A morning massage just might be what the doctor ordered.

On those days that you get to snuggle together in the mornings you might take advantage of the time to start your partners day out right. A morning massage no matter how small might just kick start your partners day. Gently start rubbing you partners shoulders to see if they are receptive to the morning massage. One sure way to know is if you hear the moan of pleasure. That is the tell tell sign that you should continue. A massage not only gets the blood flowing but it also stimulates the nerves in that area and really will give your partner a wonderful sensation. When you wake in the morning you might be a little more relaxed so that the massage has a bigger impact on your partner. Plus it just plain feels good to have the person you love's hands touching you the first thing in the morning. Some of the great places to focus on are the shoulders, the arms, the legs and a big one is the feet. A massage can be a wonderful feeling but it is much more than that can be a wonderful way to build closeness in your relationship. The feeling that you partner is thinking about your well being right from the start of the day, should grace your face with a smile.

Challenge each other to recycle!

Love is good and recycling is good, also. Why not make a game of recycling between you and your lover. Make it a point to see who can recycle the most items or to call the other one out when they don't recycle. If you find a soda can in the trash from your lover, make sure to draw it to their attention. You could even go as far as to set up a chart and when you hit a certain point your partner has to take you to dinner. You could even put disciplines on items found in the trash that were recyclable. For example, 3 items found would make your partner have to give you a massage. Heck you could even attach sexual favors to a number of recycled items you find in the trash from your partner. Then at least you both win as you dig out the items. If you really want to get into the competition thing then start two bags of recycling and see who can fill theirs up first. You could even do this in your neighborhood. What ever way you do it, the fact remains you will be helping the environment. Peace and recycling to all of you.

You know you look good when you do good deeds.

You know there is something special about a persona as they are doing a good deed. Maybe they are rescuing a kitten or helping a child tie their shoe. These actions give you an aura of attractiveness that anyone in tune with you. So if you want to catch the eye of your partner stop trying to impress him/her and start helping the world.

Use a long drive for deep talks.

Long drives are normally tiring and boring for everyone, especially the one doing the driving. As a couple you can help each other out by saving some deep conversations for your drive. Be it that you are going on vacation or just have a long drive ahead of you. A great conversation not only keeps the driver alert but it also makes the trip seem shorter. If you are the one not driving make sure to bring up subjects that are interesting and fun to talk about for your partner. Ask for their opinion on things and see if you can hit a passionate nerve for them to speak about. The meaning of life, desires for the future, past experiences are just a few things you can start conversations about. As you get into deep conversation the miles seem to pass quite faster and you might even reach your destination a little more refreshed then you would have imagined. If you two are alone in the car it is a great time to talk about your relationship. Don't talk about things that anger you, we don't want a fight on our drive, but the good things in your relationship. Praise your partner as you proceed on your drive. We so often don't tell our partner how good they make us feel and this is a wonderful time to do it. Touch the drivers arm or leg from time to time to give that human touch that is so important and also stimulates their feeling of being loved. Switch drivers when needed but try to keep the conversation going. Nothing makes a drive longer then when everyone is asleep and the driver has nothing to do besides focus on driving. The road becomes longer, and the driver becomes uncomfortable and itching for some human interaction. Music and food can help but it is not near as fun or exciting as that wonderful conversation the two of you could be having.

Good things happen in bunches.

Have you ever heard the saying, "Bad things come in threes" Well I think that good things come in bunches like bananas. I have seen it happen far to often. When good things start happening the flood gates are open and the good things start flowing like a raging stream. Take heart when the bad things are happening because they only come in threes. Once the good starts happening you need to ride it like a wave and enjoy all the excitement. Bad things happen we understand that but the universe or powers above always balance it out so that you life is overall good. Enjoy your life, enjoy your love and share it with you partner.

Let you partner know you are talking good about them.

You won't believe what my husband did....

We all are curious about how are partner talks about us when they are not around us. We wonder to they bash us and only tell their friends about the not so good things we do. Could be possible that they are speaking like we are a saint? There is no way to tell for sure unless you overhear a conversation and hard as it is that is eavesdropping and isn't right. This is where we can tell our partner when we talk good about them. Let them know that you told your girlfriends how romantic they are or when you tell the guys how you have the best partner in the world. Tell them specifics like, "The other day the girls went nuts when I showed them the note you left me when you went on your trip" or "All the guys are so jealous of me because I told them about you sitting up that special trip to the ballpark for me" We so often have an vision of your partner belittling us because that is what we see on television. Another good reason to pitch the television. The programs and talk shows are full of people talking about the terrible things their lovers do. Maybe we should start a show called "How great my lover is" that lets people talk about the good in their relationship. No fights just proud partners expressing how wonderful their partner is. Now I might watch that show to pick up some extra wonderful things to do. Go a step farther and ask you friends when they are bashing their mate, "Does you partner do anything that pleases you?" Get them searching their mind for positive things and you might just chance a persons whole day.

Pulling Hair isn't just a form of fighting

When you hear the words "Pulling Hair", if you are like me you immediately think of a fight. Maybe you think of someone so frustrated they are pulling their hair out. However pulling hair is actually a great newer form of massage. Using the senses in you scalp you can relax and improve the health of your partner. Now we are not talking about pulling hair out of the scalp or pulling hard. What you do is get close to the scalp and gently tug on the hair. You want to use the tug and release technique all over your partners scalp. They will start to feel the relaxation filling their whole body. I must admit I am very impressed with the feeling it gives me. So next time you partner is stress simply pull their hair!

Below is a more detailed account of what happens to help you understand why this is important and healthy. And if you click the title of this post you can see a video on how to do a hair pull massage.

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Hair Pulling Scalp Massage

Linda Tellington, a world-renowned animal trainer, developed hair pulling scalp massage. During her work with animals, called Tellington Touch or simply TTouch, Linda discovered that these techniques were also very effective on humans.

Gentle but firm pressure is used to glide from your scalp to the ends of each small section of hair. The resulting pressure at and beneath your scalp is both pleasurable and beneficial. Hair pulling scalp massage causes a release of tension in the micro muscles surrounding each hair follicle, restoring pliability to your scalp, and causing the relaxation response in your entire body. The relaxation response lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, slows respiration, neutralizes stress chemicals, and counteracts the “fight or flight” response.

Seventy percent (70%) of your nervous system is in your head. Hair pulling scalp massage activates neural pathways to the brain, stimulating unused brain cells, and awakening cellular intelligence. This awakened cellular intelligence reorganizes the nervous system, enlivening nerves reminding the cells of their function, and creating cell to cell communication.

Beta brain waves are the normal waking state where logic, thinking, and problem solving takes place. Alpha waves produce a detached awareness and profound relaxation. Theta waves occur in the dream state, and when the subconscious supplies the answer to a problem without a step by step process. Delta waves are seen in deep sleep, in healers, while the body heals, and in persons with psychic/intuitive abilities.

Beta, alpha, theta, and delta waves emerge in both hemispheres of the brain in a pattern known as the optimum brain wave state. This state is creative, healing, and peaceful. Successful people utilize this brain wave patter naturally and more often. Hair pulling scalp massage helps develop and strengthen this pattern.

Because hair pulling scalp massage releases endorphins, your body’s own natural pain killers, it is effective for:

• Headaches (including migraines and sinus)
• Whiplash
• Neck and shoulder tension
• TMJ dysfunction syndrome
• Neurological trauma
• Nerve injury
• Body aches and stiffness
• Mental tension
• Emotional upset

Gift certificates are available in our office, or you can now order a Gift Certificate from our web site. Massage does not replace the need for appropriate medical and prenatal care. Consult your primary health care provider before receiving prenatal massage.

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Increase your sex drive with... WATERMELON????

Watermelon has long been a great hit in the summer. It is cool and tasty and doesn't have hardly any calories, and now you can even get seedless ones for those of your whose only beef was eating around the seeds. As fruit goes we all know that it is health for us but recent studies are showing the watermelon might just be better for our love life then we ever knew. Watermelon has many things in it that are good for us. The one that could help our sex life however is citrulline. Citrulline has many beneficial functions, one of them being that it helps relax blood vessels much like the new erection help drugs that are out today. This type of relaxation of the blood vessels can help women become arouse easier also. This little bit of information has watermelon farmers smiling from ear to ear. Start stocking up on watermelon and encourage your partner to enter the watermelon eating contest at the fair, because you might be the one that wins the prize.

Sandals - Shoes for Lovers

Summer time is great for lots of things but one of my favorite things about summer is being able to wear sandals. Sandals are the most romantic footwear that was ever created. There are plenty of sexy shoes out their with stiletto heels and feathery pumps. However, we are talking romantic shoes here. Sandals are quick to put on and off, which allows you to save time when getting ready. They are comfortable and show off your sexy feet and toes, which will really excite you if you have a foot fetish. They also allow your feel to get air to them and on those hot summer days concealed feet can get pretty stinky. Most of the sandals you pick for summer can also get wet so you don't have to worry if you want to step into a kiddy pool or play in the rain. Plus sandals just have that relaxed feel to them, they are like vacation for your feet. If you don't have great sandals then today is the best day to go out and get some. Then see how romantic they make you feel wearing them around.

Teasing, when that is all you can do!

Teasing each other at times when nothing else can happen is a great way to build excitement for the next time you get a chance to be intimate. Times like on family vacations, at in laws house for supper, or during a cook out are a few of these times that stick out in my mind. For example on vacation get a little frisky under the coves and let your hands do a little exploring, knowing that you can have full out sex but a little petting would be a great tease for a later time when the petting can go much farther. Sneak away for a passionate kiss at a family dinner or hold hands during a friendly cook out. No matter what type of teasing turns you on you can find a couple of minutes to get the blood pumping for later. A wink, a kiss, or a tush squeeze are all things that can jump start teasing when nothing can happen. The beauty of all this teasing is that it makes both of you feel really good and creates desire to follow through on the teasing later.

Put your feelings in a journal for each other to read.

Here is a great way to let your partner know how you are feeling. Start a feelings journal that you can keep by your bed. What is a feelings journal?, you might ask. Well it is a little book where you write anything you would like your partner to know. It can be things that bother you, or the way they make you feel great, to even things you would like to discover or try. The subject matter can range between bills to sex. The point is the journal is a way to communicate things to each other. The way it works is you both set a time for you to write your feelings in the journal. Make these different time I would suggest a time where the two of you are apart and not only do you write your feeling in your feelings journal you read what you partner has wrote. A feelings journal is a great way to express to each other feelings that you might not be comfortable with just talking during your normal conversations. Now here is the kicker you don't ever confront you partner on what they wrote! You take it in put it in your mind, you can act on it later but you, never ever read their statement and go right out to confront them about it. I think once you get in the habit of writing and reading a feelings journal you will become closer. One last word of advise this is not a bashing journal if all you are going to do is write down things that upset you then you might as well throw the journal out the window now. Sure sometimes you will want to address something negative but most of the time it should be positive and build your relationship. Try it out I am sure you will enjoy it and it only takes a couple of minutes a day. Time well spent.

Time for some change

Sometimes in even in a relationship we need some change. No I am not talking about looking for a new partner, I am talking about breathing some life into your relationship. Do things a little differently then you have been doing them for the past years. Switch sides that you sleep on in bed, or change chores at the house, these types of little things can make your relationship seem fresh and new. Get a new hair style, pick up a new way to exercise, or rearrange the house all of these little differences can make a world of difference in your life. Go through all you clutter and clean it out make room for new and exciting things. Get all those old pictures out of storage go through them and make a scrapbook or put them on the computer. Buy new sheets for the bed, or switch all the cabinets around not only does this make your relationship better but it will help your mind also. New positions during sex and trying new toys can bring that thrill back to your sex life. So, you see change is a very good thing it keeps our relationship fresh and exciting. Look around today and see what you can change you might just get that little spark you've been looking for.

Take inventory of your relationship.

If your like the normal couple you only talk about your partners faults instead of focusing on the good things that they do in your relationship. We dwell on the facts of what they didn't do instead of celebrating the things that they do to help out the household or your relationship. What you need to do is to take time and make a list of all the good things your partner does in your relationship. Write down all the little things like taking out the garbage, picking up the kids, or even fixing dinner. Then look for major things they do to make your relationship better, like making sure the two of you have a date night, or planning a great weekend getaway for the two of you. I am sure once you start writing down things you will be amazed at how many good things your partner does. Do they make the bed, mow the lawn, let you watch the shows you want, or even just kiss you good night. Then the next time you want to yell at them for leaving the lid off the toothpaste, pull out your list and read one of the good things they do. Maybe you can live without the lid on the toothpaste.

Keep a couples diary

Have you ever been sitting around together and wondering what you were doing last year at this time? Maybe you are sitting here right now going I hope that you both remember this a year from now. Well why not keep a journal of what is going on in your life. Right down the happy and sad events, your feelings and where you think the future will be going and then in a year read that entry to see how you felt or see how close you are to getting to the place you wanted to a year ago. Once you get past the first year you will have entries to read each and everyday as you enter your newest thoughts and feelings. If you don't want the hassle of keeping a journal lying around then create a blog for the two of you. You don't even have to publish it keep it in a word document you can add pictures or what ever floats you boat. One of the biggest reasons for doing this is to show you how problems get solved or just go away. Sometimes we stress way to much about our troubles not realizing that they will pass in time. No matter which way you decide to keep your couples diary start it today and you will be one day closer to be able to answer that question: What were we doing a year ago?

Ladies committed relationships allow you to explore your slutty side.

Ladies you spend your entire life trying to keep that good girl image, to attract the kind of men that you can spend the rest of your life with. Ever since high school you didn't want to be called a slut or be to easy because it would ruin your reputation. Well once you get into a committed relationship you can throw all that out the window. Once you find a person you feel you can spend the rest of your life with and that you have plenty of time invested in, you can let your guard down a little and explore that dark side that you always had to keep under wraps. Go out and purchase some sex under clothes or maybe even some leather under clothes. Pick out dark colors such as black and red to get away from soft pastel colors you might have worn in the past. Get online and pick out some sex toys to try out with your partner, and start tearing down the wall that has tried to keep you in the good girl image all these years. Believe me you mate will be ecstatic with you new found sexual prowess. Life is way to short and when you have the relationship you want firmly in your grasp it is time to let loose and enjoy the sex that god created for us to frolic in. Don't wait until it's to late, start today.

Be prepared for Valentine's Day next year.

Here is a wonderful idea, the only downfall to it is that you have to wait until next year at Valentine's Day to enjoy it. Basically all you do is start writing down all the sweet and wonderful things your partner does for you in a journal. You do this day in and day out for an entire year, then next year at Valentine's Day you present this journal to your partner with a card attached that says here are some of the reasons this past year that you made me feel special. Now you can't just have one or two things written down in this journal. Make it a point to fill the journal up. Your partner will have a great time reading through the little notes on things that they did the past year to make you feel special. In fact, by writing these things down you to will gain more appreciation for your partner and all they do for you. Have a great Valentine's Day tomorrow and show you love how important they are to you.

Get out of bed on the RIGHT side!

I am sure you have all heard the expression, "I got up on the wrong side of the bed," but how can you make it work for your relationship. Well, my suggestion is to engage you partner right from the start of the morning by crawling over him/her to get out of bed. If you sleep naked, this is a wonderful good morning move that will surely get your partner to notice you as you are getting up. Make sure to rub your skin across his/hers as you slink across. Who knows you might even get pulled back into bed for a little more ways to wake yourselves up.

Christmas Erotica?

Tis the season to be romantic, sexy, and passionate. What better way to spend Christmas eve then reading an erotic Christmas story. There are several out there that would fit the bill but the one I like the best is called "Special Delivery for Christmas" and you can pick it up electronically at Amazon by clicking the title of this post, or the one at the bottom of this post. The story is short and a feel good one that has more to it then just sex. Join Carol and Chris as they find out what Christmas really means to them.

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Your Life's Soundtrack

I wonder sometimes why I don't listen to more music? When the wife and I are folding laundry or just hanging out, it never seems that I remember that the silence that so often fills our house could be avoided by simply playing some music. Most everyone love some sort of music so it makes sense to play some during your most mundane tasks. Music can get your blood pumping and maybe get you up to do a little exercising while you are just sitting completing your task. If you have an iPod then you need to get you a playlist set up with the upbeat music that you love so the next time you and your partner are just sitting their doing a boring task you can get up and dance so excitement into your relationship. Be silly and get your heart pumping.

Don't stop there start putting music everywhere in your life, listen to it while you take a shower (Keep all electrical devices away for the water, duh), find some music to make out to, or some to sit and listen to on the porch while you sip a drink. Our memories are sometimes attached to songs that are playing in the background during an event that happens. If you have children get them involved also and pick songs that are fun to sing and move to. Start them young and put music in their lives. Look at it this way have you ever seen a movie that didn't have music playing in the background during the important parts? Unless the want you to hear what the actors are saying music is playing. Lets put a soundtrack in the background of our lives start compiling songs today.

Abundant Love

Sometimes we forget that our love is one of the most important feeling we have. It makes us do things we might not normally do. When we need a shot in the arm our partner is the one we need it from and it comes in the form of love. Sometimes it work in mysterious ways and we don't even know it. Have you ever done something nice for your partner and not wanted any praise for it? This is a true sentiment of your feelings. Try it sometime and see where it gets you. Slip some money in their purse or wallet and let them find it sometime, or bring home their favorite meal without asking, you could even clean their car while they are gone and maybe they won't even notice but you have the satisfaction of knowing you did something nice for your partner. Believe me this has a great way of returning to you, think of how you will feel when you find something your partner has planet or done for you without your knowledge. In this matter you love become so abundant and spread through out your whole relationship and universe. Love is something that only grows bigger the more you give it away so give away a lot and you will be loved more then you ever dreamed.