Billy Idol Tells You That You Got To Be A Lover

One of the greatest performers of our time with a song that begs you to be a lover. 

Even Billy Idol knows the importance of Love.  

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Lover to Lover - A Wedding Poem

Lover to Lover

I do not know why or how or from where I love you

My heart and my soul merge with yours

Our consciousness expands and shares

Abundant love with Mother Earth and the Universe

As we bare our souls and spread our wings

We come together and create this union, this oneness

We stand strong as equal parts

Yet, it is not understood where one ends and the other begins

My arms promise you a safe and sacred space

I open my heart to you trusting and loving

I take your hand and you take mine

I touch your soul and you touch mine

Together we traverse the journey called life

And, so it is.

Copyright 2013 Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

*Written for a wedding ceremony

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What to Do When Your Lover Is A Lot Bigger Than You

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Is He/She Your Twin Flame or Soul Mate?

**Here is a look at what soul mates and twin flames are.  Your thoughts? 

Twin Flame Or Soul Mate - What's the Difference?

By Daniella Breen

What is A Soulmate?

Soul mates are those lovers who as soon as we meet, it's like we're old friends, or old lovers - there's often plenty of passion, lots of joy and it feels wonderful to be with them. After a while of being together though, things often start to go wrong, or you feel like you're in an old familiar pattern that is holding you back.

Soul mates are those lovers, who we've had as lovers and friends in many lifetimes previous. They are dear, familiar and often comfortable, but they also usually come with their own set of unresolved issues - from our times together. This is a wonderful opportunity to resolve and clear karma by resolving the issue once and for all. Once you've cleared the karma, you may find that the relationship becomes wonderful and you can live happily ever after. Or you may find that you lose interest, whatever had bound you together for so long, appears to have vanished. That's okay, it just means that you achieved what you wanted and now it's time to move onward.

What is a Twin Flame?

Twin Flame is quite literally your other half. This is the being that separated from you way back at the start of your journey, thousands and thousands of years ago. It has always been very rare for Twin Flames to come together here on Earth - however, recently, as a part of our journey back to the Light, increasing numbers of lightworkers are coming together with their Twin Flame to join forces and unite the world.

Of course, everyone desires to be with their Twin Flame! It's a romantic ideal, your perfect other half. You assume that everything will be alright when that happens. But in reality, you are still two individuals here on earth, no matter how well connected you are so you will still have issues to deal with and the relationship will still take devotion and work.

Also, you cannot assume that you are meant to meet your twin flame here. It may not be a part of your path. It is perfectly wonderful working through any issues in relationships you may have and finding and connecting with someone who is not your twin flame but a lover who is wanting to commit to your life together.

Actions to Attract Your Perfect Partner

You must clear anything that is blocking you from a wonderful relationship. If you have had mostly (or only) unhealthy, unloving, unhappy relationships, then it's likely that there are buried beliefs within you that attract this.

Make sure you:

1. Believe and know that you deserve only love

2. Tolerate nothing less than the love you desire

3. Heal all damage from past relationships

4. Consider, and if appropriate get healing for any past life or childhood trauma

Once the slate is clean, start focusing on your ideal love. Write about what he/she's like, how they think, what they feel like, go into as much detail as you can, take as long as you can to get clear.

Finally, spend a bit of time meditating on connecting with him - you'll be connecting with his higher self - so let him know how you choose to be treated in a relationship and if he's ready for such a relationship, then you are too.

Daniella has been working in the field of Consciousness Mentoring and Energy Work since 1997. Her core drive is working with others to bring them into True Empowerment in their life through re-aligning them with their Soul and Sacred Consciousness. If you want to learn more about shifting into your Soul Purpose and other Consciousness work, Daniella holds a regular Consciousness Call - a free teleconference that you can sign up for here - http://www.theconsciousnesscall.com

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Does Your Partner Feel Special?

What have you done today to make your partner feel special?

Each day you should wake up and find a way to make your partner feel special.  It could be as simple as leaving a note saying, "I Love You"  You don't have to break the bank to make them feel special.  Just think about what your partner like and make sure they get to experience it.  You might just be amazed at home much it will start to make your relationship better.  

Will Fast Food Slow Down Your Sex Life?

This has been a super popular Sexy Challenge Heartbeats podcast episode.  Therefore, we wanted to share it with you here too!

We live in a culture, here in the US, in which the average person is said to eat fast food 4-5 times per week!  Holy cow!  So, how is the affecting our sex lives?  Does it have an impact?  We responded to this question today.  

Most likely you eat fast food - so you should listen in now!

You are what you eat,

Janelle and Rob - Co-Founders of Sexy Challenges

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Changing your words can change the mood.

Sometimes the words you speak don't truly tell the story of what you mean to say. Our partners hear different things as we speak because of the words we choose or the tone we use when we say them. For example, I can say "Let's have sex" and it sounds like I just want to get my enjoyment and I don't care about my partner. However if I rephrase that to "Would you like to be intimate tonight?" I have now changed it to a question allowing my partner a chance to respond unlike the order in the first statement. The second statement has also been softened up and sounds more attractive to both partners. Putting things into questions is a great way to avoid conflict because other wise it sounds like an demand and not a caring wonder. You should take this approach in all your manners of dealing with your partner. "Honey, could you please take out the trash" is going to get a much better reaction then "Would it kill you to take out the trash" Make sure you use softer tones when dealing with your love this expresses a compassion for them that everyone loves. Try it by using the same statement but then softening your voice and saying it again. Use for example "Pass the butter" now say it in a more quite tone and softer. See the difference. Sometimes just the tone comes out all wrong. So now start thinking about the words you speak and start putting different words and questions as well as a softer tone into them and see how your partner responds. This could be very good for you.

Reach out during your work day.

There is a ancient Huna technique of staying connected with your love during time apart. It envolves spining energy out of your fingers to touch the person you desire. Much like the way spiderman spins his web out you send energy out to connect with your partner. When you believe and get use to this practice you can physically feel their presence. Connecting with their breathing and the feeling you get when you are actually with them. Try this the next time you have to get up early to go to work while your partner remains in bed. You can be there by connecting your energy through these webs.

Good things happen in bunches.

Have you ever heard the saying, "Bad things come in threes" Well I think that good things come in bunches like bananas. I have seen it happen far to often. When good things start happening the flood gates are open and the good things start flowing like a raging stream. Take heart when the bad things are happening because they only come in threes. Once the good starts happening you need to ride it like a wave and enjoy all the excitement. Bad things happen we understand that but the universe or powers above always balance it out so that you life is overall good. Enjoy your life, enjoy your love and share it with you partner.

Let you partner know you are talking good about them.

You won't believe what my husband did....

We all are curious about how are partner talks about us when they are not around us. We wonder to they bash us and only tell their friends about the not so good things we do. Could be possible that they are speaking like we are a saint? There is no way to tell for sure unless you overhear a conversation and hard as it is that is eavesdropping and isn't right. This is where we can tell our partner when we talk good about them. Let them know that you told your girlfriends how romantic they are or when you tell the guys how you have the best partner in the world. Tell them specifics like, "The other day the girls went nuts when I showed them the note you left me when you went on your trip" or "All the guys are so jealous of me because I told them about you sitting up that special trip to the ballpark for me" We so often have an vision of your partner belittling us because that is what we see on television. Another good reason to pitch the television. The programs and talk shows are full of people talking about the terrible things their lovers do. Maybe we should start a show called "How great my lover is" that lets people talk about the good in their relationship. No fights just proud partners expressing how wonderful their partner is. Now I might watch that show to pick up some extra wonderful things to do. Go a step farther and ask you friends when they are bashing their mate, "Does you partner do anything that pleases you?" Get them searching their mind for positive things and you might just chance a persons whole day.

Learn to talk a little dirty.

Deep inside our brains we all like a little dirty talk. Either in the throws of passion or as foreplay this dirty talk can take us to a higher level in our sex life. Even the most reserved person can become a dirty talker with a little practice. First you have to learn your style, are you the demanding dirty talker. Demanders bark out instructions using the most vivid words. You could be the screamer where you throw out dirty words as you orgasm. Maybe your the shy one that likes to send your dirty talk via text messages or email. No matter what your style dirty talk can enhance your relationship. Ladies you have the upper hand at this, while for guys we need to be a little more reserved. Guys blurting out dirty words out of the bedroom might seem a little abusive however it is quite different if the lady comes out and asks for her partner to put their face between her boobs. I have found a great web site to help you learn to talk dirty and give you several phrases you might want to use sometime. The link is posted below. Good luck and happy dirty talking.

Drity Talk 101

Recharge your relationship!

Daily events such as work, shores, school, children take a drastic effect on the relationship of couples. These events can suck your energy out of you without you even knowing. Soon you find yourself at home where you can finally relax and you just want to plop down and do nothing. Then you realize that you haven't even seen your partner yet, how are you going to find any energy to share with them. Well if that is how you feel then I am here to tell you that you are looking at it all wrong. Think about it how do you feel when you have a really good day with your partner? I am sure that you feel wonderful, if you are like me you feel on top of the world. Maybe just maybe you relationship can be a recharging thing in your life. It isn't that secret that being in love has great effect on your mental well being, and sex is wonderful for your health and mind. Hummmm lets think now maybe all these trials of the day could be combated by being in love????? If you start viewing your relationship as a way to reconnect to love, and knowing that love is a supercharger for life, then why would you put off your relationship with the person you love. I think if you put the personal commitment into this thinking you will find that you will have more energy for the next day. Sure this will not take away any of those daily tasks but you will sure be a little happier doing them knowing that your lover is at home waiting to recharge your batteries.

Silent Night

One of the best things about winter is snow. A romantic thing to do is watch and listen as the snow falls. Unless you are in a busy part of town it is one of the quietest sounds you can't hear. The snow falls so quiet and just watching it makes you want to curl up with the person you love. I picture a very quiet snow fall every time I hear the song Silent Night. For me it is very relaxing to watch the snow fall with it's quiet rhythm. Sitting with my love and drinking hot cocoa is the thing I want to do every time I see the snow start to fall. For those of you that live in a warmer climate I have included a video from youtube below so that you can get the feeling, too.

Staying up Late

You know when you become a couple and you get into your routine sometimes staying up late is not in your relationship. I think you are missing out on several great opportunities by not staying up late. For instance some of the best conversations are held during times when you both would be up later then anyone else. These conversations get deep and bring a couple close and they can be about anything. You can also find some great old movies on during these late nights. Spend the time cuddling or make yourselves some drinks and snacks. If you have children this might be the only way you can get some adult alone time together to talk about things other then cartoons or toys. Another advantage to staying up late is it usually leads to sleeping in together again if you have no children present.

I feel that when you stay up late together you create such a bond. It's like you are the only two people in the world as you talk and rekindle your relationship. I have never had a problem staying up late but I understand some people do. If you are one of these people and know you are going to spend the evening with your partner alone. Take a nap, sometime during the day, because you don't want to miss a chance and having a great night with your lover.

The Proof is in the Pudding.

Remember Finger painting in grade school. Today I want you to go out and get some pudding cups. Then I want you to feed it to each other only using your fingers. Don't think about the gross factor think of the erotic factor. Licking pudding from you lovers fingers can be a real turn on. Just make sure you hands are clean and that you have a flavor of pudding you like. Take turns feeding each other the pudding make sure to suck on the fingers a little longer then necessary. See who can lick the pudding off the slowest. If the mood hits you right you might even put pudding in other areas of your body and see what happens. One thing I suggest doing during this event is looking your partner straight in the eyes as you suck the pudding off their fingers. That most likely will give them goose bumps or a little tingle if your lucky.