A True Friend Lets You Be You

Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is.

--Jim Morrison 

Is He/She Your Twin Flame or Soul Mate?

**Here is a look at what soul mates and twin flames are.  Your thoughts? 

Twin Flame Or Soul Mate - What's the Difference?

By Daniella Breen

What is A Soulmate?

Soul mates are those lovers who as soon as we meet, it's like we're old friends, or old lovers - there's often plenty of passion, lots of joy and it feels wonderful to be with them. After a while of being together though, things often start to go wrong, or you feel like you're in an old familiar pattern that is holding you back.

Soul mates are those lovers, who we've had as lovers and friends in many lifetimes previous. They are dear, familiar and often comfortable, but they also usually come with their own set of unresolved issues - from our times together. This is a wonderful opportunity to resolve and clear karma by resolving the issue once and for all. Once you've cleared the karma, you may find that the relationship becomes wonderful and you can live happily ever after. Or you may find that you lose interest, whatever had bound you together for so long, appears to have vanished. That's okay, it just means that you achieved what you wanted and now it's time to move onward.

What is a Twin Flame?

Twin Flame is quite literally your other half. This is the being that separated from you way back at the start of your journey, thousands and thousands of years ago. It has always been very rare for Twin Flames to come together here on Earth - however, recently, as a part of our journey back to the Light, increasing numbers of lightworkers are coming together with their Twin Flame to join forces and unite the world.

Of course, everyone desires to be with their Twin Flame! It's a romantic ideal, your perfect other half. You assume that everything will be alright when that happens. But in reality, you are still two individuals here on earth, no matter how well connected you are so you will still have issues to deal with and the relationship will still take devotion and work.

Also, you cannot assume that you are meant to meet your twin flame here. It may not be a part of your path. It is perfectly wonderful working through any issues in relationships you may have and finding and connecting with someone who is not your twin flame but a lover who is wanting to commit to your life together.

Actions to Attract Your Perfect Partner

You must clear anything that is blocking you from a wonderful relationship. If you have had mostly (or only) unhealthy, unloving, unhappy relationships, then it's likely that there are buried beliefs within you that attract this.

Make sure you:

1. Believe and know that you deserve only love

2. Tolerate nothing less than the love you desire

3. Heal all damage from past relationships

4. Consider, and if appropriate get healing for any past life or childhood trauma

Once the slate is clean, start focusing on your ideal love. Write about what he/she's like, how they think, what they feel like, go into as much detail as you can, take as long as you can to get clear.

Finally, spend a bit of time meditating on connecting with him - you'll be connecting with his higher self - so let him know how you choose to be treated in a relationship and if he's ready for such a relationship, then you are too.

Daniella has been working in the field of Consciousness Mentoring and Energy Work since 1997. Her core drive is working with others to bring them into True Empowerment in their life through re-aligning them with their Soul and Sacred Consciousness. If you want to learn more about shifting into your Soul Purpose and other Consciousness work, Daniella holds a regular Consciousness Call - a free teleconference that you can sign up for here - http://www.theconsciousnesscall.com

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Sexual Energy Connects Everything

"...creative sexual energy connects everything that exists, in both physical and nonphysical dimensions, and this energy provides the medium through which all things manifest."  

-- Keith Sherwood, Sex and Transcendence: Enhance Your Relationships Through Meditations, Chakra and Energy Work

Get Sherwood's book here...

How to Not Lose Touch With Your Lover

It is so easy to lose touch with your beloved partner.  In these modern times, it has become easier and easier to tune in to the television, your computer, your phone or your iPad.  This means you are tuning out from your sweetheart and your intimate relationship.  It may not seem so at first, but eventually, even being turned on by your lover will wane and become second to today’s media and digital gadgets and other things you fill your life with.  It is vital to stay tuned in to your relationship and to your partner so that you stay turned on by them too!  Only then can you work towards experiencing a long-lasting committed relationship filled with love and trust.   

Relationships are actually spiritual paths for each of us.  Your romantic intimate relationship is the most profound of all.  It will offer you a mirror for your deepest emotions, expressions, neurotic patterns (we ALL have them), love, compassion, and humor to be reflected back to you in some fashion.  

So, how can you reignite intimacy and sensual pleasure in your relationship?  And, if you still have it, how can you take it to the next level?

A Quick Note About Sensuality vs. Sexuality

More often than not if someone says to you, “That was a sensual delight.”  Your mind will instantly think “sex”.  But, sensual pleasure is really about gratifying the senses – all of them – not just the five physical ones.  You don’t have to involve physical lovemaking to experience your sensuality.

Delighting in the sight of your lover, hearing his/her laugh, smelling a special cologne, holding hands or
sharing a massage, or tasting his/her lips are sensual experiences.  Connecting to your own soul, your lover’s soul, and your spirituality is also very sensual. 

Know YOU – Get Connected to Your Own Soul

Getting in touch with yourself, with your soul is the first step in reigniting or upleveling your intimate and sensual pleasure in life and in your relationship.  If you aren’t aware of your spirituality, simply focus on getting in touch with YOU.  Whatever or whoever you are to you. 

The easiest and quickest way to reconnect with your soul is by first recognizing those things in your life that simply light you up inside.  They feel like they are the wind in your sails.  These things can be anything: drumming; singing; teaching; hiking; swimming; dancing; laughing; making love; cooking; gardening; cycling; etc.  There is no right or wrong.  Only you have the answer to what makes you feel this way.  The second step is to make sure you have some of these unique-to-you things in your life daily, weekly, monthly.  Bring them in to your life as often as you can.

You will be happier and this happiness will feed into your relationship.  Share these joys with your lover.

Know Your Sweetheart – Connect to His/Her Soul

This will take your relationship to a deeper level.  Once you (re)connect with your soul – yourself, it is vital that you connect with your sweetheart in a similar way.  What makes him/her light up?  How can you support that and bring more of that into your lives?  If both of you do this and then share it together, you will discover a beautiful aspect of your relationship that you may not have been aware of before.   

Communicate

Communication is key to every single aspect of your relationship.  Yet, not everyone communicates in the same way.  You may be able to talk about your joys, your sorrows, what happened at work today, what the dog did to irritate you, what your best friend posted on your Facebook wall and what is upsetting you in your relationship.  But, your lover may not be able to easily talk about these things.  We can express our feelings through ways other than verbal communication.  It may come through singing, painting, or drawing.  Of course, one of the biggest ways to communicate is through body language.  Be fully present and truly pay attention to your lover.  Listen – deeply – to what he/she may say.  Observe his/her actions or reactions.  There are clues and often, clear messages even if the two of you communicate very differently.

Share Laughter and Play Together      

Don’t take life or yourself too seriously.  Yes, of course, there are very serious aspects, but letting go and goofing around, laughing and being playful is a huge key to happiness and feeling joyful.  This will deepen the closeness between the two of you, which will ultimately help you enhance your sensuality overall. 

Laugh at the dinner table.  Laugh while brushing your teeth.  Laugh throughout your day anywhere and everywhere that you can.  And, for God’s sake, laugh in the bedroom!

Share inside jokes with each other.  Maybe they will relate to a funny bedroom experience or something completely different, but they will be your little secret.  People will envy your closeness.  Allow yourselves to be like two young lovebirds giggling and whispering.

Sharing more laughter with each other and deepening your intimate bond will open a doorway for the two of you to experience powerful, playful passion all day long.  You will be able to feel it pretty much everyday.  Draw upon it when something gets you down or something causes you stress. 

Continue to Learn and Grow Together

Continually seek new things to learn.  You can take classes together or pick up a new hobby together.  Yet, be bold enough to have new experiences individually, too.  By honoring and respecting your lover’s individuality you are helping the two of you grow.  You need to honor and respect YOU, your lover, and your relationship.  You are teammates, but you don’t need to stay attached at the hip all the time either. 

Step outside your comfort zone.  Oh boy, this is a big one!  You can’t grow and sustain a beautiful relationship if you refuse to step outside of your comfort zone.  If you allow fear (fear of failing, fear of rejection, fear of looking like an idiot, fear of???) to keep you within in the boundaries of what you know already, then you prevent yourself from the potentiality of amazing new experiences and from continued growth.  Staying in your comfort zone without learning to step outside of it (even just a tiny baby step) will cause your life to become stagnate.  Hmmm…what will that do your relationship? 

Imagine a beautiful flowing stream always moving and changing when the need arises.  Hear the gentle trickle and smell the fresh air. Now imagine a stagnant pool of water with debris piled up in it.  No pleasant sounds of moving water and a nasty stench to boot.  Would you prefer to continue gently flowing into the unknown or stay stagnate and backed-up? 

Put It All Together

Get in touch with you.  Truly know your own soul.  Dive deep into whom your partner/lover/spouse is and whom he/she becomes as you continue your path together.  Communicate on numerous levels.  Talk to your lover, but be aware of your other forms of communication – body language, eye contact, and much more.  Be playful and bring more laughter into your lives.  Intentionally and willingly step outside of your comfort zone so that you continue to learn and experience new things. 

These are simple ways to not only reignite your passion for your relationship, but for your life.  When passion and deep intimacy is sustained in your romantic relationship, your relationship will be stronger and more beautiful than you may ever have imagined. 

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. - Spiritual Teacher

Rob Alex, M.Sc. - Author or Sexy Challenges/Sacred Sensual Teacher

Copyright 2013

5 Reasons Sex Can Be Super Exciting After Midlife

Sex After Mid-Life

5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Hot!

American culture teaches us to believe that we are only sexy in our 20s, 30s and maybe – if you are lucky, 40s.  We are taught that having an active and exciting sex life is something that we will no longer have once we hit middle age and beyond.  Well, screw that (pun intended)! 

I am going to share with you 5 reasons why sex after middle age can be even hotter, sexier, spicier, and more exciting than when you were younger.  Yes, sometimes there are medical conditions that can affect your sex life, but you can seek help for those.  You can find natural methods to assist with physical conditions as well as finding assistance within in western medicine.  It can be freaking amazing and here’s why. 

1.    Experience!  - Okay, you have gone through your teens and 20s trying to figure out what the heck all the fuss was about.  Hopefully, you enjoyed a lot of wonderful lovemaking during those years and had a loving committed partner for part (if not most) of that time.  Then, you moved into your 30s and 40s and hopefully, still had wonderful sex around having kids and a career.  Well, guess what?  All these years gave you a lot of experience.  You had the opportunity to figure out what you do and don’t like when it comes to gettin’ busy.  Boy, oh boy, that can come in handy now!

2.    No Kiddos! – Most likely, if you had children, they are grown or at least not little anymore.  So, now you don’t have to worry about little ones bursting into your bedroom and there is a very good chance that you can get back to making love in any room in the house.  Plus, you aren’t as apt to be stressed and worn out due to running them to this practice and that event and trying to help get their homework done.  Yay!  Stress level has dropped!

3.    More Time!  - By now you are hopefully more established in your career and don’t need to spend so many hours working.  As mentioned above, you aren’t as likely to be running kids everywhere.  There is time for the two of you again.  Time to date (whether or not you are already in a relationship or looking for a new one).  The more time you spend together the more likely you are to bond on a deeper level and then….yep – rip each other’s clothes off and spend some naked time together!

4.    Extra Money! – In those earlier years, your finances may have been a bit tighter.  Now you are, hopefully, better off financially and have more disposable income to spend on dates, romantic excursions, clothes/shoes that make you feel sexy, and even more adult toys/lubes.  *Ah, reflect back to “experience”: you know what you like or you are more willing to find out now – so, spend some money on high quality sex toys and enjoy hotter, new, different, intimate play with your lover.

5.    Sexy & Healthy! – The more pleasurable sex (particularly in a committed relationship) you enjoy the more oxytocin that is released into the body.  This is the “feel good” hormone.  It eases pain and just makes you happier in general.  And, even more exciting is the fact that as oxytocin is released in the body more oxytocin receptors are created!  Woo Hoo!  That means the more sex you have the better and better you can feel.  Of course, on top of all that is the fact that making love is a spiritual connection even if you never intend for it to be.  Therefore, not only does your physical body become healthier and happier, but so does your soul.  How can you beat that?

So, for those who have told you that having a great sex life past middle age is practically hopeless, you now have five reasons why they are wrong.  Experience!  No kiddos!  More time!  Extra money!  Sexy & healthy – physically and spiritually!  We typically live so much longer nowadays.  Take the time to enjoy this second half of your life and fill it with playful experiences – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Honor your life and your sweetie’s by engaging in more powerful, playful passion.

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. © 2013  

Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges

www.sexychallenges.com

Get busy. Get spiritual. Laugh your ass off!

Spiritual Awakening - How to Unlock Your Full Brain Capcity

**Note: I can't say that I agree with everything in this article.  But, the point is to give you a different perspective and something to ponder as well as chat about with your sweetie.  Could lead to some very deep conversation. - JA

Spiritual Awakening - How to Unlock Your Full Brain Capacity

By Tomas Coimin

'Always remember nothing is as it seems because life can be very inspiring when we shed our limitations... thus we live... '

There are three sides to you a) human being, b) spirit enjoying the experience of being human. However, because of nonsense we have separated from spirit but now we shall reconnect and c) Divine Light heart centre which is your link with spirit and universal intelligence i.e. LOVE...

Frankly there is no such thing as spiritual awakening because in essence you are awakening the human side to the realisation that spirit is always present. You are not spiritual, ever, you are spirit the rest is semantics. You are spirit anyway so there is nothing to be but yourself.

As for full brain capacity well, that is part and parcel of being awake with spirit, thus your primary and sole concern is to realise your full potential through spirit. Do not get bogged down in hyper-nonsense but accept the endless possibilities that shall unfold as you grow with spirit. You shall find out too that what you as a human think of as full brain capacity is something else entirely.

However, it is imperative to possess optimal psychological health, as we have been taught by Maslow if we are to enjoy and experience awakening. In Maslow's view, self-actualized people can have many peak experiences throughout a day while others have those experiences less frequently.

If you epitomise Maslow's findings then you are rather comfortable differentiating truth from bullology plus you are quite creative and spontaneous. Besides you shall not be too influenced by societies conventions thus you shall be free to discover and become an awakened enlightened spirit.

a) Meditate and never stop listening even while you work because you are going to develop meditation in motion.

b) To awaken ones spirit connectedness with all the added benefits requires total annihilation of experiences and teachings learned previously. One must shed all attachments to every living thing and then some. What in fact you are actually doing is stepping aside but with the knowing of relevance, thus your perspective is aligned with spirit not the human side of you.

c) One must be as blank as a page and as clear as a sparkling pane of glass in order to appreciate alternative outlooks that shed light on our endless possibilities. Then with new eyes, eyes of the awakened senses, one begins to know what previously was unseen.

d) To assist your journey read as many illuminating books by notable authors like Wallace B Wattles, James Allen, Alan Watts, Adyashanti, and St. Germain, Shakespeare etc. Of course study scriptures with an absolutely open mind guided through discernment and creativity. Remember all scriptures are written symbolically not literally; thus be wise with discernment.

e) One remarkable work is found in Sacred Texts written by Manly P. Hall titled 'THE SECRET TEACHINGS OF ALL AGES'. This is one of the most illuminating books imaginable and worthy of studying if you truly desire a broader comprehension of the machinations carried on through the centuries and the reasons we are currently brainwashed by irresponsible religions, politicians and industry.

f) A surprising book I just found through the voice of a two thousand year old YEW titled 'The Story of Yew' by Guido Mina di Sospiro is also worth reading. This book is filled with creative philosophies but gives us a compelling account of how humanity has ignored the overall picture of nature at our peril.

g) What we learn as we awaken is the absolute necessity to address our behaviours towards our planet and if our journey is not self-centred then we shall grow exponentially with the assistance of the entire picture of nature. Working with trees and other plants is highly recommended as is working and spending time with all facets of nature because essentially we are nature; undivided and united en masse.

h) To know Oneness and accept that there is no such thing as superiority / inferiority but unity is a humungous step towards awakening the full extent of spirit.

i) We are not awakening our full brain capacity per se but unlocking the doors that blocked our communion with Universal knowledge. Thus, we merge as it were with DIVINE INTELLIGENCE and appear as if our brain has woken up but in reality it has become one with Divine or Universal LOVE. LOVE is everything, Love is Universal Intelligence; thus let us know LOVE.

Namaste! May wisdom guide your steps through this wondrous illuminating experience.

Awakening is not a trip to the supermarket or a minute in a religious house - it is opening the page to your true self and the first of many that indicate the truth not perceived truth. Become the conqueror you are born to be and make the commitment to live with hugs, smiles, love and gratitude as the veil of confusion lifts. Thank you. Namaste! Tomas may be reached through e-mail: selfesteemawareness@gmail.com

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Sex and Your Soul!

The physical health benefits of sex are widely known.  In fact, information on the mental and emotional health benefits are commonly talked about, too.  But, what is rarely mentioned is how you can enhance your connection to your soul and to your lover’s soul through lovemaking.  Orgasmic and sexual energy opens a gateway into the spiritual dimension.

Being aware of the sensations in your body as well as any out-of-body sensations during lovemaking and/or at the point of orgasm offers you the opportunity to direct the sexual energy toward a goal.  Your goal may be any range of things from physical healing to a new job to deepening your intuition and connection to spirit.

As you likely already know, everything is made up of energy.  Making passionate love to your sweetheart draws together a plethora of powerful orgasmic energy.  It is this phenomenally influential and magickal energy that you can learn to focus towards those amazing things you are wishing to magnetize to you. 

Focusing on opening a spiritual gateway and having a goal set for your orgasmic energy doesn’t take away from your sexual experience.  In fact, it can actually deepen the bond between you and your lover and heighten your sensuality.  Instead of getting lost in just the physical pleasure, you become more fully present and open to the sacredness of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bond between the two of you.

Tapping into the ultimate creative source through sex within a committed loving relationship allows a spiritual channel to open.  Your creativity will be enhanced, your self-esteem and confidence will expand, you will be able to gain deeper clarity, your problem solving skills will increase, you will move beyond your current pleasure boundaries and your sex life, your emotional life and your spirituality will be stimulated.  

In these modern times, more and more people are seeking ways to expand their consciousness.  They want to connect to their souls and have better access to their intuition.  There are a vast number of spiritual practices that can help you do this – reconnecting with nature; meditating; yoga; shamanic journeying; having a session with a channeling expert, trance dancing and much more.  In ancient times, it was understood that sacred sexuality was a spiritual practice as well.  Over time, fear and disbelief have hidden this beautiful knowledge from daily life, but it is past time to remember how profound and extraordinary sacred lovemaking truly is.

You may be wondering how to access this if you are not currently in a loving, committed relationship.  Can you open that gateway alone?  Can you direct sexual energy and draw amazing things into your life by yourself?  The answer is yes.  Yet at the same time, it is important to point out that when two people are creating or drawing sexual energy together and together they focus on a specific outcome the results are exponentially more powerful.   

Whether you learn to engage in sacred sexual and magickal practices alone or together with your beloved you will activate your Divine power.  You will potentially gain access to deeper intuition, your Spirit guides, past life experiences, and healing.  You will discover a sense of joyful bliss that you can tap into whenever you want it or need it.  And, the synchronistic and serendipitous events that begin to show up in your daily life will leave you in awe and wonder.

Does this sound similar to the Law of Attraction method?  Well, they are similar, but at the same time quite different.  Learning and implementing sacred sexual and magickal practices goes much deeper than the basic concepts of the Law of Attraction.  When you are in a space in which you can blend your spirit with your lover’s and merge your sexual and orgasmic energy together the results are – well, out of this world.

The most amazing part is that you don’t have to learn special positions or special physical techniques to bring these phenomena into your life.  It is about learning to open your heart and open your soul to positive and light-filled experience.  It is about learning to connect with and then collaborate with your soul and your lover’s soul.  Anyone can learn to direct sexual energy through a variety of magickal methods.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter who you are, you have access to the Divine, to the Universe, to Spirit, to God, to the Creative Source just like everyone else.
 

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. – Co-Founders of Sexy Challenges

© 2013

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Your Chakras Affect Your Sex Life!

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We recently talked to a friend of my about the amazing impact that our chakras have on our lives.  Chakras are energy centers within our bodies if you don't know.  The sacral chakra has a major impact on our sex lives as well as numerous other areas of our life.  Listen in as we talk to Joanna Leigh Osmond and she shares her insights as well as one very simple healing meditation that you can practice.  If you aren't into meditation, this practice she shares could be considered as a quiet breathing exercise.  Very easy, quick and can leave you with a little zing. Joanna Leigh Osmond is an Intuitive Business Coach and Mentor for Women of Amazing Purpose.  She can read energy - even from a distance - and help you heal, clarify, and discover what she calls a blueprint of your light.  Learn more about her and what she offers at http://www.joannaleighosmond.com.

Discover your sensuality and spirituality to create magick.  Go to http://www.sexychallenges.com today! Have a question you would like us to respond to?  Drop us an email at sexychallenges@gmail.com. Light and love, Janelle and Rob Alex Photo credit: © twentyfree - Fotolia.com

Sexually Charge Money So It Works For You

Hi Ho, Hi Ho, It's Off To Work We Go

....and/or manifest money in a new way

Find out how to make love to your sweetie in the privacy of your home

and sexually charge your money to work for you!

Don't Judge Other's Love

Do you want other people to judge how you love your partner?

Do you want someone to verbally attack you for behaving in a way that they don't agree with?

What is truly important is respecting your lover in the way that resonates with you.

It is about honoring love and the soul, showing respect, trusting, and treating the body as a temple.

If you don't agree with how someone else loves, too bad - keep your mouth shut and focus on your own behaviors, decisions and relationships!

Throwing negativity or hatred or violence at others (verbally, emotionally or physically) is not going to benefit anyone and it will eventually come back to bite you in the ass!

Stop judging - it is not your place!

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The Key to Your Heart & Soul

We can't turn back time and undo the things that we have done or that have been done to us.  But, if we lock the door to our heart and to our soul and throw away the key, we can't continue growing either.

Pick up your key, insert it into the lock, turn it, and slowly and gently open the door.  

Reach out your hand to the world, the future that you have yet to hold.  

If need be, simply peek out the door.  When you are ready take those first few steps and see just what possibilities, what opportunities are waiting for you.

Just opening the door will allow fresh air to flow into your heart and soul.  

Is it frightening?  To some - very much so.

Is it worth it?  YES!

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Love Is Composed of.....

Breath in Each other.

There are many forms of breathing exercises, yet most of them involve only one person. Tantric practices encourage couples to find ways to become one and breathing together is one of those. It is believed that for a couple to get on the same plane that their breathing should be able to match each other. Lay in bed and try to breath at the say time, Place your hand on your partners chest and let them place their hand our yours. Then let you chest rise and fall and try to get in sync with each other so that you are in harmony. I enjoy doing this in a different manner, I like to start in a soul gazing position. We both stand facing each other and look deep into each others eyes, trying to see inside their soul. Then I like to begin the breathing and trying to get our breath in sync. In this I feel we are breathing the same air, thus bringing in the same outside forces into our bodies. This is a great way to end your night, before bed time and as a last good night sentiment between the two of you. You can also do it in the morning when you get up, just make sure both of you are okay with morning breath or can quickly brush before hand.