The Other Woman

“LOCK OUT YOUR husband, put out your pets. Order take-out for dinner even, because once you start reading this book, you won’t want to be interrupted, trust me!” Amazon Reviewer

Book links:

Amazon UK:
http://amzn.to/1E3KGa7

Amazon US:
http://amzn.to/1BeLcB5

Amazon Aus:
http://bit.ly/1IXc5up

Is Money Destroying Your Relationship?

What are the two biggest things couples typically fight about?  Money + sex.  So, could money be destroying your relationship?  Maybe you don't have enough or maybe you have too much...

Listen now and see what you think.

Keeping it Sacred + Sexy,

Rob + Janelle

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Keep Business Out of Your Bedroom? NO!

ARGH!  I just came across an article about partners in life and in business.  It offers pros and cons of being a couple and having a business together.  Sadly, some of their tips are WAY off!  Mind you there are some good tips such as discovering one another's strengths and implementing those in certain aspects of your business, create your own schedule so that you can spend romantic time together, and divide your responsibilities in a way that works for the two you.

However, the tips that they tell you to follow such as leave intimacy at home and keeping business outside the bedroom are so far off base we cannot even began to tell you in this brief article.  

Couples who work with us quickly come to learn the humongous benefits to maintaining their intimacy at work.  Now, this doesn't mean have sex in your office or grope one another in front of customer, clients or employees.  Geesh - have some couth.  (*Of course, depending on where your office(s) is you may be able to enjoy a sexy + playful time there - it just depends and you should use discretion.)  This is about using your emotional + mental intimacy to fluidly work together, trust each other, respect each other, know when to let your partner lead and when you should take the lead.  Working intimately means creating a sacred and safe environment to work in your business as well as in your romantic relationship.

Are you wondering about the "keeping the business out of the bedroom" tip we are telling you is wrong?  Well, when you learn sacred lovemaking and then learn how to take that to the higher level of transcendent lovemaking you can use it to honor your business, create innovative ideas, magically attract more money (clients + customers + unique surprising ways) into your company and a lot more.  One example of an off-the-wall attraction of money happened in 2009 for us (We have had these types of unique ways happen more times than we can recall - but we will share this fun example that popped up from our memory.).  We had set an intention, performed a ceremony and practiced transcendent lovemaking.  A few days later a woman showed up at our bowling center (Yes - we owned one for a number of years!) and gave Rob $1250 that she had one a few weeks prior while at casino.  She felt compelled to donate it to us and our center.  This was 2009 - remember?  So, the economy was on a huge downswing and after having many lucrative years in business, we were facing dire financial straits at the center.  This wonderful woman did NOT know of our financial troubles - no one did at that time.  Anyhow, this was the exact amount we needed to pay a specific bill that week!  ;)  Had we left our "business out of our bedroom" we wouldn't have had the money to pay that bill.  

We have seen this happen time and time again for us + for the couples we have taught to implement our methods.  So, seeing people suggest couples should try and completely separate their business from their love lives is...well, I just wanted to yell - "No! No, no no NO!"   

Keeping it Sacred + Sexy,

Janelle + Rob

If you want to learn how to beautifully blend your love life and your business life together with your partner, you should to talk to us.  If so, let's meet over a virtual cup of coffee (or tea) to see if the unique spiritual tools we teach are a good fit for you.  We only offer 6-8 of these complimentary coffee chats each month - so drop an email to janellealexphd@gmail.com with "Coffee Chat" in the subject line to apply for one, and we will get back with you in 24-48 hours. 

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Looking for Couples to Interview

We have a new project in the works.  We are writing a book for entrepreneurial couples, Inspiring Couples in Business + in Love.  This book will give readers insight into how to succeed as entrepreneurs while maintaining a loving, healthy + sexy relationship.  We will share how learning and implementing transcendent lovemaking + couples' dreamwork + awareness of your archetypes (including your sacred inner money personality) will help you succeed in business and your relationship with little to no more fighting over money or your sex life.

But, really it is so much more than just the simple idea of no more fighting over these things.  In fact, couples, who are entrepreneurs, especially those who own a business together, understand that there are often great challenges by being in love and running a business.

Can a couple really switch gears and be just a romantic couple without constantly talking business?  You bet, but just as the romantic relationship takes work so does the business relationship.  When you try and blend the two together the challenges are multiplied.  But, guess what?  So, are the joys and successes if you have the tools in place.

We have been in business together for 10+ years, as well as owning individual businesses, and we know the ups and the downs, the joys and the sorrows, the high fives and the arguments, and we have learned, developed, and created amazing unique spiritual tools to thrive as a couple + as business partners.

We don't want other entrepreneurial couples to simply survive the journey.  We want them to thrive!
We want YOU to thrive!

At this point, we are still open to including other couples in the book.  We have interviews already occurring, but if you are or if you know of an entrepreneurial couple, who might be willing to be interviewed and included in the book, drop an email to janellealexphd@gmail.com. 

Here's to thriving,
Janelle + Rob



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How to Help Your Partner Deal With an Unwanted Move

By John C Cherry

Sometimes, one person in a marriage gets an opportunity in another city, state or even country that can cause strife in the partnership. Perhaps the other person will be expected to move with the spouse and away from friends and family. This kind of scenario can be hard on the relationship and can sometimes even lead to the destruction of it. However, if you and your spouse are committed to making the move, even if one person is not looking forward to it, you can get through the change and be stronger in the end.

The most important thing to realize is that you should never make the decision to move without your partner's knowing. You can't just hire the movers and expect your spouse to be on board with it when the moving truck pulls into the driveway to move your things. It is critical for you to begin the discussion of moving as soon as you realize the opportunity is there. All decisions related to the move, if in fact, the decision to move is made, should be made together. From the movers you pick to the actual moving day.

You might need to get outside help to assist you and your spouse through the difficult moving process. For example, if you have a great job waiting for you in your new location, but your spouse is going to be jobless when you move, it is wise to contact a career counselor before the move is made to find out what your partner can do to make the transition easier. If your spouse can get a job in the new location as well, it might make him or her feel better about the change.

If you decide that only one of you needs a job in the new location, you might want to help your spouse get involved in local organizations, clubs or educational opportunities to help him or her integrate into the new community as quickly as possible. Almost all cities have local colleges or recreation centers that offer classes and other organized activities, which can help your spouse feel more at home more quickly.

Finally, if your spouse is completely unhappy with the move and you really feel like the change could tear your relationship apart, it might not be the opportunity you thought it was. Sometimes, the move you don't make could be the right decision after all.

John is a shrewd consumer who writes about personal finance, finding deals, and local consumer home services like: movers Dallas and local movers Chicago.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=John_C_Cherry

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Our Partner Pushes Our Buttons

"We can perceive the power inherent in things as they are - the radiance of fire, the solidity of earth, the expansiveness of joy, the tenderness of sorrow -- only when we drop our struggles with ourselves and our experience....[Yet,] each of us has some button that our partner pushes."

John Welwood, Love and Awakening: Discovering the Sacred Path of Intimate Relationship

Check this book out here. 

Why You Need to Let Go of Toxic Relationships

*Apply some of these principles to your romantic relationship.

Why You Need to Let Go of Toxic Relationships

By Marquita A Herald

I am currently making some changes in my life. If you don't hear from me again, you're one of them. ~Author Unknown

Do you find yourself keeping good news from a friend because they always manage to make you feel unworthy of whatever good fortune comes your way? Worse yet, they actually make you feel guilty for your achievements by repeatedly harping on about how "lucky" you are, while life has been so unfair to them.

Maybe you've begun to realize how drained you feel after spending time with a friend, but continue to put up with the negativity for no other reason than you've been friends for so long...
Toxic relationships can lead to stress, depression, anxiety and even medical problems.
Did you know that negative relationships can be just as toxic to your health as fast food or a toxic environment? In a long term study that followed more than 10,000 subjects for an average of 12.2 years, researchers discovered that subjects in negative relationships were at a greater risk for developing heart problems, including a fatal cardiac event, than their counterparts whose close relationships were not negative.

Of course few relationships are harmonious 24/7, so how do you really know you're in a toxic relationship? The term toxic relationship refers to interactions with others that are consistently negative and draining. The nature of these relationships is defined by patterns, not by one-time or occasional lapses in the give and take that is the essence of a healthy friendship.

The first step in confronting toxic relationships is to identify them. See if any of these examples sound familiar to you.

• They often criticize or make fun of those people closest to you.
• They complain about everything, are never at fault for anything, and repeatedly dump their problems on you.
• You're made to feel guilty for anything and everything you have that they don't, even if their bad situation is of their own making.
• You can never trust them to keep a secret, and if they do spill one, and you confront them, they'll claim they had no idea it was such a "big deal."
• You find yourself rationalizing keeping the friendship for no other reason than longevity.
• They constantly remind you of all of the 'favors' they've done for you. You're now convinced that the only reason you got a 'favor' in the first place was so that it could be held over your head.
• They find fault with everything you say, and you're often made to feel dumb for expressing a viewpoint that differs from theirs.
• They discourage you from trying new things, learning new skills or growing in any way.
• Just spending time with this person leaves you feeling drained.
• They constantly cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your ideas in front of others. They may even try to convince you that their criticism is for you own good.

Okay, so I don't know about you - but just going through that list made me squirm. Why would you want people like this in your life?!

Well, the truth is sometimes we're related to these people, in fact it could be good old mom and dad, along with Brother Bob, Sister Sue, and Uncle Elmo, not to mention a few close, personal friends. I am not suggesting that you to disown every negative or pessimistic person in your life; I am just asking you to be aware of the toxic effect they have on you, and to learn to protect yourself from the fallout.

Redefining Toxic Relationships

First of all, give some thought to whether or not you really need to end the friendship. Can you downgrade the relationship so you see each other less often or dilute it by seeing each other within the context of a group? Can you simply take a break (time off) to give each other a breather?

Here are a few more suggestions:

• Keep your expectations realistic. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to someone who won't cherish them. Though it's better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking at all, if the relationship is unavoidable the best way to communicate with them is to focus on how something will benefit them.


• Set firm limits. There are times when each of us has taken a turn feeling like a "victim" of life's cruel jokes, but again here we're talking about chronic behavior. Trying to get someone in perpetual victim mode to see the good things in life is a no win game and will exhaust you. If you can't remove them from your life all together, then do whatever you have to do to minimize time with them and remain positive.


• If you have a chronic criticizer in your life and they launch into a rant, first address any misplaced criticism directly without becoming defensive. If it continues then simply leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you.


• If the relationship isn't very close to start with, you may decide the best thing to do will be to merely drift apart. Make yourself less accessible.


• If you've reached the point where you feel there is nothing really to be gained by continuing the relationship, simply find the courage to cut them loose.

Get rid of the guilt.

In many cases, these are people whose needs can never be satisfied. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, will never be enough. So don't ever feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter how long you've known them, or what their relationship is to you - you don't have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It's one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if someone disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they do not deserve to be a part of your life.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Marquita_A_Herald

With No Growth...There Is Death

"If we try to remain the same and refrain from growing, to accommodate someone else's need for us to stay the same, the only long-term outcome is resentment, which kills whatever emotion there was there. Real love never restricts us nor demands that we stop developing."

-- Brenda Davies

**This quote inspired yesterday's post at Reconnect With Your Soul.  Check it out.

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