If your partner left you a love note....

If your partner left you a love note, what kind of note would you like it to be.

1. A Poem - Sweet and from the Heart?

2. A Humorous attempt to get you in bed later?

3. A Personal Message describing the ways they love you?

4. A Hot and Steamy, down and dirty Message?

5. Something else?

Tell us which type of letter you would like to receive. Give us details and if you have gotten any give us the scoop on them.

Thanks,

Rob

Learn to talk a little dirty.

Deep inside our brains we all like a little dirty talk. Either in the throws of passion or as foreplay this dirty talk can take us to a higher level in our sex life. Even the most reserved person can become a dirty talker with a little practice. First you have to learn your style, are you the demanding dirty talker. Demanders bark out instructions using the most vivid words. You could be the screamer where you throw out dirty words as you orgasm. Maybe your the shy one that likes to send your dirty talk via text messages or email. No matter what your style dirty talk can enhance your relationship. Ladies you have the upper hand at this, while for guys we need to be a little more reserved. Guys blurting out dirty words out of the bedroom might seem a little abusive however it is quite different if the lady comes out and asks for her partner to put their face between her boobs. I have found a great web site to help you learn to talk dirty and give you several phrases you might want to use sometime. The link is posted below. Good luck and happy dirty talking.

Drity Talk 101

Talk dirty sometimes

We all know that some people like to talk dirty during the throws of passion. It is perfectly normal and accepted. On occasion however, you can bring it out of the bedroom for it's shock value. I don't condone using it casually but at certain times it can be a really effective tool in getting what you want. For instance if you partner is watching sports most likely into the game and not much will get their attention. Now if you walk up and whisper in their ear "Will you please come F**K me" I am sure you will draw their attention away from whatever they are watching. You don't even have to speak the word to make them effective. Say you out at dinner and you find your partner looking very attractive, carefully scribble on a napkin some naughty words and slip it to them across the table. You might see them searching for the waiter to get the check as quickly as possible. Don't use this method to often, as it will lose it's appeal if you go the well to many times. Have fun with it and I am sure you partner will appreciate it, also.

Affection in front of the kids (ewww yuck!)

Something that I think needs to be done in your relationship is to let your children know you are in love. Show each other affection in front of them. Now I am not talking about getting down and dirty. Save that for the bedroom or any other room as long as the little ones are asleep. However, let your young children know it is okay for the two of you to touch each other and be affectionate with each other. I don't ever remember seeing my parents touch, kiss or hold hands when I was growing up. I think that without such a vision in a young child’s mind he/she might think that it is not to be done. Or he/she may grow up to believe you shouldn't show that you care about someone in front of other people. It may sound crazy, but I can see this leading to a lot of problems in a relationship. Keeping the fact that you are attracted to each other away from your children gives them a different idea of what a relationship is! I think of all the domestic abuse in this country, and how many children see that. Far too often that child grows up to think it is okay or the norm.

Well, what if we reverse that? What if a child sees his/her daddy kiss his/her mommy or hold hands with her? Don't you think that will help a child grow up knowing that a relationship should be nurturing. Young children love to imitate their parents. Let’s start showing them how to care about one another. Heck maybe even someone else’s kids will see you holding hands or quickly kissing each other goodbye and see that is okay. From time to time your child might walk in on you during a little more intimate situation (come on you know what I mean- sex), and I think one thing that is important and maybe a little hard to do is not jump up right away like the two of you are doing something wrong. If you can slowly move apart and address the young child’s needs then explain to them that mommies and daddies need time alone together, you just might help them deal with similar situations when they are adults.

Be up front with your children in regards to love and relationships. Not only will they understand it better, but you will definitely help them out later in life. So many relationship problems and sexual problems can be traced back to parents. Don't be the one that makes your son feel like kissing his wife is wrong or the one that makes your daughter feel like sex is dirty. Use the right words and explain when they are curious and their future partners will thank you!

Text Dirty to Me!!!!

Text Dirty to Me!!!

Dirty talk has been around for years. Maybe even since the beginning of human communication. Today's technology has taken dirty talk to a whole different level. You can now send and receive messages from almost anywhere in the world. I am sure I am not telling you anything you don't know at this point. So with all this technology we can now dirty text our partner no matter where we are. These little texts can be very flirtatious with your partner, and get them juiced up for when you finally get together. Slinging dirty little texts back and forth is a great means of foreplay. There are some problems with this means of communication -- such as someone else may pick up your phone or you could send the message to the wrong person like your mom (Explain that one at your next family gathering!). But, if you're careful you shouldn't have any problems. Now, could the government be listening in on your dirty texting? Oh well, what you and your partner do is your business as long as your not harming anyone else.

If you're a little shy or are really worried someone is going to find out you and your partner are having wild sex, then here is what you can do. You can get together and make a code sheet. Listing several different things you would like to do to each other. Another list of items you might be what you want to use on each other. Give each thing a letter or number code then make a copy of the list to carry in a wallet. Then your dirty text might look like this: I want to #6 you with a K and then rub you with a D. Now the only one that knows what that means are the two of you. It can even be more sexy because you might feel like a secret agent whipping out your decoder sheet and decoding the secret message!!

Some words of caution - make sure you know where each one of you is coming from. Don't dirty text your wife at work only to have her come home and find out that you have the guys over to watch the game. And don't dirty text your husband and get him all hot a bothered so that he races home to find out that you are doing dinner with the girls. This tool is great for getting reactions, but make sure you are ready to follow through on those reactions. Your husband might be able to hide his erection at work and your panties might get soaking wet while at the store, but the purpose of dirty texting is to get your partner home quicker, out of his/her clothes and into your arms. So, if you know when your partner is going to get home, and you know the timing won't be right add a last text that tells him/her the next text you send will be a sign for them to attack or for you to attack.

Again, as always I encourage you to be creative. Make your dirty texting fit your relationship. You can make a list your partner has to pick up on his/her way home from work. Things that might create a mood like massage oil, wine, or a vibrator. Maybe you could set your phone to silent, and when your partner gets home play a little game of hide and seek using texting for clues. The prize being you. If you're really brave, you could send pictures of things you want to do, maybe of yourself in something sexy or of things you want to use in the bedroom that night. The possibilities are endless. Make sure your phone is charged, and your mood is right. You may have some good lovin' tonight.