Collage of Pictures

You can never have enough pictures up in your house. These pictures should be of you and your partner (and kids if you have them) enjoying yourselves. I like to make collages, which are various pictures put together in either a single picture frame or a series of frames connected together. By putting this collage of fun pictures up you serve constant reminders of how much fun you have had in the past and it gives you that urning to have that fun again. Get everyone in your household involve in picking out their favorite pictures to include. Then spend a rainy day creating a piece of artwork that both inspires and makes your remember great time.

Looking for a Job? Do it together.

As the economy is trying to turn around many of us find ourselves looking for employment. Constant scanning the want ads and the internet for jobs that fit is a nightmare. This nightmare can be a little easier if you enlist the help of your partner. Having another pair of eyes browsing the endless streams of information is a big help. For starters they will look in a totally different manner than yourself. You might pass over a job that might be perfect of you but someone with a more objective eye might have it stick out to them. Another plus for this is that their future depends on this also. When one partner loses a job or is out of work the whole family suffers. Teamwork isn't a option here you need to lower you defences and listen to ideas your partner has. Remember that no one knows you better than your partner, so trust their judgement also.

Teasing, when that is all you can do!

Teasing each other at times when nothing else can happen is a great way to build excitement for the next time you get a chance to be intimate. Times like on family vacations, at in laws house for supper, or during a cook out are a few of these times that stick out in my mind. For example on vacation get a little frisky under the coves and let your hands do a little exploring, knowing that you can have full out sex but a little petting would be a great tease for a later time when the petting can go much farther. Sneak away for a passionate kiss at a family dinner or hold hands during a friendly cook out. No matter what type of teasing turns you on you can find a couple of minutes to get the blood pumping for later. A wink, a kiss, or a tush squeeze are all things that can jump start teasing when nothing can happen. The beauty of all this teasing is that it makes both of you feel really good and creates desire to follow through on the teasing later.

Holding hands can make a difference.

Tough times are hard to get through. Once simple thing that will make it a little better is holding hands during them. Funerals, financial troubles, hurt feelings are all things that the simple act of holding hands will benefit both partners. The support and ability to lean on your partner is one of those things that makes relationships wonderful. You can give gifts, go on vacations, and have parties out the butt. However when the chips are down a simple hand holding for support will work wonders.

Keep a couples diary

Have you ever been sitting around together and wondering what you were doing last year at this time? Maybe you are sitting here right now going I hope that you both remember this a year from now. Well why not keep a journal of what is going on in your life. Right down the happy and sad events, your feelings and where you think the future will be going and then in a year read that entry to see how you felt or see how close you are to getting to the place you wanted to a year ago. Once you get past the first year you will have entries to read each and everyday as you enter your newest thoughts and feelings. If you don't want the hassle of keeping a journal lying around then create a blog for the two of you. You don't even have to publish it keep it in a word document you can add pictures or what ever floats you boat. One of the biggest reasons for doing this is to show you how problems get solved or just go away. Sometimes we stress way to much about our troubles not realizing that they will pass in time. No matter which way you decide to keep your couples diary start it today and you will be one day closer to be able to answer that question: What were we doing a year ago?

Set goals for SEX!

We get so busy in our day to day life that sometimes our sex life gets left behind. We want to be intimate with your partner but things keep getting in the way. Things like sickness, kids, work, family, the list goes on and on. Let me ask you this how many of you out there have had a fun evening planned that would end up with the two of you making love for hours, only to have something happen to disrupt your plans. Well you are not alone and when this happens it seems to throw you off and it's hard to get that special date back. I want to suggest setting a number of times a month to have sex. Be it 4 or 16 times a month that is between the two of you, the only rule is you have to stick to it. Want to gamble a bit on it then throw numbers in a hat and at the beginning of the month pull one out and bam that is how many times you are required to make love this month. Once you agree no backing out set a reward for the two of you for hitting your goal, like a nice dinner out or a little trip. Now it is both of your responsibility to make sure you hit the number. I don't care if you have to make love 3 times the last day you make sure you do it. This helps you form a more important commitment to each other and working for the goal together can be fun and exciting. Keep a countdown on the wall, no one else will know what it is for but the two of you. Once you hit your goal then celebrate break out some champagne and do it right. Then set a goal for the next month.

Give, Give, Give....

During this time of season we really think about needy people ones that are in our lives and ones that we know nothing about. Sometimes I tear up hearing about a child that doesn't have enough to eat or that hasn't any parents at this time of year. It's hard enough to make ends meet and get everything done we need to do but can you imagine not even having the means to complete the most basic tasks, like brushing your teeth? I know this holiday I am going to put a little extra effort into giving. Go out and when you pick up your basic needs such as toothpaste, pick up an extra tube and drop it off at the homeless shelter. Cleaning out your closet for new Christmas clothes take them to a place that gives them to the needy. Volunteer you time to help serve dinner at a shelter and make donations to organizations that need funding. This way when you are snuggled up with your sweetheart in your nice warm house you will get an even better feeling by knowing that you helped someone less fortunate. Get your partner involved and your kids if you have any, you won't believe the wonderful feeling it gives you to help someone that is down on their luck. Believe me you will see the appreciation in their eyes. Then don't forget about this feeling the rest of the year.

Mix things up a bit.

It is so easy to get into a routine way of doing things. We eat lunch at the same time, our alarm goes off at the same time every morning, and we go to bed at a certain time each day just to mention a few of the ways we fall into a routine. Now some thing you are not going to be able to adjust like what time you have to be at work, and other things that have certain times attached to them. However you can mix things up within your home life. Stay up late and sleep in every once in a while. By mixing up the way we do things we get our brains out of their routine, which is good for our overall health. Do things in different orders then you usually do. Have a late lunch, or an early dinner so that you can do something different during the day. Mix up the times you make love, don't fall into the trap that the only time you can make love is right before you go to bed, chance it up and do it when you wake up one day, or when the mood hits you in the afternoon. If you feel really adventurous make a lunch date to make love. Other things you can do is change the times you normally go on date, check out a movie during the day, or meet in the morning for a nice walk. Anything that you do that has a normal time of day attached to it can be moved around or altered to keep you fresh and exciting. For instance you could cook breakfast items for dinner sometime, or record your favorite shows and watch them at a more opportune time during the day. Keeping things in a more chaotic order might make everything seem different and more exciting, if you stay up late to do laundry while watching your favorite movie might make this chore exciting.

Pull together during tough times.

When things are going bad it is easy to let your relationship slip. The added tension of not being able to pay bills or other such things can be a real killer for a relationship. When couples pull together during these tough time they can form a bond like no other. It is easy to blame each other for tough times in your relationship, but instead of doing that why not work together to get though them. Many people have had the same event that you might be going through happen to them. Instead of driving the wedge between the two of you, grab each others hand and make a commitment to getting though your troubles. If money is the problem then work together to find ways to cut out items you don't need or can do without. Again by working together and relying on each other will make the outcome so much better and then you will have the satisfaction of being able to get through tough time together.