All Day Arousal Brings About First Orgasm.

Sexy Challenges received a letter recently from a woman that achieved her very first orgasm at the age of 32 by using Sexy Challenges.  While we will not reveal the name of this person we wanted to share her letter.

Dear Sexy Challenges,

I want to give you a big hug and thank you.  I have been married for six years now.  I am married to a wonderful man who is so awesome to me.  My trouble is that even though I am extremely attracted and turned on by him in our six years I have never reached orgasm.  I don't think that he knows this fact, but it is frustrating to me.  Recently in an effort to improve this situation I found on iTunes this simple little book by Sexy Challenges, titled All Day Arousal.  This short little e-book opened my mind to a way of turning myself on, and building that desire all day long.  Needless to say that nights love making was out of this world.  I had my very first orgasm!  I couldn't believe it the feeling was so great.  I finally felt like a real woman.  Now my husband is in heaven because I want sex a lot more often and I have had an orgasm each and every time since.  Finally I can feel the power of intimacy.  Thank you Sexy Challenges you have changed my life and I honor you. 

Sincerely

XXXXXXXXXX

Buffalo, New York

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First Date Again and Again and Again - In a Great Way

"I don't know who you are, Henry...but I dream about you almost every night." -- Lucy

We absolutely love this movie.  It is almost 10 years old now, but it is a great one!

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How much focus do you put in your relationship?

Do you put much focus in your relationship? Are you always looking for things to make it better or are you like the millions that just let it happen. Well I am here to tell you that if you think your relationship just gets better with age, you are wrong. If you talk to couples that have great relationships you will find a common factor they are always looking for something to challenge or inspire their relationship. It might be a new activity for them to share or a trip to a different location. Experimenting with intimacy or finding different date ideas can make your relationship keep that spark that it had in the beginning. You should think about your relationship everyday because it is a constant living breathing part of your life. Even if it is a little as making sure to give that special kiss before leaving for work. Our relationship is the basis for all our happiness when you have a great relationship and it thrives the rest of your life will follow. So put your relationship at the top of your list today and everyday.

Good Morning, now let's stretch.

Stretching is one of the lost arts in our society. I am not talking about warming up before you get ready to work out. I am talking about when you wake up and get your body woke up. Within your relationship stretching should be like saying good morning to each other. You should take a couple of minutes and push your body into stretches to loosen up the joints and muscles that have been pretty much dormant during the night. It is therapeutic to your body and gets your blood pumping right from the start of your day. Plus it feel really good to get a great stretch in your body. Watch babies and animals when they first wake up. Can your picture your dog stretching out or your cat arching their back. Babies do this quite often as they work their bodies out form being in the womb for 9 months. Take the cue from these natural signs that stretching is good for you. Now don't let your partner get out of bed tomorrow without stretching and gving your a big hug.

When did our relationship slip to being the last thing we care about?

Life is a wonderful thing and living is so important, why then do we let the hustle and bustle of everyday life get the best of us. Thing about this how different is your relationship now that you have been with your partner for some time? Remember back to the early part of your relationship where the most important thing was getting to be together. The other stuff just got in the way, you would count the hours until work was over or you couldn't wait for the time when you date would arrive. Remember the feelings you first had when you made love? That calm feeling of just being in bed together, passion was the focus and the rest of the world was on the outside looking in. Now if you have been together for a while are all those feelings still the same. Do you look forward to coming home to your partner so you can really spend time with them. It seems sad to me that the longer we are together the farther apart we drift. If you in that roommate stage of relationship where it seems like you are just meeting at the end of the day to sleep, you need to stop. This is the point in which love goes into hibernation. Sure you still love your partner but the passion and romance are sleeping. Time to wake them up. Make an effort to get back to that state when you loved doing things with your partner. Make time for the two of you to have fun. Yes even if you have kids that is what babysitters are for. You owe it to yourselves to get reconnected. My suggestion is to make sex a priority also, take turns planning romantic evenings even if they are in your own home and stick to it. It is easy to say I'm too tired or I don't feel like it, but now if you think about it doesn't your relationship deserve it. If you can bring the passion back into your relationship your whole world will seem a little brighter again. Think about how great life seemed when you were only worried about the romance and love. You can have that again all you need to do is try a little.

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Readers View:

We had a reader send in a question or maybe a concern was a better way to put it. They wanted to warn people about marring the first person they fell in love with. This reader married right out of high school and isn't enjoying the relationship much at this point, after kids and other things in life.

I agree to a point in that you should shop around a little before settling down. I don't really like the word settle down as it implies your life is over and you are waiting to die now. I think you should look for someone you are going to be able to enjoy life with. You need to find things out before you make a major commitment. You need to know if you have view that won't bring you at odds with each other, you need to be on the same page as far as your family and kids go. I will probably get some flax over this put you even need to know if your libidos are going to match up. These things are all important to a healthy relationship. I think if you are able to enjoy being around the person and you can have a great time with each other it is possible to compromise on some of the other things. These compromises have to be realistic however. If you want to have sex everyday and your partner never wants to have sex once a year is not a good compromise. As to your first love working out, it is possible I know several couples that married right out of high school and have worked out great. The common thread on these couples is that they moved away and had to rely on each other in their younger days. There is no magic formula to having a successful relationship, and anything and everything can work. I would advise however to shop around a little something better might be around the corner or you might already have that special someone. However you can second guess it forever so don't do that if you are currently in a relationship.

Treat each date like a first date.

I know once you get to be a couple your dating seems to change. If you living in the same house it seems a little weird to be getting ready for a date, while your partner is doing the same thing. To make this seem a little more exciting do this next time you are going to go out. One of you gets ready firsts, then you set a time for your date. The partner that is ready then leaves, to return at the set time. Then the other partner begins getting ready for the date. The partner that is ready can do anything they want until time to pick up their date. You could go hang out at your local pub, or go shopping anything to pass the time until your date. Then when the time come you proceed to go pick up your date. It might seem a little weird to go to the house in which you live to pick up the person you are already sleeping with. Make light of the situation and remember the first time you picked them up for a date. See if you can get those butterflies in your stomach again. Maybe purchase something new to wear that your partner has never seen you in as of yet. It is little things like this that can keep your relationship in the best shape, don't be afraid to be silly and show your partner how much they mean to you.

Tell me about your great and bad dates.

I am curious as to what constitutes a great date. I want to hear from our viewer about where they have went the turned out to be a great date and where did you go that turned out to be a lousy date. I understand we might get some conflicting data but for the most part I just want to know. It is so hard to pick the right place for that first date, so I would like to be able to pass along some information to those who are about to embark on their first date with someone. For me the first date should be someplace quite that you can talk. Place such as museums or the zoo that give you a chance to walk around and chit chat about the exhibits to get the conversation flowing. My opinion of the worst places to go are crowed clubs or the movies as they tend to be places that you can't converse or that you sit and watch for long periods of time. These are my examples but I want to hear from you so drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com . I am anxious to hear from everyone.

Smootch Time!

One of the most anticipated events in our relationships is the first kiss. So how come that excitement doesn't linger when we are on our 2,765th kiss. Here is my take, in the begining we do not expect the kiss, we want it but we don't take it for granted. Now after we are comfortable and we get into a routine, kissing loses it's thrill. We all know the out the door kiss, that we do everyday as we are leaving for work. Well I think we can break this mold and get kissing back to a passionate event.

Next time you and your partner are together sit down and write down 3 times of the day. Take turns picking and make them random. Then as they say in the spy movies synchronize your watches and at each of those times the both of you are to meet at a designated area and share a passonate kiss. I think you will find yourself watching the clock a litte and hopefully getting a little excited about Smootch Time! See if your actions are a little different as the time gets closer are you figiting a little in your chair, are you looking for a breath mint, or are you daydreaming about the up coming kiss. It's okay build up some anticipation it's good for your relationship.

By clicking on the title line you will be taken to The Art of Kissing website for a little more information on kissing.

Now loosen up those lips and get ready to kiss.