Billy Idol Tells You That You Got To Be A Lover

One of the greatest performers of our time with a song that begs you to be a lover. 

Even Billy Idol knows the importance of Love.  

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Grumpy Granny Thinks Love Stinks

Well, geesh, Granny!

Did life make you angry or break you heart? 

Okay...so, earlier this week we shared a couple of lines from Kelly Clarkson's Tie It Up.  Why not share an opposite view... Love Stinks by J. Geils Band?  Granny sure seems to think love stinks.

You love her 

But she loves him

And he loves somebody else

You just can't win 

And so it goes

Till the day you die

This thing they call love 

It's gonna make you cry 

I've had the blues 

The reds and the pinks 

One thing for sure 

Love Stinks!

-J.Geils Band

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You're The Yin to My Yang

"I love the ring of your name

You're the yin to my yang

Oh baby let's give it a shot

Every wall needs a frame

Every ball needs a chain

I'm talkin' about tying the knot

Tie it up"

 Kelly Clarkson

Tie It Up - Tie It Up - Single

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Spice Up Your Night With A Little Rocky Horror Picture Show

The Rocky Horror Picture Show (25th Anniversary Edition)

If you have never seen this cult classic you are missing something in your life.  The sexy fun is only a hop skip and a jump away.  The music and excitement of this move will soon have you doing the time warp again and again.  

Click the link under the image to pick up your copy.  

Get your sex sound track ready.

Your sex life is a wonderful passionate journey that the two of you share together. We don't often think about outside influences that could improve this connection. When we do we think of sex toys, lubes or even costumes. Have you ever thought about the music you can play in the background as being a enhancer to your sex life. Music is a powerful force in our life and I don't know of many people if any that say they can't relate to music. Even deaf people can feel the vibration of music. So why not bring that into our bedroom to help our passion. Think of native american drums, or music with amazing beat to it and how that can get your blood pumping which is a good thing in intimacy. How about Egyptian music to give your sacred place a different feel. Try out many different kinds of music and see how it chances your sex life. Now you can put another playlist on your ipod.

Theme Songs

Most couples have their song! You know the one you first danced to or the one playing when you first met. These songs are wonderful memories and remind you of that special time when ever you hear them. However that isn't what this post is about. I want you to start picking out theme songs for your everyday life. The two of you sit down together and pick out songs for certain things you have to get done. For instance, make a playlist of upbeat songs for when the two of you are cleaning house. You know the songs that get you moving so that you are dancing while you are cleaning. You can even have dinner music to play lightly in the back ground during supper time. Don't forget sensual music to play when you are well for lack of a better phrase, getting it on. Music has such a powerful way of affecting our life that we need to use it to our advantage more often. Sit down tonight and the two of you hash out some playlist for your life and you might just find yourselves dancing together more often.

Pack your partner a love bag!

Does you partner have a commute to work? Maybe they have a long drive coming up. If this is the case then make them a little travel bag for them to have for their commute or trip. For example back this bag with their favorite healthy snacks, their favorite music and change for drinks on the trip. This little gesture will score hug point for you when your partner returns home. You can put anything in the bag they can use on their drive as long as it isn't dangerous for them. So don't back a magazine because they can't read that on the drive. Maybe a audio book or a picture you can stick by the speedometer. A special note taped to the steering wheel for them to read as they leave is another great way to show them you care. Find your own style and make your partners drive a little less stressful.

Mood Music

We can tell a lot about the way our partner is feeling by the type of music they are listening to. It takes a little study but you will start to learn how they react to certain types of music. Is the music up tempo or slow and methodical? Is what they are listening to making them get up and dance or are they just sitting listening to the words of the song. Maybe they are listening to the blues because they are sad or down in the dumps, or they could just like the blues. You need to start cataloging what type of music they are listening to and their emotions. For instance if every time they are listening to some funky disco music they seem to be dancing around having a good time, then make a note of it. However if they are sitting listening to some country song, drinking beer and in a down in the dumps mood, make a note of it. Go as far as to write down specific songs and seem to get them pumped up or feeling good. Then the next time they are having a bad day, slip on one of those songs that made them feel good at a different time and see if it improves their mood. This is one of those simple little things you do for the person you love, get to know them and how the music effects them. They may not make the connection but you will know the real reason you put that song on for them is because you love them.

Your Life's Soundtrack

I wonder sometimes why I don't listen to more music? When the wife and I are folding laundry or just hanging out, it never seems that I remember that the silence that so often fills our house could be avoided by simply playing some music. Most everyone love some sort of music so it makes sense to play some during your most mundane tasks. Music can get your blood pumping and maybe get you up to do a little exercising while you are just sitting completing your task. If you have an iPod then you need to get you a playlist set up with the upbeat music that you love so the next time you and your partner are just sitting their doing a boring task you can get up and dance so excitement into your relationship. Be silly and get your heart pumping.

Don't stop there start putting music everywhere in your life, listen to it while you take a shower (Keep all electrical devices away for the water, duh), find some music to make out to, or some to sit and listen to on the porch while you sip a drink. Our memories are sometimes attached to songs that are playing in the background during an event that happens. If you have children get them involved also and pick songs that are fun to sing and move to. Start them young and put music in their lives. Look at it this way have you ever seen a movie that didn't have music playing in the background during the important parts? Unless the want you to hear what the actors are saying music is playing. Lets put a soundtrack in the background of our lives start compiling songs today.

Porn Night!

Welcome to Saturday night. I want you to do everything you want to this night, go out and eat, go to a movie, or go out clubbing. When you get home however I want you to watch some good old fashioned porn together. Before you make love and download or slip an old porn movie in. Get one from the seventies before people learned to shave their genitals. Don't take it serious though laugh at the silly plots or make wagers on how the actors are going to get off. It will loosen you both up, for a great night of getting to know each other a little better. Maybe even try something silly from the movie and see if it is possible. Enjoy the great porn music and maybe even find a catch phrase they two of you can use to signal each other you would love to have sex. For example "Pizza delivery" might be a good one or "Plumbers here to check your pipes" Again make fun of these old porn movies and watch how cheesy they are. Then attack each other after you get your laughs in.

Music Time - and time to get out of the soneage(Click here to download itunes)

I hope if your reading my blog here that you are pretty well versed with today's technology. Obviously you have a computer and I hope you have an ipod or another portable music device. If not go out to the store and get one today! My post today if about getting some great music for the two of you to listen to together and with an ipod it is so much more easy to do that then ever.

Let me start with asking you how many times do you get in the car for a trip and you have to decide who's music your going to listen to as you drive. We usually make it so the driver gets to choose the music. Well I want to suggest the two of you getting together to find songs that you both enjoy listening to. With the ipod it's very simple to download songs and you can even created different play list so that when you are not together you can listen to that music that only you like. So we are going to make the play list that you both like. You have to sit down together at the computer and pick an era or music style you both enjoy. iTunes will have an essentials list of the music from that ear or style. Next you and your sweety just go down the list and pick the songs you both love. Nix any that one of the partners doesn't like. This in itself can be fun seeing if you remember the songs and can name the artists. Now the next time you both get in the car to travel won't it be nice when you both can sing to the same song and enjoy it. It will make your trip so much better.

One word of caution ipods are addictive, so if possible you might want to get two or I might have to do a post on how not to fight over the ipod.

Speed Cleaning, The Race is on! (click here to go to amazon and view the speed cleaning book)

No one and I mean no one like to think about spring cleaning. It takes so much time and effort and can ruin a absolutely pretty day. Well here is a way to add some fun into the cleaning. Make it a challenge between the two of you. Divide up the house or just pick a room a piece and see who can get done the fastest. Now the areas divided have to be about equal and you must decide how clean the area must be. After you have laid the ground work set a starting line and get down in a sprinters squat and if you have a staring pistol shoot it, if not just someone say go. Set up a extra chore for the loser such as having to fix dinner that night or something along that lines. Turn on some music and clean as quick as you can, pick in on each other from time to time to see where you stand. No cheating don't take things form your area and move them to your partners area (I know how you are guys). Run through your partners area from time to time to do a little trash talking, things like "I'm cleaning so fast it looks like your standing still" or "Are you cleaning or posing for a picture?" are some good ones. In the end your house will look better and you should have saved some time that you can spend together well after the loser finishing cooking a great supper.

Let's Dance (Click here to learn more about the health benifits of dance.)

When is the last time the two of you went dancing. Well I know, my wife and I have all the excusses. We can't find a sitter, we don't want to be out late, we don't like the bar scene, we could go on and on. Well you don't have to go out to dance. Today I want you to take this challenge. When you and your partner are together tonight put on some of your favorite music and get up and dance. The type of dance doesn't matter if you are a silly couple dance like a monkey, if your a couple well trained in the dance do a tango, but no matter what for you last dance make it a slow one. Pick a song where you can slow dance and get closes and just sway together. This makes the heart swoon.