Easter is a time of renewal.

Easter if you are a religious person marks the returning of Jesus. If you are not then easter marks the returning of life in the form of flowers, and plants. Which ever you believe make it a point to renew you love on easter. Get out and enjoy the warm weather and the purity that is nature with each other. Breath in the fresh air and breath fresh life into your relationship. Sit down and think for a minute about why you fell in love with your mate, are those qualities still there. If you say no then you might need to look a little deeper. People do change over time so maybe there is something new that you are thankful for in your partner. Don't let your love slip away from you, it is time to put focus back into your relationship. Things outside are starting to spring back to life and your relationship if not it them best shape should take a note from nature and revive it's self. Show this post your your partner and let them get their own take on it and then together sit down and list the qualities that you love about your partner on a piece of paper. Then exchange them and see what you think about each other. This is a great exercise to keep your relationship strong and vibrant. Do not put down anything negative as we want to focus on the positive. List personalty traits, their physical apprearance, as well as the great things they do for you and the community. What your partner swell with pride as the read the great things that you think about them. Easter again is a time for renewal so take the time to renew your feelings about the person you love the most.

Set goals for SEX!

We get so busy in our day to day life that sometimes our sex life gets left behind. We want to be intimate with your partner but things keep getting in the way. Things like sickness, kids, work, family, the list goes on and on. Let me ask you this how many of you out there have had a fun evening planned that would end up with the two of you making love for hours, only to have something happen to disrupt your plans. Well you are not alone and when this happens it seems to throw you off and it's hard to get that special date back. I want to suggest setting a number of times a month to have sex. Be it 4 or 16 times a month that is between the two of you, the only rule is you have to stick to it. Want to gamble a bit on it then throw numbers in a hat and at the beginning of the month pull one out and bam that is how many times you are required to make love this month. Once you agree no backing out set a reward for the two of you for hitting your goal, like a nice dinner out or a little trip. Now it is both of your responsibility to make sure you hit the number. I don't care if you have to make love 3 times the last day you make sure you do it. This helps you form a more important commitment to each other and working for the goal together can be fun and exciting. Keep a countdown on the wall, no one else will know what it is for but the two of you. Once you hit your goal then celebrate break out some champagne and do it right. Then set a goal for the next month.

When did our relationship slip to being the last thing we care about?

Life is a wonderful thing and living is so important, why then do we let the hustle and bustle of everyday life get the best of us. Thing about this how different is your relationship now that you have been with your partner for some time? Remember back to the early part of your relationship where the most important thing was getting to be together. The other stuff just got in the way, you would count the hours until work was over or you couldn't wait for the time when you date would arrive. Remember the feelings you first had when you made love? That calm feeling of just being in bed together, passion was the focus and the rest of the world was on the outside looking in. Now if you have been together for a while are all those feelings still the same. Do you look forward to coming home to your partner so you can really spend time with them. It seems sad to me that the longer we are together the farther apart we drift. If you in that roommate stage of relationship where it seems like you are just meeting at the end of the day to sleep, you need to stop. This is the point in which love goes into hibernation. Sure you still love your partner but the passion and romance are sleeping. Time to wake them up. Make an effort to get back to that state when you loved doing things with your partner. Make time for the two of you to have fun. Yes even if you have kids that is what babysitters are for. You owe it to yourselves to get reconnected. My suggestion is to make sex a priority also, take turns planning romantic evenings even if they are in your own home and stick to it. It is easy to say I'm too tired or I don't feel like it, but now if you think about it doesn't your relationship deserve it. If you can bring the passion back into your relationship your whole world will seem a little brighter again. Think about how great life seemed when you were only worried about the romance and love. You can have that again all you need to do is try a little.

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Wake Up on the Right Side of the Bed

Do you ever have those mornings when nothing seems to go right and everyone seems to get on your nerves. To make matters worse you want to take everything out on your partner. Well, when you get up and feel this way you need to take action. Try this.

When you start wondering why am are so snippy with everyone go back into your bedroom and lay back down on the bed.  Take a couple of deep breaths and release them slowly.  Then get up on the opposite side of the bed.  Make a conscious effort to relax and start your day over.

Stress begets more stress so take some deep breaths and let your "new" morning start out better.

The Perfect Anniversary day!!

Anniversaries are very special days, it is a time to celebrate you love for each other. It is not to be taken lightly. The higher the number of years you have been married the more important it becomes. It is sad in this day and age that we don't see may 50 year marriage celebrations anymore. You should each and every day fell how grateful you are for you mate but you should step it up a notch on your anniversary. Put as much effort into the day as you can, your relationship is worth the effort and you partner will appreciate it also. If you are like most marriages you have had your ups and downs but with the anniversary it is time to renew everything in your relationship. Now stop reading this blog and find a way to make your partner feel special today as well as each and every other day in your lives.