Today is my Birthday!

Yes today is my birthday and I am excited. As far as couples go this is a great time for the two of you to experiment a little. The birthday girl/boy is the one that should get to choose what happens on their birthday. As the present giver and as long as the request is not to far out of your comfort zone, do it. Try something different you might be amazed at how much it excites you plus you will have the joy of knowing you did it for that special person in your life on there birthday. Make your partners birthday as special as you can it is the one day they can be a little selfish so don't take that thunder away from them. Plus don't forget you will be having a birthday soon, too.

Watch those reactions.

Merry Christmas everyone, hope you are enjoying your most magical of days. I also hope that you receive some nice presents this year. As you go through your day however I want you to do something that is very simple. Watch your partner open their presents and watch their reactions. See how quickly they search for your eyes when they open something that has importance to them. Count how many kisses you get on this blessed day, add in all the hugs and hand holding. Throw in all the snuggling and relaxing moments you spend with each other. Pay attention to how your partner reacts to you. At the end of the evening sit down and count your blessings I think you will be surprised how truly lucky you are. Merry Christmas to all and to all I wish a great relationship.

Make your bedroom as festive as the rest of your house.

When we decorate for the holidays we sort of forget about our bedroom. Mostly because the average house quest doesn’t venture into our personal room for anything more then a quick glimpse. Within your relationships however the two most important people are the ones that spend the most time in there. Break out some extra lights and decorate your headboard, put some tinsel around or even some fake snow. We spend so much time decorating the rest of the house, that we forget that our bedroom is a great place to have fun and play a little. Imagine the blinking Christmas lights flashing the next time the two of you make love or what you could do with the extra festive pillows that you have put on the bed. While the holidays are suppose to be shared with family and friends it is also a great time to reconnect with your partner.

Honey Do list

We have all been given a honey do list at sometime or another. Be it written on paper of given to us orally to store in our memory banks. The list usually contains chores and errands that we need to complete. Well if you are the maker of this list one thing you need to remember to do is to put some things on the list that would be something your partner would like to do. For instance in the middle of the list it might say "Give me a Kiss", using things like this to break up the routine of a normal list is a great way to say thank you to your partner for doing the other things on the list. If you like you can even put a reward at the bottom of the list things like "After you have completed all the things on this list you will receive a massage from me" or "Upon completion of this list you will find me naked in bed waiting to pay you for your hard work" This is important to the sanity of our relationship, think of it like that famous saying from the movie "The Shinning", "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"

Bank Notes

Here is a cute little way to tell you partner you care about them. Simply write it somewhere they will not expect it. Like in their check register or on a sticky note put on their credit card. You need to find something that they use quite often, yet most likely won't use with you around. On their car dashboard, send it to their work email (If that won't get them in trouble), write it on their water bottle, or slip a note in their workout shoes. By doing this they get the message you really care about them even when they are not around. Just make sure someone else can't find the message. Your partner might be pretty embarrassed if they hand something to the bank teller that says "I Love You" on it.

Surpise in your Cereal Box.

Remember when you were a kid and you couldn't wait to get the toy out of the box of cereal. I use to reach down through all the cereal to reach that golden prize. I remember looking at our cereal shelf and all our boxes being bowed out in the middle from the four of us kids reaching trying to get that prize before the others.

Well why not create some of that excitement in the mornings again. If you partner eats the same cereal most of the time. Slip them a little surprise into their morning routine. Put a note in a little plastic bag in the bottom of their cereal box. It could say simply that you love them or you could promise them a sexy adventure when they find the note. You can slip anything into the box it could be tickets to a baseball game, a gift certificate to a spa, a dinner invitation, or even jewelry.

It doesn't matter what you put in their box it will definitely be a surprise they were not expecting. It might be a couple of days before they find their prize but believe me they will be most appreciative. I just hope they don't go searching through all the cereal boxes now.

Surprise Chore!

If you want to get in good with your partner, do a surprise chore for them. You know one of those things you normal don't do or put off for ever. Like cleaning out the garage, or painting the house or maybe even doing some of your partners chores. To set this up you have to do it on a day where you are off work and your partner has to work. After they leave then you go into action. For example cleaning out the garage will make for a very surprised partner when they return home and put the car in the garage. You can even make it better by saying you will be doing something else that day. You could tell them you are going to the golf coarse or shopping all day. This way they will never even wonder what you are doing with your time off. Now if your partner does hit you with a surprise chore, then you must show your appreciation. A huge kiss, super dinner, or even some knock your boots off sex would be good.

If you can swing another great idea is to sneak to your partners work and take their car and get it cleaned and washed inside and out. then return it to the original spot. Maybe you can tell them you are getting their oil changed or the factory had a recall on a part. Anything so they won't be specious of you taking their car.

The Hook Up (We like to call it Lunch)

The work days can seem long and tiring. I suggest, if possible, that you take time out of your work day to have lunch with each other as often as possible. I understand sometimes it is just impossible as work schedules might not match up or the logistics might be to far out of the way. If that is the case make sure to find days when you or your partner are off work and plan out a lunch for the two of you. You don't have to go to an expensive restaurant. You can even through a picnic together to eat in the park, nearest to your workplace. The point is the little extra effort helps show your partner that you would love to be spending more time with them, and that you will take a little bit here and a little bit there. Always be understanding if you call your partner up to surprise them by meeting them for lunch, because they might not be able to attend lunch with you on that day. Never make your partner feel bad because they were unaware you were wanting to spend lunch together. If this happens make arrangements for dinner, when you get home. Always have a back up lunch planned. Sometimes lunches need to be cut short so don't expect your partner to be able to spend an hour at lunch at the spur of the moment. When you finally get to lunch make sure to spend the time with each other not on your cell phone or complaining about the plumber, that only leads to stress. Put your phone on silent, and talk about your interests or how their work day is going. If you find yourself wondering what to say, bring a few old photos of your past vacations and remember those days over your lunch.

I understand the purpose for lunch is to eat but it can also be an enjoyable time to spend with your significant other.