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Sexy Challenges Sacred and Sensual Experiences for Lovers

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Sex can be just sex. The mechanics of it can be planned out and the outcome you desire can be achieved as a purely physical act. It is possible that this can leave you feeling wonderful and physically connected with your partner. But, what if it could be so much more? What if the pleasure you feel now could be doubled, tripled or increased beyond belief? Would you want to experience that? Sexy Challenges can take you to a place where sensual love and sacred sex combine to form an experience that lifts you to new heights. Your experiences can move beyond just the physical. You might be surprised to learn that each orgasm you share with your beloved actually contains the vastness of the Universe. Inside this exciting book, you will discover fifty sexy challenges. These encompass a wide range of experiences. Through the fun, laughter, communication, romance and passion of these challenges the connection with your partner can become more powerful than you ever expected. You can touch the untouchable. The god or goddess within you can be revealed.

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How Far Would You Go For Your Partner?

**Pulled from the archives...

How Far Would You Go For Your Partner?

By Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

In February 2011, I was in California at a weeklong seminar. I was to be gone a total of nine days. Rob, my partner and husband, was at home 2300 miles away. Before I left he seemed to be coming down with a nasty cold or some type of flu. Because of my location and my busy schedule it was difficult to call; I usually just texted back and forth with him. When I did speak to him I noticed that this cold/flu "thing" was really taking a toll. On top of that a record-breaking ice storm had hit. My next to last day in California I called home again to talk to him.

My sweet love - a man who never gets sick - was so ill and coughing this strange, high-pitched cough that he could barely talk to me. He and the kids had lost electricity due to the storm so they were staying at my parents'. I hung up from Rob and called my mother's cell. "Mom, does Rob need to go to the hospital?" She informed me that she had tried to get him to go the previous night! She told me that he was so sick he couldn't put his sweatshirt on by himself - she had to help him! I told her to have my father take him to the emergency room immediately. I called Rob's cell again and told him in more than a few choice words that he was going to the hospital right then - no ifs, ands, or buts (maybe I was harsh - but I felt helpless and deeply afraid). Remember, there was an ice storm - inches of ice on the car and extremely treacherous driving conditions. It took over an hour to reach the hospital that is only 10 minutes from my parents' home. My next step was to find a way to get home! Up in the mountains I was an hour's drive from the airport and a seven-hour flight from home - no nonstop flights from my location.

The events that transpired at the airports were challenging to say the least, but I encountered some of the most wonderful people to help me. I was able to make my plane connection with just an hour to spare before they shut down the Houston, TX airport due to snow!! And, I was able to land in Indianapolis on schedule with only two runways open! A close friend picked me up and drove me to the hospital.

The end result was a blood clot in my husband's jugular vein and a developing abscess near his right collarbone. He had to have surgery to drain the abscess and heavy-duty antibiotics. He spent a week in the hospital!! Then, he spent the next month with a picc line in his arm so that he could take powerful antibiotics intravenously at home and six months on blood thinners. The specialists were never able to decide what brought this about. No one knows if the blood clot developed first or the infection - the chicken or the egg?

The point is that we sometimes deal with things in our lives that we never expected. Some of these can pack quite a punch. I am pondering this experience today because I have been thinking about a movie I just watched yesterday. We might not expect great struggle and death defying feats regularly, but others know no different.

In 2005, March of the Penguins was shared with the world. This is a very powerful film. What amazes me the most is not only what these Emperor penguins go through to find a mate and produce offspring, but the loving tenderness they seem to share with one another. These amazing beings of nature travel over 70 miles of ice and snow to return to where they were born. They search through the thousands of penguins until they find a fitting mate. The pair off in cuddled up pairs prior to mating. Once they are blessed with an egg, they must delicately trade it from the mother's feet to the father's feet. In a matter of moments the freezing temperatures, which are on average -72°F, will steal away the life within the egg if they are not successful. The female penguin must return the 70 plus miles to the sea to regain her weight and bring back food for the new little penguin.

As the males protect their precious eggs and wait out the winter for the females' return they huddle together in an effort to stay warm. They take turns being in the center. This grouping of penguins reminds me of the blended spirit Rob and I, as Relationship Guides, talk so often about. These compassionate and loving father's become winter warriors as they blend their energies and spirits to form a mass of continually moving penguin bodies that almost becomes its own being. They go nearly four months without food from when they first started their journey. They are extraordinarily cold and near starving, but they continue to protect and provide for their babies.

Upon the females' return the precarious exchange of baby penguin from one parent's feet to the other parent's feet takes place again - just in reverse this time. Now, the males must make the huge journey to return to the sea and eat before they surrender to death due to lack of food. The mother penguins remain with their babies protecting them and feeding them. It will be a couple more months before the females leave the baby penguins alone and return as well. Eventually, the little penguins are big enough to make their own journey to the sea and the cycle continues.

Throughout this dangerous journey every year some, both adults and babies, succumb to the cold or the lack of food. Sadly, some of the babies don't live long enough to even meet their mothers. To live life, to continue existence they must risk it all time and time again.

I ask you - would you travel over 70 miles in devastatingly cold temperatures to find a mate and create new life? Would you be willing to entrust this tenuous new life with your partner? Okay, this scenario might be extreme. I mean, after all, you aren't a penguin - right?

Instead, I ask you to consider:
• How far you would go for your partner?
• Even more importantly, do you consider the little things you do for each other?
• Do you appreciate him/her?
• Are you grateful for the little things let alone the big things?
• Would you drop everything and be there if your partner really needed you to?

Maybe you won't have to worry about a major event, a frightening event or miles and miles of snow and ice, but think about how important it is to be there for your partner everyday. Sometimes we just need to stop and listen - really listen to what he/she is saying. We don't necessarily need to do anything other than just being present, perhaps giving a hug or offering a shoulder.

Loving another and blending your spirit with another is a beautiful experience. And, it can help you weather any storm.

Janelle Alex Ph.D., Spiritual Teacher, Director at Sacred Garden Spiritual Center and Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges.

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Tap Into the Divine With Orgasmic Laughter

**This is part of the introduction from Rob's dissertation.  Enjoy...

            Since the beginning of time, people have searched for answers in regards to Spirit, the Gods/Goddesses, the cosmos, the Divine Universe.  The layperson has been taught for an indefinite amount of time that the only way to get to Heaven, attain enlightenment, or gain spiritual connection is through a guru, minister, or spiritual teacher.  Some of the other options that have most commonly been taught include meditating for hours, fasting for days, going into a trancelike state through dance or repetitive movement.  All of these things offer doorways that one can walk through to enter the spiritual realm, but there are two amazing portals that are often overlooked – laughter and orgasm.

            Being connected to Spirit or the Gods/Goddesses can bring a blissful sense of utter joy.  When one experiences a beautiful and powerful orgasm a similar sense of bliss fills his/her being – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  Though some religions, such as Christianity, have turned sex into a sin, a temptation of the flesh, many ancient traditions have recognized that lovemaking is very sacred and is even considered magickal (this is the proper spelling in this context) in some sectors.  Yet, what few people or traditions bring into the light is the power of laughter.  Experiencing a huge, uncontrollable belly laugh also brings about the blissful state and draws one closer to the Divine.  The more one makes love and experiences orgasmic pleasure the more portals he/she will open between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimension.  Add in full-blown laughter regularly and the number of portals that can be opened multiply dramatically.

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How to Stay Tuned In and Turned On In Your Marriage

We are excited to tell you that a new book has been released on Amazon and we are co-authors!  

Do you want a more meaningful and fulfilling marriage—one where you feel deeply connected emotionally, spiritually, and physically? Seriously, do you? 

Do you want to reignite the passion, eroticism, and romance you and your sweetheart shared when you met? 

In Loving and Lasting you’ll find the best advice from 20 of my favorite love experts. So get that fire extinguisher ready—these experts are ready to share it all—what really works to quickly get you tuned in and turned on in your marriage! 

You’ll learn how to:
• Rediscover intimacy, sexual excitement, and physical pleasure
• Fall in love again with your spouse
• Communicate better and release negativity
• Find out what really turns you on—and excites your spouse
• Recover from past infidelities
• Create an erotic, romantic relationship

Ready for a more vibrant, connected, and sexually satisfying marriage? Then start reading!

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How to Not Lose Touch With Your Lover

It is so easy to lose touch with your beloved partner.  In these modern times, it has become easier and easier to tune in to the television, your computer, your phone or your iPad.  This means you are tuning out from your sweetheart and your intimate relationship.  It may not seem so at first, but eventually, even being turned on by your lover will wane and become second to today’s media and digital gadgets and other things you fill your life with.  It is vital to stay tuned in to your relationship and to your partner so that you stay turned on by them too!  Only then can you work towards experiencing a long-lasting committed relationship filled with love and trust.   

Relationships are actually spiritual paths for each of us.  Your romantic intimate relationship is the most profound of all.  It will offer you a mirror for your deepest emotions, expressions, neurotic patterns (we ALL have them), love, compassion, and humor to be reflected back to you in some fashion.  

So, how can you reignite intimacy and sensual pleasure in your relationship?  And, if you still have it, how can you take it to the next level?

A Quick Note About Sensuality vs. Sexuality

More often than not if someone says to you, “That was a sensual delight.”  Your mind will instantly think “sex”.  But, sensual pleasure is really about gratifying the senses – all of them – not just the five physical ones.  You don’t have to involve physical lovemaking to experience your sensuality.

Delighting in the sight of your lover, hearing his/her laugh, smelling a special cologne, holding hands or
sharing a massage, or tasting his/her lips are sensual experiences.  Connecting to your own soul, your lover’s soul, and your spirituality is also very sensual. 

Know YOU – Get Connected to Your Own Soul

Getting in touch with yourself, with your soul is the first step in reigniting or upleveling your intimate and sensual pleasure in life and in your relationship.  If you aren’t aware of your spirituality, simply focus on getting in touch with YOU.  Whatever or whoever you are to you. 

The easiest and quickest way to reconnect with your soul is by first recognizing those things in your life that simply light you up inside.  They feel like they are the wind in your sails.  These things can be anything: drumming; singing; teaching; hiking; swimming; dancing; laughing; making love; cooking; gardening; cycling; etc.  There is no right or wrong.  Only you have the answer to what makes you feel this way.  The second step is to make sure you have some of these unique-to-you things in your life daily, weekly, monthly.  Bring them in to your life as often as you can.

You will be happier and this happiness will feed into your relationship.  Share these joys with your lover.

Know Your Sweetheart – Connect to His/Her Soul

This will take your relationship to a deeper level.  Once you (re)connect with your soul – yourself, it is vital that you connect with your sweetheart in a similar way.  What makes him/her light up?  How can you support that and bring more of that into your lives?  If both of you do this and then share it together, you will discover a beautiful aspect of your relationship that you may not have been aware of before.   

Communicate

Communication is key to every single aspect of your relationship.  Yet, not everyone communicates in the same way.  You may be able to talk about your joys, your sorrows, what happened at work today, what the dog did to irritate you, what your best friend posted on your Facebook wall and what is upsetting you in your relationship.  But, your lover may not be able to easily talk about these things.  We can express our feelings through ways other than verbal communication.  It may come through singing, painting, or drawing.  Of course, one of the biggest ways to communicate is through body language.  Be fully present and truly pay attention to your lover.  Listen – deeply – to what he/she may say.  Observe his/her actions or reactions.  There are clues and often, clear messages even if the two of you communicate very differently.

Share Laughter and Play Together      

Don’t take life or yourself too seriously.  Yes, of course, there are very serious aspects, but letting go and goofing around, laughing and being playful is a huge key to happiness and feeling joyful.  This will deepen the closeness between the two of you, which will ultimately help you enhance your sensuality overall. 

Laugh at the dinner table.  Laugh while brushing your teeth.  Laugh throughout your day anywhere and everywhere that you can.  And, for God’s sake, laugh in the bedroom!

Share inside jokes with each other.  Maybe they will relate to a funny bedroom experience or something completely different, but they will be your little secret.  People will envy your closeness.  Allow yourselves to be like two young lovebirds giggling and whispering.

Sharing more laughter with each other and deepening your intimate bond will open a doorway for the two of you to experience powerful, playful passion all day long.  You will be able to feel it pretty much everyday.  Draw upon it when something gets you down or something causes you stress. 

Continue to Learn and Grow Together

Continually seek new things to learn.  You can take classes together or pick up a new hobby together.  Yet, be bold enough to have new experiences individually, too.  By honoring and respecting your lover’s individuality you are helping the two of you grow.  You need to honor and respect YOU, your lover, and your relationship.  You are teammates, but you don’t need to stay attached at the hip all the time either. 

Step outside your comfort zone.  Oh boy, this is a big one!  You can’t grow and sustain a beautiful relationship if you refuse to step outside of your comfort zone.  If you allow fear (fear of failing, fear of rejection, fear of looking like an idiot, fear of???) to keep you within in the boundaries of what you know already, then you prevent yourself from the potentiality of amazing new experiences and from continued growth.  Staying in your comfort zone without learning to step outside of it (even just a tiny baby step) will cause your life to become stagnate.  Hmmm…what will that do your relationship? 

Imagine a beautiful flowing stream always moving and changing when the need arises.  Hear the gentle trickle and smell the fresh air. Now imagine a stagnant pool of water with debris piled up in it.  No pleasant sounds of moving water and a nasty stench to boot.  Would you prefer to continue gently flowing into the unknown or stay stagnate and backed-up? 

Put It All Together

Get in touch with you.  Truly know your own soul.  Dive deep into whom your partner/lover/spouse is and whom he/she becomes as you continue your path together.  Communicate on numerous levels.  Talk to your lover, but be aware of your other forms of communication – body language, eye contact, and much more.  Be playful and bring more laughter into your lives.  Intentionally and willingly step outside of your comfort zone so that you continue to learn and experience new things. 

These are simple ways to not only reignite your passion for your relationship, but for your life.  When passion and deep intimacy is sustained in your romantic relationship, your relationship will be stronger and more beautiful than you may ever have imagined. 

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. - Spiritual Teacher

Rob Alex, M.Sc. - Author or Sexy Challenges/Sacred Sensual Teacher

Copyright 2013

Sex and Your Soul!

The physical health benefits of sex are widely known.  In fact, information on the mental and emotional health benefits are commonly talked about, too.  But, what is rarely mentioned is how you can enhance your connection to your soul and to your lover’s soul through lovemaking.  Orgasmic and sexual energy opens a gateway into the spiritual dimension.

Being aware of the sensations in your body as well as any out-of-body sensations during lovemaking and/or at the point of orgasm offers you the opportunity to direct the sexual energy toward a goal.  Your goal may be any range of things from physical healing to a new job to deepening your intuition and connection to spirit.

As you likely already know, everything is made up of energy.  Making passionate love to your sweetheart draws together a plethora of powerful orgasmic energy.  It is this phenomenally influential and magickal energy that you can learn to focus towards those amazing things you are wishing to magnetize to you. 

Focusing on opening a spiritual gateway and having a goal set for your orgasmic energy doesn’t take away from your sexual experience.  In fact, it can actually deepen the bond between you and your lover and heighten your sensuality.  Instead of getting lost in just the physical pleasure, you become more fully present and open to the sacredness of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bond between the two of you.

Tapping into the ultimate creative source through sex within a committed loving relationship allows a spiritual channel to open.  Your creativity will be enhanced, your self-esteem and confidence will expand, you will be able to gain deeper clarity, your problem solving skills will increase, you will move beyond your current pleasure boundaries and your sex life, your emotional life and your spirituality will be stimulated.  

In these modern times, more and more people are seeking ways to expand their consciousness.  They want to connect to their souls and have better access to their intuition.  There are a vast number of spiritual practices that can help you do this – reconnecting with nature; meditating; yoga; shamanic journeying; having a session with a channeling expert, trance dancing and much more.  In ancient times, it was understood that sacred sexuality was a spiritual practice as well.  Over time, fear and disbelief have hidden this beautiful knowledge from daily life, but it is past time to remember how profound and extraordinary sacred lovemaking truly is.

You may be wondering how to access this if you are not currently in a loving, committed relationship.  Can you open that gateway alone?  Can you direct sexual energy and draw amazing things into your life by yourself?  The answer is yes.  Yet at the same time, it is important to point out that when two people are creating or drawing sexual energy together and together they focus on a specific outcome the results are exponentially more powerful.   

Whether you learn to engage in sacred sexual and magickal practices alone or together with your beloved you will activate your Divine power.  You will potentially gain access to deeper intuition, your Spirit guides, past life experiences, and healing.  You will discover a sense of joyful bliss that you can tap into whenever you want it or need it.  And, the synchronistic and serendipitous events that begin to show up in your daily life will leave you in awe and wonder.

Does this sound similar to the Law of Attraction method?  Well, they are similar, but at the same time quite different.  Learning and implementing sacred sexual and magickal practices goes much deeper than the basic concepts of the Law of Attraction.  When you are in a space in which you can blend your spirit with your lover’s and merge your sexual and orgasmic energy together the results are – well, out of this world.

The most amazing part is that you don’t have to learn special positions or special physical techniques to bring these phenomena into your life.  It is about learning to open your heart and open your soul to positive and light-filled experience.  It is about learning to connect with and then collaborate with your soul and your lover’s soul.  Anyone can learn to direct sexual energy through a variety of magickal methods.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter who you are, you have access to the Divine, to the Universe, to Spirit, to God, to the Creative Source just like everyone else.
 

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. – Co-Founders of Sexy Challenges

© 2013

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Your Chakras Affect Your Sex Life!

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We recently talked to a friend of my about the amazing impact that our chakras have on our lives.  Chakras are energy centers within our bodies if you don't know.  The sacral chakra has a major impact on our sex lives as well as numerous other areas of our life.  Listen in as we talk to Joanna Leigh Osmond and she shares her insights as well as one very simple healing meditation that you can practice.  If you aren't into meditation, this practice she shares could be considered as a quiet breathing exercise.  Very easy, quick and can leave you with a little zing. Joanna Leigh Osmond is an Intuitive Business Coach and Mentor for Women of Amazing Purpose.  She can read energy - even from a distance - and help you heal, clarify, and discover what she calls a blueprint of your light.  Learn more about her and what she offers at http://www.joannaleighosmond.com.

Discover your sensuality and spirituality to create magick.  Go to http://www.sexychallenges.com today! Have a question you would like us to respond to?  Drop us an email at sexychallenges@gmail.com. Light and love, Janelle and Rob Alex Photo credit: © twentyfree - Fotolia.com

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