Don't forget about the person giving support!

Sometimes in trying times we tend to forget about that person that is the rock or gives support. We just assume that because they are there for everyone that thing are not bothering them. In this we tend to not worry about or let them get their feelings out. The worst thing you can do in your relationship is forget about your rock. When tough times hit hard and they are there to pick you up and lift your spirits, make sure to return the favor. When you feel like that partner has went above and beyond in a way that makes you feel better you need to make sure they know you appreciate it. They might just be hiding their feelings to protect or help you out. Make sure not to just assume that they are okay. Chances are they might just need you as much as you need them.

Hugs are not only fun they are important.

Touch is a wonderful thing that most all of us love. However it is not only an enjoyment it is a basic human need. Starting from the time we are born we crave and love touch. It tells us we are love, consoles us when we are upset and gives us a sense of desire and passion. Hugs have actually been shown to improve our lives. In the book THE ALADDIN FACTOR, it states that 4 hugs a day are needed for survival, 8 hugs a day to keep our relationship in tip top shape, and 12 hugs a day for our lives to grow and thrive. So stop being selfish with your hugs and don't stop with your partner make sure you children and family share the sensation also. Hugs are not as intimate as kisses so you can give them to friends and even strangers without fear of being weird. Everyone benefits from hugs so spread the hugs around and make sure to get your share.

The Universe Loves Passion.

The Universe or heavens loves passion. The great beyond loves when you are passionate about things. Have you ever heard the old saying "Do something you are passionate about!" Well this holds true in our relationships, too. Have you ever noticed that the couples that seem to be the happiest have the best luck. Do you think this is by accident all the time. You can chalk it up to many things such as when you are happy things don't bother you as much or that love conquers all. However I believe that when you unleash your passion into your relationship the powers around and above us thank you for doing that. Things become easier, life doesn't have as many twists and turns, it is the Universe's way of thanking you for unleashing your power and energy into the cosmos. Call me crazy but think back to when you had the best luck, where you in a great relationship? Was everything going good in your love life, did you have to search or wish for passion? Most likely not because when you have the passion in your relationship it frees you up to concentrate on many other area of your life. Thusly when you are not missing passion in your relationship your entire life becomes easier. Passion is a need not a desire once we have it and hold on to it the world opens up to us in several different ways. So today get the passion in your relationship and start enjoying the world as it was suppose to be

What to do when things are going bad!

Never discuss problems in the bedroom, they should never enter your thoughts when you in this area that is designated for love.

What do you do as a couple when things are going bad in your life. These things can make it tense in your relationship and can even cause problems, which is the last things the two of you need. When things get tough the one thing you need to do as a couple is pull together. Make your relationship the rock in your rocky world right now. No matter what is going on in your life, being able to come home and be comforted and able to leave all the stress at the door is a big plus. No matter if it's problems at work, troubles with your parents, or even financial troubles. Make it a point to talk about them outside of the house and leave them their when you come back in through the door. Go out to eat and discuss your troubles over a meal,or go to the park and find a bench somewhere, or you can even just take a drive to discuss the situation. No matter what it is get it all out and talk about it before you come back home. Once home put your focus into being the couple that you are, support each other and make sure to layer on the love and affection for each other. Make your home the safe haven it should be for the two of you.

Don't judge sexual past.

One of the biggest mistakes I think couples make is letting each other know to much about their past relations. Besides when you decide to be fluid bonded with a person or want to have children the sexual past of the other person shouldn't matter. What is their to gain by knowing who your partner had sexual relations with before you. It only adds for conflicts during your relationship if you encounter these people. Unless you are childhood sweethearts that never dated anyone else chances are pretty good that your partner has had sex with someone else before they were involved with you. That doesn't make them love you any less or make them desire that person over you, it just means it was a learning process. Do not press your partner for past details of his/her sexual past and don't ever compare your current sexual experiences to those you have had in the past. Everyone is different and part of the fun of being in a relationship is learning what each other enjoys. You have to understand that your partner didn't start living the minute the two of your met. Past relationships have no bearing on your current one unless you let it. Keep you sexual past to yourself and don't expect your partner to share it with you, if you let them these past sexual experiences will haunt you and make your current relationship a struggle.

Shedding some light on...

I would like to shed some light on a post for earlier. I recently did a post that prosed the questions is there room for fetishes in a relationship? Well I think I need to explain fetish a little more because I have recently learned a little more about the subject of fetishes. First of all I originally believed that if you had fantasies about women in leather or being tied up that you had a fetish. I understand now that a fetish is so much more then that. A fetish is a need, and without that need you cannot orgasm. If spanking is your fetish then you would need to be spanked before you could ever consider getting off. With this new understanding I realize now that most of the things people call fetishes are really just things they like to do. Now when your husband asks you to wear that leather cat woman outfit sometimes you will know that he just likes to see you in it, but if you have to wear it every time you are going to be intimate then you are dealing with a fetish.

Make a Date Night.

I hate saying this over and over but our lifes are so busy that unless we spacifically set times to do things a lot of times we never get around to them. With that said I want you to pick a day of the week that the two of you can have a date. I am not talking about going out with the kids to Chuckie Cheese. I want the two of you to have a time for yourselves. Find a great babysitter if need be and make it a standing arrangement that they will watch the children every week at this time. Find something that works best in your schedule. Maybe the daytime works better for the two of you, or early morning. The only requirement is that you have time for the two of you to spend together. No talking about bills or children or problems. Just the two of you enjoying why you got into a relationship to begin with. Reconnect and start living your love life all over again. Believe me most people don't see that their relationship is slipping but these date night will get you back on the straight and narrow.

I understand things pop up and kids get sick. If those things happen they you need to find a substitute day to have you date. Never just forget it, if nothing else works just plop some lawn chairs outside and star gaze. You relationship is important and so is your partner so make time for them today. You will be glad you did.

Simple White T-Shirts

This may seem a little crazy but one of the most sexy thing in the world is just a plain white T-Shirt. I have heard so many women talk about a guy in just a plain white T-Shirt and jeans. It is a real turn on for them. Of course there are not near as many sexy items made for a man as there are for the ladies. Maybe this has something to do with it. Or maybe it's a throw back to a simpler time where we didn't have advertisements on everything we owned. It looks rugged and maybe that is the appeal. The more and more I think about it the less I understand it. With that said I am not against buying some plain white shirts and trying it out. If it turns my wife on and makes her happy, why not.

As I sit here writing this post I am running images of white T-Shirts on my wife? Hummmm, no bra on and a simple white shirt. Maybe I am over looking this look. It could be a uni-sexual outfit that turns

on both men and women. Well that's enough for today, sorry but I am heading out to our local store to buy some simple white t-shirts. Wish me luck and let me know your feelings on this garment

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