All Day Arousal Brings About First Orgasm.

Sexy Challenges received a letter recently from a woman that achieved her very first orgasm at the age of 32 by using Sexy Challenges.  While we will not reveal the name of this person we wanted to share her letter.

Dear Sexy Challenges,

I want to give you a big hug and thank you.  I have been married for six years now.  I am married to a wonderful man who is so awesome to me.  My trouble is that even though I am extremely attracted and turned on by him in our six years I have never reached orgasm.  I don't think that he knows this fact, but it is frustrating to me.  Recently in an effort to improve this situation I found on iTunes this simple little book by Sexy Challenges, titled All Day Arousal.  This short little e-book opened my mind to a way of turning myself on, and building that desire all day long.  Needless to say that nights love making was out of this world.  I had my very first orgasm!  I couldn't believe it the feeling was so great.  I finally felt like a real woman.  Now my husband is in heaven because I want sex a lot more often and I have had an orgasm each and every time since.  Finally I can feel the power of intimacy.  Thank you Sexy Challenges you have changed my life and I honor you. 

Sincerely

XXXXXXXXXX

Buffalo, New York

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Tap Into the Divine With Orgasmic Laughter

**This is part of the introduction from Rob's dissertation.  Enjoy...

            Since the beginning of time, people have searched for answers in regards to Spirit, the Gods/Goddesses, the cosmos, the Divine Universe.  The layperson has been taught for an indefinite amount of time that the only way to get to Heaven, attain enlightenment, or gain spiritual connection is through a guru, minister, or spiritual teacher.  Some of the other options that have most commonly been taught include meditating for hours, fasting for days, going into a trancelike state through dance or repetitive movement.  All of these things offer doorways that one can walk through to enter the spiritual realm, but there are two amazing portals that are often overlooked – laughter and orgasm.

            Being connected to Spirit or the Gods/Goddesses can bring a blissful sense of utter joy.  When one experiences a beautiful and powerful orgasm a similar sense of bliss fills his/her being – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  Though some religions, such as Christianity, have turned sex into a sin, a temptation of the flesh, many ancient traditions have recognized that lovemaking is very sacred and is even considered magickal (this is the proper spelling in this context) in some sectors.  Yet, what few people or traditions bring into the light is the power of laughter.  Experiencing a huge, uncontrollable belly laugh also brings about the blissful state and draws one closer to the Divine.  The more one makes love and experiences orgasmic pleasure the more portals he/she will open between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimension.  Add in full-blown laughter regularly and the number of portals that can be opened multiply dramatically.

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Flooded With Orgasmic Pleasure

This is where magick happens...

"In sexual magic, you create a trancelike state of consciousness by learning to relax in states of high sexual arousal, letting your whole body become flooded with orgasmic pleasure."

Margo Anand - The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Life

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Sex and Your Soul!

The physical health benefits of sex are widely known.  In fact, information on the mental and emotional health benefits are commonly talked about, too.  But, what is rarely mentioned is how you can enhance your connection to your soul and to your lover’s soul through lovemaking.  Orgasmic and sexual energy opens a gateway into the spiritual dimension.

Being aware of the sensations in your body as well as any out-of-body sensations during lovemaking and/or at the point of orgasm offers you the opportunity to direct the sexual energy toward a goal.  Your goal may be any range of things from physical healing to a new job to deepening your intuition and connection to spirit.

As you likely already know, everything is made up of energy.  Making passionate love to your sweetheart draws together a plethora of powerful orgasmic energy.  It is this phenomenally influential and magickal energy that you can learn to focus towards those amazing things you are wishing to magnetize to you. 

Focusing on opening a spiritual gateway and having a goal set for your orgasmic energy doesn’t take away from your sexual experience.  In fact, it can actually deepen the bond between you and your lover and heighten your sensuality.  Instead of getting lost in just the physical pleasure, you become more fully present and open to the sacredness of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bond between the two of you.

Tapping into the ultimate creative source through sex within a committed loving relationship allows a spiritual channel to open.  Your creativity will be enhanced, your self-esteem and confidence will expand, you will be able to gain deeper clarity, your problem solving skills will increase, you will move beyond your current pleasure boundaries and your sex life, your emotional life and your spirituality will be stimulated.  

In these modern times, more and more people are seeking ways to expand their consciousness.  They want to connect to their souls and have better access to their intuition.  There are a vast number of spiritual practices that can help you do this – reconnecting with nature; meditating; yoga; shamanic journeying; having a session with a channeling expert, trance dancing and much more.  In ancient times, it was understood that sacred sexuality was a spiritual practice as well.  Over time, fear and disbelief have hidden this beautiful knowledge from daily life, but it is past time to remember how profound and extraordinary sacred lovemaking truly is.

You may be wondering how to access this if you are not currently in a loving, committed relationship.  Can you open that gateway alone?  Can you direct sexual energy and draw amazing things into your life by yourself?  The answer is yes.  Yet at the same time, it is important to point out that when two people are creating or drawing sexual energy together and together they focus on a specific outcome the results are exponentially more powerful.   

Whether you learn to engage in sacred sexual and magickal practices alone or together with your beloved you will activate your Divine power.  You will potentially gain access to deeper intuition, your Spirit guides, past life experiences, and healing.  You will discover a sense of joyful bliss that you can tap into whenever you want it or need it.  And, the synchronistic and serendipitous events that begin to show up in your daily life will leave you in awe and wonder.

Does this sound similar to the Law of Attraction method?  Well, they are similar, but at the same time quite different.  Learning and implementing sacred sexual and magickal practices goes much deeper than the basic concepts of the Law of Attraction.  When you are in a space in which you can blend your spirit with your lover’s and merge your sexual and orgasmic energy together the results are – well, out of this world.

The most amazing part is that you don’t have to learn special positions or special physical techniques to bring these phenomena into your life.  It is about learning to open your heart and open your soul to positive and light-filled experience.  It is about learning to connect with and then collaborate with your soul and your lover’s soul.  Anyone can learn to direct sexual energy through a variety of magickal methods.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter who you are, you have access to the Divine, to the Universe, to Spirit, to God, to the Creative Source just like everyone else.
 

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. – Co-Founders of Sexy Challenges

© 2013

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Women First!

We all know that chivalry is almost dead. Partly because people are selfish now and partly because women don't want to be made to feel like they are less then men. What ever the reason you shouldn't take it into your bedroom. By this I mean you should focus on the woman's sexual needs first then the mans. Why you might ask? Simple it takes the woman much longer to heat up sexually then the man in most cases. She needs to be heated up much like you heat your oven before you cook in it. Men on the other hand and ready to go as soon as the clothes hit the floor, so they are like a microwave. This is why we focus on the women first giving them time to enjoy the whole intimacy. Gone are the days when the guy finishes and rolls over to go to sleep. The women need satisfaction, too. Not all women need to orgasm to enjoy sex but you still need to give them that chance. I suggest always start by focusing on the woman's enjoyment, men you know you will be ready when she is so just be a little patient. The more you warm her up the better your cooking will be.

Now if you in a same sex relationship then you just have to decide who takes longer and start with them.

How many orgasms can you handle!

Something you need to consider when you are faced with an evening of long and drawn out passion, is "How many times can you orgasm?" When you are wanting to have a long night of love making you don't want it to be over in a short time period. First thing you need to look at is which partner can orgasm more often. Once you decide who that person is then you should make sure you start with that person. Bring them to orgasm with oral or hand stimulation and let them know that you plan for them to have more of these feelings. Once you get them off then you can focus on getting both of you off. Make sure you use lots of foreplay and bring them to the edge and then stop and swelter the feeling and calm them down. I suggest doing this only if you have a lot of time on your hands. The last thing you want to do is get them close then stop and not be able to continue. I suggest setting a timer in an earlier post to make sure you spend enough time on foreplay. Stick with that plan and give foreplay the credit it deserves. Build you anticipation of your own orgasm, it doing this you will make your orgasm amazing. Take breaks and switch things up from time to time try different positions or enter a different orifice from time to time. You have time so try some different things. Here is the beauty of this, if you want to have multiple orgasms all you have to do is take some time in between each one to rejuvenate. Don't be afraid to take a shower then come back and make love some more. So many people thing that once the sex is done you hope up or roll over and go to sleep. That doesn't have to be the case, make it a challenge to try to turn the other person on again. Do this until it is obvious that no more activity is going to be happening. Then you can hold each other and fall asleep with passionate love making being your sleeping pill.

Sexual Wonder Drug - W-A-T-E-R-

I just currently found out how important water is to our sexual health. From helping to create lubrication to the fluids we release during orgasm. Not to mention the importance of it for the activity of sex itself and to keep us hydrated during the motions. Obviously water is essential to our everyday life but water can also help your sexual stamina and can even help in getting you in the mood. The article I read suggested you treat your sexual experiences like an exercise. Drinking plenty of water before and after the intimacy. This is claimed to help you enjoy your sex better as well as help you rejuvenate faster to give you a chance at that second and third try during the evening. Encourage your parter to partake of the water consumption also and see how it effects your sex life. Our bodies are built to enjoy sexual activities and when you add water into the mix you can enjoy sex a whole lot more.

The Waterboy, staring Adam Sandler now takes on a whole new meaning!!!!

Women's Orgasms Are Not Guaranteed

As a loving and caring partner you are always concerned that you are making your lover feel great. Sometimes however you may tend to worry a little more about it than you should. One thing that you need to remember is that a woman's orgasm is not guaranteed. Sometimes she might not even have one.  This doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that she doesn't want to make love to you.  It just means the a woman's body is a complex thing and sometimes she just can't orgasm. This doesn't mean she can't have a good time and it doesn't mean she isn't enjoying the activities. Unlike men the orgasm is not a gauge of when you are done.

The trade off is that when she does orgasm she can have several of them compared to guys who typically need a rebooting time. The last thing you want to do when you are making love is ask a woman if she has had an orgasm. It is a real mood buster.

If you have an established relationship with someone, then believe me you will learn quickly when she has one. If you feel compelled to ask, make sure you wait until later after your love making session - wait until you are cuddling or maybe even the next day.

It is important to know that it takes longer for a woman to reach that ultimate point of ecstasy. You have to be willing to put the work into the results. Relax and don't try to force her to orgasm. Let it happen most women will let you know somehow when they are getting close. The best thing you can do is research different techniques for playing with your companion and while variety is good, always keep in your memory bank what works well and don't be afraid to go back to it. With a little trial and error you will soon find a wealth of things that will improve not only her love life, but yours too.

Light Bondage.

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Shedding some light on...

I would like to shed some light on a post for earlier. I recently did a post that prosed the questions is there room for fetishes in a relationship? Well I think I need to explain fetish a little more because I have recently learned a little more about the subject of fetishes. First of all I originally believed that if you had fantasies about women in leather or being tied up that you had a fetish. I understand now that a fetish is so much more then that. A fetish is a need, and without that need you cannot orgasm. If spanking is your fetish then you would need to be spanked before you could ever consider getting off. With this new understanding I realize now that most of the things people call fetishes are really just things they like to do. Now when your husband asks you to wear that leather cat woman outfit sometimes you will know that he just likes to see you in it, but if you have to wear it every time you are going to be intimate then you are dealing with a fetish.