With No Growth...There Is Death

"If we try to remain the same and refrain from growing, to accommodate someone else's need for us to stay the same, the only long-term outcome is resentment, which kills whatever emotion there was there. Real love never restricts us nor demands that we stop developing."

-- Brenda Davies

**This quote inspired yesterday's post at Reconnect With Your Soul.  Check it out.

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Is it my turn?

One thing we find interesting in our relationship is that we both like to be the aggressor in our sex life. This presents a little problem as we both get a rush being the one that initiates sex. As fun as it might sound you both can be the aggressor at the same time. That's like both of you trying to lead during dancing. The simple solution to this problem is to take turns being the aggressor. Don't pick a specific date but just make every other time a switch to the other persons time to be the aggressor. Sex is powerful and the rush you get from taking your partner in your arms to initiate the actions. Hard kisses that tell the other person what you have in mind, or leading your partner by the hand to the bedroom and shutting the door are a couple of ways that get this point across. Being the less aggressive partner isn't all bad but being the passive one all the time really sucks. Make sure both partners get to prowl for sex within your relationship. Their is something about getting that look in your eye and the raw emotions of being aggressive when it come to getting the intimacy you want.

Time to break out the Flannel?

We all know that flannel is warm and is great to snuggle it but is it sexy? Flannel sheets can add a great deal of warmth your bed, thus making it great to get under the covers with you lover. Flannel nightgowns have forever been linked to women that do not want to be touched or invaded during the night. You can however change this image of flannel, by simply changing your attitude and your partners. Men you can get some flannel boxer that feel great on your body and great when you lover puts their hands all over them. Women you might have to do a little research but you can find sexy flannel pajamas. You have to do a little work and make sure not to get them in a larger size then you need. I believe that the size is what make flannel PJ's unsexy and not the material. Most women I see wearing these type of PJ's have them large and bulky, but if they are tighter and show a little more of your curves I think just the opposite. If they bulky ones are all you have then slip a little something else on under the flannels to surprise you partner with once they get you in bed. Think of the look on their face as the unbutton your flannels only to find a sexy pair of panties and bra underneath. The pictures on this page are from She She Pajamas and you can google their name to find more sexy flannel PJ's.