Self Help for couples.

If you like most people you have read several self help books in your life time. No matter if you wanted to increase your memory, get in better shape, or improve areas that you lack a little in. Well why not take a self help book and work on it together. What better support can you have then your partner. Walking through the ins and outs of what ever area you want to improve on together will also bring you closer together. If you want to improve your finances, you can find plenty of authors that will help the two of you. You can make action plans together and take it upon yourselves to push the other partner when they lag behind. Get in shape together, learn a new language, or improve your love life. Whatever you challenge might be go ahead and dive into it together. Learning never hurt anyone so even if the subject might not interest you as much as your partner still but the effort into making it a priority. If you would like to improve the intimacy in your relationship I would suggest picking up SEXY CHALLENGES from the authors of the couples spot to start out with.

The Scarlet Letter

You may have had to read the book, The Scarlet Letter, at some point during your school years. If not, here is my brief over view. A woman commits adultery and has to wear a scarlet letter “A” on all her clothes. Mind you, we are not going to confess our sins on our clothing, but we are going to use it to tell our partner what we want. So start searching through your clothes for ones that have letters on them. If you don't have any with letters, then just go buy some cloth or foam letters at your local discount store. You can make variations to this by putting the letters on the headboard or on the mirror in the bathroom. Especially if you want this to remain a secret and not have other people asking why you are wearing letters on your clothes.

Before you pick your first letter you either need to make a master list of what each letter stands for, or slowly add letters to the first one during certain times of the day to spell out what you would like. You could even possibly text the letter using your phone to your partner. A master list could go as follows. D might mean you would like to have a nice DINNER out. W could mean you would like to take a WALK later. S might mean meet me later for SEX or HS could add to the suggestion as HOT SEX. Pick a specific day to try your scarlet letter activity and maybe do it once a month so that each of you gets a turn. Remember we are not branding you for sins here. We are creating ways for you to get what you need out of a relationship.

Relationships are give and take and it is unlikely that anyone truly wants to be on only the giving side. So start planning now what letter you will pick first. Will it be I, E, O, or U? Wait a second - I feel like I am stuck in a version of Wheel of Fortune. Quick buy a vowel and spin again.

One word of caution - make sure each of you knows what the letters stand for. Don't assume that your partner will know what that BJ stands for because you might end up with a BOWL of JELLO.

Are you ready for your Oral Exam!

Okay time for some intimacy improvement topics ( if you are embarrassed by sex take scroll down to the next post) I am a firm believer in education and I think many people could benefit a lot by reading books that improve you sex life. I want to focus today on oral sex. Oral sex has been around forever it just until recently became a topic you could discuss in public. Most people enjoy either giving it or receiving it, or in my case I enjoy both. Oral sex is not just something you jump into it takes practice and some trial and error to get just the right combination for a couple. This is where the education comes into play. There are several books written on oral sex techniques and I suggest picking up one. Actually I suggest picking up two one for him and one for her. Below I have pasted some pictures of a few I think are beneficial however please browse around there are several to choose from. (I chose She comes first, Tickle his pickle, The low down on going down, and Blow him away.)

Clicking on the title link will take you to Amazon.com where you will find a bunch of books on this subject.

Text Dirty to Me!!!!

Text Dirty to Me!!!

Dirty talk has been around for years. Maybe even since the beginning of human communication. Today's technology has taken dirty talk to a whole different level. You can now send and receive messages from almost anywhere in the world. I am sure I am not telling you anything you don't know at this point. So with all this technology we can now dirty text our partner no matter where we are. These little texts can be very flirtatious with your partner, and get them juiced up for when you finally get together. Slinging dirty little texts back and forth is a great means of foreplay. There are some problems with this means of communication -- such as someone else may pick up your phone or you could send the message to the wrong person like your mom (Explain that one at your next family gathering!). But, if you're careful you shouldn't have any problems. Now, could the government be listening in on your dirty texting? Oh well, what you and your partner do is your business as long as your not harming anyone else.

If you're a little shy or are really worried someone is going to find out you and your partner are having wild sex, then here is what you can do. You can get together and make a code sheet. Listing several different things you would like to do to each other. Another list of items you might be what you want to use on each other. Give each thing a letter or number code then make a copy of the list to carry in a wallet. Then your dirty text might look like this: I want to #6 you with a K and then rub you with a D. Now the only one that knows what that means are the two of you. It can even be more sexy because you might feel like a secret agent whipping out your decoder sheet and decoding the secret message!!

Some words of caution - make sure you know where each one of you is coming from. Don't dirty text your wife at work only to have her come home and find out that you have the guys over to watch the game. And don't dirty text your husband and get him all hot a bothered so that he races home to find out that you are doing dinner with the girls. This tool is great for getting reactions, but make sure you are ready to follow through on those reactions. Your husband might be able to hide his erection at work and your panties might get soaking wet while at the store, but the purpose of dirty texting is to get your partner home quicker, out of his/her clothes and into your arms. So, if you know when your partner is going to get home, and you know the timing won't be right add a last text that tells him/her the next text you send will be a sign for them to attack or for you to attack.

Again, as always I encourage you to be creative. Make your dirty texting fit your relationship. You can make a list your partner has to pick up on his/her way home from work. Things that might create a mood like massage oil, wine, or a vibrator. Maybe you could set your phone to silent, and when your partner gets home play a little game of hide and seek using texting for clues. The prize being you. If you're really brave, you could send pictures of things you want to do, maybe of yourself in something sexy or of things you want to use in the bedroom that night. The possibilities are endless. Make sure your phone is charged, and your mood is right. You may have some good lovin' tonight.