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Happy New Year To Everyone

2014 promises to be the best year yet.  Excitement awaits you but until then enjoy these fireworks.

Love,

The Couples Spot

Sexy Smells

One thing you don't want to overlook when trying to make your relationship great is your sense of smell. Various smells are appealing to different people. So you have to do a little trial and error. Some people are attracted to flowery smells such as geraniums, lavender or roses. Still others find food smells appealing things such as vanilla, pumpkin spice, and cinnamon. Just like you have to search for cologne and perfume that your partner enjoys you need to do the same for scents you might use in your bedroom or as lotions on yourself. A good method to try is to go the store and smell the candles. They come in a variety of smells and are strong enough for you to get a good feel just by sniffing them. Let me tell you a good smell can create a wonderful mood in the bedroom. This added scent can work wonders on getting your partner in the mood. For instance my partner has some vanilla lotion that drives me wild when she wears it as well as some peppermint lotion. Yes sometime smells can be overdone so don't over do it. A rule of thumb to use is that a little smell goes a long way. You each also have your own unique sent so don't underestimate that. Some people just love to smell each other and that can be a turn on it's self.

If your partner left you a love note....

If your partner left you a love note, what kind of note would you like it to be.

1. A Poem - Sweet and from the Heart?

2. A Humorous attempt to get you in bed later?

3. A Personal Message describing the ways they love you?

4. A Hot and Steamy, down and dirty Message?

5. Something else?

Tell us which type of letter you would like to receive. Give us details and if you have gotten any give us the scoop on them.

Thanks,

Rob

How Romantic are our Readers?

The results of the romantic level of our readers are in and they show the following. 40% of our viewers report that they feel they are way above average when it comes to romance. While another 40% of our readers feel that they are average or above average when it comes to romance. 20% admit that they suck at romance but also say that is why they come to The Couples Spot to learn how to make their relationship better.

"The Darla Show" on Twitter, Don't miss it.

If your are on Twitter during the evening you owe it to yourself and your relationship to take a peak at The Darla Show. Basically it combines a call radio type of format but incorporates it with Twitter. Viewers type in their questions and answer the questions that Darla post. The questions are about sex and relationship and are sometimes pretty humorous. I use it as a little research as well as just a relaxing time spent in front of the computer. The great part of this is that Darla's viewers are polite and considerate. You don't get people that are just being stupid and trying to disrupt the show. I love to hear what people around the world thing about the questions posed to them on the show. Darla keeps the talk flowing and adds her comments at just the right time. I personal think a couple should sit down together and answer the questions presented. It would be a great way to get somethings out in the open that maybe someone was afraid to bring up. So give The Darla Show a try tonight I am sure you will either learn something or at the very least laugh a little. By clicking on the title of this post you can quickly get to The Darla Show, just have your twitter user name and password ready. You can also check out some of the older posts to see what the show is about.

Survey Results - Things I enjoy doing with my partner.

Results are in from the survey on what I enjoy doing with my partner. I was happily surprised to see that most all of our readers really seem to enjoy doing things with their partner. Hopefully that is showing that gone are the days when couples end up doing things separately. Maybe this way couples will stay together longer. Well enough chit chat here are the findings.

78% enjoy making out or having sex with their partner.

71% Think long walks are great with the one you love.

64% Crave snuggle time.

64% Enjoy Entertainment and Dinner out with their partner.

64% Love to experience outdoor activities with their mate

64% Can't wait to have a vacation together.

57% Love to spend hours talking with their special person.

50% Like to get their hearts pumping together thru exercise.

42% Love making memories with their partner over the holidays

35% Enjoy learning with their mate by taking classes together.

28% Love watching their Children's Activities together.

Can't get to the Islands how about an Island Drink?

It is starting to turn cold outside and almost everyone wishes they were someplace in the tropics about now. Except maybe those people in the tropics! Most of us can't just stop everything and hop on a plane and be basking in the sun by this evening. How about bringing a little of the tropics home for you and your partner. Go out and get some ingredients to make up some great island drinks. Some suggestions might be daiquiris, pina coloda or even margaritas. If you don't know how to make the drink don't worry your local liquor store will most likely have a pre-mixed version or you can look the recipe up on the Internet. Surprise you partner and create a island setting in your home. Turn the heat up a little spread some beach blankets on the floor, heck even put on your swim suit and sunglasses. Find some island music with steel drums and maybe you could even spend the evening browsing through your last vacation photos and remembering how special your trip was. Top off the evening with a luau, cook some island food and spend the night making out on the beach (towel). This is just what you need to break the start of cold and flu season.

Relationship Ruts

Have you hit a relationship rut? Well if you haven't you most likely will at some point in time. A Relationship rut is when you are in a space where it seems like you are doing the same things over and over. You feel like your life is on a cycle. You get up go to work come home go to bed, and your weekends feel similar. You get up take the kids to baseball games, eat lunch, come home, watch a movie, go to sleep. When you feel yourself getting into this positions, is the time you need to break out and find something new to do. Either by yourself or with the family, you need some thing new to stimulate your relationship. Grab your partner and find something you have never done before and spend a day doing that. Take a photography class, or go white water rafting. Maybe you want to include the kids too. If that is the case go on a all day hike, or visit an amusement park, go bowling, or geocaching. The possibilities are endless, so you really don't have a reason to get in a rut. Make sure what ever you decide to do sounds like fun to your partner or family and then head out. Don't think about your decisions to much and don't use chores as an excuse. The lawn and laundry will still be there when you get home and you can do them later if you like

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Lube Jobs - A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex

Want to get a handle on the differences in your libido? Well this book is a great starting point for that concern. Debra and Don Macleod really help the understanding of the importance of sex in a relationship for men. They also help show that it can be just as wonderful for the woman in the relationship. Below is the description of the book offered at many site. You can pick up the book at a very good price by clicking on my Amazon page link in the side bar. The book is also listed on my favorites list. Click on it to go straight to the book.

Book: Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide To Great Maintenance Sex
A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, this book also features stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.

A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Many couples are all too familiar with the classic bedroom balancing act-managing His and Her sex drives. As men clamor for more action and women grumble for more sleep, the topic of "maintenance sex"-those dutiful two minutes to "get it over with"-invariably arises to divide and conquer a couple's sex life. Yet as Don and Debra Macleod reveal in "Lube Jobs," maintenance sex can be an exciting and loving way to jump-start a stalled sex life. And if it's done right, it can be fun for "both" parties. Indeed, just as the sleekest luxury car requires routine tune-ups for smooth performance, a long-term relationship requires regular lube jobs for a friction-free love life. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, "Lube Jobs" includes a provocative menu of twenty ready-made "lube jobs" consisting of naughty sex scenarios, bedroom-toy tips, sexual techniques, and erotica. Each lube job inspires a woman to embrace maintenance sex as a critical aspect of her committed relationship, and shows her how to infuse it with spontaneity and affection. Throughout are poignant, sometimes hilarious, stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.

When did our relationship slip to being the last thing we care about?

Life is a wonderful thing and living is so important, why then do we let the hustle and bustle of everyday life get the best of us. Thing about this how different is your relationship now that you have been with your partner for some time? Remember back to the early part of your relationship where the most important thing was getting to be together. The other stuff just got in the way, you would count the hours until work was over or you couldn't wait for the time when you date would arrive. Remember the feelings you first had when you made love? That calm feeling of just being in bed together, passion was the focus and the rest of the world was on the outside looking in. Now if you have been together for a while are all those feelings still the same. Do you look forward to coming home to your partner so you can really spend time with them. It seems sad to me that the longer we are together the farther apart we drift. If you in that roommate stage of relationship where it seems like you are just meeting at the end of the day to sleep, you need to stop. This is the point in which love goes into hibernation. Sure you still love your partner but the passion and romance are sleeping. Time to wake them up. Make an effort to get back to that state when you loved doing things with your partner. Make time for the two of you to have fun. Yes even if you have kids that is what babysitters are for. You owe it to yourselves to get reconnected. My suggestion is to make sex a priority also, take turns planning romantic evenings even if they are in your own home and stick to it. It is easy to say I'm too tired or I don't feel like it, but now if you think about it doesn't your relationship deserve it. If you can bring the passion back into your relationship your whole world will seem a little brighter again. Think about how great life seemed when you were only worried about the romance and love. You can have that again all you need to do is try a little.

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Money in your Relationship

One thing that can bring a fight on is the topic of money. Usually one person takes control of the finances in a realtionship and the other partner has no clue as to where they stand. This is very dangerous for both partners. You should always have an idea and discuss your finanaces with each other no matter which person you are. Both partners should have access to some amount of money they can spend on their personal likes. Don't call it an allowance just say it is your portion of the household income to spend. Even if the person can't manage money worth a hoot they still need to be in control of some of it. If one of you is very bad a managing money I suggest setting up a special account for the person to use as their spending money. This way your basic budget stays in tact and you don't have to worry about little surprises throughing off the household income. If you want your relationship to stay healthy you need to discuss most of your purchases, going to the store and paying the bills need not be discussed unless you are deciding which ones you can't pay this month. If a partner does something outside the norm to make some money, make sure they get their fair share of the amount. Bottom line is your well bing comes first but everyone need to just blow some money from time to time. Work together on your budget and it will be easier for both of your to stick to. Last thing if you do get in trouble financially don't be afraid to ask for help right now banks and companies are tring as hard as they can to keep the economy from a total break down.

His or Her stress? In a relationship you both share the stress.

Does your partner seem to get stressed rather easily? How does it effect your relationship, are you unable to do things because your partner is to stressed, does it effect their mood and or their demeanor. Does the stress level your partner feels mirror into your relationship? Well simply put their is no way to avoid the stress of your significant other, you are the person that will get the brunt of it. Hopefully you understand this even though it is tough to stomach at times.

When people are stressed they tend to dwell on the object or situation that causes them the stress. As their partner anything that you can do to help them avoid thinking out this item the better. There are several web sites out there with suggestions on how to combat stress and I would suggest you reading up on it. If you are the partner that seems to handle stress better then you might be able to help them out by diverting their attention away from the stress. Things such as taking walks, getting outside on beautiful days are great ideas. Find some activities to enjoy and make sure they participate. Starting an exercise program is not only beneficial in the reduction of stress but it is also great for your health. Looking at what you eat can also help in the battle with stress. Massages are a wonderful way to help the person you love cope with their issues. Sex is another great option as it brings you closer and burns stress away quickly. Many people say that they get to stressed for sex and yet sex is a great way to let go of stress, so fight through that initial urge to pass and realize that it might just be the best way for your partner to help you battle the stress monster.

Making the stress disappear completely is most likely not an option in most cases. We can only do so much and usually the stress isn't something you can just defuse quickly. Helping them cope with the problems and getting it out of their minds is the next best thing you can do if you love them. Help them breath in the fresh air, and see that all this will pass.

Click on the title of this post to view a list of stress reducers.

Poll Results From what your partner is to you.

The resluts are in and most of our viewers believe that their partner is their superhero and that then mean everything to them. This is great as we were a little optomistic about how the survey would turn out. This tells us that at least our viewers are in stable and good quality relationships for the most part. Still troubling were the several negative answers we got about your relationship. All I can say is send us your question or concerns and we will try to help you out. The results are as folows.

35% Voted their partner as their superhero

21% Voted them their Best Friend

14% Voted their partner as the minister or mistress of heat

7% Voted them as just a good lay

7% Voted them as just a roommate

7% Voted them as the Ice Princess or Mr. Freeze

7% Voted them as just the first person to show interest in them.

Romantic Places!

We want to hear about your most romantic places that you have been. Tell is where and why it was the most romantic trip of your life. Did your partner propose to you there or was it just a great time. We want to find this information out to pass it along to our viewers. Below are a couple of the places I found romantic.

Hawaii - We went to Hawaii about 3 years ago. It is the most beautiful place that I have ever been. There was so much there to see and do. My wife and I rented a car and explored the island of Oahu. We saw many amazing things like the birthing stones, the north shore, many of wonderful beaches. But Probably the kicker for me was Hanauma Bay. We spent the day their snorkeling in the shallow waters it was heaven on earth. Together we spent a week exploring and playing around the island, it really got us reconnected and not that we were out of love but we feel madly in love again. We loved it so much we are planning to move their once our children are out of school, 6 more years and counting.

Cancun Mexico - My second choice because Mexico is where I asked my wife to marry me (and she said yet) but I loved exploring the ancient ruins with her. Chitzen Itza was one of the most romantic places to be the feeling of the people that lived there many years ago mad we gush with romance. It was amazing to see something that well preserved from so long ago. The amazing technology that they used was incredible. The beaches were also amazing and we spend many days at the beach and nights walking along the surf. The ocean for me is very romantic and any where with crystal clear water makes my heart beat a little faster.

Watch older couples

Want to really know what makes relationships work? Then you need to go to someone who has been through a long term relationship. Think of family members that have been married or in a relationship for a very long time. Talk to them, pick their brains, you might get more information then you ever dreamed of. Sure times have changed and they might not have dealt with texting and facebook, but I am sure they had some challenges in their relationships. I am sure at some point they have had money issues, or problems with children, just to mention of few things that can cause stress in a relationship. They can tell you how the managed to make it through the tough times and if nothing else they will show you that it will pass.

Now when you are looking for these couples make sure you look for the ones that seem happy together. Don't ask a couple for help that seem to be leading two different lives. Watch for the ones that still hold hands or kiss. A great way to tell is if they still tell each other they love one another in front of people. Relatives might not be the best examples but you can find friends or just ask a happy older couple on the street what their secret is. I am sure they would be glad to pass it along to you and your partner.

Flaunt your best features for you partner.

Is there a part of your body that you partner simply loves? Maybe it is your strong arms or you sexy legs. Think about it for a minute and I am sure you can think back and find a body part of yours that your partner always swoons over. Ladies, men are usually pretty straight forward about what they like. If it is your breasts then wear shirts around the house the show your great cleavage. If legs are his thing then short shorts and high heels will drive him nuts. Maybe he is a butt man if that is his thing, find shorts that let your butt cheeks hang out and bend over in front of him a lot. Gentlemen, you might have to really listen (I know that is tough for you) but that is how you will find what your partner likes. Think about areas that she touches first. Maybe it is your strong arms, and if so then wear shirts that show off your guns and make sure to flex as much as you can during the day. If she loves your rear then get some work out shorts that are tight for her pleasure. Maybe it is your chest that drives her over the edge, you can purchase some Under Armor shirts that show off your pecks.

Go overboard when you know you are going to be alone. Draw as much attention to that part as you can and see how long your partner can keep their hands to themselves. Make a game of it and tell them if they can keep their hands off you for 2 hours then they can have their way with you. Make sure to do all you can to drive them nuts during this time frame. If they can't control themselves then it is your decision as to what their punishment should be. Not only does your partner get a great view out of this but you get to be the center of attention.

Increase your sex life with a little education

Many of us think we know all the sex tricks out in the world today. I am sure you know plenty if you are into your relationship like most people that view this blog. However, I don't think as in anything you can ever know or learn to much. I want to suggest you and your partner pick up some reading material on the subject of sex and love and read it together. You might not get anything out of the book or maybe you will learn something that will set your loins on fire. The point is you never know until you try and learning with your partner might spark more then the reading material ever could. A recent purchase that has brought some pleasure into my life is a book called Red Hot Touch (Click the title of this post to go to the web sire) you can also find in in my amazon side bar. The book has lead to some laughing and experimenting for myself and I feel it could help many a relationship. Now go out buy a backpack and some folders pick up the Red Hot Touch book at amazon and start your classes today!

Drinking and Sex

I would like to hear peoples opinions on drinking and sex. I have heard several different views on what is acceptable. Some people believe that you shouldn't have any drinks before you have sex with another person. I also know others that have to have to drink to get loosened up as they put it. In my opinion there is a large grey area here. Several things must be considered to decide. For starters are we talking one drink or getting drunk, I believe that a few drinks are not harmful to the act or to the person as they have sex. On the other hand getting total wiped out is never a good idea no matter what you are doing. Not being in control is never a good way to be. If you do find yourself in this position I hope you are with your trusting partner that will take care of you and make sure you are safe. Alcohol has been proven to have some good effects on your health, but doing it to excess does just the opposite. My stand on this debate is have a couple of drinks, beers or glasses of wine will not hurt your sex life. To much can add problems such as erection problems, not using birth control properly, and even getting yourself into situations that might be harmful to your health. Just as when you are doing anything else drink in moderation and if you have to much then just tell you partner to be the designated masturbater tonight.

Find Some Passion Outside of Your Bedroom

In your relationship we hope that you are experiencing passion in your everyday life as well as your sex life. I think a thing that can help bring you closer as a couple is to find a passion outside of your relationship. NO - not with another person, but with a charitable organization or hobbies. It should be something you can both take pride in and feel good about. Maybe it is organizing a rally to raise money for a charity or just rooting for your local football team. You need to find something that makes you both happy.  Don't settle for your partner's favorite thing. Pick something new and interesting and put some effort into it. You know you have found it when you both come home and ask each other at the same time if you are ready to participate in your function. It is such a rush to get involved with your partner in something you both have passion in. Maybe you could even find something to bring a little money into your relationship.