Texting Can Hurt Your Relationship

"In these modern times, it has become easier and easier to tune in to the television, your computer, your phone, or your iPad.  This means you are tuning out from your sweetheart and your intimate relationship.  It may not seem so at first, but eventually being turned on by your lover will wane and become secondary to today's media and digital gadgets and other priorities."

- Janelle and Rob Alex 

via Loving and Lasting: How to Stay Tuned In and Turned On In Your Marriage

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Create Your Own Cell Phone Sexiness

What might you type to create a sexy or erotic texting experience with your sweetie?  Well, you could create a sexy story together.  Each creating the next line or idea.

Here is an example from the Sexy Challenge: Cell Phone Erotica

TEXT #1 - "It was a hot day in Texas, so hot that even the pool Suzy was sitting by felt like bath water."

TEXT #2 - "Suzy pulled an ice cube from her drink and slowly worked it around her chest to feel its cool wet touch."

Let's jump to TEXT #5 - "Suzy saw John watching and became even more adventurous with the ice." 

You can create some serious anticipation if the two of you work together.  Pick up this Sexy Challenge to help get your started!   (Or via iTunes.)

Texting in a marriage can be your best friend.

One of the best technology that helps out a marriage is texting. It might sound a little silly but when you start seeing the benefits you will have to agree. Texting allows the two of you the freedom to converse without having to have both of you on the phone for extended periods of time. Plus it allows you to communicate with each other while you are busy. You can send a message to your partner and they can read it when they get a break or chance. Quick answers that texting give is awesome. For example you can quickly text each other to see who is picking up the kids or what you want for dinner. A simple reply quickly gets the point across and leaves no doubt to what is going on. You can also send sexy text messages to get your partner wound up for later in the evening. This might sound really crazy but I like to text my partner when we are in the same room. It is fun and adds a sense of mystery as the beep sounds to inform my partner she has a message. I like to send simple productive relationships messages like "You are so beautiful", "OMG I love the way you look when you are vacuuming", or "Hi there sexy!!!!" You can also use texting for lists for your partner. Like groceries that you need, or errands to run, plus you can also give quick information as to children's schedule changes, or to let them know when you have to make an unexpected trip. Texting might seem informal and not personal but it in fact is a wonderful tool for a relationship.

The Chase

Here’s a fun little game you can play with your partner. I like to call it “the chase”, and basically it is just like the game you used to play on the playground during recess. You take turns being the one that is the chaser and the one who is being chased. However, now that you are adults, or are at least pretending to be an adult, the game becomes a little more intriguing. During recess you used to be confined to the limits of the playground, but now that you are older you have the run of everywhere. You can use all your modern devices. The person that is getting chased sets up the game by picking out a place to meet or an activity to accomplish. He/she gives the other person clues to where he/she is. Sound interesting? Well, it is. For example, if you want to meet your partner at a special restaurant, you might call him/her on his/her cell phone and tell him/her clues as to your whereabouts. Make it interesting by leading him/her through your town. Maybe you will have them stop and pick you up flowers or something special for later in the evening. You can use note cards if you like, but then you always are wondering if the other person is on the right track. If you are connected with a cell phone at least if they get lost you can call them up and laugh at them.

Another version of this would be if you’re out of town and don't know the area you are in. You might find a special attraction in the area and just leave your lover a card with an address on it that they can plug into his/her GPS. I can feel my adrenaline rushing just thinking about some of the adventures you can have with this game. Be creative and use all the new technology available to you, such as your cell phone, GPS, walkie talkies, digital cameras, laptop computers, etc. If it can send a message, you can use it. You don't even have to venture out of your house to enjoy this game. Say you want to have an intimate evening with your partner. You could dress up in some beautiful lingerie or sexy boxers and hide somewhere in your house. Set your phone on silent and send your partner clues via text messaging. Eventually leading him/her to the prize, which is you! You could use it for a surprise birthday party too. Get all of your friends involved, and have them send your special someone a barrage of messages. Get lost in a crowd and use your text messaging to have your favorite someone find you. Send your wife/husband video clips of you at some of the places you went on dates at in the past. Challenge your partner by making the clues a little difficult. You could even use life lines if they can't figure some of your clues out.

The object of this game is to build anticipation and to get your partner stirred up about what is about to happen to you two. This diversion takes some time and planning to make it work out. But, if you lay the plan out right, the results can take you and your partner through the roof.

Be sure to charge up all your electronic devices and use your technology to spice up your day.

Text Dirty to Me!!!!

Text Dirty to Me!!!

Dirty talk has been around for years. Maybe even since the beginning of human communication. Today's technology has taken dirty talk to a whole different level. You can now send and receive messages from almost anywhere in the world. I am sure I am not telling you anything you don't know at this point. So with all this technology we can now dirty text our partner no matter where we are. These little texts can be very flirtatious with your partner, and get them juiced up for when you finally get together. Slinging dirty little texts back and forth is a great means of foreplay. There are some problems with this means of communication -- such as someone else may pick up your phone or you could send the message to the wrong person like your mom (Explain that one at your next family gathering!). But, if you're careful you shouldn't have any problems. Now, could the government be listening in on your dirty texting? Oh well, what you and your partner do is your business as long as your not harming anyone else.

If you're a little shy or are really worried someone is going to find out you and your partner are having wild sex, then here is what you can do. You can get together and make a code sheet. Listing several different things you would like to do to each other. Another list of items you might be what you want to use on each other. Give each thing a letter or number code then make a copy of the list to carry in a wallet. Then your dirty text might look like this: I want to #6 you with a K and then rub you with a D. Now the only one that knows what that means are the two of you. It can even be more sexy because you might feel like a secret agent whipping out your decoder sheet and decoding the secret message!!

Some words of caution - make sure you know where each one of you is coming from. Don't dirty text your wife at work only to have her come home and find out that you have the guys over to watch the game. And don't dirty text your husband and get him all hot a bothered so that he races home to find out that you are doing dinner with the girls. This tool is great for getting reactions, but make sure you are ready to follow through on those reactions. Your husband might be able to hide his erection at work and your panties might get soaking wet while at the store, but the purpose of dirty texting is to get your partner home quicker, out of his/her clothes and into your arms. So, if you know when your partner is going to get home, and you know the timing won't be right add a last text that tells him/her the next text you send will be a sign for them to attack or for you to attack.

Again, as always I encourage you to be creative. Make your dirty texting fit your relationship. You can make a list your partner has to pick up on his/her way home from work. Things that might create a mood like massage oil, wine, or a vibrator. Maybe you could set your phone to silent, and when your partner gets home play a little game of hide and seek using texting for clues. The prize being you. If you're really brave, you could send pictures of things you want to do, maybe of yourself in something sexy or of things you want to use in the bedroom that night. The possibilities are endless. Make sure your phone is charged, and your mood is right. You may have some good lovin' tonight.