Readers View:

We had a reader send in a question or maybe a concern was a better way to put it. They wanted to warn people about marring the first person they fell in love with. This reader married right out of high school and isn't enjoying the relationship much at this point, after kids and other things in life.

I agree to a point in that you should shop around a little before settling down. I don't really like the word settle down as it implies your life is over and you are waiting to die now. I think you should look for someone you are going to be able to enjoy life with. You need to find things out before you make a major commitment. You need to know if you have view that won't bring you at odds with each other, you need to be on the same page as far as your family and kids go. I will probably get some flax over this put you even need to know if your libidos are going to match up. These things are all important to a healthy relationship. I think if you are able to enjoy being around the person and you can have a great time with each other it is possible to compromise on some of the other things. These compromises have to be realistic however. If you want to have sex everyday and your partner never wants to have sex once a year is not a good compromise. As to your first love working out, it is possible I know several couples that married right out of high school and have worked out great. The common thread on these couples is that they moved away and had to rely on each other in their younger days. There is no magic formula to having a successful relationship, and anything and everything can work. I would advise however to shop around a little something better might be around the corner or you might already have that special someone. However you can second guess it forever so don't do that if you are currently in a relationship.