't be afraid to say no if you are totally uncomfortable with it. When you partner opens up to you in the manner make sure you respond with a request of your own, basically trade desires with each other. You know the old saying one hand washes the other, well one hand can role play while they other ties you up, too. Research the request together and makes sure you know all precautions that you might need to perform the request. Sex is an important part of any long term relationship, and spicing it up never hurts it's importance. Now, take a deep breath and tell you partner your desires, this will set the tone for a great relationship where communication is your best friend.

The Best Present Under The Tree!

We have all thought about making love under that Christmas Tree at some point and time in our lives. My question to you is "What are you waiting on?" This would be a great Christmas memory to relive over and over with your partner. Think about it you have flashing lights, wonderful views and ornaments to be burned into your memory of this wonderful event. Set up a little pallet under the tree and get busy. Take precautions such as making sure the children are asleep, or that you can't see the tree from your front door or windows, and don't do it on a night you are expecting company. No one whats to explain why a pair of panties are hanging from a branch of your Christmas tree. Pull out some Christmas carols and make it a yearly event for the two of you. This is a great way for you to get out of the bedroom with your passion, just don't squish any breakable presents in you frolicking.

Make your bedroom as festive as the rest of your house.

When we decorate for the holidays we sort of forget about our bedroom. Mostly because the average house quest doesn’t venture into our personal room for anything more then a quick glimpse. Within your relationships however the two most important people are the ones that spend the most time in there. Break out some extra lights and decorate your headboard, put some tinsel around or even some fake snow. We spend so much time decorating the rest of the house, that we forget that our bedroom is a great place to have fun and play a little. Imagine the blinking Christmas lights flashing the next time the two of you make love or what you could do with the extra festive pillows that you have put on the bed. While the holidays are suppose to be shared with family and friends it is also a great time to reconnect with your partner.

Is there room for fetishes in a relationship?

Can you have a fetish and still be in a committed relationship? The answer is definitely, yes. You just have to keep the fetish inside the realm of your relationship. You cannot have a fetish of having sex with two people at the same time if your partner does not want that. My opinion is that bringing someone else into your relationship is not a good idea. You can however have a foot fetish with your partner. A fetish that only includes your partner and you can be a great secret the two of you share. If you like to role play or dress up a little that can definitely add some spark to your relationship. Have you ever seen the newer Batman movies with Catwomen in them? A cat suit can be very sexy or a Batman suit heck even a little lone ranger mask can add a little excitement. Hi Ho trigger away. Think about something that totally turns you on about your partner. Then run with that idea maybe his but drives you wild then buy him some underwear that has the ass cut out. Maybe you again have a foot fetish about your wife then buy her open shoes or special toe nail polish. As long as your fetish doesn't hurt anyone or your relationship it can be a very special bond for the two of you. If you are uncomfortable with a partners fetish then let them know maybe you can find a compromise that will excite you both. Now go shut your bedroom door and enjoy your fetish after all it is you and your partner world once that door is shut. You might want to lock it if you have children however you don't want to explain why mommy or daddy is tied to the bed!!!! lol

Be Sexy all Day long.

You know being sexy shouldn't just start when you hit the bedroom. You should get your partner ready all day long. Yes, it is okay to tease them if your intentions are good. Kisses their neck, rub your hand across their butt, or just wink at them from across the living room. Let them know that tonight they are going to be one lucky person. If they respond a little to much on the attack side, tell them to slow down they will get what they want. They just have to be patient. Make this last all day and when you finally get them in the bedroom take your time there also. Slow it down to a crawl. Yes, you will be driving them wild but it will be so worth it for both of your when you get there.

You can put sex into anything you do you just have to think about it a little. Eating a hot dog can drive your man wild, playing with a woman's hair is a real turn on, walk out of the shower naked and surprise them or just tell them how sexy they look today. Let them catch you looking at them. This not only should get you feeling horny but it should also make your partner feel very special. You can find many ways to be sexy by going to the amazon sight on the sidebar and purchase some of the books I have marked.